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Why Do Married Men Cheat on Their Wives? (10 Most Common Reasons)
What are their "Reasons"?
NOTE: Cheating no matter for what reason, is WRONG. There is no if, but or because, it is simply wrong so if you’re a married man reading this article, don’t assume these are valid reasons to cheat on your wife.
And if you’re a married woman reading this, don’t beat yourself up and try to justify his act of infidelity with these reasons. Cheating is wrong, it is as simple as that.
This article however, will be helpful to correct any mistakes from your part as a wife and help prevent your husband from falling for temptations with another woman.
NO 1: Lack of physical intimacy with wife, for a long time.
This is probably the most frequent reason found from cheating married men. No bedroom fun with wife causes them frustration and sometimes anger to go and seek it elsewhere. They simply can’t control their hormones even if they don’t want to cheat.
Some men cheat because their wives are not as adventurous in the bedroom department as they’d like them to be. They say their wives are not playful when it comes to wanting to try new things. Lame reasons of course but it’s unbelievable how many men fall for infidelity because of such reasons.
There are some who fall for temptation with other women because their wives are unable to make love with them for whatever reason, for a long period of time. It could be because their wives have a health condition that prevents them from having it.
A small percentage of men cheat when their wives are pregnant or after she gives birth because they simply can’t pass a day without the 3 letter word.
Quick tip for the married ladies: If you’re healthy enough, do whatever it takes to keep your husband happy in the bedroom department. I said, “If you’re healthy enough” because if you happen to have a health condition that slows you down or prevents you from physical intimacy, it’s not your fault at all. But if you ignore or forget his existence because of other reasons like work, busy with children and so on, it’s not fair on him.
If he truly loves you, he shouldn’t cheat no matter what but, if you do your part right, you won’t throw him into temptations right?
NO 2: Cheating to feel important, respected and special by someone.
Some men who truly love (or loved) their wives end up cheating because they don’t feel like a special somebody anymore. They fall for other women because their wives are not showing them the respect and love they deserve.
Every man wants to be treated like a MAN. Have you ever noticed how in some families, the wife acts like the head of the family and the husband just acts like a puppet nodding yes or no for everything? Those kinds of men are likely to cheat when they find someone who makes them feel respected and special.
No guy wants to come home from a long day at work to a 24/7 nagging wife. Every man wishes to come home to a wife who greets him at the door with a sweet kiss and asks how his day was. You know, anything sweet or funny other than a moody face will do the trick.
Not being respected and treated like a special someone causes them stress, which in turn makes them fall for lust when they get a chance for it.
NO 3: Low self-esteem can cause some men to cheat.
They want to know if they still have it in them to give full pleasure to a woman. They might feel this way because their wives hardly ever do anything or say anything that makes them feel like they’re doing a good job in the bed.
And sometimes because their wives have actually opened up and said something rude to fully break their self-esteem.
NO 4: Wife is hardly ever available for anything.
The married men who cheat because of this reason don’t just do it for the physical intimacy, they do it because they hardly ever get to spend any time with their wives. It could be because their wives are always busy at work or doing other things 24/7 as if their husbands are invisible.
These men start off by letting their wives know how they’re feeling in order to work on rebuilding their relationship but eventually get frustrated because of the lack of commitment from their wives.
NO 5: They want to take revenge.
If the wife happens to get caught flirting or doing funny things with another man, some husbands might forgive but never forget. They might move on and try to be normal but when they get their chance to take revenge, they don’t want to miss it.
NO 6: Hormones and nothing more.
It’s funny how I've hardly ever seen this mentioned anywhere. Some married men cheat simply because their hormones take over when they get the chance to make moves with other attractive women.
They might want to be a faithful husband in the heart but their flesh is weak. As soon as an attractive woman invites them for lust, they can’t help accepting because they simply don’t have the will power and self-control to resist when the moment strikes. These men usually end up with a lot of guilt and regret after cheating.
NO 7: There is no more love in the marriage.
Some couples allow themselves to get bored of each other as time goes by. They might have been all lovey dovey in the beginning but as the years go by, they reduce showing love to each other.
They get too used to each other and be together for the sake of being married. They might have family dinners together and even sleep together but the spark they once had is gone.
This causes some men (and women) to fall for temptation when another woman brings that lost spark back into their life.
NO 8: Influence from a close friend who cheated.
It’s not just women who chit chat about everything, men also do the same when they have their relaxing moments with their close friends. They talk about marriage, their wives, other women and whatever they got up to.
Statistics show that men who have a close friend who cheated are also more likely to cheat. Some friends who cheat don’t keep it to themselves, they would spend a good amount of time explaining all the fun they had to their other married friends and encourage them until one of them falls for it too.
NO 9: They don’t find their wives attractive, anymore.
Women experience a lot of major physical changes in their lives than men. Things like Pregnancy, giving birth, pre-menopause and menopause are some major events that women go through that can alter the way they look.
Sadly, some men end up cheating because their wives are no longer attractive in their eyes.
NO 10: Cheating is thrilling!
Last but not least, some married men cheat on their wives for the pure thrill they get out of it. Knowing they have no chances of getting caught increases their confidence to continue the thrill.