All About: Sweet, Grumpy, Taurus
As a Reminder...
I am not an expert on the zodiac. What I have written in this article is simply my experience with Taurus, which is quite a bit. Both my favorite aunt (who I’ve been close with throughout my entire life) and my husband (together for nine years) are Tauruses.
If only some of the characteristics apply to you, you may be on the “cusp” of two signs, meaning that your birthday is approximately between April 20th through 23rd or May 17th through May 20th, you may also share characteristics with Aries or Gemini, respectively.
Moon and Rising aspects can also determine characteristics. While those aspects are a bit too complicated for this article, they can help to narrow down more specifically how you are, and why you are the way you are by using your date and location of birth. For example, my Taurus husband has Sagittarius in his Moon, which makes him a bit more mobile and outgoing than a typical Taurus, and may also help to explain why he ended up with a Leo instead of fellow Earth signs like Virgo and Capricorn.
Also, something I’ve noticed is that you can also be affected by the signs of who you grew up with. For example, my parents are both Pisces, so I am a bit more emotional than most Leos are. This makes it also easier for me to get along with other Pisces, as I understand where they’re coming from. Keep that in mind.
Astrology is not a perfect science and it does not explain everything. It should never take the place of gut feelings and common sense, but it can help give you insight into the sweet, grumpy sign called Taurus.
“Life is hard. After all, it kills you”. -Katharine Hepburn
“I tell the audience every night, ‘I hope you didn’t pay more than face value on that ticket, because we ain’t worth more than that, and you ain’t gonna get any more than that”. -Billy Joel
They Don’t Mince Words.
You never have to guess where a Taurus’s head is at. Although they are naturally quiet, they have no problem telling you how they feel. My advice: don’t ask your Taurus for an opinion if you don’t want one.
The good news is that they are not manipulators like Gemini or Scorpio can be. It’s not in Tauruses’ nature and they view misleading anybody as a waste of time.
Also, don’t expect them for small talk. Just don’t. They’d rather just give you the information and move on—well, in the Taurus’s way of moving on: “Oh, freshly baked cookies!”
“I’m ballsy. I have guts. I’m not afraid of anyone. I think that’s what makes me feel powerful”.
”Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions. Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it”.
They are Intense and Sassy.
There are very few signs, except Scorpio, that are as intense as Taurus. Because of their intensity, tendency to be sassy, and coupled with the fact that they are so straight-forward, they need to be really careful how they come across. It can be a lot. I don’t know how many times I’ve told my husband that he’s being quite forceful when he maintains he was just making a comment.
Taureses are not doing this on purpose necessarily; that’s just how they are. People that know them will understand this tendency, and see through the truth of what your Taurus is saying, which is usually spot-on.
The intensity can, however accidentally turn people off. My advice to Tauruses: learn to balance your intensity while keeping the timing in mind.
Tauruses are also not usually lacking in the confidence department and seem to know who they are pretty quickly in life. Lucky for them. This means they can also be unknowingly pushy and forceful. Don‘t let them. Just be firm yet gentle. They will get to respect that.
One last thing about their intensity, and this is a helpful hint: do not test or question their patience. They have very little warning before they bite. If you see they’re getting mad, give them space or be quiet, and slowly see what they need. They need a solution, to cool down, or both. Hint: when Tauruses go to loud sarcasm when they’re mad, it’s not long.
“I was kind of shy as a kid...I was a wallflower, or nerd, if you will”.
“It takes years for me to trust; I know that about myself. A lot of it is because I am so private, and so reluctant to make myself vulnerable”.
They are Naturally Quiet.
You might say; after reading all these characteristics, how in the world are Tauruses naturally quiet? I’m really not sure.
Let me be clear: they will talk, and especially when they want to express their opinion, but otherwise, they would rather have someone else talk. While Gemini, Sagittarius, and Pisces may verbalize their every thought, Taurus has never had that tendency. They’ll speak when they have to.
And just because they’re quiet in the room does not be that why’re not listening. They like to be in the middle of everything. They like to observe. They are fairly introspective. Just don’t get offended if they don’t speak much. They simply don’t care to.
“I’m a very stubborn person...I’m sure it has hindered me at times as well, but not too many times. I know that if I set my mind to do something, even if people are saying I can’t do it, I will achieve it”.
”Well, I‘m very stubborn. I think I have common sense; I‘m probably at times a bit tunnel-visioned, but I’m strong”.
They are Very Stubborn.
Tauruses challenge their fellow Fixed signs Leo and Scorpio for the title of “Most Stubborn Sign”. As we’ve discussed, they're opinionated and introspective. Once they’ve made their mind up, it’s hard to change it. Strike that; it’s darn near impossible.
