ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Avoid This New Age Snake oil Salesman Trap: Find Your Soul Mate in 90 Days

Updated on August 7, 2013

You really want to avoid the “find your soul mate in 90 days or less” New Age marketing trap at all costs.

Can you imagine? “Begin! The clock is ticking and you have three months to find the person with whom you’ll spend the rest of your life.” Sounds like a Hollywood comedy, but in this case, you’re trapped with the person you happen to lasso and there is no happy ending. After the excitement fades and the rose-colored glasses fall off, the disappointment and panic will set in. What a horrible approach to love.

Getting snared in this terrible trap won’t assist you in finding a rewarding mate. Rather, it will make you miss your most compatible partners.

If you’ve been taken for this trick, you’re not alone. It’s common for those best- selling New Age authors to use their compelling tug-at-your-heart-strings-“spiritual” communications to ensnare the unsuspecting. Not until much later, after the damage has been done, is the ruse seen for what it is: an unbelievably insincere approach to helping people find the love of their life.

How to Avoid This Trap

The way to escape this trap is to accept these 5 realities:

1. You’ll fall in love with a compatible partner when it’s supposed to happen. You can’t manufacture it. Please do socialize, put yourself out there, make yourself very available and open to love life prospects, but know that if it’s not meant to be within 90 days, it won’t happen.

You never want to underhandedly coerce someone to be the supporting actor in your own personal romantic theatrical production. Although it’s true many “love life experts” do this themselves, you’re much better off taking the high road and avoiding any dirty tricks. Life is complex enough without taking on extra negative karma through control and manipulation. Besides, true love has nothing to do with making someone do what you want (e.g., propose to you in 90 days or less), and you will, in time, be very upset and depressed with the results of such a gambit.

It’s shocking how many “experts,” in our estimation, are purposely living a “soul mate” lie when it comes to their own romantic life (featured in “3 months or less” type marketing). Desperation and greed make an exceedingly toxic brew.

2. There is a very good reason why you are not in a satisfying love relationship at this time: you have other things to take care of before it happens. Consider that now is the time to prepare for your future love.

3. The more you focus on your lack of a soul mate, and how unhappy you are, the more likely you are a long way away from a decent relationship. The absolute worst state of mind you can be in is to be desperately seeking your “other half.” You are already whole, and just remember that two halves are dysfunctional and only cause problems. You must instead concentrate on intensifying your self-love, working on self-improvement, and actually enjoying your solitude. Self-love is one of the most authentic forms of true love. If you can’t enjoy your time alone and find it difficult to deepen your self-love, you have some work to do. Alternatively, if that’s easy for you, congratulations. You may be closer than you think to finding a good match.

4. It’s wonderful if you are attempting to rid yourself of any personality blocks that may be restricting your love life. However, simply monitoring your thoughts won’t help you much at all. You need genuine methods, such as handwriting analysis, to delineate personality problem areas and red flags. Once you identify subconscious fears, it takes time to temper them—most likely longer than 90 days. Additionally, subconscious defenses are probably going to stay with you forever since they are so ingrained in your unconscious mind. Counseling and hypnosis mp3s can greatly help your healing process.

5. Unfortunately, a person’s collective cyclical timing and karma can represent a very challenging landscape for love life matters. Despite making great progress with subconscious fears, your love life may still suffer big time, at least for a while. It’s a complete myth that you can evade tough love life karma. Those “experts” who tell you that anything you want is yours at any time, lack comprehension of the true meaning of spiritual principles such as karma and fate (same definition as destiny--unalterable circumstances and events).

Alas, it’s impossible to attract a rewarding love life partner if the time isn’t appropriate for you, no matter what the “experts” tell you. The “find your soul mate in 90 days” plan is an appalling, synthetic, New Age scheme that could possibly wreck your life.

Heed our recommendations above to forever avoid this trap and ultimately find fulfillment in your love life.

Copyright © Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Hello, hello, profile image

      Hello, hello, 

      7 years ago from London, UK

      Whatever will they think of next just to get money out of you.

    • VioletSun profile image


      7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      Good advice, Scott! These get rich quick and find love now schemes, while suggesting it's a spiritual method, takes advantage of the vulnerability that we as humans may find ourselves in at certain cycles of our lives. When my last relationship ended, I wanted to be alone as it was a dysfunctional union that left me rather drained. Since I was happy being alone, lo and behold within two months, a beautiful, spiritual man stepped into my reality, and we are together, eight years later. :)

      Voted up!

    • SubRon7 profile image

      James W. Nelson 

      7 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      Haven't heard of that 90-day trap, and would not partake of it, although many probably do. You are right about trying to get life in order first before that soul mate find and, the other thing, being OK with being alone, hey, I'm almost always alone and love it, but I also would like to find that soul mate. Thanks for a good hub.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)