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A Practical Path to Finding Peace: Identifying the Unresolved Hidden Elements
[A] divine discontent, and a constant restless seeking of an ideal not easily realisable on earth…[with] a noble aspiration and persistent endeavor to seek for a fuller realization of inner visions...[is] frequently found in the nativities of great artists… When one senses that there is in fact a subtler, higher plane of being… accessible to human consciousness, it is often difficult to patiently live a mundane existence in a material world that increasingly looks and feels like a prison.” P45— Stephen Arroyo
Finding Meaning in the Way Back to Peace
Looking back over the wreckage of the chaotic changes from the past few years, I now see a lot more spiritual growth and greater awareness than I first believed. A conscious review always helps. By examining the major astrological transits from that period, as well as the ones occurring now, placement of those into a more objective perspective has begun. In a recent study of an overlapping set of Saturn and Neptune transits to my natal chart, I came to an understanding: Clarifying my karmic soul work and what’s left to do, restores a sense of motivation and purpose to my current affairs.
Needing more study to achieve this, I look up at my shelf of books and find some vintage astrology texts a friend gave me over decade ago. Most of them are not read yet; they seem too esoteric even for me (if that’s possible.) However, perusing one of them reveals the exact material necessary for my current work. Just copying the quotes from the text into my notebook is a major transcendent experience!
Sitting down to update this peace article I wrote two years ago, I find all these statements fit perfectly retroactively, and decide to incorporate them into my article. They are all from one text: Astrology, Karma and Transformation: The Inner Dimensions of the Birth Chart, by Stephen Arroyo. Now - despite the recent feelings of disconnection - instead of seeing the last years as only a truckload of upheaval and destruction, it not only seems like all growth and some healing, but also another reminder of the guiding spiritual force still present is revealed.
Before this assessment of finding peace after all this recent relentless blackness begins, it’s important to take a moment to connect with and honor all this spiritual growth. See it. Believe it. It is real… and has always been with me, waiting.
If we welcome the onrush of Neptunian energies into an open mind and soul, we can experience heightened spiritual... inspiration.” Dane Rudhyar writes, Neptune is ‘at every level, the healing and sustaining power of the wholeness of the whole… whose mind establishes its formations in terms of the reconciliation of all opposites, leaving nothing outside its all-inclusive multi-dimensional logic- to [her] God answers as Grace.’ (from Triptych)” P47— Stephen Arroyo
Defining the “Peace Problem”
It’s also important to honor my need for things to be stable and steady to enjoy growth and progress towards success at a pace that feels manageable to me.
At our 2013 Winter Solstice Moon Circle meditation, my angel told me my purpose was “to be peaceful.” That was my new intention.
A long time ago I learned that when you ask for things, you usually get their opposite first. The soul needs to clear out the opposing force blocking what you desire. If you wish for joy, first comes the underlying grief and sadness for what has been lost. A wish for compassion brings up old rage for what never received its due justice and retribution. A longing for love unlocks decades of abandonment and hatred towards those who left us alone. These difficult feelings come from unresolved wounds that must first be dislodged and surfaced to be attended for healing. The remaining space is then open for the Universe to fill it with what we asked for.
However, long ago a client once told me that peace is just peace, and it comes as Spiritual gift of grace when you ask for it. For many years I believed that to be true.
Neptune represents our sense of obligation to society and to other people...[and] in this case shows a channel through which we have to pay off certain karmic debts to others... This tendency...must be related to practical facts; or else one leaves oneself open to being manipulated, used, and even exhausted by the demands of others... So often we find Neptunian people pouring out every ounce of their vital force in the futile attempt to satisfy their insatiable sense of obligation to others. P46— Stephen Arroyo
Defining Peace for Oneself
But, after many years of asking for Peace and only receiving more Upheaval, at long last it occurred to me that that idea is just total crap. An Ongoing Relentless Lack of Peace is rooted in a living situation -- such as a household or community -- with an underlying conflict over something that is just not working for any party. It also likely includes some major unconscious Karmic Soul Work changes taking place after living too many years in denial and trying to force personal solutions onto unwilling parties.
This karma can apply backwards over many generations. Either it’s working for some but not for all -- in this situation the All is just suppressing disagreement to Keep the Peace. In other situations, the All is finally speaking up -- attempting to get their truth known to the Some – but these attempts are not working or are being met with Denial, Distraction or a Direct Refusal to participate in changes that would create a better situation for All. Conflict or All-Out War ensues. No one can see any solution whatsoever, and the Battle rages on.
Now what interests me are the straight up Practical Elements of the Peace Creating Mission, not the Deep Spiritual Core of it. A Practical Approach to Establishing Peace, begins with creating a functional way of actually getting purposeful work done in the first place.
One can of course experience non-material forces and psychic sensitivity either constructively (which Dr. William Davidson called the ‘angelic benediction’ referring to a form of higher protection and guidance) or self destructively (possession, deception, or dissipation of one’s energies). Precisely how the subtle Neptunian energy and dimension of life will be integrated into our entire life structure depends in great part upon how honest, courageous, and practical we are. P47— Stephen Arroyo
Naming Unresolved Hidden Elements That Obstruct Peace
For most people, regular use of prayer, meditation, and writing is enough to deal that the garden-variety minor experience of conflict. Adding regular, healthy, Non-Violent Communication is enough to bring about Miracles of Enduring Peace.
However, for a long-term experience of being without peace, many elements and many different levels of issues are involved. For those of us who have lived overlong in the War Zone, it is useful and necessary to take the time to identify and examine all the fundamental elements that are just not working. Seeing and feeling these life elements that are lurking unresolved underneath the surface - like a shark on the hunt - are the real first steps toward creating lasting peace.
This one approach to establishing peace is the focus of this article. Once Unresolved Elements have been identified, we can more clearly see which of our needs are not being met and how the current mechanics of the situation are impeding those details that enable full functioning. Bit by bit, a new image forms of what needs to be changed and in what order and time this needs to occur.
As a result, a new plan forms to work towards creating a fully functional new life. One based on what is important now, having let go of the old dead gods we once served, but which now serve us no longer. Of course, maintaining these personal rituals like a daily Soul Shower help ease the mind and can be a Great Guidance in learning how to let go of what we no longer need, while keeping the Vision of our Ultimate Destination always in mind.
One might say that, unless one has come to terms witht he pressures, realities and obligations of Saturn, one is not sufficiently grounded enough to handle the intensity and disruption of any of the trans-Saturnian planets. In other words, one has to take the...inspiration and idealism of Neptune and make them real by bringing that...into our everyday life. Failure to work on this integration inwardly with great honesty and diligence will often bring about...a tremendous feeling of discontent.— Stephen Arroyo
The Big, Unresolved Elements in My Own Life
Me living with my parents; a need to be living on my own
Lack of sufficient income to be financially autonomous: underlying Underearning and Stunted Adult issues
Unresolved Health Conditions; Autoimmune Thyroiditis, Suppressed Immune System & the Viral Load, with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis blocked by relentless and unending difficulties of getting treatment from Network Provider Healthcare for these conditions
Living in the Alcoholic and Codependent Family System: Lack of environmental and emotional support or communal acceptance of my true nature and Who I Am
Major Excessive Compulsive, Ancestral Accumulation of Clutter through time, space, energy, and other peoples’ psychic stuff leads to debting
Compulsively taking on too much. Learn how to commit to less, take on less and give the rest of it “Back”
Compulsive behavior of taking on other people’s stuff without realizing it
Lack of Acceptance it’s time to reach out for Outside Help; or acquiring a different, more effective form of outside help. Doing it on my own has taken me as far as I can possibly go.
Lack of regimen/maintenance; exercise, diet, readings, writings, meetings, outreach
Inability to take breaks and have regular and genuinely restful vacation
Exertion/Exhaustion. Inability to slow down, be thorough & organized, or avoid Hurry and Indecision and learn how to stay in my pace and free from overpowering outside influences trying to force me into their false agendas
The key to forming a right relationship to the Neptunian force in our lives is to realize that no satisfaction or liberation will come from our constantly seeking the ideal for which we yearn in the outer world, and that it will only come when we accept responsibility (Saturn!) for making our lives ideal thru our own creativity and devotion. In other words, we have to turn within, we have to live the ideal in order to make it real. p45— Stephen Arroyo
Establishing a Detached Perspective
It helps to first change our perspective and see how these elements fit into one Big Picture. In my list, the first item is the main problem that must be solved for me to find my peace. The next six elements are all the things that have chronically interfered with accomplishing this goal.
Coincidentally (or Synchronistically?) they all involve wrestling blindly with gigantic forces far beyond my sphere of control. At the same time, they also combine into larger issues of my Ancestral Accumulation of Clutter. All the while, I somehow believed I could still enforce my specific outcomes at my specific time, which was the Real Problem. Once I recognized the scope of these unresolved elements, I accepted I couldn’t do it all in once, or all by myself, and sought outside help from therapists, 12 Step groups, and body work.
I also found a Deep All-Encompassing Spiritual Archetype to apply myself to. (Full disclosure: this process was really chaotic and overlapping for over a decade until certain transformative spiritual awakenings helped me to put it into clarity retroactively; and even more time was required to actively put it into writing!)
Finally, I realized the last 4 elements listed form the basis of actions that would help me achieve my essential goal, which ultimately can only happen bit by bit, within a functional weekly maintenance routine that grew out of my all-encompassing Spiritual Archetype.
One must be grounded in the Saturnian reality to fully appreciate and utilize the uplifting aspect of Neptune’s dimension of life…one must have integrated the Saturnian necessities into a healthy attitude toward all life if one is going to be able to open oneself to Neptune’s influence without dissolving onto chaos. How can we appreciate the value of boundlessness if we have not established a life pattern within definite boundaries? Acute discrimination is required to enable us to clarify. p47-8
Creating the Healthy Maintenance Regimen
Need for a Plan
With all these medical symptoms, fighting alone in War Zone in Constant Upheaval, everything is a Moving Target. It feels like dancing with the Tasmanian Devil all the time rather than being able to sit down long enough to see any task through to completion. Never mind being so deeply fatigued, I end up spending the rest of my time in bed.
I needed a plan.
A major part of my Peace Intention was to establish *once and for all* a Proper Health Regimen for Daily/Weekly/Monthly/Annual Practice and to execute it with Proper Awareness of My Limitations. The functionality of my plan depends on being able to commit to that regimen only what is actually manageable for me, and something I can actually bring to completion.
7 Roots of My Psychic Tree
The first part of the plan involved sitting down to write about each of what became the “7 Roots of My Psychic Tree.”
These are seven areas of my life: Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Physical, Financial, Creative, Recovery. Each required taking time to define what it meant to me: what was missing or interfering with getting my needs in that area of my life met; and my ongoing specific goals for growth and direction in that area.
Breaking Down Goals and Unresolved Issues into Projects
To begin, I typed general definitions of each of these Roots with my mission statement in different word documents I could email to my support people.
Next, I broke all goals and Unresolved Issues into Separate Projects that have smaller projects, goals and action items, and added them all into their respective Word Document outlines. Then, I generated a list of smaller categories for each of the larger goals. This included identifying the details of regular tasks and actions that fall into each category, and recognizing that many of these goals involve rest and self-care, social, leisure and play activity.
One Day a Week to Attend to Each Root
Finally, I seek to establish one day of the week to attend to each of these Roots; and each week I choose one of those actions for that Corresponding Day of Week. Now I can work on these goals a little each week with purpose, while balancing self-care into the equation. Three years later, I finally got this set
There is no use in always looking unrealistically for the perfect situation...with beautiful scenery all around...Naturally, an extremely sensitive person may need to live in an environment or have a type of work which at least does not deplete his or her psychic energy thru constant stress. But to insist that everything be perfect before we will live it to the full – before we will commit ourselves to it completely- is an attitude which insures we will never feel any inner peace.” p 45— Stephen Arroyo
A Practical Example of Choosing Peace
It is essential to recognize that even with all this carefully planned purposeful activity, unexpected things still happen while emotional and material stuff still accumulate. Writing out the renewed direction of my life,remembering my Assets & Purpose does not mean that all these are goals are to be accomplished in one year. This is a many year plan to be applied to my new Healthy Regimen.
Bigger breaks and vacations are vital to detach, reflect, regroup and refresh the spirit with renewed joy and energy to continue back home. Spelling out my enormous vision in all its detail and glory serves as a beacon: a compass direction to stay on course. Here is the place where returning to it daily thru the pressure valves of prayer, meditation, writing and healthy communication release tension and create more peace with those around you, while being reminded of why to do this in the first place.
Now Being Peaceful is possible because I’m not spending all my time insanely running around, abandoning my regimen of healthy self-care and vision work, to meet some other person’s insane deadline they imposed on me along with their personal agendas based on the false idea of who I am. It’s more like saying no to that 3-day [Tao Retreat] weekend so I could have more time to finish setting up the Feng Shui charms and cures in my studio loft. I felt pressured to go from a friend who lives at the temple where it was being held and I couldn’t afford it anyway; while this area had just received an intense energetic cleansing. The completion of its organized set up would enable me to receive private clients and earn money in a way that suits me, albeit in a very humble and shabby little room. It also detaches me from the Madness of the Larger Household, providing a Peaceful Quiet Place to do deep personal meditation or creative self-expression.
The sense of wellbeing came from simply applying a Mindful Recovery Approach to making that decision was immediate and satisfying. It grew out of showing up each day either as work or rest doing a small thing finish able in a short time.
Neptune…indicates...a field of experience which we tend either to idealize or to escape from, usually motivated by little understood promptings from the unconscious or superconscious mind. It is in that field of expereince that we look for an ideal. P47
It seems we often identify some area of worldly experience with our most profound spiritual longing; and the result is confusion... Acute discrimination (Virgo! – the opposite sign from Neptune’s sign Pisces) is required to enable us to clarify for ourselves what is really related to our spiritual growth and what is merely an area of life which we hoped (perhaps for lifetimes) would fulfill our spiritual longing and loneliness.” P47-8
Naturally, such ambition can be directed either into fruitless attempts to gain spiritual power or worldly power in spiritually oriented groups, or into disciplined and consistent forms of spiritual practice based on devotion to an ideal rather than one’s own glorification.” P46 [notes]
Arroyo, Stephen. Astrology, Karma and Transformation; The Inner Dimensions of the Birth Chart. 1st edition, Stephen Arroyo and CRCS Publications, 1978.