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Allowing and letting go

Updated on February 15, 2012
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Today I felt as though I’m always planning ahead, always worrying about the next day, the next week, month or year. My head is always buzzing wondering about my next move. I sat down at my desk at work today and thought; when have I just let go? When was there a time when I just stopped and just allowed? I honestly can’t recall when I last did that. I also asked myself, what would be the worst thing that could happen if I didn’t think about tomorrow, or next week? What would happen then? Would tomorrow be any different? Will anything I do change what tomorrow will bring? Tomorrow isn’t even guaranteed to me and yet I’m fussing over so many things. But today I decided, even if it’s just for a few minutes I’m just going to let go and allow. I stopped thinking about things I needed to do tomorrow and just wrote them down instead and then put them away. I’ll deal with them tomorrow. This freed up so much energy. You don’t realise how much mental energy you use just by constantly thinking about the future. I realised that I was missing the present moments because I was always in tomorrow even though it hadn’t even happened yet. So just for today, I decided to let it all go and allow.

Being present

To be present is to be in the moment right now. Have you spoken to someone or they’ve spoken to you and you haven’t even heard a word they’ve said, because your mind was somewhere else. Being present is being right there in that moment. When you are present in the moment the mind stops making noise, it lets go of tomorrow and it focuses on the here and now.

How can you become present?

The first thing I did was write down the things that were in my mind. I got them out on paper and that was where they would stay until tomorrow. The next thing I did was to focus on everything I did.

Take time to really taste your food. Sit down without any distraction of the television, and eat. Savour each flavour, chew slowly and really take your time. Just focus on eating. When you do this there will be nothing else in your mind. In the beginning your mind will wonder, but gently bring yourself back to your food and be conscious. You can do it with everything you do, whether it’s typing, ironing, reading. When you do these activities, be in that moment. This also helps to silence your mind from all the unnecessary noise.

Allowing

Allowing is just letting things be. If you are worried about something, worrying won’t change or solve it. It only consumes the very energy you will need to solve the problem. When you allow, you’re accepting that things are the way they are. In turn this frees up your mind to come up with a solution. I found that I would wear myself down worrying and in the end come up with no solution at all. I remember waiting for results for something. I worried myself sick about it but then a friend said something important to me, she said – you will spend all this energy worrying and the results might turn out fine and you’ll be upset with yourself for putting yourself through it. If on the other had the results are not what you expect then you will deal with it then. That was something I needed to hear because the truth was until I got the results there wasn’t a thing I could do. I had to allow what was and let it go. I did this and it turned out that there was nothing to worry.

Sometimes we put ourselves through unnecessary stress that isn’t good for our bodies. The energy used to worry or for things that are not in the present moment can be conserved for the future when it is really needed.

What you can do to let go and allow

Yoga and meditation

These can go hand in hand. They bring you back to the moment. It teaches how to calm the mind and how to let go of the noise in the mind. It restores balance and allows you to be you in the moment in every sense of the word. When you are truly present you will find out that the things you made a big deal out of aren’t that big of a deal after all.

‘The secret of health for both mind and body is not to turn to morn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.’

The Buddha

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    • teacherjoe52 profile image

      teacherjoe52 5 years ago

      I take it to Jesus.

      He is the best therapy.

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      lin8t 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thanks teacherjoe52 for your comment. :-)

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      Helen Murphy Howell 5 years ago from Fife, Scotland

      Another excellent hub with great advice. This is something I certainly need to practice more of - my head is often in a mess!

      Very interesting and useful + voted up and bookmarked.

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      lin8t 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thanks for commenting Seeker7, it's something I consiously practice daily. Once I become aware I can let go.

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      stessily 5 years ago

      lin8t, Initially, it seems like a paradox not to worry about worrisome people/situations. Nevertheless, releasing the worried state opens up every layer of our being to a relaxed state, which is wise and intuitive state. As you point out, being present in the present is the antidote to needless worry.

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      lin8t 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Thanks for your comment stessily, you're right about being present.It is the best place to be as you can only be in that moment. Whatever we need to do in that moment is what matters so we'll know what to do when it's time to do what we need to do in that moment. Be blessed!

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