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5 Things I Want to Tell the Young Adult Giving Up on Church

Updated on March 23, 2017

5 Things I Want to Tell the Young Adult Giving Up on Church

1.) We want you here.

I get it. This place seems like it is set up to drive you away. As you come Sunday after Sunday and sit by yourself, it’s easy to feel like no one here cares if you would stop coming. Although there is always someone willing to say hi, they have no interest in your ideas or feelings on the church itself. Even though it doesn’t feel like it, please know you make a difference. Your presence and thoughts can change the environment of the church.

Matthew 15:2-3 “Why do your disciples break the tradition of the elders? They don’t wash their hands before they eat!” Jesus replied, “And why do you break the command of God for the sake of your tradition?”

2.) It’s okay that you don’t have kids yet.

Somewhere along the way, church has become solely targeted to families with children. Perhaps it’s because they are more likely to tithe, or maybe it’s because Christians have realized how inept they have become at reaching adults, so they are doubling down on kids. Whatever the reason, it’s easy to feel like you are a second-class citizen if you don’t fit into that group, you’re not.

1 Timothy 4:12 “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.”

3.) It’s not really about the bells and whistles.

Church has never been so sophisticated. The lights, the backtracks, even the announcements are calculated and based around market research. It can leave you feeling empty; if they need to use all the extra tactics that the rest of the world uses, the real power that the church was built on must be gone. It’s not. It’s still there if you are willing to dig deep to find it underneath the glitz and glamor.

1 Corinthians 2:1 “And so it was with me, brothers and sisters. When I came to you, I did not come with eloquence or human wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God.”

4.) You can’t do this alone.

It’s easy to think that you can quit the church, but not quit God. I’ve tried, and it simply doesn’t work. It’s possible if you are committed to spending consistent time with other Christians discussing the Bible, as well as being taught spiritually and serving the Kingdom of God. Do you really trust yourself to do all that? The Bible is clear; you can’t get the church out of your life without God eventually going with it. Even though God is perfect, and the church most definitely is not, the two of them are kind of a package deal.

Acts 2:42 “They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.”

5.) Your time is coming.

It feels like things will never change. That you will always be stuck in the same situation, desiring something real and being given something less. Hold on, your time is coming. There is a change brewing in the hearts of believers; a storm is coming, and you are going to want to be a part of it. The traditions are being shaken, and the hollow walls of human philosophies have cracks at the base. As these things crumble, new leaders are going to need to step up in the church. Hold on, your time is coming, and the church is going to need you more than you know.

1 John 2:14 “I write to you, young men, because you are strong, and the word of God lives in you, and you have overcome the evil one.”


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