My Real Ghost Adventure
The Story Behind The Emotion
To make an extremely long story, short; The last decade or so for me has been full of heartache, growth, maturity, immaturity, weakness, self-doubt, some drug use, an extremely addicted ex husband of nearly 13 years, 3 children that have watched it all happen, physical abuse, sexual abuse, mental abuse and mental torture, I found out about my biological father to find that he never knew about me, when I found his family 7 years later, he had passed two years prior to that. I'm now, as we speak, waiting on the siblingship paternity test results that should be available in a few days, to prove whether my phenomenally loving and supportive half-siblings are really mine at all. Although we all know the truth, it'll change our lives to know for sure. And outside of this, I am supporting my ex husband (legally separated over 2 years now) while he cleans up from a 13 year Methamphetamine high, he'll begin treatment on June 22, 2009. I'm the only person on this earth that hasn't given up on him. He's been clean from drugs for nearly a month now, I think he may truly see the light, but one can only hope at this point.
First: The Story Behind The Story
While my ex husband cleans up from being an addict for over a decade, we've been spending time together practicing one of our favorite peaceful hobbies, watching wildlife. For nearly 10 years, he and I have lived in the same small farm town of 2600 people. As you can imagine, most of the landscape is countryside. Farms, horses, and tons of state forests and wildlife. So the ex and I have spent the last several years cruising around in our Chevy Blazer, trying to catch even mere glimpses of nature and its abundant beauty. There are so many beautiful things this earth possesses, that many people never quite understand or even try to.
Throughout all of the bad times that the ex and I have shared, we've also shared many, many beautiful things together on these "cruises" as we call them. We've seen bald eagles within feet of us, majestic and beautiful. We've watched them feed their eaglets from inside massive, hundred pound nests high up in the trees. We've seen hundreds of white-tailed deer over the years, but recently they seem so much more at peace. Or is it that we are now at peace?
In recent weeks we've witnessed the deer playing with each other. Romping around, leaping and carousing after each other. We drove within only feet of the tiniest little Bambi we've seen in years. Her adorable little face and dark, gorgeous eyes just stared at us. With her spindly legs and spots, we couldn't help but nearly tear up over the sight of her.
One day we spotted a 200 lb. black bear out in the Kanabec State Forest in east central Minnesota. There are miles of narrow, dirt roads that hunters and wildlife enthusiasts are able to take advantage of. The forest itself is dark and densely wooded. It's creepy at times, to try to peer into the darkness. You never know what may pop out at you. But on this day we decided to take one side road that we hadn't taken before. We had slowed down to a crawl, in the vehicle of course, to watch a deer to our left. While the ex was watching the deer, I looked ahead on the dirt road and saw the little bear looking back at us. I was so excited that I bounced up and down in my seat, pointing at the bear, but I couldn't speak. It's fairly common for people to see bear in this area, and we've seen a couple in the past, but it's never boring to see a bear in the wild. Trust me. When the ex spotted her, the bear turned tail and took off into the darkness of the forest.
Only two days after seeing that bear, we were cruising around again and saw two black bears. It looked to be about a 400 lb. mother and her 200 lb. cub. We watched them through binoculars as they layed in the grass and cleaned their paws. It was beautiful.
Now that I've laid out the scenery for you a little bit, I can get to the ghost story that I'm sure you've been waiting for, hence the title of this hub.
About two weeks ago, the ex and I were taking one of our usual wildlife cruises in one of our favorite places, the local state forest. We've traveled these dirt roads for years and have seen everything from bear to deer and everything from skunks to turkeys. But we've never experienced anything like this before:
The ex was driving about 15 miles an hour, which is lawful on state forest roads, 30 mph at the most. It was about 8 p.m., about the time it starts to get dark this time of year. As many of you may know, this time of night can play tricks on your eyes. We realize this and have joked about it many times, thinking we've seen animals or other movements that weren't really there, as darkness set in. We were about to round a corner and I thought I saw something just a few feet ahead of us. It's extremely hard for me to explain, it looked like the outline of a person's head crossing the road. At first glance it looked like a glowing orb when it was near my right side, but as it crossed the road in front of me, it seemed to be the outline or silhouette of a person's head. Remember the movie Predator? Well, the predator was supposed to be invisible, but you could always make out an outline of this 'thing'. I couldn't believe what I was seeing, my mouth was wide open and I quit breathing for a few seconds. After this thing was out of my sight I looked to my left at my ex and his eyes were as wide as saucers! He asked me, "Did you just see that?" And keep in mind that the entire trip that evening, he and I had been going through some emotional conversations about our marriage, our children, and what the future may hold. Up to this point my ex was very emotional and had been crying over some of the issues. I hadn't truly cried in about 5 years, truly. I cried myself out in the first 5 or 6 years of the marriage. Anyway, back to the story....after the ex asked me if I had seen that, I asked him what he saw. He said what he saw was the silhouette of a man that had walked right into our vehicle as we drove by. He and I just stared at each other and I had told him what I thought that I saw. We couldn't believe what we were hearing, and what we had just seen.
And just as we realized what we had just experienced, we noticed that he (the ex) wasn't emotional anymore. All of his tears had dried up, and now I was all of a sudden emotional. I started to cry and thought of my biological father. I couldn't believe what I was feeling. We had discussed my father a little bit that evening but the switch in our emotions like that was unbelievable! Neither of us could believe that the other one saw basically the same thing. It was an amazing experience. I'm still not sure what to make of it, but since my life is on the right path finally, I'll take it as a positive one.