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Christian bullying, inside and outside the church?

Updated on May 12, 2013

Stop Church Bullying

Bullying is not a good thing

Christian and bullying are two words not usually used in the same sentence. While the Christian faith is built on the idea “of loving others as God loves,” each and everyone there are times when Christians are viewed as bullies. There are times when Christians come across as abrasive, condescending, self righteous bullies not only to non-believers but also to members of their own church.

Bullying is defined as “a persistent unwelcome behavior, mostly using unwarranted or invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also exclusion, isolation,” and much more.

Here are some ways Christians may come across as bullies.

* Mocking another person's beliefs because they are different. For example some Christians believe in talking tongues others don't.
* Undermining another person's life because it does not line up with the Bible.
* Ignoring another persons ideas because they do not line up with your beliefs.
* Humiliating non Christian's in front of others because they do not want to come to a saving grace in Christ.

There are many other ways Christians can be perceived as bullies. The Bible is clear however, bullying is not to be a Christian tactic. Ephesians 4:29, states, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Also in Romans 12:18 the Bible says, “so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”

Christians are called to set an example for others whether it is inside the church or outside the church. Therefore when conflicts arise as they will with all certainty, Christians should not react negatively but remember these words found in Romans 15:7, Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.”

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    • whittwrites profile imageAUTHOR

      T.B Whitt 

      5 years ago from the Philly area

      I hear you. It is sad when some of the worst discrimination a Christian faces comes at the hands of those in a church who are called to love all people.

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      Louis Fourie 

      5 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

      Yes we also going to a new church and the same thing happened to us, it is as if we are outsiders, openly opposing us, as if we are competition. We were now the reason for the gossip and we even heard that the pastor wanted to sleep with my wife. We are being ignored by the church leaders but we feel the Holy Spirit in that place. It is so sad that this has to happen in the house of God.

    • whittwrites profile imageAUTHOR

      T.B Whitt 

      5 years ago from the Philly area

      Not all churches are like that, but it is a sad commentary when it happens

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      Anonymous 

      5 years ago

      I went to Arise Church in Wellington for a couple of months and soon left, everyone has their own little cliques and are not welcoming to new comers, I would say hi to people I had met at church once I got there only to be ignored by everyone but the volunteers on the door. I have never felt so miserable, unwelcome and rejected in my life. It was a real shame as the music and preaching was amazing.

    • whittwrites profile imageAUTHOR

      T.B Whitt 

      5 years ago from the Philly area

      Thanks for all your comments

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      Nikki Major 

      5 years ago

      Thank God for your insight whitwrites....Christian bullying does exist and it must be stopped. I pray your message is heard. God Bless.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 

      5 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Bullying in any form is not acceptable to me. Although I have never experienced Christian bullying, it seems particularly cruel as a religious "camouflager".

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      Elizabeth 

      5 years ago from The US of A, but I'm Open to Suggestions

      I would mostly agree, however, the "word of god" is subjective. All Christians claim the Bible, yet there are well 1000 denominations, and none of them agree on what the word of god says.

      In the end, each denomination ultimately believes that their particular interpretation is correct, and by default everyone else its wrong. Who's to say who's right, ultimately?

      Bullying by the church its nothing new, however. The church has been doing it ever since it came into power - almost 2000 years ago. Its difficult to remember the crusades, the inquisition, the witch hunts and even the holocaust, but they were all rooted in the

      church ultimately. The only reason the church stopped burning people at the stake (mostly, take a look at what's happening in Africa as a result of missionaries) is because it was dragged out of

      the dark ages and forced to adapt - or die largely because of the age of science and enlightenment

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      Christina M. Castro 

      5 years ago from Baltimore,MD USA

      The Church ministries that do the bullying, in the end, will have The Lord God to answer to, and God will offer mercy to their victims. It is a shame that the Word of God is not practiced the same in all churches.

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      Elizabeth 

      5 years ago from The US of A, but I'm Open to Suggestions

      Good post. I would say that my experience in particular has given me a very bad impression of christians overall. I was bullied endlessly because I was different, even though I did everything I could to follow the example left by christ. Eventually, this negative behavior among other things made me rethink my beliefs about god, and I eventually realized I was an atheist.

      I've found a lot of christians to be rigorously intolerant, and some are even unwilling to listen to thoughts or beliefs or challenges that seem to go against their own. Because of this, a negative light is cast on religion in general, and christianity in particular. It shouldn't have to be this way, but it's an unfortunate reality - in this country in particular. The US is one of the most religious countries in the world (based on the people that identify as religious, not the country itself, since it was, is and always will be a secular nation) yet it has one of the highest crime rates and abortion rates worldwide. Clearly something isn't working the way it should.

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