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"Don't Be The Victim anymore"

Updated on August 8, 2012

Don't Be the Victim Anymore"

we all have become victims of life's vicious games, but we have to take back the control of our lives and try to learn to forgive the people that hurt us.
we all have become victims of life's vicious games, but we have to take back the control of our lives and try to learn to forgive the people that hurt us.

"Don't Be The Victim Anymore"

In life sometimes bad things happen to good people and we don 't know the reason why certain thing happen. Many times thing happen to glorify God and to be a testimony for many of us. We all becomes victims of life's cruel games, but some how we stop the cycle of being the victim by choosing to change our attitude. we must always ask God for the help we need to get over being the victim. Being a victim hurts us and cause us to have anger toward our tormenter. The feelings that we have are natural pains that we feel when someone hurt or harm us. By the grace of God, we will have to forgive them their transgressions and try to move on with our life. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, because it want be, but if we remember what Jesus said to the people that persecuted him and crucified him on the cross. In all of his pain and frustration, he asked God to forgive them because they know not what they do.

Jesus knew they these people didn't know what they were doing when they crucified him, that is exactly why he forgave his tormentors. It's a lot to ask, especially if someone has purposely hurt or harmed you or messed up your life. Forgiveness is the last thing on our mind, when we have been hurt, but we can only get forgiveness and healing, if we first forgive our offender of his transgression. Through all of this pain and hurt, he found a way not to be the victim anymore. I'm not going to tell you that I never played the victim card, because I did, when I was in a abusive relationship of domestic violence. I felt abused and misused and battered for a long time, but through prayer I over came being victimized and became the victor. Now, I don't know what would have happen if someone had falsely accused me of doing something that didn't do. I probably would use the victim card again, but not without realizing that some good would have to come out of the situation, or God wouldn't have allowed it to happen to me, in the first place. We have to remember that sometimes things happen for the glory of God and to be able to testify, about how God brought us out of a really bad situation in life. We all go through times when we're victimized but through it all, God is there,even when we don't feel his presence, to bring us through it all, in the end. We can never count him out, but just believe he is our way maker and our constant problem solver.

Benny Faye Douglass (c) Copyright 2012

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    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Hi Carlotta. God bless you and thank you comment. Godspeed. Faye

    • maggs224 profile image

      maggs224 

      5 years ago from Sunny Spain

      A good read Faye I enjoyed it, and I am so glad that you have become a victor and are no longer a victim.

      You mentioned in this hub

      "Now, I don't know what would have happen if someone had falsely accused me of doing something that didn't do."

      I know what that was like I wrote a hub about it called "The Consequences of taking Offence"

      The end result was pretty much the same, I took offence and I was a victim of that accusation until I did the same as you.

      When we hold on to forgiveness, we open a door that lets in some very unwanted guests who will stay there until we throw them out and shut the door.

      Voting up and hitting relevant buttons on my way out :D

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you lifegate, for your visit and your comment, I'm glad you found it. I appreciate you. Godspeed, Faye

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      William Kovacic 

      6 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      CO,

      I'm not sure how I missed this one, but I'm glad i found it. Thanks for sharing.

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Hi HP, thank you for yourvisit and comment,I appreciate you. God bless you and it's good seeing you. creativeone59

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      H P Roychoudhury 

      6 years ago from Guwahati, India

      Yes, I agree with you, a great hub. We realize our mistake only afterwards.

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Dave,for your visit and positive feedback. I agree with you, but when you're young you have to learn to do better. God bless you. creativeone59

    • creativeone59 profile imageAUTHOR

      benny Faye Douglass 

      6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Eiddwen,for your visit and comment,I appreciate you. I hope it helps someone else. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Eiddwen 

      6 years ago from Wales

      A great hub which speaks so much truth and thank you for sharing.

      I am sure that this gem will benefit many readers.

      Take Care and enjoy your weekend.

      Eddy.

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      Dave Mathews 

      6 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      creativeone: Seeing oneself as a victim in anything only serves to defeat Almighty God and His love and peace and grace, that he so freely gives to all of his children in an abundance.

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