Do it for the realtionship
Not for you.
When we sin God will convict us of that sin. If we repent, which means we are sorry for what we have done and work hard at stop doing it, God will return to us.
Now there are some sins that are too strong for us to stop.
In my case it was being an alcoholic. I tried so many times to stop on my own, only to fail miserably. It was only when I surrendered to God and admitted it is not possible for me to quit and I depend upon His strength that I was able to stop that it was an instant and complete recovery.
If on the other hand we refuse to repent, God will turn His back on us. Then we will be left to our own means and open to stannic forces (and they ain’t to compassionate). Our lives will spiral downwards into a miserable existence.
If we then repent, He will come back to us and heal us. We can never travel too far away from God or do too evil in His sight to not be forgiven when we repent. Look up the biography of the man who wrote amazing grace. He was a drunkard, always getting in fights and constantly raping the women slaves on the slave ship he worked on. When he gave his life to God look what happened to him. So too it is with our relationships.
So too it is to be with our relationships with others.
When someone offends us, we are to lovingly bring it to their attention. If they refuse to repent we are to ostracize them. That does not mean we are to give up on them. We are to pray for them.
If they repent, we are to welcome them back into our lives. Do not hold a grudge. It only hurts you much more than it hurts them. We are to do it, not for our own personal satisfaction, but rather for the relationship.
When having a disagreement, please Lord let my words be true, but not cruel.” Joseph- Anthony: Green 2011
Trust requires a track record. If someone hurts you repeatedly, you are commanded by God to forgive him instantly, but you are not expected to trust him immediately, and you are not expected to continue allowing him to hurt you. He must prove he has changed over time. The best place to restore trust is within the supportive context of a small group that offers both encouragement and accountability.
Prayer: Please Jehovah Yehew (God of His people) please help me be aware of when I am straying from our divine relationship and guide me back to You. Please Father, I have an addiction that is too strong for me to conquer. I surrender my addiction of ______(write down your addiction) to Your might and power. I ask this in the name of He who had and has the power to drive out our demons, Jesus Christ. Amen.
May the sunshine of Jesus’ sweet love bless you today and every day.