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Being Wrong and Saying Sorry

Updated on January 24, 2018

I was wrong.

"I was wrong."

Have you ever had to say those three words? Have you ever had to eat crow? Have you ever had to swallow a Pride Pill. "I was wrong." is [probably] one of the hardest three-word sentence any of us will ever have to speak.

I am quick to point out faults in Mark. "You're eating your food too loudly." "You got stuff in your beard" "You folded those towels wrong." "You started the fight, not me, and I will not say 'I'm sorry' first!" "Go ahead and walk away, see if I talk to you anymore." "Why are you not on the same page as me?" And, as I call Mark's flaws to the forefront, I keep my own hidden, without even wondering where I went wrong, or without a single thought to what I need to own on my own.

Ya'aqov (James) 4:6--"But He gives greater favor. Because of this He says, 'Elohim resists the proud, but gives favor to the humble.'"

Mishle (Proverbs) 3:33--"The curse of YeHoVaH is on the house of the wrong, but He blesses the home of the righteous."

The Blame Game

In every conflict that I put myself in- yes, that I put myself in -with Mark, I have two choices: 1.) Take the Path of Pride. Continue blaming Mark for everything he does wrong that makes everything else wrong. The problem is that this is a reaction, not a response, and it increases the pride in my heart while decreasing the blessings of YeHoVaH. 2.) Take the Path of the Humble Way. Ask Mark for forgiveness in turning something simple into such a complex conflict. This is a response, not a reaction, that leads to being humble and saying, "I was wrong.", and thus the pride in my heart is decreased while the blessings of YeHoVaH are increased.

In other words, I have to quit playing The Blame Game. You know this game, it started in the Gan Eden (the Garden of Eden) with ha-ish (the man, better known as Adom (Adam)), ha-isha (the woman, better known as Havah (Eve)), and ha-nahash (the serpent) indwelled by ha-satan.

Bereshit (Genesis) 3:9-13--"And YeHoVaH Elohim called unto Adom and said to him, 'Where are you?' And he said, 'I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid myself.' And He said, 'Who made you know that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?' And the man said, 'The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree and I ate.' And YeHoVaH Elohim said to the woman, 'What is this you have done?' And the woman said, 'The nahash deceived me, and I ate.'"

YeHoVaH goes directly to the man, the man tries to blame YeHoVaH, and, when that doesn't work, the man blames the woman, YeHoVaH goes to the woman, the woman blames the nahash, the nahash stands silent because he thinks he's pulled the wool over YeHoVaH's eyes. No one takes any blame for his or her part in all this mess, rather blaming each other for the mess.

I'm sorry.

I cannot, I do not have the right to assign blame for anything that I have done on another person. I started the conflict, and I have to accept responsibility, regardless if I think "that's not fair" or "but Mark did ...".

There is a gift hidden in the tough stuff of conflict. There is the gift of grace and honor ... but only if I stop blaming Mark and start examining myself and my motives.

Supporting Scripture

Tehillim (Psalms) 25:9--"[Yod] He guides the meek ones in right-ruling, and he teaches the meek ones His way."

Mishle (Proverbs) 11:2--"Pride comes, then comes shame; but with the humble is wisdom."

Mishle (Proverbs) 29:23--"The pride of man brings him low, but the humble in spirit obtains esteem."

Mattityahu (Matthew) 23:12--"And whoever exalts himself shall be humbled, and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted."

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      This reminded me that saying I am sorry feels, in my heart, better than someone saying it to me. Apology is a strange word about this premise.

      Nice piece, thank you

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      Shirley Johnson 2 months ago from Sallisaw, OK

      Achot (brother), I like what you wrote, "In love there is no blame, only resolution. In love there is no blame, only solutions." Thank you for adding this in your comments. Resolution and solution. Reaction versus response. And, again, achot, thank you for your encouraging words. Enjoy your breakfast with your wife. Much love and many blessings!

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      Tim Truzy 2 months ago from U.S.A.

      I often think about the famous Love Chapter from Paul when I catch myself doing the "blame game" with my spouse. Love is forgiving, Love is patience etc. Love is kind as Paul writes in Chronicles.

      When I read this article, I always ask concerning Adam and Eve: "Where was Adam that he did not do as he was directed by God?"

      Our God is the Author of Justice. He would not be fooled.

      , I believe Adam was nearby, but ready to take part in the party but blame Jill for the need for a clean up.

      That's why we all fell.

      In love there is no blame, only resolution.

      In love there is no blame, only solutions.

      That's why Christ came. To help us address our hidden guilt and sin. Now, because of His love, we are made blameless in our souls and we can be with Him again.

      Wonderful article, my sister.

      For no reason whatsoever, except I was moved by your article, I'm going to buy my wife breakfast in the morning.

      Thank you.

      Sincerely,

      Tim

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