Aries Taurus Gemini - Spring Flings
As a student of Astrology since 1975, I have listened to all the party talk about this sign and that sign and what they seem to be like. Of course, most people are talking about their particular Aries, their most beloved buddy - Taurus, or their hated parent - Gemini. When you hear people talk about a sun sign, you are most likely hearing about two or three (at the most) intimate, close (hated or loved) relationships they had with those signs. That's fine. That's the fun of it, and that's our short hand way of figuring out our loved ones and also chatting about astrology. Since this is an art, along with the blending of astro talk and ancient texts which speak about the signs, there is no absolute fixity about this topic. However, there are elements of the sun signs which apart from subjective experience do tend to shine a light the way we manifest our characters in this earthly realm.
The Point of this Article:
There are tricks to getting along. I emphasize getting along, and do not emphasize, the words persuade, dissuade, win and argument with, dominate or seduce. Those topics are for other times. Getting along is, in a sense, what life first asks us to do, and in a way, its the hardest thing we are asked to do, especially with certain sun signs.
I remember a date I had in college in which my date talked 95% of the time. I nodded, made sweet nonverbal grunts, chuckled and threw in looks of whimsy and lifted my eye brows a lot. It was a fun time, and I was not bored. I still remember it though, for the compliment I received. She said, "Chris you are such a good conversationalist." She did not say: "You listen well." That night I was "getting along". The effectiveness of my listening was that it was interpreted as talking. The point is to get along so that you will be viewed positively, and perhaps construed to be a different kind of person, maybe, than you really are. That's OK, social lubricants make the world go 'round. So, what I am trying to impart is that you want to "get along" so that you can be well thought of, and perhaps even positively reviewed as a friend, buddy, associate, subordinate or superior.
Aries - The Leaping Ram - "Enough of Me, Let's Talk About Myself" -
Aries feel the bursting energy of spring running in their veins. That energy is interpreted by the Ram as their very being. They are so full of energy, it is hard for them to disidentify from their own current. When they talk about themselves, and jump to the front of the line, and want first attention, it is just that their energy is overcoming them. It tingles in their nervous system. They are bright, and mount tons of first energy. However, they are not great finishers. They tend to be spent at the finish line. Getting along with them involves listening and waiting for them to move from one subject to the next, to the next, until they are done. This is not to say that all Aries are non-stop talkers. Some Aries are waiting to be heard, and very interested in filling up the air with stories that they have held back. See the Aries as yeah, there is that word -- hard headed. Those horns crack together in the sping air, sometimes just to hear the sound of the confrontatioin. So, don't get mad at an Aries, like you might a Scorpio. Aries can laugh. They are easy laughers and have basic amiability. So, while you are listening, you can also not take them too seriously. While you are getting irritated, they are moving on to another subject, so don't mount up a battle that is not going to happen. If you defy them however, they will fight you for the sake of it. So, don't choose defiance and don't get in a combative pose. They will get in a stance, dropping their head and moving toward you and make a move off of those back feet, and you can be on your "butt' before you know it. And then, they will be smiling --- cause it was kind of fun.
While you are listening a little longer than you want to, and patiently nodding as they talk about their favorite topic - themselves, your first moves should be apparently complying nonconfrontational and perhaps a reference to the Aries brightness or cleverness or energy. Getting along with an Aries has much to do with the what you don't do. First - do no harm. Reinforce their positions to let them easily establish themselves, then, make your points and get done what you need to be done, after the Aries is at peace and moving in the direction they want to. Then, as time passes a bit, their finsihing energy waning, they will appreciate your awareness that they might need some help or assistance. Enjoy Aries. Watch them, admire them and let their energy shine. Take advantage of their bursting energy. They certainly won't drag you down with incessant depressive talk. They are worth the "getting along" effort.
Taurus - The Laconic Bull - "Don't Mistake My Calm For Weakness" -
Whereas Aries can be a bit offputting at first, Taurus can be deceptively easy at first. Getting along with Taurus will seem to be quite easy. Taurus specializes in control of the outward. Thinik of the bovine contentment, chewing, digesting, enjoying the sun and mellowing out on the top of the hill. And then without much notice they will put that pointed hoof on the top of your toes and then pivot and tell you that they don't think that you should 1) take that from them or 2) boss them around or 3) assume that you aren't going to have to consult them.
Taurus is good at saving, setting up an agenda and sticking to it, gathering possessions and accumulating them and not talking a whole lot about what they are doing. With a sweet kind of "lowing" in their voice, they can seem to be so pleasant that they do not have an opinion or they are maybe not as sharp as you think they should be. Be assured that getting along with Taurus has to do with assuming that they are smarter and sharper than they look and that they have very powerful wills. Think of all the unassuming people you might have known in your life, are not many of them a "surprise" to you, after getting to know them?
The key to getting along with Taurus is NOT to take offense if after awhile they seem to "bowl you over" without really thinking about it. Don't get paranoid and start muttering to yourself about their insensitivity. Sure they are insensitive, but don't take it personally. When a bull slides its weight and moves you without a seeming care, remember, they do that to EVERYBODY. Getting along with Taurus lies in not taking that personally. Just remember they are basically sweet, and think of the first time you met them, not the way they are acting after you were supposed to be friends.
Gemini - Duality - "What You Think I Said Is Not What I Meant" -
Getting along with Geminis is really easy in the beginning;. Happy, conversational, apparently caring, and quick to respond to what you just said. Can hardly be more fun that to meet a Gemini the first time. But getting along with Gemini on a continuing basis has to do with a mood that might be little different than when you first met them. It might be a little sarcasm that you are not supposed to really take to heart, and a personality that might emerge that you never really observed before. Once you are a friend of a Gemini, its all those other elements that come out. Chatty, gossipy, full of lightning quick wit and almost a prescience for knowing what people are going to say, and then providing a clever rejoinder before the person is done talking.
Geminis can be easy to get along with but hard to keep on getting along with if you are keeping score. You have to let much of what a Gemini says and does just go by the wayside. A good forgetfulness might hold you in good stead. Often charm goes over the edge, cleverness turns into harm, merriment turns into silliness. These Gemini characteristics mean that their friends have to be consciously tolerant and realize that day to day, on a continuing basis, there is hardly any person or personality that is more fun and endearing than a Gemini. Getting along with a Gemini is worth the effort because of the Joy that they bring to the moment. That Joy tends to be fairy dust for everyone and thus they are worth the effort.
Their frivolousness and seeming lack of real concern or love for you is sometimes hard to take, but when you realize that they are probably just distracted trying to come up with a new way to say something or are thinking off in a kind of dream world, they are ultimately fun. When I say - "What you think I said is not what I meant", it is deliberately confusing. There can be a wispy cloudy kind of magical confusion in what Geminis say. Just keep going with the stream of consciousness and in the end you will marvel that what Geminis bring is the mercurial spirit. Every one is a bit mercurial, Geminis are just a little bit MORE mercurial than the norm.
The "Getting Along" Intuition -
I will cover the other signs in other articles, but the intuition involved in Getting Along with the various Sun Signs has to do with picking up from each Soul what is the main tune that they are playing. What is the main message beaming out of their eyes? Look for the core of what a Sun Sign is and then observe them playing their song and manifesting themselves in their particular unique ways. Once you have a fix on that, then ride along with them and appreciate them for what they are and see how it plays out in the external world. Then your patience conerning that perceived reality allows you to envelope them with a bubble of tolerance. This all ends up benefitting you, as you make your way through the field of human relationships.
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