A Magnet For Haters
If you are making a difference in the lives of people, you will (not might) become a magnet for haters. Let’s face it — if you don’t want to deal with haters in your life, don’t preach, don’t teach, don’t write, don’t blog and definitely … don’t even breathe!
Haters are a fear-driven people who are fueled by a deep jealousy. They either struggle to assert themselves due to a low self-esteem or live with an inflated ego that is bruised and demanding payback. They behave like bullies sulking over an unforgivable and permanent black-eye.
In recent years, our church received a volley of anonymous hate letters that included baseless accusations against myself and my family, along with a number of members. Of course, these self-appointed ‘guardians of no-good’ didn’t truly know the people they were accusing or insulting. They simply went on a slanderous spree in order to tear down innocent souls. I liken these hate letters to an aimless flock of birds expelling their foul droppings on the unsuspecting crowd below.
King David was hounded by haters. He wrote about the wicked who bend the bow, “to shoot in the dark at the upright in heart.” You won’t ever see them face-to-face. They don’t fight fair. You won’t know when they will raise their ugly heads. Why? They cringe in the shadows like cowards. Isn’t it amazing that human beings who claim to follow Christ can behave in such a sub-human way? It staggers the imagination!
When you get the chance, take the time to read the gospel of Matthew chapters 7 and 23. As someone who believes in the words of Jesus, I truly fear for these haters. They are clueless as to the gravity of the sin they’ve chosen to embrace and walk in.
So what’s the bottom line? Haters are going to keep hating. That’s their nature. It’s a curse. But you can certainly do something about it:
- Pray against the spirit of hatred and lies — take your pain to the cross of Christ as you surrender it into the hands of God.
- Avoid those who harbor hate words — delete them from your email, and block their poison from your social media pages.
- Whether you speak, write or blog, continue to bless people through your life-giving words. Because for every hater, there is a greater number of good people out there who love and appreciate you. And guess what? The good will always outnumber the bad!
Here’s what you don’t do. Don’t cave-in to their death words. They’re designed to drain your emotional battery. Remember that these mudslingers are determined to distract and discourage you from fulfilling your God-given purpose. And don’t ever respond in such a way as to get even. Take the high road, step aside, and allow God to do what He does best. After all, will not the Judge of all the earth do right?
Someone may ask, “But what about those critics who should be heard?” Haters are abusers. Period. They are nowhere near the people of integrity who provide us with constructive criticism coming from a place of love and truth. They don’t even come close.
Finally, if haters have you in their crosshairs, you are blessed to be in the company of Christ. Let’s learn from His example. 1 Peter 2:23 says, “When he was abused, he did not return abuse; when he suffered, he did not threaten; but he entrusted himself to the one who judges justly.”