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Committed Christians Who Don't Attend Church

Updated on March 22, 2021
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Former university professor of marketing and communications, Sallie is an independent publisher and marketing communications consultant.

A Valid Twenty-First Century Christian Option?

Their commitment to their faith is real. But, when it comes to attending church, they can best be described as “virtual" Christians. Whether it's just temporary, or is something they intend to do for the long-term, for these Believers there is a need to find a way to balance their work-a-day real world reality with the needs of their spiritual lives. And that means keeping Sunday holy, but going to Church (or worshiping God) in virtual space, not in any real space located inside a church building.

These days there are a lot of people who live spiritual lives that includes worshiping God and Christ, but not necessarily attending a church every Sunday. At least, not in the traditional sense of attending church. And while they might be completely in favor of, or even lovers and appreciators of the “idea” of going to church, at least for the time being they go to church in a way that doesn't require them to leave home. Instead, they watch church-TV and/or visit Christianity-related Internet sites.

Virtual Christians include a lot of younger people (18-35), but also a significant number of middle-aged and older people. While most of them are not the “holy-rollers” or staunchly regimented/religious devotees of our faith, their commitment to their faith is strong. They are not necessarily "different" when it comes to being a Christian, but virtual Christians are doing church differently. There is question that they still believe wholeheartedly in God and the Holy Trinity. They even believe in the idea that church is an important and necessary part of a fulfilling, spiritual life, and have made a conscious decision to live their lives based on Christian values. Some were brought up by Christian parents who took them to church regularly, while others are people who found the path to Christianity on their own. They are Americans (and people of all nationalities) who have a “yearning” to enjoy a stronger, more fulfilling spiritual life, but for their own reasons, they've chosen not to go to church. For their own reasons, these Christians prefer the virtual world. They don't feel they have to be sitting inside a building that is called a church when it comes to the furthering of their Christian knowledge, or to take part in worship services as an expression of, and as a connection to, their faith. For one or more reasons, they have chosen to skip the regimented practice of going to a physical location for church services.

Are They Saints? Sinners? Who Are These Christians?

Virtual Christians may not view themselves as halo-donning, bible-toting saints, but they do consider themselves to be God-fearing worshipers of Almighty. In other word, they see themselves as faithful to their faith in all the ways that matter.

While they know they are indeed part of the secular world, they enjoy both Christian life and elements of secular life as well. For example, a virtual Christian might collect several forms of music, including gospel, and might purchase or listen to all types of CDs, secular and gospel. People I know who fit into this group can relate, personally, to their favorite actors, actresses, and musical artists who demonstrate or express a spiritual connection, but they don't limit themselves only to these. They acknowledge that there is much to be learned from a lot of different people, with different beliefs, even though they uphold Christian Holy Scripture as the ultimate source of wisdom and understanding. Virtual Christians work extra hard at balancing their spiritual lives and interests within their overall lives and interests. They go to non-Christian movies, films, and plays—regularly—but are also often first in line for gospel plays and musical performances. Led by the principles of God, they know that they can enjoy social aspects of living in the secular world without compromising their Christian values or beliefs, and without being led to conform by any worldly agenda.

The virtual Christians I know are committed to living lives based on Christian principles, even though they know, as do all Christians, that they are sinners. They believe their relationship with God, first and foremost, is personal. Therefore, they feel no guilt or condemnation for choosing to attend worship service virtually, and no guilt for not tithing every Sunday. Many of them give or demonstrate charity to others, in other ways. They might provide regular financial assistance to a family member or someone else in need, or they may provide other forms of help. They might support a favorite charity, work as a volunteer for a favorite non-profit organization, or provide assistance to the sick by working as a volunteer at a nearby hospital. In other words, they are not trying to “shirk” their duties and responsibilities as a Christian, but have simply chosen to give to God in ways that best fit how they have chosen to live their lives while worshipping God.

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For many among this group, church-TV offers opportunities to hear the gospel preached or to learn biblical lessons from people whose church they might never be able to visit in real life. Some may choose to listen to/watch speakers including T.D. Jakes, Joyce Meyer, Joel Osteen, Creflo Dollar, or others who are among the Christian heavyweights offering television ministry. Or, they might choose, instead, to listen to one or more local preachers or gospel teachers with either television or online shows, with none of the commute or outlay of cash that could be involved in actually attending a worship service. The Internet, for this group, provides an excellent array of platforms and websites for them to stay connected to the spiritual/gospel world they love whenever they want, without ever having to leave home. It is there for them, twenty-four-seven-three-sixty-five, providing instruction, connection, and even opportunities to join groups to participate, periodically, in live events.

Christ is on the Internet too

The Internet gives the virtual Christian a way to be fully connected to spiritual living because it provides 24-hour connection to biblical inspiration, gospel leaders, musicians, singers, and music that can be finely tuned to a variety of musical tastes. Internet offerings can help Believers find answers to questions they might have about what it means to live a truly fulfilling spiritual life. How? By offering a variety of places people can visit to learn from Christian writers or teachers, or become involved in fellowship with other Christians. Because of the scope of offerings, a persona can easily zero in on views, voices, issues, questions, scripture, trends, and any one of a million topics, to connect with other people who share their concerns, needs and interests. It's all just one Google-search away.

