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Eric's Sunday Sermon; Aggravations of Life, and Love

Updated on November 18, 2018
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

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Look at the little guys bugging him.
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So Many Questions

Are aggravations a necessary part of a healthy life? Can it be that love causes us aggravations? Are you less than “enlightened” if you actually get aggravated?

We hear way too often from self-appointed wise ones that they do not get aggravated it serves no purpose. Or since I spend a lot of time philosophizing “preaching” about love I like to hear this one; “I love my wife so much that she never aggravates me.”

A preacher friend of mine Tim Truzy did a wonderful piece using quotes to help us go for peace of mind. A must read for all persuasions of the spiritual life. “9 Quotations About Finding Peace of Mind Plus More” While I of course give him accolades there is one very plain fact – we all lose piece of mind sometimes. You see there I was being a self-appointed guru on love and I needed that.

Now this brings me to wonder if we do not need aggravation. You all know that I love my Jesus. Just type in “verses on Jesus being upset”. My favorite is when his students are told to wait for him while he went to pray, coming back he found them all asleep. The cool part here is that we all fall asleep on the road to a peace without aggravation and we need a swift kick to get back on track.

Now I dearly love my 8 year old boy. Anyone who even slightly knows me knows that. I always say I am not the evangelical type – well that is half true. I evangelize about my sons and daughters. I suppose because I love them so much they “should” not aggravate me. If you buy into that, go take a cold shower and sober up.

Now I would suggest that Buddha sat under that Bodhi tree, in part to get away from aggravation, he meditated on the tree looking for enlightenment. Well let me tell you spending your time with a great tree is a fine way to relieve/escape aggravation.

Too many people, in my opinion, equate aggravation with stress. That sure has its merit. But I think it is what I would call a 20% value. I write a whole bunch and enjoy it. But while I am writing those pesky little objections to spelling pop up. Now that is a good thing. But sometimes it really aggravates me as it interrupts my flow. But I would never disable it.

Let Me Pause And Remember All Things Pass

One Day Passes So Another May Come

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Get Over It And Dont Cause Further Aggravations

What is aggravation in the sense we are using it? Well we should all agree that it is a strange duck. One moment something aggravates us and the next moment it does not aggravate us. I suppose we could say something that irritates us is an aggravation. But many people use exercise as health enhancer and stress reducer. Many people exercise with others. Is it irritating or aggravating to miss a putt?

I would suggest that it is aggravating. When I go hiking and there is garbage along the trail I think I get irritated. But maybe aggravated I cannot find a trail with no garbage. Is a skin rash irritating or aggravating? The cool part about looking at the two is that it gives us insight into aggravation. Maybe it is a matter of severity of the irritation. Go ahead and look them up, some dictionaries say an aggravation leads to an irritation – others pretty much the other way around.

So I think here we just let you decide for yourself. This article is not dependent on a definition but rather just the notion. Here is a fun one. On a medicine warning they will say it may cause some irritation. Regarding an injury we say that you may aggravated it. Go figure, really? My body gets aggravated and irritated? I doubt my skin gets aggravated or irritated, instead of my brain. That is just for fun.

What is a pet peeve?

Here is another fun one. Because of a health deal I get the full diagnostic procedure package fairly often. It is extremely aggravating to know too much about your health. You laugh but it is true.

My wife is a great cleaner upper. She gets home late from work while the house is asleep and cleans up. Last night she decided a work bench was dirty so she cleaned it, including throwing out some real important instructions for a pump I am assembling (a stupid man thing ;-). Sorry but no matter how much love I have that is aggravating. On the other hand I was irritated with myself for leaving it a mess.

I think that will cause me to be more diligent in that regard. Nothing will be said about it as I dig them out of the garbage and “get over it”. And she does not complain about the mess.

A New Day

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Only You Can You know Your Aggravations

Life Brings Troubles

Does love “conquer all”? I believe most assuredly it does. Notice in that phrase there is a “conquer” in that. (Roman poet Virgil) And you get it from Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians 13. So we ponder that. There are all these things that love conquers. If life did not have all these complications what would there be to conquer?

I don’t think I ever have heard that “love prevents all”?

Meditation on and with love requires a clearing of the mind and a centering without distraction or with distraction that we let pass on. The meditation does not prevent distractions in the world it just lets us get over them. I love the phrase “deal with it Eric”. It helps me deal with it.

Now it is very possible I would imagine for a monk sequestered from the world that he would have very little aggravation. So I often wonder if that is a good thing. There are some people who seem to have great bliss in life. Good for them but I do not think for a second they do not have aggravations.

I know that apathy is the opposite of love. I suppose if you just did not care about anything you would simply not get aggravated as much.

Aggravation from the inside. I have no doubt that an internal love would conquer that. With getting older there is much aggravation about the things we just cannot do or do as well as when we were younger. The love to conquer that is that presumably we get wiser with age and should count that a blessing. You cannot get rid of traffic jams and they are aggravating. I wonder if love can conquer that. (I cheat because I can, I don’t schedule anything during a rush hour) So avoiding aggravation is good when we can.

