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Do you give Reciprocity or Agape?

Updated on July 16, 2012

Let us live Gods way.


Which ones do you do

Reciprocity is the notion of mutual exchange or fair return. It’s the basis of many social interactions:

Business: where a fair exchange of goods and services is made between parties. Now we need reciprocity in our business dealings don’t we. Do you do that when say buying or selling a house? How much of that occurs with businesses today? Do companies do that when paying wages compared to bonuses for their CEO’s?

Politics: where one country helps another to maintain positive relations, alliances, or other benefits

Does your country that when dealing with other countries? Or, do you invade and conquer other countries when they don’t subjugate themselves to your counties big business? Does Iraq or Libya come to mind?

Justice: where people get what they deserve, either in punishment or restitution. Do you see that when they hand out sentences to cheating COE’s of big companies or banks? Do you see that with celebrities caught with drugs or drunk driving?

Agape. This is the Greek word used to describe undeserved, sacrificial, no-strings-attached, self-giving love.

Now, on a personal note.

Undeserved: Do forgive someone who has offended you, even though they are not sorry they did it? It is difficult, I know. But I will share a little secret with you. When you forgive someone it does good for your soul. Being unforgiving leaves you bitter and sucks the joy out of your life. I know. Been there, done that, both ways. Is there someone you have learned to forgive? Hasn’t it made your life better? I have been abused bad numerous times by numerous people in my life. When I forgive them it feels like such a dark cloud is removed from my heart. Do we deserve the forgiveness Jesus offers us?

Sacrificial: Do you sacrifice your leisure time to spend quality time with your children, or are you a stranger to them? Do you sacrifice any money to help needy causes like missionaries needing money for over sea’s missions? Do you sacrifice your time in the soup kitchens, food banks, schools, hospitals or other volunteer work? What way are you sacrificial for others? Didn’t Jesus offer the most precious sacrifice for you?

No-strings-attached: Do you help a family member or friend and expect nothing in return?

Or are you like many people I have met:” I have done something for you. Now, you OWE me. “

Think of it like this: A friend offers to buy you lunch on Friday. When you are almost finished they tell you they are putting a new roof on their house on Saturday. Because they have bought you lunch, now you owe them so you HAVE TO come and spend the entire day putting that roof on. It does not matter if you have other plans. They did something for you (bought you lunch) now you owe them. When doing it, no, they will not bring you out a glass of cool water on the hot day. No they don’t even offer you lunch. Why should they, they don’t need anything from you. I have met many people like that. Now if someone offers me something I make sure they know they will get nothing back in return. Strange thing, not many people to take me to lunch anymore.

Has anyone pulled a scam on you like that?

On the other hand many times I have helped people without expecting anything in return. Have you lifted a mothers baby stroller on the city bus? Have you ever helped someone on the street, like if they are lost and in need of directions? What way have you helped someone without expecting anything in return? What strings are there attached to receive Jesus’ forgiveness and being a member of His Holy family?

Self-giving love: Have you ever sat down, listened and offered help to someone with a problem? Have you ever gone and visited lonely senior citizens in seniors homes? Someone once asked Billy graham what was the hardest thin he ever did. His reply was getting old. It is so lonely. What ways or ways have you given self love?

How many gifts has God given you? Doesn’t he offer you His divine love?

Prayer: Please Jehovah Jireh (God our provider) guide all my words and actions to emulate your magnificent agape to all that come my way. I ask this in the name of Him who gave the ultimate for me, Jesus Christ. Amen.

May the sunshine of Jesus’ sweet love bless you today and every day.


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    • teacherjoe52 profile image

      teacherjoe52 5 years ago

      Thank you all for your comments.

      Well Nikki I agree, it is our duty asChristians to give agape.We must have a balence of the two. After all, shouldn't we have reciprocity in our business dealings?

      Erickdierker that sounds like a great business model that should be emultaed everywhere. I agree with your definition of agape.

      Hi teaches. I agree, I love to give when others can't give back. Isn't that what Jesus did and does?

      God bless you.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Agape love is what's so perfect in this world. To give without thinking about getting back. It's what God has asked us to do. Thanks for the reminder about how we must to give to receive.

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      Eric Dierker 5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Wonderful song about this; And they will know we are Christians by our Love.

      I cannot get it right, but by trying, maybe I get closer. Very hard not to keep a ledger, but so freeing when we do not. In my work I give a discount for those who do not require the paperwork. Kind of a pay me what you think my work was worth concept. Clients then always ask for an amount. That is cool and I pay my bills.

      Agape is not just about love but a way of life. Freely give and freely recieve for it is not our bounty but one's who is far greater than us.

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      Nikki Major 5 years ago

      Hi Teacherjoe52

      Agape love is what we should give as christians...even when others are known for reciprocity. This is what makes us perfect. Agape love is perfect. It's the way the father loves us.