The Benefit of Confessing
The problem with confessing is that you’re basically admitting to wrongdoing. Pride and intellect is on the line, and we hate anything that challenges us from looking “good.” But to be a follower of Christ, there is only one standard to measure against: God’s goodness. When you see the goodness of God, your shortcomings become apparent. The guilt you feel, prevents you from seeking God’s help or allowing Him close to you. Confessing your sins is a step toward asking Him for forgiveness and asking for help not to do it again.
You Must Humble Yourself
When you sin against someone, you’re also sinning against God, the creator of that person. You think your sin can’t hurt anyone, but your sin is hurting God. You need to confess any sins against another person, and if possible, heal that relationship. You need to (1) confess any sins against God, (2) accept His forgiveness, and (3) ask Him for help to sustain your relationship with Him.
Your confession isn’t to appease and mollify a righteous God, but in order to grow into Christ’s character. You know what is right and you struggle in your heart to do His will, but He will never force you to do it. When you grudgingly confess to God, who knows your heart (…People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7), do you think you’re fooling Him?
Confessing your sins isn’t just to acknowledge your mistakes; it’s to intellectually ponder your reasons why and how. When you have repented, you need to delve into why you’ve committed that sin. You can’t blame others for your mistakes; you can’t justify your sins because “everyone else does it.” It was your choice.
If you know the difference between right and wrong and you are unwilling to take responsibility and confess, then you don’t have true repentance and your confession and sorrow will be a momentary lapse. You refuse to see the true wrongness of your sin, and perhaps will do it again. Be honest about whether you truly desire to be a Christian. See Jesus dying on the cross for the world's sins—your sins. "He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world." 1 John 2: 2 When you confess, confess with a sincere heart: take responsibility and receive God’s righteousness.
Accept His Forgiveness
When you’ve realized your wrongdoing, and are ready to confess, Satan will tell you your sins are unforgivable. Maybe the person, who you’ve wronged, won’t forgive you. If that’s the case, then leave it at the feet of Jesus. Pray for wisdom, so you can understand how to heal that relationship.
But God is not like everyone else. He promises to forgive you. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9 There are numerous examples of people in the Bible who sinned and were forgiven. Read about David, Elijah and Peter. Prophets made mistakes, but were forgiven and still used by God for His purposes. God did not ignore non-believers, Jesus died for the entire world. "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16 Anyone who seeks after God will find Him, loving and forgiving: "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." Jeremiah 29:13
To doubt His forgiving promise, is to turn your back on God. Your lack of faith in God’s words will never let you live in peace. Your guilt will create a rift so you won’t seek His help. Nothing can keep you from the love of God. Don’t let your sins be the cause of a separation that “…neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38, 39
Ask God to Heal You
A confession isn’t just a list of wrongdoings, but a plead for help in becoming more like Christ. It’s not for appeasement, so that God will stop the consequence of your particular sin, or a sense of momentary guilt so you can feel penitent (but perhaps do it again).
Admit your faults and shortcomings—only after you acknowledge your wrongs, can you be honest and plead for help from God. Look to Jesus. Use Him as a guide to measure your standards, and be with Him in your Christian walk. Aren’t you tired of pretending? Repent of your sins, confess them and ask God to help you to overcome your sins. You need God to be part of your Christian walk; that’s why you confess.
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