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Eric's Monday Sermon: The Last Word on Gender

Updated on August 31, 2015

Too young to know gender - maybe, too young to know love - never!

At this age he was stumped. Just how did Daddy fit into mommy's tummy?
At this age he was stumped. Just how did Daddy fit into mommy's tummy? | Source

Gender Equality!

Equality! What a great idea. But be real, equality requires sameness and that just is not where it is at. I do not want to be equal with my wife. She is a far far better her than I could ever be. Let us look at money. We say that 100 pennies equals a dollar. Fair enough we know what we mean. We mean very specifically that their net monetary worth is the same. We dang sure do not mean that half a pound of copper is the same as a small green sheet of something like paper."We are all equal" does not mean we have the same worth. It means specifically that we are supposed to be treated equally under the law. A scoundrel, rapist, lunatic hater of all is not equal to an upright, loving, caring, positive, contributing member of a good group. I do not want a cold, calculating, stern lacking compassion lady to be my nurse but I very well may want her to be my brain surgeon. I do not want equality I want opportunity to be more.

Did someone just complain about no equal pay for equal work? Let me let you in on a secret. Shhh, don't tell anyone else. That whole thing about not paying women the same pay for doing the same thing men do is not about gender. It is about our society's lazy tolerance of idiots. Yes, you and I let jackasses treat human beings badly. We allow our fellows to do stupid things. We are so afraid of rocking this little boat of ours that we sit still while bad people do bad things. It does not need to be that way. My family is not rich but we do fine. If there was a hint of gender bias negatively effecting someone in our little life, the proverbial crap would hit the fan. And it has. And we are none the worse for it. Maybe I can get to parts of those stories later on here, but let us keep it moving.

Equality is a myth if you think it means sameness. And thank God for that.Genders are real and thank God for that. If you believe that you are not treated equally simply because of your gender and you do not kick some butt to get it straightened out, then you are part of the problem. If you engage in treating people poorly because of their gender, then you are one sick SOB and you need some serious help. We leave the doors open here during the sermon and we invite you to use them. They will not hit you in the butt on the way out, because they stay open so you can return if you really want to change.

I just love this goofy over dramatic song. It reminds me that the Eagle and the Wind are not equal and oh so beautiful, delicate and powerful in their own right

I am the old man in the photo. I will never be equal to the beauty that resides in my children.

If my wife was my equal, who would I look up to!
If my wife was my equal, who would I look up to! | Source

Gender Confusion -- the controversy that is not.

What kind of nonsense is all this judgmental garbage. Is it media made? Is it just because there are folks trying to get attention? Well probably a combination of a whole lot of things. There appears to be a very small percentage of people that suffer from a state of confusion about their own gender. My best estimates put it at somewhere around about 1/10th of 1 percentage of folks. Well statistically that would place it in the "anomaly" category. We are darned complicated bio-mechanical masses. It does not give me pause at all that some folks got wired a little differently than the majority of us. It just is not that hard to believe. Science reveals clear truth in this regard.

Now along comes some folks that are trying to tell me that other folks condemn this condition. Wow! If you think about it that is crazy. Some poor gal or guy is confused about their gender and someone else wants to harm them for that anomaly? Some folks want to limit their freedom? Somebody wants to mock them? That is just cruel and wrong. There but for the grace of God go I. Can you even imagine being all confused about your sexuality? I am not talking the passing of puberty and teenage fog, I am talking about a medically describable condition here. Nope there is no excuse for condemning someone for their biological hand that they were dealt.

OK now. That does not mean that going all public and making sexuality a cause celebre is cool. Fitting it into a nice media package and promotion is just plain weird. These celebrities making money off of the situation is, is, is - well bazaar. But that is what we get if we buy into the whole mass media and commercial hype. And of course they have created a controversy in order to give it more voyeurism appeal. If you tune in to see the latest of what these attention freaks are doing, just be real careful that it don't rub off on your real thoughts.

I was a freak once in the sense of statistical anomalies. I had Stage Four Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma with Pancreatic involvement. And I survived. That don't make me special. It just means I had a condition that is extremely rare to get and rarer to survive. I pray that all folks with this extremely rare condition of Gender confusion survive and thrive.

I just love this song. I was in charge of security in a very popular bar owned by two gay Hispanic surgeons when Shakira showed up, she has this really cool vib

Even the small mustard seed is equipped for greatness.

Can you tell that this tree is French?
Can you tell that this tree is French? | Source

Here is a fun one for you.

Let us just say that if you saw me coming in a dark alley you probably would quickly go the other way and holler for your friends. 6ft, some scars, Black Irish looking, 225 lbs and kind of a cowboy aura about me. On closer inspection you would find a 57 year old with a smooshed nose who looks at least 67. Now create a scenario where that guy is the primary care giver for a wonderful little 5 year old looking Asian and just starting kindergarten. Sure I show up holding my little buddy's hand and smiling. Well without a doubt the other mothers kind of giggle and clumsily ask if I am grandpa and think something weird is going on.

