ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel
  • »
  • Religion and Philosophy»
  • Non-denominational Beliefs & Practices

Eric's Sunday Sermon; Consistency

Updated on July 30, 2017

Interesting About Getting Older

Consistency sometimes is a change. We do not treat this boy the same now that he is seven. We consistently grow with him.
Consistency sometimes is a change. We do not treat this boy the same now that he is seven. We consistently grow with him.

Consistency In The Face of Inconsistent and Bad

Our consistency, our staying the course and our resilience are absolutely necessary for running the good race of life. Not so sure they have them anymore but we used to have “one hit wonders”. And act or a song or an artist or combination that made it big for only one song. There have been many. It is kind of cool. There are some politicians like that. Perhaps in politics that is how it should be.

In both cases what we see is the splash. We do not see the day in and day out hard work. If a parent makes a pretty good mistake, that is what we will see. We will not see the day to day, day after day that adds up to years and years of good parenting. Or perhaps in good or in bad we just see the result. We do not see the longsuffering that masks pain of any sort that is endured.

Most assuredly know that illnesses that are not readily physically witnessed are not treated the same as those that are. Yet the battle to overcome requires constant vigil which also is not seen by others. Consistency is required even if to an outside eye the dramatic is all that is noticed.

So in all this we see that consistency is a two way street. Is the person a friend that for over twenty years have been your friend and yet on day X they screw up really badly? They were not consistent for a moment. Is our love toward them consistent? Is our support for an artist only there when they reach the top 10? Is a parent only consistent when the child is consistently being good? And likewise is a child only consistently loving a parent when they are consistent in being a great parent? Do hiccups which disturb our regular pattern mean we are bad breathers?

We all too often allow our decisions of enjoying life and more important, other life, to become fogged by another’s failures in the area of “consistently good”. There seems to be a strange notion that sins are forgiven and we accept that we all do sin, but a single slight in a relationship erases years of friendship.

So we all must strive for consistency. Especially when raising a child. It is paramount to good parenting. But perhaps the best part of that consistency is when we screw up we own it and move on. “Mom was wrong, but she will consistently make amends”.

Most Folks Just Do Something Wrong But Are Not Bad To The Bone

St. Francis Is Said To Be Good to The Bone

I must admit that I like a consistent routine. Do we still say "fuddy duddy'?
I must admit that I like a consistent routine. Do we still say "fuddy duddy'? | Source

Do We Mirror, Through Our Spirit, The Wrong Of Others?

Blindness to our lack of consistency is a hell wrought upon others. Insisting on blaming another rather than ourselves, yes, right or wrong is really bad stuff. When we adopt a good moral fiber it is not a guaranteed immunization to doing wrong. Can I pray on stuff, think deeply about it and then sleep on it and wake up determined to fix the fact that what I did yesterday was not what I now, today would do? Am I a strong enough person to consistently soften my heart.

There is a really good part in the Bible about repeat offenders. It reminds me of the poor folks who suffer with aggravated cases of Bi-Polar 1 disease and the alcoholic. If they are putting their heart and soul and mind into it they can do just fine – 90% of the time. But for friends and family that 10% is what defines the relationship. So once or twice a year these afflicted souls screw up badly due to swings or relapses. So back to our Bible part. Mat 18:21.“21Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother who sins against me? Up to seven times?” 22Jesus answered, “I tell you, not just seven times, but seventy-seven times!”. (yes some Bible translations say 70 times 7) This is good advice and so hard to do. Heck, loving your enemy is easier than loving someone who has been inconsistently good. Again it is turned around. Are we consistent? Do we love and forgive 7 times but on the 8th become inconsistent in loving. The person who acted badly is met by the person who understands badly and all of the sudden gunshots are fired and war breaks out. Why does 1 or 60 bad things wipe out 1 million good?

“Oh he has burned me so many times, this is it, I want nothing more to do with it!” And there went our consistency in forgiveness. But my child just kept arguing and arguing and so I yelled harshly at him. And there went my consistency for the child out the window. Please do not judge it. Just see it for what it is.

If another person’s horrible behavior changes me then what am I other than a reed blowing in the wind and shriveling when my environment is not just right? Doesn’t that in a real true way make me a coward? Oh my dear I cannot handle that person anymore because it is just too much work and energy. I suggest that you will then need to spend tenfold that energy living with yourself.

Some Times Being Sorry Is The Best We Can Do

Sorry Kids, I Should Have Done Better

How can good children turn out good in spite of their parents.
How can good children turn out good in spite of their parents.

Stand By Your Loved Ones, No Matter What

So poor old mom gets early onset dementia/Alzheimer’s and boom. She does not mess up weekly, she gets to mess up hourly. Child moves back home as dual caregiver with dad. Mom messes up once. All is forgiven. Mom messes up hourly for two years. Does our very necessary consistency and routine change because it is 7 times 70? But back to our Bi-Polar I. He is younger and he self-medicates with booze. Let us say 55. When he messes up for the tenth time all children abandon and spouse calls it quits. Our consistency seems built on our compassion and somehow our compassion is an inside job and not a loving one at that. Based on our judgment Mom is now welcome though weird and dad is now an unwelcome person.

We see that our consistency is based on our judgment. Ignorance is bliss. Do we say “how could he do this to me?” when he is drunk but, we say “poor mom” when she is in her pajamas at the neighbors at 3 am. I pray the Lord that I be consistent in my appraisal and love of myself and others. I really sometimes wish I had a broken leg rather than cancer. You cannot see my cancer but you can see my cast.

No way are we that shallow! Or am I?

Multiple children and you have an issue. Jane actively rebels with a touch of lie. Billy is being like the sacred child and Suzie is being dense. How consistently can a parent treat these children with the same but different love? John is perfect today in 1st grade but two months into 2nd he is hell on wheels. Dad was cool in November but really sucked in July. He was welcome then but not welcome now. Who lost their consistency?

