A Blanket Of Snow And Relationships
A Blanket Of Snow And Relationship
Waking to the wonderment of white all around elicits a euphoric response. The magnificent beauty of a soft white cottony blanket of pure snow is captivating. Perhaps it isn't earth shattering and often it's merely a good three-inch covering, but it's just enough to ignite the excitement it brings.
I love watching the reaction to a first snow. First comes the scurry to the window taking in the beauty as the snow puffs that rest atop of the tree branches. The hurried approach is important so you’re sure to see it before it has been disrupted by footprints or the frolicking of excited snow enthusiasts.
Snowfall is so wonderful it brings so many feelings and emotions. Each time the snowfall presents itself there is a new experience. Feeling the brisk fresh air, always encourages an extra moment to inhale. It seems for some reason because it is cold and surrounded by the fluffy white crystal like masterpieces’, it makes the air seem cleaner and so refreshing even though the same pollutants of cars and factories may be nearby. I suppose it's the whiteness, the cleanness, the newness, which creates that cool, crackling, crisp and spotless feeling.
The second feeling is emotional excitement as we actually huddle to make plans for the special day. These emotions have past memories intertwined in each thought or request that is evoked by the latest snow event. For example, first, we will play in it, then enjoy a nice cup of hot cocoa, finally a distinct plan to come together with family or friends and share a meal or a movie or a good old board game. Basking in the warmth of a smoldering fireplace we imagine an icy glass menagerie being formed, as the wind gently whips and molds magical pieces in the outdoor wonderland.
The third and most curious is the eagerness to work. Your neighborhood comes alive with folks out shoveling or snow blowing; a good friend arrives with a plow and a random act of kindness that eases the snow removal. Younger people keep an eye out for the older folks to be sure they get their needs met in the aftermath of the snowfall. The snow brings a sense of community, family and friendship, just merely by falling into place. We find snowfalls so special because regardless of what was occurring in your household prior to the swirly flakes being scattered, be it your routines, disagreements due to life’s stress, battling the latest bug or cold, playful bickering, or lack of motivation, it just doesn't matter anymore because the snow changes everything. Your adrenaline comes into play and there is always something new, different and special about that day. Snow makes us react, whether we like it or not, either way, we have to respond.
Snowstorms Compared to Relationship
All relationships, such as with family and friends are like a beautiful snowfall whimsical with the delight of newness and when fresh it's light and airy and fun. Once trampled a bit, it may show the neglect and dirt that can mingle into the clean white flakes. What’s so special about the snow, is that it brings people together. It forces people to take care of their property and the surrounding areas. The idea of snow puts everyone on alert to prepare for the upcoming storm. When the storm comes, its beauty, while at the same time frustrated by the potential for danger and the disruption it can cause to our plans, will undoubtedly mesmerize us just the same. We are so blissful at the thought of this fresh blanket that covers all the little defects in our world.
I pose this scenario as the snow makes me think about relationships and marriages. It is impossible to not notice how under attack relationships and marriages are these days. Everywhere you turn in a grocery store or on the world news a seemingly sturdy marriage or a brand new relationship is breaking up. I place relationships with friends and young people, adults to seniors in this category as well. If in a relationship of any kind, the truth is, it will be light and airy with lots of fluff and beauty when it is in its infancy. It will for a time have a beautiful blanket of newness and it will be amazing. Then eventually, each of our relationships can and will come under attack. I question is it worth it to work at clearing away the disruption? Why not focus on the neglect which has caused it to be marked with the weathering of a storm? I believe our relationships are worth at least as much attention as we give to a snowstorm.
I believe we could all learn to be more motivated in our relationships with each other and with God. When things are light and fluffy we can relax and take in the beauty and enjoy the thrill of newness. We just have to say that even when a relationship goes through terrible storms, some due to outside unpredictable forces and some due to minor neglects that can slowly mount up, like piles of unwanted dark snow in a parking lot, they are still worth the effort. We all fall victim to the idea of “this is getting slushy and I wish it would just go away.” Then it is a quick, slippery slope to, “Oh it will eventually melt I will just ignore it for a while.”
