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A Practical Path to Finding Peace: Identifying the Unresolved Hidden Elements
]:“…[A] divine discontent, and a constant restless seeking of an ideal not easily realisable on earth [is] frequently found in the nativities of great artists… When one senses that there is in fact a subtler, higher plane of being… accessible to human consciousness, it is often difficult to patiently live a mundane existence in a material world that increasingly looks and feels like a prison.” P45— Stephen Arroyo
Finding Meaning in the Way Back to Peace
Looking back over all the chaotic changes from the past few years, I see now thru all the wreckage that I had a lot more spiritual growth and huge awareness than I first believed. A more conscious review of the major astrological transits that passed in that period, as well as the ones occurring now, have begun to put that all into more objective perspective, which is always helpful. For example, I’ve recently been studying a set of Saturn transits and Neptune Transits to my natal chart and coming to an understanding that to clarify my karmic soul work and what’s left of it to do will bring a sense of motivation and purpose to my current affairs. Needing more study to achieve this, I looked up at my shelf of astrological books and found some vintage astrology texts a friend gave me over decade ago. I hadn’t read them yet, because they were too esoteric even for me (if that’s possible,) but perusing them now revealed material that provided exactly what I needed for this work now, and had a major transcendent experience just copying the quotes from the text in my notebook. When I next sat down to update this peace article written two years ago, I found all the statements fit perfectly retroactively; and I will use these inspired quotes with my Hub capsules from one specific text: “Astrology, Karma and Transformation; The Inner Dimensions of the Birth Chart” Stephen Arroyo; 1978.Now it not only seems like all growth and some healing instead of only a truckload of upheaval and destruction, but also once again I am reminded of the guiding force still present in spite of my feeling of disconnection. It’s important for me, especially after all this recent relentless blackness, to take a moment to connect and honor all this spiritual growth. See it. Believe it. It’s real… and always been with me, waiting.
If we welcome the onrush of Neptunian energies into an open mind and soul, we can experience heightened spiritual... inspiration.” Dane Rudhyar writes, Neptune is ‘at every level, the healing and sustaining power of the wholeness of the whole… whose mind establishes its formations in terms of the reconciliation of all opposites, leaving nothing outside its all-inclusive multi-dimensional logic- to [her God answers as Grace.’ (from Triptych)” P47— Stephen Arroyo
Defining the “Peace Problem”
It’s also important to honor my need for things to be stable and steady to enjoy growth and progress towards success at a pace that feels manageable to me. At our 2013 Winter Solstice Moon Circle meditation, my angel told me my purpose was “to be peaceful,” now that is my new intention. I learned a long time ago when you ask for most things, you usually always get their opposite first, because the soul needs to clear out the opposing force that blocks that which you desire. If you wish for Joy, first comes up the underlying Grief and Sadness for what has been lost. A wish for Compassion will bring up old Rage for what never received its due Justice and Retribution. A longing for Love will unlock decades of Abandonment and Hatred towards those who left us Alone. These old difficult feelings come from old unresolved wounds which must first be dislodged and surface so they can be attended for healing. The remaining space is then open for the Universe to fill it with that which we asked for. However, a long time ago, a client told me once that peace is just peace, and it comes from the Spiritual gift of grace when you ask for it. I believed that to be true for many years.
Neptune represents our sense of obligation to society and to other people, manifesting in guilt feelings in extreme cases…. [and] in this case shows a channel through which we have to pay off certain karmic debts to others... such a feeling of obligation to society, to humanity, or indeed to any suffering human being or animal comes from the fact that we sense our oneness with all other living creatures... P46— Stephen Arroyo
Defining Peace for Oneself
And yet after these many years of asking for Peace, and many years of only receiving more upheaval, at long last it occurs to me that that idea is just total crap. An ongoing, relentless lack of Peace is fundamentally rooted in a life, or a living situation, such as a household or community, with an underlying conflict over something that is JUST NOT WORKING for any party. This very likely includes some major unconscious “karmic soul work” changes taking place after living too many years in denial of this fact and trying to force personal solutions onto unwilling parties. Either it’s working for some but not for all, and the “All” is just suppressing their disagreement in order to “Keep the Peace;” or the “All” is finally speaking up and attempting to get their truth known to the “Some” and these attempts are just not working or are being met with Denial, Distraction or a Direct Refusal to participate in the changes that would create a better situation for “All.” Conflict or all out “War” ensues. Or else it’s just not working for anyone; no one can see any solution whatsoever; and the Battle rages on. For once, it’s the straight up practical elements of the Peace Creating Mission, and NOT the Deep Spiritual Core, that interest me now: a practical approach to creating peace begins with creating a functional way of actually getting some purposeful work done in the first place.
