Can people steal your energy?
When I suddenly feel tired is my energy depleted?
I've chosen to look at this subject after many years of being in relationships, which I now understand, were not equal. I discovered that when someone criticises me, I become defensive and will argue back. However, when I do that, all that happens is, I become exhausted. I discovered also that as soon as I engage with someone in a debate or argument, the same thing happens - I lose my energy. (I let them steal it).
Often I have done this to others. I argue and although I don't know I'm doing it, I can feel energised because (I've won)......This has led to berating myself because when it was highlighted, I could then see this exchange of energy taking place. (I also had a need to be right then). Having the need to be right, means, we argue or debate. We only do this in the first place because we don't have any energy at that point.
If someone was chasing me for information, I could also be Aloof. This meant they had to keep chasing me, and then I would feel energised.
Before I was aware that I was doing anything, I could question and interrogate the kids and then use it against them at another time.
The intimidator does the same thing except they threaten or use words that sound threatening.
Once you understand about this exchange of energy that everyone does, it allows you to see what you personally do yourself (scary).
So really we all are one of the following or all four (ouch) at some point in our lives
A Poor me
Someone who tells you big stories about terrible things that are happening to them. Sometimes they make you feel that somehow you could be responsible for making them feel better even just by agreeing with them that it's terrible.
They make you feel guilty, even although it's nothing to do with you. You may even have to defend yourself because you can't help them or their situation, leaving you feeling confused and worried often.
They ask questions one after the other until they find something wrong. Once they have something against you, they use this evidence to criticise you, thus a drama is created. Usually you will be walking on egg shells trying to figure out what the interrogators going to say or do next. You will be judging yourself by what you think is THEIR thoughts about you.
Standing on your own in a crowd and when someone talks to you, you then act mysterious. The idea is that you try to get people to work out what's going on for you, and then the more you make them work the more energy comes your way. The longer you keep them doing this yes you've guessed it - the more energy flows your way.
They will use physical or threatening behaviour towards you. The fear here is genuine and so we pay attention to them in order that we are not hurt - thus we gve them our energy when we let them have their own way.
Sometimes people can also be threatening without saying a word. Often people become accustomed to a "look" which can speak volumes and feel very intimidating particularly if people have learned to "do" this as part of growing up or surviving in a household which may have had an addicted person living there. Often this is a subject people like to avoid - having an alcoholic, depressed, sex addict (the most ignored) overweight, or compulsive gambler in the household while growning up. People can react differently to different situations however, people don't always copy the addiction they see, and this is why it can all be so confusing.
- Passing Energy in the world
Spiritual World Original Pastel on Board by Jane Forrest Artist 2009 Energy can be felt by your body becoming very hot in one area or cold. Often tingling sensations fill the different parts of the body....
This is a good starting point where the teaches you about energy through a simple story and teaches how it works between people. A must read about how we live today.