Eric's Sunday Sermon; Aggravations of Life, and Love
So Many Questions
Are aggravations a necessary part of a healthy life? Can it be that love causes us aggravations? Are you less than “enlightened” if you actually get aggravated?
We hear way too often from self-appointed wise ones that they do not get aggravated it serves no purpose. Or since I spend a lot of time philosophizing “preaching” about love I like to hear this one; “I love my wife so much that she never aggravates me.”
A preacher friend of mine Tim Truzy did a wonderful piece using quotes to help us go for peace of mind. A must read for all persuasions of the spiritual life. “9 Quotations About Finding Peace of Mind Plus More” While I of course give him accolades there is one very plain fact – we all lose piece of mind sometimes. You see there I was being a self-appointed guru on love and I needed that.
Now this brings me to wonder if we do not need aggravation. You all know that I love my Jesus. Just type in “verses on Jesus being upset”. My favorite is when his students are told to wait for him while he went to pray, coming back he found them all asleep. The cool part here is that we all fall asleep on the road to a peace without aggravation and we need a swift kick to get back on track.
Now I dearly love my 8 year old boy. Anyone who even slightly knows me knows that. I always say I am not the evangelical type – well that is half true. I evangelize about my sons and daughters. I suppose because I love them so much they “should” not aggravate me. If you buy into that, go take a cold shower and sober up.
Now I would suggest that Buddha sat under that Bodhi tree, in part to get away from aggravation, he meditated on the tree looking for enlightenment. Well let me tell you spending your time with a great tree is a fine way to relieve/escape aggravation.
Too many people, in my opinion, equate aggravation with stress. That sure has its merit. But I think it is what I would call a 20% value. I write a whole bunch and enjoy it. But while I am writing those pesky little objections to spelling pop up. Now that is a good thing. But sometimes it really aggravates me as it interrupts my flow. But I would never disable it.
Let Me Pause And Remember All Things Pass
One Day Passes So Another May Come
Get Over It And Dont Cause Further Aggravations
What is aggravation in the sense we are using it? Well we should all agree that it is a strange duck. One moment something aggravates us and the next moment it does not aggravate us. I suppose we could say something that irritates us is an aggravation. But many people use exercise as health enhancer and stress reducer. Many people exercise with others. Is it irritating or aggravating to miss a putt?
I would suggest that it is aggravating. When I go hiking and there is garbage along the trail I think I get irritated. But maybe aggravated I cannot find a trail with no garbage. Is a skin rash irritating or aggravating? The cool part about looking at the two is that it gives us insight into aggravation. Maybe it is a matter of severity of the irritation. Go ahead and look them up, some dictionaries say an aggravation leads to an irritation – others pretty much the other way around.
So I think here we just let you decide for yourself. This article is not dependent on a definition but rather just the notion. Here is a fun one. On a medicine warning they will say it may cause some irritation. Regarding an injury we say that you may aggravated it. Go figure, really? My body gets aggravated and irritated? I doubt my skin gets aggravated or irritated, instead of my brain. That is just for fun.
What is a pet peeve?
Here is another fun one. Because of a health deal I get the full diagnostic procedure package fairly often. It is extremely aggravating to know too much about your health. You laugh but it is true.
My wife is a great cleaner upper. She gets home late from work while the house is asleep and cleans up. Last night she decided a work bench was dirty so she cleaned it, including throwing out some real important instructions for a pump I am assembling (a stupid man thing ;-). Sorry but no matter how much love I have that is aggravating. On the other hand I was irritated with myself for leaving it a mess.
I think that will cause me to be more diligent in that regard. Nothing will be said about it as I dig them out of the garbage and “get over it”. And she does not complain about the mess.
A New Day
Only You Can You know Your Aggravations
Life Brings Troubles
Does love “conquer all”? I believe most assuredly it does. Notice in that phrase there is a “conquer” in that. (Roman poet Virgil) And you get it from Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians 13. So we ponder that. There are all these things that love conquers. If life did not have all these complications what would there be to conquer?
I don’t think I ever have heard that “love prevents all”?
Meditation on and with love requires a clearing of the mind and a centering without distraction or with distraction that we let pass on. The meditation does not prevent distractions in the world it just lets us get over them. I love the phrase “deal with it Eric”. It helps me deal with it.
Now it is very possible I would imagine for a monk sequestered from the world that he would have very little aggravation. So I often wonder if that is a good thing. There are some people who seem to have great bliss in life. Good for them but I do not think for a second they do not have aggravations.
I know that apathy is the opposite of love. I suppose if you just did not care about anything you would simply not get aggravated as much.
Aggravation from the inside. I have no doubt that an internal love would conquer that. With getting older there is much aggravation about the things we just cannot do or do as well as when we were younger. The love to conquer that is that presumably we get wiser with age and should count that a blessing. You cannot get rid of traffic jams and they are aggravating. I wonder if love can conquer that. (I cheat because I can, I don’t schedule anything during a rush hour) So avoiding aggravation is good when we can.
People who know me would call me very positive to a point of excess. This prevents many aggravations. But in truth that positivity is caused by basically loving even challenges. Maybe a chicken and egg issue.
As I was writing this my son came in to pester me with a magnet game. For 21 seconds he aggravated me. Right while I was writing this. The sermon waits and the games begin. How long are they little anyway? No question we are going to Home Depot to get bigger and bigger magnets. And the beat goes on, and love conquers all the aggravations of life.