To the virtual Christian, the Internet provides a wonderful smorgasbord of information that can help them stay focused in their pursuit of a stronger, more “connected” spiritual lifestyle. Remember, virtual Christians are people who have a yearning to be closer to their spiritual self, and the Internet, as well as church TV—for them, can help to satisfy that yearning. With its "search" capabilities, the Internet provides immediate connections that can be customized for those seeking deeper understanding of their own unique perspective on Christianity and spirituality. For example, just one search on Youtube can offer up hours of previously broadcast sermons, church-leader appearances, and/or bible study/discussions.

The Internet—Expanded Real Estate For Christians?

The Internet has definitely expanded the idea—and the real estate—of what it means to go to church. Being a committed Christian, these days, means it is possible to study, to learn more, and to examine faith in new ways. For better or for worse, the virtual Christian has arrived on the scene, and I believe they are here to stay. In addition, committed virtual Christians are often joined in their mode of attending church by committed churchgoers, for one reason or another.

I believe it would benefit the church to reach out to this group in special ways, virtually. I’m not talking about just having a website anyone can visit; I’m talking about possibly a special ministry devoted to the virtual Christian, or to those who worship from home by tuning in to one or another church channel. I believe they would find that many of these people would love to have a non-judgmental relationship with a local church, and many might even be willing to tithe and/or to support church ministries in other ways.

© 2012 Sallie B Middlebrook PhD


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    • drmiddlebrook profile imageAUTHOR

      Sallie B Middlebrook PhD 

      2 months ago from Texas, USA

      Thank you Cheryl E Preston, for your visit and your comments. You're right, there are Christians and people of other faiths who worship in private, without using Internet services. But, since they don't leave a trail for anyone to follow, it is hard to estimate their numbers. Along these lines, however, I truly believe the most important relationship between anyone and her/his "God" is a personal, one-to-one, private relationship.

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      Cheryl E Preston 

      2 months ago from Roanoke

      Many Christians worship in private and do not even use the Internet services.

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      7 years ago from Texas

      Sure, I have to tell you that I sent it to my Kindle to read tomorrow, though! :D That's why my comments are a little vague! :D

    • drmiddlebrook profile imageAUTHOR

      Sallie B Middlebrook PhD 

      7 years ago from Texas, USA

      Thank you justmesuzanne, for visiting and for the votes up, awesome, and interesting. It's always a pleasure when you learn someone likes your presentation, as well as the article. That means a lot to me, so I want you to know I appreciate your comments.

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      7 years ago from Texas

      Great information very nicely presented! Voted up, awesome and interesting! :)

    • drmiddlebrook profile imageAUTHOR

      Sallie B Middlebrook PhD 

      7 years ago from Texas, USA

      I agree with you, vilhemina. I think many single women find themselves in the same situation you described. While I believe it's important to help others, I also believe you have to make sure you're helping people who truly need your help, instead of simply allowing people who have other means of help and support to see you as a "convenience" to be used as they see fit.

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      7 years ago

      Well, I stared being a virtual Christian too, even though I know it is not good for a long-term. The reasom for my decision was also criticism in the church, that I did not help this or that sister /even though they had husband whereas I did not and brothers did not help me in my flat too/,

      The body of Christ is supposed to help one another and not only one person helping others, right?

    • drmiddlebrook profile imageAUTHOR

      Sallie B Middlebrook PhD 

      9 years ago from Texas, USA

      Thank you teacherjoe52 for your comments. I am "morphing" into a Virtual Christian too, but for me it may be temporary, until I locate the "right" church home for me. The big churches are too big, and the small ones, well just haven't found the right one.

      You're right about judgment being strong among many churchgoers, especially when it comes to just about anything related to size, clothes, and other things that should not be important to Christians. I guess that speaks to the "heart of man," something Jesus knew well. That's why he corrected Peter in the garden that night, when Peter said he would never deny Him.

      May all of us Christians learn to practice what is preached by Christianity.

    • drmiddlebrook profile imageAUTHOR

      Sallie B Middlebrook PhD 

      9 years ago from Texas, USA

      I agree, Span Star. I think the church, in many ways, is responsible for the exodus of many who once sat in the pews, and for the decision not to ever go by others. Too bad, because I love the Christian church and believe it has an important role to play in society. "Mega" churches may not be feeling the effects of the "Virtual Christian" yet, but I know smaller churches are feeling it.

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      9 years ago

      Personally I believe the church has driven people away from the church. The biblical teaching could be good and even the social interactions can be good but eventually the operation or the process of the church becomes business oriented. Money needs to be collected for the maintenance of the building, the pastor's birthday, the pastors anniversary, outside speakers need to be paid, additional donations for members in the hospital, money needs to be paid out for church performances and the list goes on.

      Soon the focus of the church depends on the number of people we can drive into the church because it's so important that we get those numbers while we completely forget the parable of the lost sheep-(Luke 15:1-7) all of heaven rejoice over ONE sinner who has repented versus the 99 righteous who needs to repent.

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      9 years ago

      I am one of these people.

      The one thing that stands out is the non-judgemental part. That is why I stopped going to church. Every time I went someone would critize me for the littlest thing while they themselves were guilty of much worse For example I am fat while they deal drugs. This happened every Sunday. It seems to be pandemci and timeless. I listen to sermons from Spergeon and Tozer. It exisited back them too.

      I like to listen to Christian music onlne as well as sermons every day. Yes Christ and I walk very closely together.

      God bless you.


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