100 Lessons I've Learned In Life
The way we learn lessons and their benefits
Lessons are usually learned via our failures, mistakes, unpleasant or stressful experiences, and observations. Learning lessons should make us wise, make us mature, change our attitudes and perspectives, and our behavior. Many of us are slow learners. Some people go to the grave not having learned some lessons that may have given them a better quality of life spiritually, physically, emotionally, and mentally. In some sad cases, people have lost their lives as a direct result of not learning a lesson.
The 100 I share here run the gamut from fun, happy, and humorous, to reflective, poignant, shameful, and spiritual. If you care to comment, share with me a valuable lesson you've learned in your life.
I've also added several internal links.
On God and the spiritual life
1. Gratitude - one of the most valuable lessons I've ever learned. To be grateful for everything God has blessed you with, is to honor Him and acknowledge his lovingkindness. I learned to make gratitude lists regularly, especially when life is hard, then I share it.
2. Hope is eternal - There is ALWAYS hope. When we can't see it, or won't see it, it is still there because God is eternal, and He alone is our hope. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope" (Jer. 29:11).
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His abundant mercy has begotten us again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead..." (1 Pet. 1:3).
3. God can be trusted - Prior to my joining hubpages I was in a difficult place in my life. My trust in God was sorely taxed. Hope seemed impossible for me, but God proved Himself to me. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths" (Porv. 3:5-6).
4. Faith and Obedience pleases God. Having said that, I am still a child of God wrapped in human flesh and I fail to obey from time to time. I walked around for a few years feeling God was always displeased with me. But I am growing in this area, and discovered obedience and faithfulness are part of pleasing God. "Jesus replied, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them" (John 14:23).
5. God values me. This is a lesson I have to relearn from time to time. I forget sometimes that when He looks at me He doesn't see my sin, but the cross. Looking at the cross reminds me that He valued (and still values) me enough to take my punishment on the cross.
With kids it's guaranteed to happen
6. Your child will lie if you ask if he got into the cookie jar.
7. Your baby will poop his diaper just as you're leaving for church. What's worse is you are already running late. Say it ain't so.
8. Your children will have to go to the bathroom right after you've spent 15 minutes putting on snow clothes and boots. He will be late for school.
9. The dog never eats a child's homework. It's an urban myth.
10. Something very bad is happening when your child is in another room and the house is quiet as a tomb.
11. If you tell a kid not to touch something or to go near something he will.
12. Every child in America will at one time or another, cut his or her own hair. You either have to shave what's left completely off or make them wear a hat for 3 months. It always happens when a family portrait is scheduled the next day.
13. When your teenager tells you his or her friends' parents let them do the things they can't do, most often it's untrue.
14. When your four or five year old child comes out of the bathroom with your make-up all over her face, she will lie and say "No I didn't" when you ask her if she got into your make-up.
15. Parents are not mean and don't want to spoil their teenager's fun when they won't let them go to an unchaperoned party.
16. Every child in America will get gum stuck in their hair at least once.
17. The Bible really does tell me Jesus loves me.
18. The Bible is a love letter from God, and an instruction manual for life.
19. "A Bible that is falling apart usually belongs to someone who isn't." ~ Charles Spurgeon
20. King James is not the only Bible translation that is accurate, nor is the language easy to understand, especially for a new believer.
21. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work (2 Tim. 3:15-17).
Myths about food and eating
21. You can eat just one Lays potato chip or cookie.
22. Canned spinach or beets are good for you, puts hair on your chest, and tastes good.
23. Putting salt in the sugar bowl for April fools will make your father laugh.
24. A low salt or no salt diet will not affect the taste of your food.
25. Butter on a bologna and cheese sandwich is good (my mother tried this on me for 18 years
26. You will embarrass yourself in church at least once in a lifetime by snoring or drooling while sleeping through a sermon. This happened to me. The pastor said real loud, "For those of you who are asleep...blah blah." My head popped up in shame. I felt bad but I didn't sleep but a few hours the night before.