One can of course experience non-material forces and psychic sensitivity either constructively (which Dr. William Davidson called the ‘angelic benediction’ referring to a form of higher protection and guidance) or self destructively (possession, deception, or dissipation of one’s energies). Precisely how the subtle Neptunian energy and dimension of life will be integrated into our entire life structure depends in great part upon how honest, courageous, and practical we are. P47— Stephen Arroyo
Naming Unresolved Hidden Elements that Obstruct Peace
For most people in a garden variety minor experience of conflict, perhaps 1)-regular prayer, meditation & writing, then 2)-regular healthy Non-Violent Communication is enough to bring about Miracles of Enduring Peace. However, many ways and many different levels of issues exist to create a long-term experience of being without peace. For those of us having lived overlong in the War Zone, it is useful and necessary to take the time to identify and examine all those fundamental, underlying elements that JUST ARE NOT WORKING. Seeing these life elements lurking around underneath the surface unresolved - like a shark on the hunt - is the real first step towards creating lasting peace. Therefore, this one approach will be the focus of this article. Once these have been identified, we are now able to see clearly which of our needs are not being met and how the current mechanics of the situation are impeding those details which enable full functioning. Bit by bit, a new image forms of what needs to be changed and in what order and time this needs to occur. A new plan forms to work towards creating a new life that is fully functional, based on what is important now, having let go of the old dead gods we once served, but which now serve us no longer. Of course, maintaining the aforementioned personal rituals helps to ease the mind like a daily “Soul Shower;” and can be a Great Guidance in learning how to let go of what we no longer need, while keeping the Vision of our ultimate destination in always in mind
This tendency… however, …must be related to practical facts; or else one leaves oneself open to being manipulated, used, and even exhausted by the demands of others… We must realize that God also has a part to play. [S]he will play [Her] part, regardless of what we do, so we needn’t take on [Her] responsibilities. So often we find Neptunian people pouring out every ounce of their vital force in the futile attempt to satisfy their insatiable sense of obligation to others. P46— Stephen Arroyo
The Big, Unresolved Pieces in My Own Life
Me living with my parents; a need to be living on my own
Lack of sufficient income to be financially autonomous: underlying underearning and stunted adult issues
Unresolved Health Conditions; Autoimmune Thyroid, Suppressed Immune System & the Viral Load, with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis blocked by relentless and unending difficulties of getting treatment from Network Provider Healthcare for these conditions
Living in the Alcoholic and Codependent Family System: Lack of environmental and emotional support or communal acceptance of my true nature and WHO I AM
Major Excessive Compulsive, Ancestral Accumulation of Clutter through time, space, energy, and other peoples’ psychic stuff leads to debting
Compulsively taking on too much. Learn how to commit to less, take on less and give the rest of it “Back”
Compulsive behavior of taking on other people’s stuff without realizing it
Lack of Acceptance it’s time to reach out for Outside Help; or acquiring a different, more effective form of outside help. Doing it on my own has taken me as far as I can possibly go.
Lack of regimen/maintenance; exercise, diet, readings, writings, meetings, outreach
Inability to take breaks and have regular and genuinely restful vacation
Exertion/Exhaustion. Inability to slow down, be thorough & organized, or avoid Hurry and Indecision and learn how to stay in my pace and free from overpowering outside influences trying to force me into their false agendas
The key to forming a right relationship to the Neptunian force in our lives is to realize that no satisfaction or liberation will come from our constantly seeking the ideal for which we yearn in the outer world, and that it will only come when we accept responsibility (Saturn!) for making our lives ideal thru our own creativity and devotion. In other words, we have to turn within, we have to live the ideal in order to make it real. p45— Stephen Arroyo
Establishing a Detached Perspective: A Plan
It helps to first change our perspective and see how these elements fit into one Big Picture overview. For me and my list, I take them in order: the first item is the main problem that must be solved for me to find my peace. The next six elements are all the things that have chronically interfered with the accomplishment of this goal. Coincidentally (or Synchronistically?) they all involve wrestling blindly with gigantic forces far beyond my sphere of control while also somehow combining into larger issues of My Ancestral Accumulation of Clutter; all the while somehow believing I can still enforce my specific outcomes at my specific time, which is the Real Problem. Once I recognized this, I finally accepted I couldn’t do it all in once, or all by myself, and sought outside help from therapists, 12 Step groups, body work and found a deep all-encompassing Spiritual archetype to apply myself to. (Full disclosure: this process was really overlapping and chaotic for over a decade until certain transformative spiritual awakenings helped me to put it into clarity retroactively; and even more time to actively put it into writing!) Finally, the last 3 listed can form the actions that I believe will help me achieve this essential goal, which ultimately can only happen bit by bit, within a functional weekly maintenance routine that grew out of my all-encompassing Spiritual Archetype.