Hey, by all accounts I am a great house mom and mother. When his mom gets home he is scrubbed and taught and fed and exercised and happy and looking forward to sleeping and another day tomorrow. I am fully man but I am a great mom too. I reckon I am lucky because there is no confusion going on around here. We fully love in this home. And if that love requires that perhaps we take on roles traditionally left to another sex, well so be it, we embrace it.

On the other side. My wife is 4'10" on tippy toes, 90 lbs soaking wet and looks to be about 25. She has that Asian doll look about her. Her chosen profession is flooring. She deals with monsters of men in the construction industry. Her mere voice instills fear and angst among the toughest of slackers. She is not an equal among contractors she is a force. I wonder how she would take it if I told her she was equal to one of her competitor men, probably not well.

There is no doubt who wears the pants around here -- hey it is Southern Cal, she has to wear pants to work, I have 6 pair of shorts. I also have suits to wear when I get volunteer awards at my son's school.

Guys and gals

Life appears to be pretty darn short. So let me get to the sermon part here real quick. You are awesome. God did not make mistakes. If you are one of the very very few who are confused I kind of thank you. You make me stop and take notice. You bring an awareness to the forefront. Maybe I just was taking this whole sexuality thing for granted. All of society supports me in being a somewhat normal man. They support my whole family deal and his and hers clothes. They make it easy for me to hold hands in public and snuggle in private. They have men's and women's restrooms and advertisements geared for my normal.

Well this walk with God makes me uncomfortable sometimes. I think that is what God has in mind. This cool verse always gets me because it is all like medieval sounding and ominous: 2 Timothy 1: 6 Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands.7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

So then I get to say: Stir it up. Don't lay dormant. Personally evolve and mature and take these matters with a sound mind and mix in the love and cherish the gifts you have been given. And likewise cherish them in others and check that dang judgment maker at the door.

I just love music. Now go sing this song to your loved one.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Lawrence,

      I just think that part about God is the best. I start with the premise that I fully adore, am amazed by and love this world. Then I realize that when I try I understand how most things work. Then I find stuff I just cannot understand, real head scratchers. But they are part of the whole wonderful interactive world. And I am in awe of how it all fits together.

      Thanks for reminding me to take that time to meditate on the glories of the mysteries.

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      Lawrence Hebb 2 years ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      Pure dynamite! I read the hub this afternoon but had to read it again tonight just to make sure I've understood it right! I agree with you that God doesn't make mistakes.

      There's times when we haven't a clue what he's doing but then again he's God and we aren't

      Loved it

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jonny,

      There certainly is plenty of room for more unconditional love in this world.

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      I was simply trying to show that common attitudes to such afflictions as leprosy in ancient times were driven by superstition and attributed to concepts of "God's Retribution."

      Such beliefs lead people to reject those most in need of unconditional love.... the disfigured sufferers of leprosy being an example.

      Today, when scientific research has given so much more and increasing understanding, there is no excuse for treating any minority with ignorance and superstition.

      It is my opinion that the idea of Original Sin, and pointing the finger at people for their supposed guilt, is a very ill-informed and un-loving habit. It's conveniently easy and it might make one feel a sense of belonging when associated with others of the same mind.

      Yet this very mind-set is totally at odds with the un-conditional Love that is supposed to be the unique characteristic of the Christ you worship.

      Hence my example of the pleading Leper. Try to do anything out of unconditional love, long before making any form of judgement. Not easy to do, for sure! But effort there must be.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      And who among us can raise their hand when asked if they have grace and beauty in words? Well I know somebody who sure can. Do you and your heart a big old favor and go visit her. http://hubpages.com/@faithreaper

      Thank you Faith for sharing a bit of you with us, it brightens my day and puts a joy in my step.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Eric,

      I love your statements ..."Equality is a myth if you think it means sameness. And thank God for that. Genders are real and thank God for that. If you believe that you are not treated equally simply because of your gender and you do not kick some butt to get it straightened out, then you are part of the problem." Woo, I know I work so hard at my profession, just as hard as any male, and then when a male tries to state otherwise, one does not back down and accept what they are saying as truth, and stand up for oneself to dispute such and not believe one word of such mess. A long time ago I had a supervisor who told me that I was not paid to think, but to type! I looked at him dead in the eyes and told him straight up and said that is not the truth. He never said anything like that again.

      Yes, genders are real, and you have given thanks to the right One here, as far as genders go, no mistake about that. As God makes known to us on the very last page of His Holy Word, that we are not to add to or take away from His Holy Word, and so that does place pastors/preachers ...and all really, more of making sure we don't place our own spin on God's truth.

