Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius - Fall in Autumn
Getting Along Does Not Mean Loving
As a student of Astrology since 1975, I have listened to all the party talk about this sign and that sign and what they seem to be like. Of course, most people are talking about their particular Libra, their most beloved buddy - Scopio, or their hated parent - Sagittarius. When you hear people talk about a sun sign, you are most likely hearing about two or three (at the most) intimate, close (hated or loved) relationships they had with those signs. That's fine. That's the fun of it, and that's our shorthand way of figuring out our loved ones and also chatting about astrology. Since this is an art, along with the blending of astro talk and ancient texts which speak about the signs, there is no absolute fixity about this topic. However, there are elements of the sun signs which apart from subjective experience do tend to shine a light the way we manifest our characters in this earthly realm.
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The Point of this Article:
There are tricks to getting along. I emphasize getting along, and do not emphasize, the words persuade, dissuade, win and argument with, dominate or seduce. Those topics are for other times. Getting along is, in a sense, what life first asks us to do, and in a way, its the hardest thing we are asked to do, especially with certain sun signs.
I remember a date I had in college in which my date talked 95% of the time. I nodded, made sweet nonverbal grunts, chuckled and threw in looks of whimsy and lifted my eye brows a lot. It was a fun time, and I was not bored. I still remember it though, for the compliment I received. She said, "Chris you are such a good conversationalist." She did not say: "You listen well." That night I was "getting along". The effectiveness of my listening was that it was interpreted as talking. The point is to get along so that you will be viewed positively, and perhaps construed to be a different kind of person, maybe, than you really are. That's OK, social lubricants make the world go 'round. So, what I am trying to impart is that you want to "get along" so that you can be well thought of, and perhaps even positively reviewed as a friend, buddy, associate, subordinate or superior.
Libra - "I am perfectly balanced, except when I am seeking balance." -
Libra is a model of beauty and balance. They tend to be easy on the eyes and very pleasant people. It is not usually very difficult to get along with Libra because they specialize in the art of being a model of calm and repose as they work their way through the rest of us animalistic/humanistic signs. Libra is the only inanimate sign. And thus they tend to gather their energy from the around. This sign of the balance does not tend to have inner fire. You see blind justice with the balances in her hands on TV and in the movies. Libra's ideal is to strike a pose of ambivalence at worst and perfect positioning at best. They love peace and hate conflict. However perfect that goal might be, they were born into a world of conflict, dynamic duality and soupy blending of good and bad and all flavors in between.
Since Libras are like this, they tend to be outwardly pleasant but inwardly troubled. Often what they are troubled about can be the placement of guests at a formal dinner. Libras can be revolutionary and politically atuned, but mostly they are put off balance by the turning tides of everyday existence. So, there is no predicting what might be bothering them. This is a real dichotomy. Most signs relish the conflicted nature of the forces pushing and pulling from within. When you watch them you get the feeling that Libra can't believe they are down here to reconcile the irreconcilable. This causes them continual mild upset and sometimes absolute confusion and massive internal explosions. But mostly Libra keeps all of this activity on the inside.
Libras are thus offically, easy to get along with - on a social, friendly, "let's be civilized" kind of way. The more formal the setting, the more they like it. They can dress up, adopt their friendly pleasant formality and smile the most pristine of smiles. When you are trying to get along with them on a daily basis though, they can be bewildering. Their upset becomes a little visible and you enquire about their happiness. They give you a blank look as if suddenly a cold wind went down their back. As you get to know them better, you would swear that their internal workings are always on churn. And its that outward pleasantness that, contrasted against their manner, makes the dichotomy seem so great. They don't seem to be THAT miserable, but they pretend to be so poised, you, as a friend, think something is really wrong. But its not. Its just Libra going through their inner upset. Libras are not that hard to get along with, they are hard to figure. If you are taking the relationship higher than just getting along, that's where the complications appear more. Libras love to talk about what they love - their beauty, their poise, the way they seem to be so calm in the face of life. Stay on that level and the Libra is a good buddy. They will always tend to accept you outwardly. They are not quick too push back, offend, or jump to sarcastic.
Scorpio - "I am seriously serious about myself, remember that." -
Scorpio probably has the worst reputation in the zodiac. They are probably thought to be the most difficult to get along with. That being said, one should realize that reputations sometimes ruin reality. At a party, the worst thing that someone can say is "I'm a Scorpio." Everyone will probably start talking about how intense and difficult they are. To add more comlplexity to the complex picture, I will say that Scorpios are Lizards, Scorpions, Eagles and Doves. The lizards are basic tough violent types. The Scorpios are intense business, military people. The Eagles are generals and leaders and take their intensity to societal levels of achievement. The Doves are like Gandhi and become supremely peaceful. So there we are with a mix of pictures and images.
Getting along with a Scorpio then depends on who they are. In other words, don't go into the relationship saying -- "Oh this is a Scorpio, they are going to be hard to get along with." If you say that, you will probably make it a "self-fulfilling prophecy". Let the Scorpio declare themselves to you. Read that again. One thing Scorpios will do is disclose themselves by virtue of their intense secrecy and privateness. You ask - "How can that be?" Think about it. Secretive intense people don't tend to "blabber". They are probably going to be formal and stand off just a bit. They won't be confrontational because they know they are negative when they confront. But somehow the intensity is always spilling over into their remarks and their demeanor. But stop and think. Its easy to get along with a Scorpio, and Eagle or a Dove. A lizard, now that might just be a felon in a biker bar, so let's not gloss things over too much.
Suffice it to say, Scorpios tend to be civilized. They are being consciously civilized, that's why you can enjoy their company, have great conversations about politics, war, societal problems and who just won the chess championship at the local park. Don't be afraid or wary of Scorpio, if you are trying to get along with them, follow their lead. Respond when they aren't talking. Do NOT interrupt them and try to have a thoughtful unfrivolous response. They will appreciate that greatly. And remember, they get a bad reputation, let them off the hook. As individuals, they are probably much more pleasant than one would ever expect.
Sagittarius - "When I gallop, its better to be watching instead of riding." -
This is the sign of the Archer - mythologically. a horse creature that has the torso of a man firing an arrow. More easily, Sagittarius is a romping horse galloping across the fields. These people are very easy to get along with. They are outgoing, extroverted, high energy, concerned with fairness and justice. When they offend you by saying something off the wall, you just have to ignore it. They will be on to a new subject in a minute and you will forget their verbal gaffs. The other thing about their verbal effusiveness, is that if someone takes offense at their dialogue, it will be hard for them to figure out just what was offensive about what they said.
Enjoy the Sagittarius, they are not hard to get along with. It is fun to watch, listen to and observe the Archer as they pursue their energies outward and upward. Just don't take offense,because they surely did not mean to give offense. Along with Libra, this sign sometimes gives blank looks. Its like they have lost their place on the page and they have to stop and figure out what line they were reading from.
Those who wish to get along by having a predictably calm relatioinship will be disappointed. It is not smart to expect a pleasing and smooth boat ride across the lake. It's more like a canoe across a choppy windswept lake on a blustery day. This happens because the Archer lives on its energy and lets its own energy direct the course of their path. Its not that they are without plans, its just that once they start leaping and jumping, they get caught up in the bouncing and the unpredictable nature of the gallop. They lilve off of the gallop. If you are having a hard time getting along with them, they probably won't even know it. Unless you make a point of the "problem" they most likely won't be aware that there was a problem. Just forget the issue, go fast forward to tomorrow and start the new day with a big grin.
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