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When a Girl Says She's Not Ready For a Relationship
When a girl says she's not ready for a relationship, it can drive you crazy.
You really like her and constantly imagine having her as your girlfriend.
But you feel that you're in trouble and you don't want to let this opportunity slip away.
What do you do?
If you let this fear get to you, the woman will sense it.
She will KNOW that there's something that is WEAKENING you... and she will lose attraction.
But if you know how to deal with a girl who isn't quite ready to be "official" with you... you'll know just how to act to make her want you more so that she's ready to take the relationship to the next level.
In the following Q&A... I give you a CLEAR PLAN of exactly what to
do when a girl says she's not ready for a relationship. So pay close attention.
Okay. Let's start with a question from a student.
Ok here's the deal Juanton, this girl really likes you, but you are going for a "relationship" WAY too fast and it's making her feel SMOTHERED.
See, when a girl says she's not ready for a relationship, what she's REALLY saying is: "I don't feel enough attraction for you to be your girlfriend yet... please don't get feelings too fast so that my attraction for you can go up."
And this is really the KEY.
Because when you start getting into "boyfriend mode" way too soon, it ruins the attraction she's already got going for you.
For example, if you do things like
- talking too much about your feelings for her
- acting too much like her "boyfriend"
- asking about the "relationship label"
- always "checking in" on her to see what she's doing
- getting worried whenever she hangs out with other guys
...then she will feel like she is losing her freedom, and her attraction for you will drop.
This is the reason many men are unable to "convert" a fling into a relationship. They get needy "relationship" feelings too fast.
You Must Behave in a Way That Allows a Woman's Attraction For You to Grow
Here are 3 tips that enable her feelings for you to amplify.
1. When She Backs Away, Give Her Space and Let Her Come Back to You
For a woman to start falling in love with you... she has to spend time AWAY from you to sort her feelings out.
Look, there's almost always going to be a moment where she gets a bit cold and distant. It's inevitable. The girl's got things going on in her life. Sometimes there are things that make her emotional and so she needs space away from you.
Now when most men see her become distant, what do they do? They pummel her with a barrage of texts in fear that she is fading. But if you do this, it will CROWD her space. She will perceive that you are weak without her validating you (by giving you attention)... and she will then lose attraction for you.
So when a woman you're dating slightly becomes distant, give her that space and let her come back to you.
2. Don't Bring up "Feelings" or "Relationship Label" Questions, Ever
Bonding, relationships, the meaning of "us"... this is all "FEMININE" energy.
That's why revealing your feelings and trying to become "official" too soon leads to attraction loss. Because when you do this, you are acting "feminine"... and it destroys the masculine-feminine polarity between the two of you.
Instead, let the woman take care the relationship label department.
Keep arranging fun opportunities for sex to happen, and...
3. Instead of Jumping Into "Boyfriend" Mode, Focus on Being in "LOVER" mode.
Again, your task here is to arrange fun romantic opportunities for sex to happen.
Do this correctly, and over time, her attraction level will slowly increase... until it reaches a high enough level such that she starts picturing herself as your girlfriend and starts asking you "relationship label" questions like "so... what are we?"
1. When She Backs Away, Give Her Space
2. Don't Bring up "Relationship" Labels
3. Avoid Getting into "Boyfriend Mode" and Instead Get into "Lover Mode"