      In your other statements ..."There appears to be a very small percentage of people that suffer from a state of confusion about their own gender. My best estimates put it at somewhere around about 1/10th of 1 percentage of folks. Well statistically that would place it in the "anomaly" category." Yes, indeed, they are confused about their own gender, as you state, and in that confusion, we must love them and not judge them, and certainly welcome them, especially when they are searching for answers from the God who created them. Any church (Body of Christ) who does not welcome them and love on them and allow them to hear God's truth for themselves, is certainly not a disciple of Christ. If we do not love, we do not know God, as He tells us in His Word. By the power of the Holy Spirit, and God's love, all can rest assured in who they are and when that happens, there is no longer any confusion. I truly believe without one shred of doubt, God wants all to know who He created them to be through His eyes.

      As your other recent hub discussed ...all lives matters, and so not sure why jonny is bringing up lepers here, but their lives matters too, and I know Jackie is not saying anything against lepers.

      Let us be mindful to love as God loves, and even those who are truly confused to love them even more, so that they will truly know the love of God, and one day understand just who He created them to be.

      Peace and blessings

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      In reading these comments I am moved by the sincerity. It was good of both of you to write your thoughts on these matters for others to see. While I cannot speak for others, I find that I have this dialogue with myself. Perhaps it is in the searching that answers are found and not in the conclusions.

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      And you really believe you are living a Christ-filled life, Jackie?

      It might feel comfortable.....but put aside the law and judgement. Go and clasp the disfigured hands of a leper who is reaching up to you and asking for unconditional love.

      You have asked the same from your Saviour. Pass it on.

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      Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

      What I think and feel has nothing to do with this.

      So you are saying God has changed His mind? He is sorry He destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah? If we cannot believe the bible then how can we know or believe anything? God is love and that is why He gave us the written word to read for ourselves lead by the Spirit instead of believing do gooders who never have. You have your god and believe what he tells you apparently and carry it on to others to mislead them. Every man is responsible for his own soul and those he takes down along the way.

      I have no more to say to you. Dust from my feet as the bible might say...God knows my heart and that's all that matters.

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      Yes, yes, you know what is written. But do you know anything about that man who supposedly wrote them?

      Do you know to whom he was speaking them and why, in what circumstances?

      Did he know any of the circumstances that we find ourselves in, 2000 years later?

      We read of "Leprosy" in the bible. Research can tell us that it was most probably not the exact same disease we know of today. If we treated today's sufferers the same way they were treated then, it would be inappropriate, unjust, cruel......circumstances change. We need to allow it, learn new and better attitudes based upon sound knowledge - not superstition and prejudice.

      When you try to conjure up strict doctrinal laws, you constrict the very God you claim to obey and worship.

      You speak of Love, yet your words do not convey it.

      I can only commend you to search further into your own heart - look for the basis of your fears. Don't worry about the law as it applies to others.... that is not your first concern.

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      Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

      All I can do is give you God's words for love not hate. To lie is not love but only give God's word and no one should hate me for that. You have forced it so maybe you wanted the truth out here is all I can imagine because I cannot sit by and have God called a liar and he warns for love not hate. He wants all to see Heaven; He loves the worst sinner; He sent His son to die for us. We must love each other enough to speak only God's true message because sin does not enter heaven. He makes it very clear, indeed.

      1 Corinthians 6:9-11King James Version (KJV)

      9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

      10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

      11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

      For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: Romans 1:26

      And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. Romans 1:27

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      Sorry Jackie .... it is not absolutely clear. There have been numerous interpretations over centuries concerning what the words and expressions mean. Even well-educated scholars can argue, 'til the cows come home, about the historical social meaning of ancient scriptures. The perceived meaning in most cases is determined by individual bias and background

      In my opinion it is delving honestly and prayerfully into my own bias that will show me the foundation of hates, likes, fears, doubts, etc., within my own mind and which can limit my love for others.

      Narrow and fixed ideas about what we see as "God's Laws" in the bible will only blind you to the genuine needs of humanity. It serves to perpetuate the Pharisee attitude above the unconditional love of the Christ which you seek for your self.

      "Do unto others...."

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      Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

      johnny as I said, I can read. The bible is perfectly clear on it and there is not an ounce of room for doubt. Like Eric I am glad it is not something in my life I have to fight or make a decision on but any Christian who does not know what God thinks does not read his bible. It is not my words but God's so if you want to argue, take it up with Him, not me. If you don't have time to read then google some verses about it. Very clear; no doubt and not my words. I would never change the words to suit myself. I do fear God and by that I respect what He thinks and commands. I live by His word, not man's.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Frank admit it, some of you are more equal than most of us. If I could equal your writing prowess I would gladly skip my way into inequality.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you for taking the time to explain yourself in such a respectable and gracious manner Jonny. An open and honest exchange of ideas and opinions is a thing of beauty.