People who know me would call me very positive to a point of excess. This prevents many aggravations. But in truth that positivity is caused by basically loving even challenges. Maybe a chicken and egg issue.

As I was writing this my son came in to pester me with a magnet game. For 21 seconds he aggravated me. Right while I was writing this. The sermon waits and the games begin. How long are they little anyway? No question we are going to Home Depot to get bigger and bigger magnets. And the beat goes on, and love conquers all the aggravations of life.


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dora. And I give thanks for you.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Manatita

      That notion of lightness is such a friend of mine.

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      Dora Weithers 

      2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Love doesn't prevent it; Love conquers it. Just like God for God is love. Thanks for the meaningful illustrations. Happy Thanksgiving!

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      2 weeks ago from london

      Yes, Light into darkness or Love conquers all. There really is no other way. A wonderful Hub and some interesting facts on aggravation vs irritation and stress. Peace.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sean I like how you think. I wonder how much of Christ's angst was a show. I admit I fake being angry with my son to get a point across. My problem is we both end up giggling because he can read me like a book.

      But you have seen me as a trial attorney getting upset in front of a jury. I think the judge would know but would not give it away.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Patricia - those waiting are really a kick with an 8 year old (no longer asking for all that stuff where you stand in line) Normally we look and roll our eyes and probably just as often give each other a smile. I still get aggravated though as so many people do not know how to follow my rules of etiquette, hihihi

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      2 weeks ago from Greece, Almyros

      My favorite scene with Jesus being upset is when he kicked some ... traders in the temple of Solomon! I believe he did it on purpose and He was not really upset, but He wanted to show that sometimes you have to...

      Thank you for another thoughtful article, full of Love, my brother Eric!



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      Patricia Scott 

      2 weeks ago from sunny Florida

      So much truth in your writing and the humor keeps me reading. I do get aggravated...sometimes about HUGE things and other times not so huge things. I do not get aggravated when I have to wait in line...because I cheat like you do with scheduling appointments. I go no where in a hurry so am neither irritated or aggravated when I must wait...I plan on it. Angels are on the way this evening. ps

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      2 weeks ago from Washington DC


      The reason I said *"new birth" - [requires] one [to] focus within rather to some external "god in the sky" while communicating your need"* is for people to stop listening for answers to come from the outside of us and lean to obey the internal voice. That was why Adam and Eve were spoken to externally by the bodiless voice, to stop our listening within ourselves and began to listening to external voices so we could become "brainwashed" into submission to other human. Internal is the the source of all knowledge and understanding of it, i.e., hearing the 360 degrees required to understand things in completeness rather than the 180 or less caused by our judging based on judging caused emotions.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Mona. My poor wife, I can put a positive spin on anything. I think as partly a cultural thing although not restricted to that culture, that while you are working on something you may not be smiling or it means you are not working hard. ??? Same with aggravations, we can approach them with a smile.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah that was quite interesting. But we diverge here. To me this is in error; "new birth" - where one focuses within rather to some external "god in the sky" while communicating your need."

      Love and God are not restrained into the inner sphere. If it were true I could in no way love you. Call it in the "sky" or like me; "everywhere in a connection with all being as one full Love" (note not being"s" but rather being)

      You know I do not like any idea that in our little tiny souls we can decide what is and what is not the full capacity of Love as God is Love.

      You seem to want to define and confine.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      2 weeks ago from Philippines

      I like your attitude to aggravations. I also enjoyed noting your distinctions between aggravation and irritation. Also, it was really funny when you compared aggravation to a duck. This was a most enlightening and inspiring article.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Chitrangada Sharan it is great to hear from you.

      I know this sounds hypocritical but I get aggravated by negative people. With my children the worst four letter word is can't.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Nell so true. My normal one reflects my boneheadedness "Eric you know doing that hurts, so why do you keep doing it?" I am a slow learner. Why do I get so aggravated I have trouble putting things together and still don't read the directions?

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      2 weeks ago from New Delhi, India

      A well written and thought provoking article!

      I agree with you that Love conquers all, even the aggravations of life.

      I don’t get aggravated often and I don’t know whether it’s a good or bad characteristics. But keeps me peaceful and that is what matters.

      It also depends on the situation and the people around.

      Nice Sermon, full of wisdom. Thanks for sharing!

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      Nell Rose 

      3 weeks ago from England

      Hi Eric, I find that when I get angry/annoyed, I take a deep breath and think out the consequences! lol! Or I should say, I learned my lesson!

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      3 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Eric, I have experienced it.

      For it to work one must first go through a metamorphosis called "born again" - maybe in meditation seeking the "new birth" - where one focuses within rather to some external "god in the sky" while communicating your need. You may hear what appear to be an external voice give you directions or you may get an impression completely contrary to your way of thinking, that is the voice to listen to. Our thought process is at most 180 degrees because of judging but our inner voice sees 360 degrees at all times. Many times it will sound foreign to us but obedience will prove it's the answer for us.

