“The Tao is wide enough for contradictions.” – Ray Grigg
When Staying in Your Comfort Zone is No Longer Comfortable
These past three weeks I have gone through the exercise of evaluating my experiences and sifting the “good” from the “bad”. Always, for most of us, this is the case. We impose our judgment on each event, as to whether we like or dislike it, whether it gives us pain or pleasure.
This conscious sifting came as a practice after I came upon the insight that if we withhold judgment and stay with acceptance towards the events that happen to us, then there will be no such thing as pain or pleasure for us. What we will be left with is constant joy and peace.
So I observed myself in relation to the events that unfolded. My comfort zone of judging things, people and events as favorable or unfavorable was no longer giving me comfort! I had to move in to a different paradigm.
I looked to the masters and their teaching about withholding judgment. So true, but so hard to do. I at least decided that I would simplify the daunting task by whittling it down to just observing my reactions further. Step two would then be a bolder, more daring step: challenging opposites.
I went ahead in the next couple of days and further realized how difficult challenging opposites really was. What I meant by my challenging opposites was opening up to the perspective that:
What is being considered a negative experience may actually be a positive experience in terms of the soul’s perspective, which is beyond human understanding.
Voila. That put me almost instantly at ease in occasions of tribulations.
I took the exercise further (albeit maybe too soon as I have not had a lengthy practice of above perspective yet) and prayed for further insight to the seeming paradox of polarities (i.e. our usual conditioning of judging things to be either favorable or unfavorable). It did not take very long before I stumbled upon old truths that I have encountered before:
From a higher level point of view, there is no such thing as favorable or unfavorable, positive or negative, etc. We needed to be like the Tao that is “wide enough for contradictions, satisfying enough for discomforts, deep enough for the lowest”.
To take the perspective an additional step further, Eckhart Tolle wrote about us, that:
“ … You are the space in which it happens. You are not your thoughts; they come and go. You are the vastness in which these thoughts appear and disappear because underneath all your thinking there is the stillness of pure being, pure consciousness, the timeless dimension of yourself.”
Seeing ourselves as being space or being like the Tao, we should little by little exert the effort to emulate the neutrality that space or Tao is capable of being: not judging things, events or people as they happen. Simply accepting and letting things grow into their own being.
It’s nice to be blogging like this to put things together in one neat page, as if life principles were that easy to apply. But it does seem to help ideas crystallize when written down on pages. With that, I take the following paragraphs to come up with a convergent synthesis of the insights and ideas:
· Comfort zone is no longer comfortable.
· Challenging opposites. E.g. to the soul’s perspective an event that we consider ‘unfavorable’ may actually be favorable.
· The Tao is wide enough for contradictions.
· You are the space where everything happens.
You may, I believe, have come up with your own thoughts at this point as to what would be the convergent synthesis for you.
Still if you’d like to consider what popped up in my mind in trying to synthesize those ideas, here it is:
When comfort zone (e.g. judging against and resisting negative events) is no longer comfortable, we should consider challenging opposites (e.g. what we consider as a negative event may actually be favorable in the soul’s perspective). We should strive to be like the Tao, because in the realm of truth, we are the great spirit, the consciousness or space where everything happens.
Consider challenging opposites. Seek to be like the Tao, because in the realm of truth, we are the great spirit, the consciousness or space where everything happens.