Can I Ask for a Free Tarot Reading?
Is it polite to ask for a free tarot reading? Sure, if the person doing the readings is offering them. However, requesting a freebie when no such offer has been made is plain rude. Perhaps you think that is a little harsh or judgmental. I’m going to explain why asking someone to work for free is not only annoying to them but demeaning to you.
Please note: I am mostly writing about people who ask for readings in the questions and comments sections of my articles.
How Tarot Readings Work
First of all, you must understand how online readings work. The reader and their client create a connection. That might be via emails, messaging, a comment box on a web page or whatever. If there’s no connection, it means that the reading is ice-cold. In other words, without a little golden thread between reader and seeker, the reader may as well be tossing their cards into the breeze.
Once the connection has been established, the reader will ask the client for their question. And maybe a little bit about the situation that causes the question to be asked in the first place, though that is not always necessary. The reader has now got a framework on which to hang the reading. He or she gets to work. Every reader has a different way of tuning in, but in essence when we turn those cards it’s almost like taking a photo of the energy surrounding that client. In that moment the reading is unique. The second the reader see those images, his or her intuition is kicking into action.
All this means that each reading is unique and sort of fleeting. If the same question was asked the following day, it would be a different result altogether. Yet, having said that, most readings can take a while for their interpretations and the unfolding of influences and events to become actuality.
We Are Experts
Not all, but most professional readers spend years and years honing their skills. Doing hundreds and thousands of readings. Many paid for and probably lots of free ones too. They study their craft. They read books. They write out interpretations. They meet client after client, all with unique situations. They are required to counsel, to give advice, to reassure, to encourage, to keep secrets, and to comfort.
Most readers work face-to-face. Others stay relatively anonymous online. However they work, you can guarantee that they don’t just sit down and rattle off a load of psychic spiel. Our knowledge is birthed from wisdom, yes, but also a ton of hard work.
My in-depth readings can take me three hours to complete. I do my best to give as much information as I can. I take all my own scans and photos to illustrate my readings, and I offer a free feedback and response service.
Tarot Readers Are People with Bills Too
Good tarot readers are professionals. They value their time as much as anyone else. Would you ask your hairdresser for a freebie? Should a maintenance engineer come and fix your washer for free just because you asked? Perhaps you could ask your bank manager for an interest-free loan?
Tarot readers have expenses just like you do. We have homes that need maintaining. Families who need feeding. Cars that need gas. Perhaps you have a volunteer day once a week when you go to work and don’t get paid? No? Oh.
When Free Reading Requests Are a Good Thing
If someone (like me) has a website where free readings are offered, then that’s absolutely fine. I love hearing from people, and most are generally appreciative of what I do. Often I build up a rapport with them and they become long-term paying clients. Very often I’ll carry out free readings for them to say thank you for their support. It’s a two-way conduit.
There are also brilliant websites where student readers can gain experience by giving free readings and getting feedback. I did this when I was starting out: The American Tarot Association has two free reading networks; one for single card readings and one for the more experienced, giving away three-card readings. TABI (Tarot Association of the British Isles) also offers freebies via a network of volunteers. This is an excellent way for any new reader to learn on the job.
I Won’t Be Your Tame Tarot Reader
Over the years, it’s happened a few times where people have asked for free readings and I’ve done them. Then as regular as clockwork they’ll come back month after month and ask for more. Eventually, and these days it’s sooner, rather than later, I just ignore them. Then there are those who ask for a reading, which I do. I don’t hear another word until they come and ask for another. There was no thank you, no acknowledgment, nothing. Until they want another freebie. I just delete those now.
So Why Shouldn’t I Ask You For a Free Reading?
Because it’s begging. What makes it OK for you to ask a complete stranger to sit down with their cards and carry out a free reading just because you feel like it? I bet you wouldn’t do it in real life. Do you believe that we are eager for any opportunity to practice on anyone who asks? Do you want to be perceived as a freeloader? A beggar? I assure you, that’s exactly what I think when I receive all these requests. Every time I write and publish a tarot article, the askers start asking. Even though I clearly state that free readings won’t be given; they keep on asking.
- How do I know if my feeling for my crush is love?
- Will I pass my exam?
- Does he love me?
- Will I be pregnant this time?
- Is (real name removed) the soulmate for (real name removed)?
And so on...
I Won’t Interpret Your Cards Either
One of the weirdest things is that people buy themselves a tarot deck, open it, shuffle, turn some cards, and then ask a professional to interpret them. I can understand completely if someone gets a bit stuck or confused, but this is not like that. I had one woman request that I interpret her 6-card reading and then when I gently and politely refused, pointing out that I get paid for my time, she told me that I was money-grabbing and evil because she was ‘taught by her elders that no one should try to make money out of the sacred cards’. The funniest thing was that her reading was asking if she was going to win an Australian lottery. I was tempted to ask her if she would approach my web hosting company and request them to host my tarot site for free because they shouldn’t be making money from the cards.
When people ask me to interpret their cards, I ask them what their interpretation is first. Because, surely, they must have one seeing as they asked a question and turned their own cards. In almost every case, I never hear from them again.
Want a Free Reading? Don’t Ask Me
So don’t ask for free readings unless you have been invited to do so. Don’t expect us to work for nothing, because we know you expect to get paid for the work you do. There are a multitude of legitimate free reading services out there. Go use them.
© 2018 Bev G