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Dealing With Anger and Bitterness

Updated on October 5, 2010
An angry man
An angry man

As I look around in the world today I notice that a lot more people have a lot of anger with them. They are easy to explode over the most simplest things. Road rage, bumping into some one at the supper market, what was that you said?. You just get on my nerves, I can't stand being around you, you are trying to be smart, or you think you so smart. Aw just shut up yo mouth. And the beat goes on.

What is this all about, why are they that way, what is behind it all. It would be easy to say the Devil, but I think we blame too much on the Devil as a way of not taking responsibility for our own actions. "If she had not said this, I would not have done that or you made me say that. "

Anger and bitterness are two noticeable signs of being focused on self. You offended me. You heart my feelings, or I”m not getting my way. Anger and bitterness are formidable detriments to biblical love, harmonious relationships, and maturity in Christ. I once told a guy he was a babe in Christ and he got angry and told me he was not a baby. He just showed his immaturity right then and there. It matters not how long one has been in Christ. If you cannot control yourself you are acting like a baby.

Failing to put off anger and bitterness grieves the Holy Spirit, gives Satan an opportunity in your life, obscures you witness to others, and disrupts the unity of the body of Christ. We must learn to deal biblically with our anger and bitterness by having a wholehearted obedience to God's word in every circumstance and with every person, even if your feelings dictate otherwise. “A quick -tempered man does foolish things, and a crafty man is hated” (Proverbs 14:17 NIV) So one must be slow to become angry. “A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks insults “ (Proverbs12:16-NIV)

God's view

Anger, displeasure, and animosity that is quickly aroused or quickly expressed is the characteristic of your old self apart from Jesus Christ. Notice I said: apart from Jesus Christ. Anger does not draw you near to him. Jesus' anger brought about good but yours cannot bring on nothing but grief for yourself the Holy Spirit and others. God said for you to put it away. Bitterness is related to anger and demonstrates a great dissatisfaction with God's sovereignty in your life. You say you love God but you do not want Him to control you, you want to be your own man or woman. How meany times have you said to yourself: “Nobody tells me what to do, I'm a man” How about you women: “No man's going to tell me what to do” Bitterness arise out of living to please self instead of living to please the Lord and do cause much trouble. (Acts 8:18-23; Romans 3:10-18

Your not a dope, you have hope

Since God's Word commands you to put away anger and bitterness, it is possible to do so. You do not need to defend or preserve what you think is your rights, because God causes all things to work together for good to those who belong to Him and love Him. You are to control your spirit, be slow to anger. You are to put off anger, wrath, bitterness, quick-temperedness, dissension, abusive speech, and strife; and you are not to take account a wrong suffered to you (Matt. 5:21-22; I Cor. 13:5; Eph. 4:31) You are to put on patience, kindness, humility, bearing with one another, tenderheartedness, forgiveness, love, and self control. (Ephesians 4:31-32; Colosians 3:12-14.

Sounds like a tall order and I bet you are thinking that you cannot do all that. That you can pray to God and it will happen over a period of time as you grow in Christ. But how can you grow with all this anger and bitterness holding you down. Simple, the text said for you to do all these things. Jesus did his part by dying for your sins and was raised for your justification. You are empowered by the Holy Spirit so you can defeat the works of the flesh. This is not so easy a cave man can do it because there are none but you are in Christ so you can do all things.


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      Ronald C Holmes 6 years ago

      Be angry but sin not and dont let the sun go down on your your enemies.Ask God for the grace to love your enemies. especially those that constantly rub you the wrong way. noe

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      Betty Bolden 8 years ago from Bucyrus Ohio

      our own circumstances...we must learn from our own mistakes..oh how others need God..thank you for this hub.

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      Dr. Oscar A. Williams, Jr. 8 years ago from PA

      Thank you for your comment drpastorcarlotta. Love ya back!

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      Pastor Dr. Carlotta Boles 8 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

      Your right oscarwms! Anger and bitterness are two noticeable signs of being focused on self. Remember the enemy is all about self as well! Bitterness and anger, CAN KILL YOU!!!!!!! We have enough STRESS in this world to go through without adding MORE!! Bitterness and anger is the enemy's way to KILL, STEAL AND DESTROY YOU!!! When you let him in!! Not so much that the enemy has taken over your thoughts, but you letting him take over your thoughts! GREAT HUB!!!!! Love ya!

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      Dr. Oscar A. Williams, Jr. 8 years ago from PA

      Thank you for your input DeBorrah.

      God bless.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Nice hub!

      You have made some very good points here.

      You are right it is important to deal with bitterness and anger.

      Bitterness is a sign that you have allowed hurt and disappointment to set on the shelf of your mind and ferment. It now has become so potent that it often forcibly springs forth. God is able as you embrace the Fruit of His Spirit to help you respond differently.

      This way you can "be angry and sin not."