Seven Fatherly Character Traits the Bible Endorses
Statistics today show that around 70% of fathers are missing from the home and while many may be in the home, they still are missing because of not spending quality time with their children. Too often the sports channel and work related projects take the place of simple quality time. For the father who truly wants to be a father, the demands of simply keeping food on the table and a shelter over the family can be a challenging experience because of the ever changing economy. This hub is simply meant to be a measuring stick to see if men are measuring up to God's standards of what they are to be according to the bible and to come up to the mark in the areas needed. Its intended purpose is to help and not criticize.
Fathers must have a changed heart
- The bible says to train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old it will not depart from him. Fathers who are not born again will not train their children God's way because to them the things of God are foolish. The bible says the natural man (sinner) receives not the things of God for they are foolishness unto him.
- Fathers teach their children the importance of obedience
Ephesians 6:1-3 says children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. Honor your father and mother which is the first Commandment with promise; that it may be well with thee and thou mayest live long on the earth. Practically speaking a good father will train their children in the way they should go. Part of this training is giving wise advice to protect from danger. A child who refuses to obey may unknowingly place themselves in danger through wrong relationship, wrong hang out areas and many other things. How many children's lives have sadly been cut short because of failure to obey.
- Fathers protect their children through their obedience
Hebrews 11:7 declares that by faith Noah being warned of God of things not seen as yet moved with fear, prepared an ark to the saving of his house. Noah being a father with six children obeyed God specifically in building the ark to the exact specifications of God.Through his obedience he built protection around his family from the tragic rain storm that destroyed mankind. Eight souls were saved which included Noah and his wife and children. Fathers must walk in continual obedience to God and his word so that the proper barriers are built around their children.
- Fathers provide for their children
The bible says that he that provides not for his own, especially those of his own house has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel (unbeliever). Fathers are providers and not dead beat dads who continually avoid responsibility.
- Fathers are role models
Part of training up a child in the way they should go is not just based on do as I say, but also on the principle of do as I do. Children need role models who demonstrate character and the best examples should come from the parent and not from the outside. Even bad qualities are passed on to children who grow up and say I will never be like my parent, but find themselves going down that same path. This is because of the role model image and how strong of an influence it plays in the life of a child.
- Fathers remain a stable influence
Luke 15 gives the account of the father who remained a stable influence in the life of his children even after one went astray. When the prodigal ended up in the hog pen after going astray, he found a stable father waiting on him when he returned. Children want to know that daddy will always be there.
- Fathers Love their children
The fathers love was shown to his son by not condemning him when he returned, but he put a ring on his finger, robe on his back and shoes on his feet and killed the fatted calf celebrating the return of a lost son. When children disappoint, love must remain in place. According to Hebrews 12 love also chastens and disciplines that peaceable fruit of doing right is birthed.