- Gender and Relationships
Soulmates and Twin Souls
Have you met yours yet?
In this article I take a brief look at what a soulmate is to help you recognise yours. Soulmates are from all walks of life, there are no boundaries, and when that special person enters your life be prepared for the most significant relationship you'll ever have. I've briefly edited this article (04-05-11) based on questions people were asking and no doubt I will continue to add to it dependent on the queries.
I'm quite passionate about this subject, and have been fortunate enough to have had one. He (yes, the opposite sex) has been in my life for about sixteen years and we met through work, he is not my partner though and there are hundreds of miles between us. However, some of us have more than one soulmate in our lifetime and as one disappears another one is waiting in the wings...
The soulmate relationship is unconditional, one where you see every aspect of each other and both know that no matter what (distance is no object) there is someone out there you can totally rely on, trust and feel a love for that exceeds any other love you've ever experienced.
If this sounds like you, read on and perhaps leave a comment to let me know your thoughts on this fascinating subject.
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Do you believe in soulmates?
Do you believe in soulmates and if so do you believe you can have more than one? Why is it we can be so attracted to someone but don't understand why? When the attraction goes deeper than physical/sexual and yet you can't put your finger on it there's got to be some other reason. Do you ever get the feeling that you've met a person before or you seem to 'know' each other when in fact you've only just met?
If you identify with my questions then the chances are you've met your soulmate.
What is a soulmate?
A soulmate is similar to a best friend except they tend to reflect yourself wheras a friend will make you look at yourself. A soulmate 'just knows' things, they are like a mirror image, often seeming to read your mind and know what you are going to say or do next and vice versa. This goes beyond friendship, the sexual, romantic and even the intellectual meeting of minds. Because they are your mirror image, they know you as intimately as you know yourself, even if no words are spoken.
Soulmates can be the opposite sex to yourself and are often in another relationship with someone else. The soulmate relationship is not always based on romantic love, many indeed lead separate lives to their 'other half'. Their purpose is to reflect back at you elements of yourself, forcing you to take a hard look at your personality, traits and beliefs. They make you see every facet, the good ones and the bad and don't judge you. They see what you see, for you both are one, like two halves of the same person coming together.
How to recognise your soulmate
Without sounding like a cop-out, you will 'just know' when you've met them. Something will connect deep inside you in a way no other friendship has done before. They may even look like you, which is no surprise since you are two halves of the same thing. You will have much in common rather than your usual relationships where one person tends to oppose the other, your soulmate shares your vision, your passions and is not there to stand in your way or cause harm, their purpose is to compliment you, make you feel fulfilled and you will remain united even when there's physical distance between you.
When your soulmate appears in your life, things will move at a rapid pace once you meet, afterall you both share a mutual purpose. You will have feelings for them beyond romantic love, although some soulmates are lovers too and experience deep sexual desire for one another. But you will feel 'as one', as if you've always known each other, you will never feel alone again. You will share the same aspirations, you will appreciate the beauty in all things, you will be equally sensitive and share great strength of character, there will be a common thread running in each of your lives. You will often work together and share a joint view, mission or passion often complimenting the other and enhancing them, even your handwriting could be similar!
Sometimes you may feel drawn to someone without knowing why. What is it about them that they are always on your mind? Why do they stand out more than all the other men/women you have met so far? Something is pulling you together so don't fight it. If you find your feelings are very strong towards this person, it is likely they feel just the same about you - contact them, tell them how you feel and watch sparks fly. Sometimes even soulmates need a bit of a push, perhaps you are both a bit shy and one of you needs to make an effort? Maybe you were drawn to this person but haven't actually met - perhaps it was their work that made you notice them - maybe their writing 'speaks' to you, if something resonates on a deep level and you are certain it is not lust then this person could well be your soulmate.
Can you have more than one soulmate?
Yes indeed. For some you will have one who stays with you forever, but for many there will be several who come and go as you tread the path of life. This is a blessing and not something to be worried about when you lose a soulmate - you never really lose them because the soul doesn't die, that's why when you meet someone you have this sense of knowing them already; you've probably met before (if you believe in past lives).
The point at when they appear in your life will have been something you have both been working towards separately, your work together is to complete the task and once completed, they go. It may be to fight a worthy cause together, to set up a business, or simply to be the love of each other's lives in which case, you will remain together as long as there is a common purpose.
So if you feel you are drifting apart from your soulmate don't be alarmed if you're not feeling sad. The relationship can end as quickly as it began and you will both know when it is time to move on.
What if I never meet mine?
Unfortunately not everyone is destined to meet their soulmate. This doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you and perhaps you have many friends and acquaintences instead with whom you can still enjoy a deep, meaningful relationship.
The soulmate/twin-soul union is very unique and those of us who find ours are truly blessed as it is the most advanced stage of friendship. Don't be sad if yours hasn't come along yet, leave it to destiny for when two souls are ready to meet, the universe will bring them together at a rapid pace - so get ready for fireworks for sparks will fly!
Oh, and they usually appear when you're not expecting it. They are the ones who take you breath away, there's just something about them....
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