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Christian Divorce Court
Life is not always all roses
Christian Divorce Court or CDC as it is better known does not exist.
Christian Divorces happen. They really are not supposed to but they do. Divorces are ugly but they should not make the Christians ugly. My notion of Christian Divorce Court is not novel.
So the theory is that if you are going to get divorced do it in a loving healthy nurturing Christian environment. If that sounds strange it is because it is. Sometimes people try too hard to be something they are not.
In just seconds I found this group: http://www.christiandivorceservices.com/Pages/default.aspx they claim to offer a divorce without going to court. Of course in the reality, you need a court order to get divorced. And in reality with this service you still have to comply with court rules. And of course in the fine print you find charges and details that basically explain this. So here is a group that feeds off of Christians and in their inducement advertisement they basically do not tell the whole truth. This means that it is "Christian" really only in name. You have to agree that is slick business.
So I asked myself if this made sense. And yes it does. But here is the problem.
If two Christians want a divorce and are loving enough to work it out together THEN WHY IN THE HELL ARE THEY GETTING A DIVORCE?
There are two valid reasons for a Divorce: Irreconcilable differences of a major degree, and being irrevocably in love with another.
Both reasons stink to high heaven but are at least somewhat understandable. Notice we are talking about one party running away from the other here. Because in that case we would not be talking about anything but restraining orders and marshals and judges trying to keep one party from injuring the other. Totally different ballgame.
Now if you are going to get divorced for either of the two semi-reasonable reasons I gave then you do not need a Christian Divorce Court because you are not acting like Christians and therefor should go to the nearest secular state run court. An amenable divorce is just plain ludicrous.
(This writer went through an amenable divorce as his wife turned on our church and declared she was unhappy and would search for happiness by finding a man that she loved more ---- such were the 80's ;-)
If I were to do it again I would not. But it all worked out in the end. As a beautiful woman was directed to me and she is a wonderful and supporting Christian wife.
Here is a fun Love song I thought you may enjoy while reading
So here is the bad news, my new court will pass judgment.
Yes my court will in fact judge the parties to a divorce. Just like in the old days before "no fault" divorces. I will be the only judge. You will file papers and give testimony. And I will judge you harshly regarding our world and you failures to do right in it. Do you see where I am coming from.
You file your papers and appear in my court I will do a ecclesiastical "Judge Judy" on you and if not for the cameras send you away crying.
No it is not our "job" to judge, regarding God things. But that does not mean we cannot regarding man things.
So I dare you to bring your case to my court.
I will dispense justice in the form of ridicule and humiliation.
Then you will get what you deserve. Love.
We are not perfect. We fall from Grace in our works and in our minds. But we never fail God and His Love for us. You cannot fail me. You cannot fall from my ability to Love you. You can do nothing that will interfere with my Love for you.
Of all the things we are told to do, the only one I do right is to love you. So you see, screw up and get a divorce. Do bad things and your spouse divorces you. I am sorry but I still love you. Eric Dierker's Christian Divorce Court will judge harshly and with no escape from the punishment which is my love for you. It is not fancy pantsy or anointed or filled with riches but it is love when you need it.
You see no matter my judgment on you is that you are either my enemy, my friend, my self or my neighbor and in all those cases I must love you.
That is the court you belong in, a court that is frank as to your transgressions but loves you like nobody's business.