It will melt, but if we do not stay curious as to why it has lost focus or why it's not so easy anymore, then how we can work toward getting to the bottom of the slush pile. We miss the boat when we don't give credit to the history of the mountain of slush. When we pay close attention to the history and discuss the good, bad and alike. We start the process of sifting through the pile and appreciating the dirt and learning from it. Allowing us a chance to focus on the dirt is a stepping stone to growth, as we can collectively appreciate of our human nature and sinful responses. Without these periods of focus on the darkness in our lives, we're not guarding or protecting, this gives way to an opportunity for a dark dirty mess to permeate our pure blanket of white. At the same time, it's a gift to focus on the darkness or dirt in our lives, to learn from it can then begin a process to create a barrier this repetitive insult that is constant.
DON’T GIVE UP, as all of our relationships, are under attack. Wait for the dark snow to melt, add a little elbow grease at clearing it away. Realize that anything worth having is worth renewing. There are no perfect people or perfect relationships. There is, however, unconditional understanding and guidance from God and our relationship with Him.
This relationship is the one we must continue to perfect. When things go hazy as they will with the stresses of life in all areas of relational circumstance, with spouses, friends, significant others, children, teens, teachers, people in authority. We will buckle under pressure. When we buckle, we still may lose our balance or even stumble. I know for a fact, God is there in those moments. He wants to pick you up, brush you off and head you back to the pile of neglected dark snow remaining in your parking lot. He is going to help you clear it. He will do this by making it known what He wants for you to succeed if we just listen and pay attention.
He may bring the answers from the person or thing you least expect, in fact, count on that. The tactic or method may be confusing and even scary and often not as you imagined. It may be time-consuming and at points seem ridiculous, but clarity comes at the bottom of the pile. There is extreme JOY in tracking a storm together and then even getting bounced around a bit as long as we get back on the course. Going through it fighting for love and trust and understanding. Even accepting and forgiving when you just don't understand the what’s or why’s. Why does God allow my anger? Why did God change things up like this? What does God want from me? Why does God want me to face this particular challenge or issue? What does God expect me to do when someone treats me like this or that?
God does for us every day, every hour, every minute. If we want to be even a snowflake worth of His beautiful blanket for someone else we must trust Him and do as He would do for any of us. We must recognize it is His will that we are experiencing life. We will fight the weather report, we will try to run from it, shelter from it and even pretend it's not happening, we will decide our interpretation of God’s WILL rather than facing the truth of His expectation, but ultimately going through it with Him at our side and trusting His message is such a gift.
Surely we will need reminding of what God wants for and from our life, but know if we seek Him together in our relationships, all of our relationships, it will be beautiful. I know the most important thing is for all of us to focus on our relationship with God first and foremost. I know that by looking into your heart and reflecting that heart to His word is the only way, truth, and light for our future. When we reach a stumbling block we know where to go for solace and answers and yet at times we kick and scream first. We even cry to the point of release and near giving up at times. We must also realize for every time in life that this happens, He will swoop right into that door where we will briskly try to close it on HIM. We may have even pinched His toes a few times in our stubborn refusal to listen to His plan. He still allows our faults and forgives and loves us. We should be most grateful for His grace and forgiveness. We should be pleased that God reminds us to take ownership of wrong doings in our relationships with all those we meet and, of course, those we love.
I have been blessed by God to have a relationship with one who is a quiet and honest observer of life. We are humbled together by our attention to the grace and word of God. We communicate passionately both in love and in disagreement at times. We are like yokes but with very distinctive personalities. We both have great strengths and great weaknesses. We are painfully aware after many years together to know how to push buttons. We also have come through enough storms to know how to build each other up, we continue to learn about one another as if it is a new snowfall and admit that we need to go to God together and often to be convicted in what is pleasing to HIM. At least, when clearing away the slush together, it gives us an opportunity to struggle to get to the purpose and possible understanding of God WILL for our lives. When the reward of the work comes it is like receiving a beautiful spring bouquet and the new season starting all over with a smile.
Below read James 1:1-27 The Bible SAYS
New International Version (NIV)
1 James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ,
To the twelve tribes scattered among the Nations: Greetings.
Trials and Temptations 2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a]whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.9 Believers in humble circumstances ought to take pride in their high position. 10 But the rich should take pride in their humiliation—since they will pass away like a wild flower. 11 For the sun rises with scorching heat and withers the plant; its blossom falls and its beauty is destroyed. In the same way, the rich will fade away even while they go about their business. 12 Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.13 When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; 14 but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. 16 Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. 17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. 18 He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.
Listening and Doing ~19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. 21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. 22 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. 23 Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror 24 and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 25 But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.26 Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless. 27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
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