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Christian duties and moral obligations. Set Boundaries. Stand up. Be Counted.

Updated on October 9, 2012

Interesting isn't it

Sometimes just a shot in the crowd gives you a good idea of boundaries
Sometimes just a shot in the crowd gives you a good idea of boundaries | Source

Put the same value on love as we do things

My eldest wrote me this morning and said my youngest son was wearing a girly hat in a picture I sent. My boy and I love gardening and flowers. Why wouldn't he wear a hat with flowers on it. (of course this will change in preschool :-(

Boundaries and the Balancing Act

Sometimes in life there are just bad people. I do not speak of these. More normally there are people with bad traits that do bad things. In fact we all have bad traits that sometimes result in us doing bad things. Non-Christians love to point to these faults and yell hypocrite about Christians. Get over it.

However we as Christians have a duty to evaluate our conduct. Then when we recognize wrong – face it and then repent (which really means to do an about face) Most faiths have this notion. Non spiritual people do not. Here is the boundary problem. 7 Xs 70 turning your cheek does not mean you are a door mat. It is not an excuse to walk away from righting a wrong. It is about forgiveness. But by golly crickets you do not go about forgiving someone in the act of doing something wrong.

Does any of this matter in war, politics, law and business? – there is the balancing act. And the hardest balancing act is Family and Friends. So here is your litmus test: What are your motivations. Stop a wrong is good – but only a start. If we are positive that our reasons are to protect another and help the wrongdoer by correcting their ways,,, then there are no boundaries and no balancing – just Do It. Always try to do it with Love, and it will always work out right, even if we do not see it.

The hard part is when the boundary is for our own self,, if it be self ego, probably walk away. If it be the self in Christ/Love do the right thing and that is ask a fellow you trust. Now the hardest balancing and boundaries are ones that require you to protect yourself in order to protect others. If mammon is the protection you are thinking about – again walk away. But if it is to do what is right, so that right trumps wrong, think long and hard about the balancing and the boundaries and the only rule is, do not do nothing because it is easier.

So when a Mom can take an easy low road, in order to provide for the wealth, security and benefit of her child -- she has failed the balancing act. She has failed to protect her child from wrong. Not for all the obvious reasons, but because she has chosen to value “the thing” above the love and the child will certainly learn that lesson. The child who places the thing above the integrity of the parent has been failed by the parent. Perhaps we should all look at each other as our own child and let that help guide us in establishing our boundaries.

Probably the only good thing to get out of this, is a fresher perspective. Perhaps a little more priority for the love factor than the thing factor. Here is a thought: “probably more wealth is acquired out of fear than need”

I have a fence around my back yard, good boundaries make for good neighbors.

Mom and son have boundaries -- Like, you're not the boss of me.
Mom and son have boundaries -- Like, you're not the boss of me. | Source

Here is a question for you.

I have a big fear, sounds funny but I have a fear of fear.

What do you fear more than fear??


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      6 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Your question is really good to put to a Christian. We are to live for an eternal life, by doctrine. So what may seem ethereal to many, is just a straight forward concept to a practicing Christian. While enterprise and working hard are important -- when push comes to shove we must leave it to our High Power, or as we would say HS - Holy Spirit.

    • Niteriter profile image


      6 years ago from Canada

      You've covered a wide swath of material here but I think I see what you're getting at. Weighing the physical need against the moral value is always a delicate undertaking.

      Lately I've been toying with the notion that treating others as we wish to be treated might produce results that do not reveal their value until well past our natural lifetime. Which leaves us staring into the naked reality of the choices we face: do we protect life as we see it today or do we apply the moral value and leave it to a Higher Power to determine what the outcome will be?


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