27. God doesn't care whether the music is traditional hymns or contemporary worship music. He only cares about our hearts.
28. Many church-goers are unyielding when letting visitors sit in their regular spot in the pew. "Uh, excuse me, that's my seat," or "I'm saving this seat for my friend." Worse yet, there is tons of room in the pew in front of them or at the other end of their own pew. Ushers should dispense pole vaults to new visitors.
29. There will be conflict when something new needs to be fixed or replaced - carpet, paint, pictures hung, etc.
30. The Lord doesn't care about your voice when singing in church. Those who can't sing worth beans are making a joyful noise to the Lord.
31. The weather forecast is not a prophetic word.
32. If you wash your car, it will rain that day.
33. Your parents really did not walk ten miles in the snow barefoot when they were little.
34. A heat wave in the Pacific Northwest (where I live) is 80 degrees.
35. The month of June will always be cool and overcast in the Pacific Northwest.
Grandparents and grandchildren
36. A grandmother will spell the word candy when asking your mother if you can have some even though you've known how to read and spell for years.
37. Grandma's make the best pot roast, hands down.
38. It's true that one of the benefits of being a grandparent is that the grandchildren will go home with their parents at the end of the day.
39. Not all grandparents wear funny underwear or have bad breath.
40. Playing with grandchildren will make you feel younger; make you feel older; wear you out; give you energy you didn't know you had; make you laugh; make you scared; make you cry (when they get hurt); make you crazy; restore your sanity.
41. Dogs really are our best friends.
42. Dogs love us unconditionally.
43. I want to be the person my dog thinks I am.
44. Dogs understand the words walk, food, and treat but have no idea what your talking about when you say bath, vet, or heel.
45. Dogs can break wind and burp and get away with it.
- Hope For Hurting Hearts | Life Without Limbs
A new film from Harvest Ministries, “Hope for Hurting Hearts,” tells the true stories of how Greg Laurie, Cathe Laurie, Jeremy Camp, Nick Vujicic, and their families dealt with times of extreme suffering but found hope in the midst of it.
Grief, loss and stress
46. Watching your parent's health fail in their golden years is painful, especially when demential or Alzheimer's is the disease.
47. You can't put grief in a box. It is not a structured process. There is no timetable to finish grieving. There is no wrong reason to grieve. There are many kinds of losses, and what one person feels is a great loss, may be someone else's blessing.
48. Losing a child is not the same as losing a parent, grandparent, sibling, best friend, or pet.
49. There is nothing wrong or unusual to mourning the loss of a pet. If you're not a pet owner, you won't understand. Of course it does not equal in intensity as the loss of a human loved one, but for many, a pet was the only friend they had at home.
50. In spite of what divorced people are saying, kids are seldom resilient when their parents get divorced. It is a catastrophic loss. It will affect them for the rest of their lives in some way. Just because they are living a seemingly normal life, the people of the opposite sex that they will be drawn to, their ability to love and be loved, their sense of value and self-worth, their view on marriage and family can all be affected.
51. Losing a pre-born baby is just as great a loss and an already born baby.
52. Loss of a job, a home, one's health can all be catastrophic loss too.
53. Grief is healthy and normal, not grieving is not.
Men and Women
54. Women do not need a man to complete them, even when they think so. This is true of men as well.
55. So God created human beings in His own image. In the image of God He created them; male and female he created them (Gen. 1:27).
56. When a woman asks her mate if her new pants make her look fat, no matter what his answer is, it's the wrong one.
57. The media puts a lot of pressure on women to be thin, thus poor self-image and constant efforts to lose weight to be a whole woman. I don't need to stress myself out by buying into it.
58. There is nothing wrong with men and women who choose to be single all their life, not have children, or not remarry after a divorce.
59. Writing for Hubpages has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life.
60. Hubpages is easy to use and they offer many creative tools to make your hub more appealing.
61. Hubpages is a wonderful venue for gifted writers to become a community, even a family. There is a camaraderie between hubbers of like interests.