Here we are strict with screens and electronic stuff. Such must be done before the privilege. I hope we do not disappoint disciplinarians. But we require as much free play outside as inside screen stuff. I think around 10 minutes of chore type stuff per 20 minutes of game time. And probably 20 minutes of exercise stuff per half hour of tablet or Ipad stuff. We measure by pinch and love and not by measuring cup and tea spoon.

I wish I was more consistent in the day to day. And I am glad that I break consistency from time to time to the good, and surprise with some special love giving.

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise, we have to try and balance consistent forgiveness with consistent love. Sometimes forgiving is not what our loved ones need. They need our honest to God love which can be near brutal. I was just thinking that all the pleasantries kind of fade away as I recall the most meaningful conversations that I have had. Real loved ones setting me straight, I thank God for them.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Jackie. Perhaps just giving it our best shot is all that is required.

    • denise.w.anderson profile image

      Denise W Anderson 2 weeks ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I needed to hear this today! Thanks for the reminder that we all screw up, no matter who we are, and that the Lord expects us to treat others as he has treated us. We are to forgive, no matter what, no matter how many times, and no matter who they are. The problem, however, comes, when we are hurt because of another person's actions. Yes, we can forgive them, but does that mean that we allow them to hurt us again and again? I don't think so. Sometimes, it takes more love to stop someone from hurting you than it does to keep allowing them to hurt you over and over again.

    • Jackie Lynnley profile image

      Jackie Lynnley 2 weeks ago from The Beautiful South

      Great message Eric. Consistency truly is a big one.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim thank you for your thoughtful comment. Reading it I kind of got to thinking that I hope I am consistent in reading and saying hi on my friends hubs here. I hope I do not take the for granted.

    • tsmog profile image

      Tim Mitchell 2 weeks ago from Escondido, CA

      Good thoughts Eric. Pondering consistent and forgiveness gave opportunity to contemplating forgiveness itself. I know I fall short of being consistent with forgiveness. I may overlook and not forgive. I have no parenting experience, so I am only an observer, yet listening to your sermon I can see the importance of consistency.

    • annart profile image

      Ann Carr 2 weeks ago from SW England

      What a lovely thing to say, Eric! Thank you.

      Ann :)

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Shannon that is wonderfully succinctly put. And if we are aware and sentient about your truths we most likely can do better. Well at least I hope we try.

    • shanmarie profile image

      Shannon 2 weeks ago from Texas

      You make some good points here, Eric. I would say that no one is 100% consistent because that is just human nature that no one is perfect. We can't expect it of others and yet people often do.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ann I just got a breath of fresh air, and a jolt of love of life. And it all came from your comment. Of course you know we all have great friends here. And this might sound weird but you along with a handful of others, I actually write to. My friends make me better. Thank you.

    • annart profile image

      Ann Carr 2 weeks ago from SW England

      I love the way you put across your arguments, Eric. They make you sound so wonderfully human! I particularly like this line: 'Do hiccups which disturb our regular pattern mean we are bad breathers?' What a great analogy!

      Consistency is difficult. I look back at the way I was with my children and I know I was very inconsistent though I tried hard not to be. They don't seem to have suffered because of it but I still beat myself up about it!

      You're right that it's important for children - the disciplines and the freedoms and, above all, the love.

      Thanks for a wonderful read this Monday late evening, Eric.

      Ann

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John I just hit a change. I just cannot sustain four days in a row of hard physical exercise. And three makes the fourth hell. Doc just laughs at me, and asks me my age again.

      So life forces me to change. As I get older I do not have to do it myself it just happens.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Dora, what you speak of is what my notion of "long-suffering" is. Patience along with repetition of the manifestation of our love nature. A scholar once told me that the interpretation of "trudging" was right 300 years ago as being a steady walk with purpose. The word is still the same but now the definition goes more like a painful dirge. All I can do is choose to move forward each day.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, the first quote I can actually remember reading and getting was at the end of a vocabulary book chapter in first grade, "Variety is the spice of life". I ran hard with that for the next 40 years. Funny but planning to do something out of ordinary gets me a bit out of sync. But just doing something on the fly works OK. What a fantastic interesting thing our minds are.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill it must be tough being you. How does one even get close to consistent brilliance? Seeing how reading your hubs every week is part of my routine -- I ask that if you plan on quitting give advanced warning so I can get some withdrawal meds.

    • Jodah profile image

      John Hansen 2 weeks ago from Queensland Australia

      Great message, Eric. I am usually consistent in most things but you have to adapt to different situations and change now and then. I never fail to learn something from you, however.

    • MsDora profile image

      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      When it comes to offering forgiveness, consistency is a great quality. It is human to drop the ball sometimes, and even then it is expected that we forgive ourselves and others. We keep striving, consistently. Another good message!

    • Carb Diva profile image

      Linda Lum 2 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, is consistency another word for discipline? My family can count on my to handle the day-to-day things on a regular basis (the laundry is always done, the morning coffee is waiting when they get up, dinner is always at 6:30 pm, etc.)

      Of course things come up in the day-to-day that you hadn't planned on. Heck, sometimes it's even something FUN. It breaks the routine, the pace. Spontaneity? My fam wishes I had more of it. I tend to be a bit of a stick-in-the-mud. Discipline and being reliable are good--but breaking away from the mold is good for us too.

      Good message today.

    • billybuc profile image

      Bill Holland 2 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Well, buddy, in my daily routine I'm about as consistent as they come, and Bev is the exact opposite. I count on her to break my chains daily and show me the freedom of inconsistency. :) Great message!