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A Good Resting Place

Updated on April 20, 2011

Where all burden has been removed.

A final Place of Rest and True Peace

On Sunday November 14, 2010 my father went on to be with God and the others who have left here. After a long fight with lung cancer, Squamous Cell Carcinoma my dads suffering ended right here in the comfort of familiar surroundings at his home.

For a year and a half my wife Marie,brothers,sisters my son and I have been here caring for him and trying to comfort him. With a triple bypass surgery done in 2005 and his wife, mom suddenly passing in Febuary 2006 dad was pretty much convinced that life would never be the same again. And you know, he was right. In June of 2009 I returned home to try and look out for my father because something in my mind was telling me that he wasn't doing well. Sure enough, I took him in to see his physcian and we found out that he had an unusual spot in his left lung. Turns out it was cancer and already had grown to a stage 3 status.

Then the doctors recommended chemo therapy and radiation treatment because of his age and the fact that he had already underwent bypass surgery for his heart. We made it through the treatments however it drained every once of energy he could muster. As the months went by, dad started to feel like his old self again and that was pretty good, until one day he went to the oncologist for a routine check and they decided to do some imaging. An MRI showed some unknown growth in the right side of his brain and the doctors decided that it would be best to remove it because the chances are it is cancerous. Dad got the surgery done to his brain and was recovering when the doctors started him on more radiation, but to his head this time. He took fifteen shots of radiation and after that could never recover to his old self. Months went by of watching him decline and trying to keep him comfortable until one day he finally admitted that the pain was too much. At that time, we under the supervised care of Covenant Hospice group, a wonderful organization, I might add and I was instructed to call them even before contacting emergency services or a hospital.

Dad went on continuous care which just means a nurse would be by his side from now on 24 hrs. to care for him and give him medicines for pain and other complications that go with severe depression, dehydration, diarhea, nausea etc.

About four days of round the clock care, the old guy finally passed from his heart working too hard, distressed breathing and his body just not wanting to cooperate overall.

My sister and I were very emotional at the time of his passing, but we were both relieved to know that the suffering and the pain had finally ended.

It is a hard thing to watch day by day, a loved one withdraw from life and become so sick they just want to die. I know that my father is in a better place out of his mortal body. I write this hub as a memorial to my mother and my father who are now together for always and to express my love for all they've done for me in my life. May they be happy that God is with them even now.

Thank you in advance for your comments if you should happen upon this hub and read it. May you be blessed in every area of life.

Amazing Grace

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    • Artin2010 profile imageAUTHOR

      Artin2010 

      6 years ago from Northwestern Florida, Gulfcoast

      thank you skye2day, yes it is hard letting go. You are right, the memories remain.

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      skye2day 

      6 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      Artin Brother thank you for sharing your heart and the Love of Jesus that moves in you. We have the assurance of eternal life Amen? Praise God your dad and mom are together. This hub was written a time back. I do hope that Gods healing has comforted you in your pain.

      My parents have passed to heaven as well. I was a young woman when they departed together in 1986. The memories always stay. They gave their 4 daughters much wisdom. I am eternally grateful. I will see them one day. It gets easier but somehow I miss them more. They would not be that old today.

      Allelulia! Absent from the body present with the Lord.

    • Artin2010 profile imageAUTHOR

      Artin2010 

      7 years ago from Northwestern Florida, Gulfcoast

      I can see from the passing of time that it doesn't really get easier just gets less painful. The older we get the more we play a game with ourselves, who'll be next, are they ready for the journey? Blessings Dim thanks for reading me.

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      Dim Flaxenwick 

      7 years ago from Great Britain

      My brothers and I have a very similar story of our dad and stomach cancer. I feel your pain.

      I hope writing it down has helped a little.

      My heart goes out to you and yours.

      (thank you for the ´follow´)

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      Art Native 

      7 years ago

      Good to hear from you Harlan, Know what ya mean man. Yes, hard to know what someone else's salvation is and would'nt be the same without our parents there. God Bless, friend, Art

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      Harlan Colt 

      7 years ago from the Rocky Mountains

      I have often wondered about death, and my dad just turned 74. He says he believes in Jesus, but... so does the devil.

      Heaven wouldn't be the same without someone you love, I guess that is why it says God wipes away all tears.

      Anyway, Soon as I find that stupid fan mail box, I will shoot one your way... I never can find that thing when I want it... ha! We're about the same age... so I am hoping you know full well what I mean.

      - best Wishes

      - Harlan

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      Pastor Dr. Carlotta Boles 

      7 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

      Absent for the body, present with the LORD! Know in your heart that God is watching over you and you will be honored for taking care of your father and mother! For now your days shall be long upon this earth! Much love my friend, your in my prayers always...

    • Artin2010 profile imageAUTHOR

      Artin2010 

      8 years ago from Northwestern Florida, Gulfcoast

      Thank you all for the comments. God continues with His plans for mankind and they are truly amazing. There are some hurts in life that remain with us until the day comes that God reveals to us what we have to know. God is blessing, He is love, whether here or above. Pressing onward with Jesus Christ in our hearts.

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      William Kovacic 

      8 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I appreciate the hub although I know the circumstances have been trying. My dad suffered for months as well and watching him go through the pain was so difficult. Glad to know they're both in a better place.

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      RevLady 

      8 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      It is with deep sorrow that my condolences are offered to you and your family for you are the sufferers now. Your father is free in a way that we cannot comprehend until our turn to transition, which is only a breath away.

      The Good News is the promises of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, who Himself led the way to eternity for all believing souls. Rest in His assurances and comforting promises.

      May the abundant grace of God, the constraining love of Christ and the indwelling witness of the Spirit be with you.

      Yours in the bond of Christian love,

      Forever His,

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      Judah's Daughter 

      8 years ago from Roseville, CA

      It's beautiful for you to write about such a trying time in your father's life. What a trooper he was! He and your mother must have been so proud of you, for look how you cared for them and have seen them over to their eternal homes, free of pain and illness. This is the miraculous gift of Christ Jesus. Carry on in His precious love and Comfort, only He can give...until you meet with them again. This life is but a mere breath compared to eternity. What HOPE we have in Christ Jesus! God bless you, brother. My heart and the hearts of all who read are with you in this time of transition.

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      Kdban101 

      8 years ago

      I am very sorry about your loss. May his soul rest in peace.

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