62. Hubpages is a great way to hone your writing skills, and learn amazing things from other writers.
63. Hubbers are lubbable.
64. By loving others, we are in one of many ways, loving God.
65. Speaking the truth in love is difficult to do and receive, but the rewards are priceless.
66. God loves us with an everlasting love.
67. It is hard when we have to remember that God loves whom we see as the most unlovable, and therefore we must show them love and respect.
68. If we love God we will keep His commandments.
69. It is difficult to love God by keeping His commandments.
70. Love does not mean never having to say you're sorry (one of the dumbest lines from a movie I've ever heard).
71. Nothing can ever separate us from the love of God (Romans 8:35-38)
72. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails (2 Cor. 13:4-8a).
What love is this? Kari Jobe
73. A friend loves at all times (Prov. 17:17).
74. What a friend we have in Jesus.
75. An unwavering and faithful friend when you are at your lowest is a God sent gift.
76. To have no friend at all is of the deepest loneliness.
77. A true friend is someone who knows the song of your soul and sings it back to you when you have forgotten the words. ~ Anonymous
79. Outward beauty is fleeting, and overly emphasized in our world. The measure of our worth does not depend on our outward appearance.
80. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart" (1 Sam. 16:7). Therefore, I need to do the same with myself and others.
81. A parents's love for his/her child is a beauty without words to describe.
82. God's beautiful creation declare His glory.
The beauty of His praise
The beauty of the heavens
Hubs on adversity, suffering, trials
- God Turns Trials Into Gold
It's hard to believe that are darkest trials can be turned to gold. But they can and here's how.
Suffering, sorrow, and pain
83. For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory,while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal. (2 Cor. 4:17-18). This statement is about comparison. Comparison between what? Paul answers that question in the rest of the passage. There is a glory ahead that vastly outweighs our sorrows. It is spoken from a broader perspective, as if Paul is seeing life up in heaven looking down and seeing it all from God's perspective. There is no time, as we know it, in heaven. We don't comprehend forever or eternal. "Now we see in a mirror darkly, but one day we will see Him face to face" (1 Cor. 13:12), and our eyes will behold His glory. And we will enter into His rest.
84. He (Jesus)was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain...Surely He took up our pain and bore our suffering...(Is. 53:3a,4a). All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. For the more we suffer for Christ, the more God will shower us with his comfort through Christ. Even when we are weighed down with troubles, it is for your comfort and salvation! For when we ourselves are comforted, we will certainly comfort you. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer. We are confident that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in the comfort God gives us (2 Cor. 1:3-7).
Are there any lessons you've learned in life you'd like to share in the comments section?
Miscellaneous lessons I've learned that pack a profound punch
85. Bitterness and unforgivingness will destroy your spirit, mind, and body. Holding a bitter grudge of unforgivingness is like eating rat poison and expecting the one you're bitter at to die.
86. Don't believe everything you think.
87. It's okay to have a differing opinion. It's okay for others to have a differing opinion too.
88. Judge not lest you be judged (Mark 7:1).
89. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding (this is the part where you don't believe everything you think), but in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths (Prov. 3:5-6).
90. Go to the Lord first - ALWAYS!!!
91. Pray when I'm doing well, as much as I pray when I'm not doing well. Watch and pray lest you enter into temptation (Mark 14:38).
92. Integrity and humility go hand in hand, you can't have one without the other.
93. Don't take on the Devil without my armor on.
94. There is power in the name of Jesus.
95. Don't give advice unless I'm asked for it.
96. Accept the things I cannot change, and change the things I can.
97. Love others as Christ loves me - even when it's hard. Esteem others as much as myself.
98. Be teachable, accept a loving a rebuke meant to help, not destroy, and put it into action if it has any validity. That is where the humility and integrity come from.
99. Gossip and lying are an abomination to God. Don't gossip or lie.
100. Go into all the world and preach the Gospel. When I leave my house, I am entering the mission field.
© 2013 Lori Colbo