My advice: Wait until their decision plays out and they can see the result, for better or worse. After the fact is when their mind gets a bit clearer and they will learn from their decision. If it’s something important with long-term effects, use hard facts and examples to make a solid case. Like other Earth signs, they tend to make decisions based on facts, instead of a mixture of gut feelings and facts like some of us do. A lot of times, there were facts they weren‘t aware of and they are willing to listen.
But, if they get mad, it’s a whole different story. Because Tauruses are very stubborn, arguments can be nightmarish. Here, they tend to let their emotions rule and logical reasoning can go out the window. They may say things they regret with their naturally sharp tongue. They declare war.
As the partner, keep calm and rational as much as possible. It’s hard, but remember that they will hopefully reflect on the argument when they cool down.
After the argument, give them space. Only when they are back to sweet Bulls can you assume logic. Discuss what happened and how it made you feel. Things should go a lot better now. The longer you are together, the better and easier the arguments should get. Taurus wants peace just as much as the next sign—they just can’t help their tempers.
My advice to Tauruses: Your stubbornness can balance out, but know that what you think may not be the best solution. Trust your partner’s opinion and expertise enough to hear them out, and figure out if you’re stuck on your idea because you feel it’s the right thing to do, or because you don’t want to change. Be flexible so you don’t have to keep learning lessons the hard way.
“I‘m not prejudiced in any way that I can think of. That’s just not the guy I am”.
”I’m opinionated, but I’m not a vindictive person and I never say anything unprovoked, either”.
They Have a Heart of Gold.
Who else would drop what they’re doing to take care of their young niece without question? This was my Aunt Teresa when my Mom was getting cancer treatment. It’s no secret that my aunt only tolerates kids, but yet she treated me like I was her own. Around her then, and still now, I feel loved; at times, overwhelmingly so. I learned very quickly, however, not to ask if I could have Oreos for breakfast more than once.
Once you have made it through Taurus‘s very extensive trust system, there’s nothing they won’t do for you. Family, friend, or romantically, your Taurus will stay devoted to you as much as you are devoted to them. Don’t ever take advantage as you will not get it back.
As you can probably guess, Tauruses are much more comfortable with long-term relationships than casual dating, unlike Libra or Sagittarius. Unfortunately, Tauruses want to be loved so much that they may not be the best judge of characters. Because of that, your Taurus needs to surround themselves with people that love them for who they are and are good at reading people.
“Jeans are my uniform. I have about 15 pairs”.
”I don’t know what to do with myself between films. I end up doing unhealthy things like shopping or drinking“.
”If you retain nothing else, always remember the most important rule of beauty, which is: who cares?”
”Right now, I‘m very healthy. I have no vices left. Except sugary breakfast cereal. And absinthe, of course”.
They Value Comfort and Love Luxury.
Here’s where Tauruses seem strange. For being a pretty no-frills, straight-forward people, they love their luxury. They need to be comfortable all the time. We’ve discussed that they will let you know if they aren’t.
Common complaints like hunger, heat, and sleep can make a Taurus extra grumpy and the people around them. For this, I’m going to offer some blunt advice to Tauruses, so listen up: Let your partner know way in advance when you’re needing any of these things. Nobody wants to deal with you when you’re grouchy, so don’t punish your partner. For example, my husband and I use a five-level “hunger numbering system”. He tells me if he’s at a two or higher so we can plan accordingly. Figure out a system that works for you.
Back to luxury, Tauruses want the softest pillows, best beds, linen clothes, and richest food. They are very indulgent. If you can afford to indulge, do it. Tauruses tend to have slight obsessions with their certain objects. For example, my husband fixates on nice watches and love linen pants, while my aunt fixates on high-end purses. (Shrugs) I don’t get it. Partners should always keep an eye on their Taurus’s spending, as it can get out of hand quickly.
Their indulgent tendencies also apply to food. Tauruses can lean towards fatty, rich foods and eat so much to the point of sick stomachs. They are notorious emotional eaters. Partners can help their bulls by jointly creating meals that are delicious and healthy, which is entirely possible. And do not wait to eat until your Taurus is hungry; they will graze.
If emotional eating continues, they should probably seek a counselor to work through any underlying concerns. Counselors can also introduce better coping mechanisms like running or reading.
Taurus feels most understood by their fellow Earth signs: Capricorn and Virgo. They also get along well with their fellow Fixed signs: Leo, Aquarius, and Scorpio.
Their best love matches are Earth and Water signs: Capricorn, Virgo, Pisces, Cancer, and Scorpio. While not very common, any of their Fixed signs can be compatible if the chemistry is there. Of course, use this as a general gauge and not as gospel as it depends from person to person. But, it can be done—look at us! (Taurus with Sagittarius Moon and Leo with Cancer Moon)
Tauruses are some of the best people on Earth. They have big hearts, intense, and absolute sweethearts when you get and keep their trust. Take care of them, and they will take care of you ten-fold. Find your nearest Taurus and give them a hug. They deserve it.
© 2018 Lauren Sutton