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      Frank Atanacio 2 years ago from Shelton

      I feel that anyone in their own expression can express their views about gender equality and whether or not you think men and women black or white, fat or skinny should be equal in society... oh I enjoyed here is one fun one for you section.. again an awesome sermon my friend :)

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      Thank you for your understanding.

      None of us must expect that each of our points of view is absolute and beyond reproach/the only one to be held. Even if you are not in agreement with mine I can (and aught to) respect yours since you have not come by it lightly. I cannot deny Jackie her opinion but when any opinion serves to support a biased and discriminatory stance, then all I have the right to do is confront it.

      I hope this can be a positive and healing process for you readers. It is not intended to be divisive.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well, that is an issue that we should be careful about. Thanks for pointing out your perspective. I think that I am somewhat guilty on both sides. I am over touchy about it and yet do it. Oh well, progress not perfection.

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      Yes I apologise for the angst Eric. The expression "....we know how to read and exactly what God has to say about everything..." implies that there are some of us who are decidedly inferior.

      I cannot let it rest without comment. For me, it is so far from the Christ-like love of individual freedom of choice and accompanying responsibility. Let's face it - I cannot know it all...

      So many wars and conflict are caused by that presumption of righteousness. And the adamantly right Christian can rarely look honestly in the mirror....in my experience, having been there myself in bigone years.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jonny, Can you put that in a less angst filled manner? I think I know where you are coming from and it seems there may be an area where more understanding is appropriate.

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      Jackie Lynnley, what you have said there does not rest easy wih me. It all sounds very self-righteous, like "I'm ok with God because I got it all right and anyone who doesn't see it like I do is not right with God."

      You can believe what you want but it's only according to your particular understanding.

      Let's face the fact: you might even be totally misunderstanding of everything. How can you be 100% sure you got it all right?

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Carly, it is good to hear from you. I hope you were out helping others find health through art. I look forward to having you around more. As you know I get therapy through writing.

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      CarlySullens 2 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

      Hey Eric,

      I've been away from Hubpages for a while. We used to support each other. I enjoyed coming back tonight and reading some of your hubs. Wonderful and enlightening. I enjoy you and your hubs very much.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dana. Those of us here and on the streets are blessed to have you. Ultreya

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      Dana Tate 2 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      Great Monday sermon Eric. Times are changing that's for sure.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dora, It would sure be nice to think that I am growing. Actually school started up and so I get to spend more time where I want to, in the world of thought. I am blessed.

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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, you and your Sunday sermons are growing richer, deeper every week. Very insightful!

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Alan, it is a true pleasure to have you visit. It is a nice space to be in, to accept others as they come. I wasted a lot of years being fearful of differences and then defensively antagonistic. I suppose it was meant to be that way, but I do wish I had not missed out for so long. Thanks.

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      John Hansen 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Welcome to the congregation Johnny.

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      Alan 2 years ago from Tasmania

      Eric, you amaze me! Wonderful..... just about the only "sermon" I could ever stomach here in HP. And maybe yours is the only little congregation I would join and feel warmly welcomed..... maybe not the only one. There are some good souls here too!

      I just wrote a little ad lib poem in another persons discussion thread, about Unique. You and I are it. Let's expand this into welcoming the world of infinite diversity. It that is what "God" means, them I'm in bed with Him.

      (Currently in North England, so the time zones have changed)

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Good Morning John! My niece in Cu Chi just called on her way to school in your part of the world. Here we are taking in the cool breeze of the evening. Thank you for your kind and supporting words.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jackie, our blessings become so clear when we see others who truly suffer. Tonight it made me even more aware of my little slice of "normal", and for that I am extremely grateful. Our little financial, health and social problems really pale in comparison to others. Thanks for coming by.

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      John Hansen 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      This was perhaps your greatest sermon yet Eric (for me anyway). Thanks for sharing your wisdom and part of your life.

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      Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

      We are so many of us so lucky that we are not confused and know exactly who we are. We also know how to read and exactly what God has to say about everything. Thank God for those of us who still can and would never call God a liar! God have mercy on those who do.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      You are so right on Bill. But I do miss my favorite exercise of jumping to conclusions and then resting on my laurels afterwards. But don't you have to concern yourself with gender with all your little breeding critters ;-)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      "God did not make mistakes"....I heard it another way..."God don't make junk." The meaning is the same. I have serious issues to deal with on a daily basis...gender is not one of them. By that I mean, for me, it's a non-issue. If God created it then it must be right. Period!

      Thanks for the bonus Monday sermon.