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How To Make Your Wife Feel Special
“Grow old along with me; the best is yet to be.”— Robert Browning
My 39th Valentine Days gift to my wife. A bit more creative than chocolates or flowers!
A Guide to Happiness
I love the woman I am married to with all my heart. My wife and I are married nearly 40 years and she is the one I cannot live without, yet it can be so easy to take her for granted. I know that my life would not be complete without her, but how have I let her know?
I have had nearly 40 years of education at The University of Life in what does and does not work in our relationship. It's not surprising to me that the main thing is a woman needs to feel wanted, respected and valued. My wife as well as most women want attention, respect, friendship, support and romance.
So, what can the wise, thoughtful married me advise the blind, deaf and dumb me?
TELL HER YOU LOVE HER...don't be shy to tell her how much you love her. Compliment her on her hair, dress or that very sexy pair of jeans she has on. Let her know how pretty she looks. Tell her how lucky you are that she is your wife. Give her a real hug. Hold her and kiss her neck and tell her how good she smells.
BE FUNNY...tell her jokes. Listen and laugh at her jokes. Laughter is a great mood setting tool that we all need. Poke fun at yourself and don't be afraid to act silly once in a while. Make her laugh and don’t be afraid to be playful. Have fun just being together.
BE SUPPORTIVE... Be there for her during the troubled times. She has done it for you. She has sacrificed things to do what was needed. Do the same for her. Help her feel safe and comfortable. Don’t always give advice or fix things, sometimes you just need to listen.
ADMIT WHEN YOU'RE WRONG...Be honest enough to admit to your mistakes and say you're sorry when you are wrong. That is the most sincere thing you can do. Put aside your pride. It is a humbling feeling, but do the right thing and tell her you were wrong. Then, try to never do it again!
Now, these things may not be profound, but they sure do make sense. We are not perfect but we have never loved each other as much as we do now. And there's no reason that it should not keep getting better. I mentioned in the first paragraph that my wife is the one I cannot live without. Those are just words. It’s what I do that will show her I can’t live without her.
Making her happy
More on making your Bride feel Special!
LISTEN...speaking of listening, try doing that. Don’t be guilty of using selective hearing. When she talks to you, do not keep watching television and mutter short replies.Really Listen! Think back to your dating days when all you did was practically talk over each other? Try and really hear what she is saying. She may even say something that you need to hear.
IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT SEX...I know you find her attractive and irresistible, but don’t just focus on sex. If you want to make your wife feel a disconnect, then make sure all you show an interest in, is having sex. We all know sex is important and it is a part of the relationship that can be great. Just remember there is something to be said for romance. Save the intimacy for the right time and place.
WRITE HER POETRY...I like to write my wife poems for all her special occasions and she loves them. It doesn't matter what gift I may have bought at the store, she has never been so touched as when I write something from the heart just for her. You do not have to be Ralph Waldo Emerson, just write what you feel. Some forms of poetry do not have to rhyme. Just speak from the heart and tell her how much she means to you.
DO THINGS SHE IS INTERESTED IN DOING...Do something that she likes to do and do not expect all day praise for doing it. Have fun being with her and by all means do not keep looking at your watch. Doing something that she likes especially if you do not; it is a very selfless and thoughtful way to show you love being with her. And better yet, surprise her by taking her some place that you know is special to her. Is it a park, a craft store or even a day at the mall? The idea is making nice memories for her and showing that you care.