- Religion and Philosophy
3 kinds of Love
There are three different kinds of love. Both the Greek and Hebrew languages tend to be more specific and focused than the English language, so I'm going to use these words to describe to you the 3 different forms of love. Eros, Philos, and Agape.
Eros; In Greek mythology, eros love was taken from the Greek belief in a "god" of love called by the same name. The word actually means "longing and desire." Its like the "feeling of love" Eros is a selfish love; it asks "what can I get for myself?" Eros is associated with a sexual love. Unless this sexual love is redeemed by the presence of God, it is at stake at becoming possessive. It seeks to conquer and control. This was never God's intention. He created the physical attraction between a woman and a man but didn't intend selfish eros, but he DID create the longing and desire that makes up sexual love. Yes believe it or not, God created sex! Physical desire is very important in a marriage, and this type of love was created to be preserved for your special marriage partner. This type of love is an important type of love. Its essential to a healthy marriage.
Philos; is the second type of love. it's a unique kind of love, like the love that one has for a friend, or a companion, to love like a brother or like a sister. When we have Philos love for someone we have placed that friend in a high personal position. its characterized by shared experiences, as the joy of one becomes the joy of all. With all that being said, Philos has the ability to turn sour as we all have experienced sometime in our lives.
Agape; is the third and most important kind of love there is. It's the love that God commands us to have for one another. Its God's own personal way of loving us. It's not determined by feelings, its more like a set of actions or behaviors. You don't have to feel it to give it. When I say this I mean, its possible to not feel anything and be able to "love" in this sense. Sometimes the feelings follow. Its the kind of love that the bible is talking about in 1 Corinthians...
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says; Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails....