Abigail, a Courageous Woman
1 Samuel 25: 4-8
When David heard that Nabal was shearing his sheep, he sent ten of his young men to Carmel with this message for Nabal: “Peace and prosperity to you, your family, and everything you own! I am told that it is sheep-shearing time. While your shepherds stayed among us near Carmel, we never harmed them, and nothing was ever stolen from them. Ask your own men, and they will tell you this is true. So would you be kind to us, since we have come at a time of celebration? Please share any provisions you
A necessity arises
David by his own initiative decides to help to take care of the land of Nabal. David and his man get hungry and decide that they will let Nabal know of their need. Nabal is a prosperous man but had a bitter heart. Now put yourself in the situation of David, maybe you have helped someone in the past and that person or someone else has helped you as well. It is part of our human nature to assume that those that we help will in return help us. In the case of David and Nabal, it did not happen that way. David protected Nabal’s land, but Nabal refused to feed David and his men. Nabal like many people failed to be thankful and help others even when they can.
Times of necessity reveals who a person is in reality. It is during times of pressure that the best or worst of a person gets exposed. Nabal was a man with a bitter heart, a man that did not care about the pain of others. David also reacted very negatively to the situation; he decides that someone like Nabal should not live. As if killing Nabal was not enough, he also decided to go against his workers and his whole house.
Let’s not forget another person in this story; Nabal’s wife Abigail. Abigail is the complete opposite of her husband. She is kind and compassionate. When Abigail hears that David had decided to come against Nabal, she did something with hopes that she could save her house. Knowing her husband she decided to move on with a plan without telling him. The cause of the problem between David and Nabal was Nabal’s refusal to give David and his men food. Abigail grabs food and decides to meet David, hoping that this will change his mind. It is important to point out that Abigail wasted no time. Some of us see adversity coming towards us and we waste time. Abigail gives us a great example of what a virtuous woman is. Her husband did not deserve understanding, he did not deserve protection, but with all the adversity in her life, Abigail decides to protect him and his belongings.
1 Samuel 25:23-25
When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed low before him. She fell at his feet and said, “I accept all blame in this matter, my lord. Please listen to what I have to say. I know Nabal is a wicked and ill-tempered man; please don’t pay any attention to him. He is a fool, just as his name suggests. But I never even saw the young men you sent.
What would you have done?
Abigail decided to confront her adversity. Many of us run from our adversities, others cry over them, and some just give up. We should learn to be more like Abigail, confront adversity and seek to find a solution. Many people do the opposite of what Abigail did, instead of running towards David, many run from David. In other words, sometimes people run away from adversity to avoid it, many times not knowing that it is necessary to change our lives.
When Abigail saw David, she bowed before him. This shows that Abigail was willing to humiliate herself. I believe that a person with a humble heart can get very far. The act of humbleness is what many people are not willing to do. People often think of their own well-being, but often forget that the world does not revolve around them. Abigail’s humble heart not only saved her but her entire family and possessions.
It amazes me how David responds to Abigail. David was weak with women, however, Abigail was different. She prevented him from shedding blood. That's a characteristic he had not been able to admire in other women he had. These women encouraged him to sin, but Abigail did the opposite. As a result, David honors her. He decides to marry her and give her the protection she lacked from her deceased husband. This story is a reminder to women, that we must value who we are. It is a reminder that we should not lower our standards to please a man, that if any man asks for something against our godly values, we should walk away. It also teaches us that we should not encourage our men to sin, instead, we also need to be protectors in that sense.
Proverbs 31 Woman 10-31
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
The end of evil
Nabal was so irate when he heard what Abigail had done, that it caused him to die. This bitter man instead of being grateful for the sacrifice his wife made, was hurt that she violated his views. Have you met someone like Nabal? I have met a few people like Nabal. They are incapable of seen the good in any situation, and they easily point out the negative. It was truly painful for Abigail to share her life with someone who did not even value his own life. Evil has an end, which is the hope that we all have. We will not have to deal with evildoers forever. That is why we must take care of our hearts and keep our focus on the positive, to not allow evil to rob of our joy.
God shows his faithfulness
Nabal died and Abigail was left alone, but David could not forget the courage and humbleness he saw in Abigail. David decided that Abigail should become his wife. God’s grace was with Abigail and her life took a turn that she probably never expected. That may be your case, you have probably waited long to see the outcome of your adversity, but be certain that God has not forgotten about you. There is a plan for your life, although it may seem blurry as of now because of your adversity.