Neptune…indicates...a field of experience which we tend either to idealize or to escape from...It seems we often identify some area of worldly experience with our most profound spiritual longing; and the result is confusion. Acute discrimination (Virgo!–the opposite sign from Neptune’s sign Pisces) is required to enable us to clarify for ourselves what is really related to our spiritual growth and what is...an area of life which we hoped...would fulfill our spiritual longing and loneliness. P47-— Stephen Arroyo
Creating the Healthy Maintenance Regimen
With all these medical symptoms, fighting alone in war zone in constant upheaval, everything is a moving target and it feels like dancing with the Tasmanian Devil all the time rather than actually being able to sit down long enough to see any task thru to completion. Never mind being so deeply fatigued on top of it all, I end up spending the rest of my time in bed. Therefore, part of my Peace Intention was to establish *once and for all* a Proper Health Regimen for Daily/Weekly/Monthly/Annual Practice and to execute it with proper awareness of my limitations, which means I needed a plan. The functionality depends on being able to commit to that regimen only what is manageable for me to actually do, and to actually being able to do something to its completion. The first part of the plan involved sitting down to write about each of what became the “7 Roots of My Psychic Tree” individually. These are seven areas of my life: Spiritual, Mental, Emotional. Physical, Financial, Creative, Recovery. Each required taking time to define what that one means to me; what’s missing or interfering with getting my needs in that area of my life met; and my ongoing specific goals for growth and direction in that area. I typed general definitions of each of these “Roots” with my mission statement in different word documents I can email to my support people. Next, I broke all goals and unresolved issues into separate projects that have smaller projects, goals and action items, and added them all into their respective word document outlines. Then, I generated a list of smaller categories for each of the larger goals, identifying the details of regular tasks and actions that fall into each category, recognizing that many of these goals involve rest & self-care, social, leisure and play activity. Finally, I seek to establish one day of the week to attend to each of these Roots; and each week I choose one of those actions for that corresponding day of week. Now I can work on these goals a little bit each week with purpose, while balancing self-care into the equation. Three years later, I finally got this set up!
There is no use in always looking unrealistically for the perfect situation...with beautiful scenery all around...Naturally, an extremely sensitive person may need to live in an environment or have a type of work which at least does not deplete his or her psychic eenergy thru constant stress. But to insist that everything be perfect before we will live it to the full – before we will commit ourselves to it completely- is an attitude which insures we will never feel any inner peace.” p 45— Stephen Arroyo
A Practical Example of Choosing Peace
It is essential to recognize that even with all this carefully planned purposeful activity, unexpected things still happen and emotional and material stuff still accumulates. All the while remembering that just because I’m writing out the renewed direction of my life, remembering my assets and purpose; that does NOT mean that ALL these are goals are meant to be accomplished for this one year. This is a many year plan to be applied to my new Healthy Regimen. Bigger breaks and vacations are so vital to detach, reflect, regroup and refresh the spirit with renewed joy and energy to continue back home. Spelling out my enormous vision in all its magnificent detail and glory serves as a beacon: a compass direction to stay on course. Here is the place where returning to it daily thru the pressure valves of prayer, meditation, writing and healthy communication release tension and create more peace with those around you, while being reminded of why to do this in the first place. Now Being Peaceful is possible because I’m not spending all my time insanely running around, abandoning my entire regimen of healthy self-care and vision work, to meet some other person’s insane deadline they imposed on me along with their personal agendas based on the false idea of who I am. It’s more like saying no to that 3 day [Tao Retreat] weekend (after realizing I felt pressured to go from a friend who lives at the temple where it was being held and I could afford it anyway) so I could have more time to finish setting up all the Feng Shui charms and cures in my studio loft work space at a relaxed pace. This area had just received an intense energetic cleansing, and the completion of its organized set up would enable me to receive private clients in an orderly way and earn money in a way that suits me. The sense of wellbeing that came from simply applying a mindful recovery approach to making that decision was immediate and satisfying, and grew out of showing up each day either as work or rest doing a small thing finish able in a short time.