      If you look at most of Jesus' teachings they go completely contrary to societal standards, the god within us will also. Look at Luke 17:21's "heaven is within", Mat. 19:29's forsake everything of civilization, "who is my mother and brethren except those seeking to do the will of my father" and so many more of his words, those are the things for us to obey if we really want to be obedient to the Christ teachings.

      Paul's conversion belie "heaven is within us" because the light and voice was heard and seen by his companions - no one has ever heard my voices although others have been around me and my elder sister heard a voice that I didn't and wasn't my mother's. Paul said "follow me as I follow Christ", he made tents for money when Jesus said "give to Cesar what is his" and hinted our bodies are god's and there are other contradictions. However, Paul did say, concerning the new birth, "the invisible things are seen by the things made" so the rebirth has to be time consuming and not the instant version the church teaches.

      Peace brother

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah this reminds me of a deep meditation being able to slow every part of our body as we set our intentions to do so.

      A S.E.A.L. I met in my sangha yoga meditation class was there to get a re-certification in undersea air tank stuff. The faster organs goe the more oxygen you use and it cuts your "air" time which is critical.

      The other I think of is when rock climbing we want some adrenaline flow to peak performance. Long distance runner - slow. Fan at sports -fast ;-). A full tree pose using arms to help balance is a no no. If you use your eyes to sleep - of what purpose.


      May I ask? Too me you sound like you are done figuring it out and that you are right. How does that work?

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Cool question Liz. My grandfather was a master carpenter. My father a physician. Seems to me that 50 years ago they just loved their crafts. Rather than "getting" it done they enjoyed doing it just as much. I grew up 4 months a year in a place with no running water or electricity.

      So I think, to me, the question answers itself. Yes.

      Thanks a lot for the intriguing notion to think about.

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      Liz Westwood 

      3 weeks ago from UK

      The question that springs to my mind is "Do we have more aggravations now in the fast-movibg digital world than we would have done 50 years ago?"

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      3 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Bro Eric, Look at God like looking at your body in the following light.

      Your life-force is god of your body yet every organ, blood cell, bone, piece of skin, and everything else that's a requirement for the body to function is also you. Doctors can remove any organ, skin, blood or other organ and sustain it for a while before implanting it into another body and it still functions - much like a potato clipping put in the ground. That is because it has a life-force of its own independent of your life-force but to function it must be in a location conducive to its performance before it will do what it's designed to do. Whatever body the organ is put in that body's life-force runs through it therefore it doesn't have to speak outside of itself let the parent life-force know something is in error with it, it sends the message inward into your life-force and you then responds accordingly. That is why we are "in the father and the father is in us" so all we need to do is send the message within to be rewarded "openly".

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, I get you on that short week. My week is short but great with my boy out of school. Our actual day is a bit strange as we mix Vietnamese culture with mine. (My only culture is in my yogurt) LoL

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Pamela - about that tailgating - it really urks me. So I adjust my windshield wiper fluid spray to also go over my car. (I am by nature mean;-) I hear you on that mellow and happy deal for health. Ditto.

      Love is my only cure.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am 100% with you Linda. I forgot to book mark it but one online said exactly the opposite that continued aggravation leads to irritation. Potato potato I say.

      It reminded me of Dr. notes - we go in with pain and they write down "irritation". And then that Pet Peeve concept.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah that is such a cool idea "question the god within" That is a sermon in and of its self - pray to whom? Should we also pray to what is known as "we are all gods" - compared to praying to the supreme?

      If God is Love and that love resides within - well then?

      No not a sermon just a hub.

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      Bill Holland 

      3 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      The only aggravation I have this week is getting my writing done in a short week. Not a bad week if that's my biggest problem.

      Happy Thanksgiving my friend,and thank you!

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      3 weeks ago from Sunny Florida

      I imagine most of us have aggravations. I hate when someoe tailgates me when I am driving. At home there are occasional annoyances, but love does make a difference. I don't like being stressed or angry. For one thing I have several health problems, so staying in a positive frame of mind seems to keep me a bit healthier, or at least happier.

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      Linda Lum 

      3 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, how this concept--if it happens once it's an irritation. If it happens again (and again) it's an aggravation. To me, an irritation can be shrugged off, but an aggravation is something that really frosts my cupcakes.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      3 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Eric, When we hear "from self-appointed wise ones that they do not get aggravated it serves no purpose" you should run away immediately. Until anyone has fully manifested as a "man" (minds who understand all things with the ability to exceed earth and everything hereon) those aggravations are a reminding us we have more growing to do or as you said it "a reminder to wake up".

      In saying "My body gets aggravated and irritated? I doubt my skin gets aggravated or irritated, instead of my brain" you touched on the actuality of it, they are judgments and we are told "judge not" beginning in the garden. Instead of judging question your god within yourself "what do I need to do to eliminate this" rather than your going to the doctor to prescribe you more irritants.

      And so, since all things are predestined, the lessons of life continue, there was something you were not to mention here, thus, time to stop.

      Peace Brother


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