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Eric's Sunday Sermon; Duty and Right. Helping Others and Stress

Updated on April 26, 2017

Just family. I am so blessed.

Stressed Out?

First we think about our stressed out lives. We know it is bad for us, but it just happens. So we Google about how to prevent stress and we find a little over 1 gazillion articles, blogs and reports on it. Mostly “sponsored” that will sell us a cure. Studies galore on the matter. Supplements, books, meditation, deep breathing and medicines seem most popular. And indeed they all work to some degree. And they are all very self centered. And so do not work as well as touted. I don’t know very many people that pray a lot who are too stressed out. And we now go from there.

Parents that feel out of control with managing their children have a whole lot of stress. People at work that do not feel capable of controlling work have a whole lot of stress. Doctors who treat disease have much stress – but do nurses who treat the patient have the same stress?

The number one most effective treatment for stress and depression is helping others. It just is. So now you can look at your work as helping others. Now you can look at controlling your children as helping others. And if you are a smart doc then you begin treating people and not diseases.

Many, myself included although I am very Bible bound, believe that Love is God. As God is Love. I get my centering on this from 1 John 4:8. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. If we believe in God then we must assume God is all powerful. So love is all powerful. Giving love out is a miraculous healing power. We must come to consider that if loving is being a part of God then giving love is what completes the cycle of love as we know we are loved already. Being a part of love connects us to a love that is not named. There simply is no label that can be placed on love at large. Or maybe I just did? And another way is simply saying God?

Like him or not, he is an icon. The story behind this song is awesome

More family. Still counting the blessings. Thank you love!

What a blessing giving is!

So we have this duty to help others. Maybe we get paid to do it. Maybe it just is done because it is the right thing to do. Perhaps like me you feel you are commanded to help thy neighbor. Maybe it is a duty commensurate to be a citizen. Perhaps it comes from an oath like the Boy Scouts. Maybe it is a paternal obligation.

A duty to help others. May we suggest that duties are good? Perhaps we can agree that the bottom line is that we fulfill our duties of helping others. Let me tell a story here.

Many years ago I was teaching my youngest daughter to ride a bike. She was an awfully slow learner until about 13 or so when she bloomed. Teaching a child to ride a bike is an long held duty of any father. I took the duties like that seriously. I took teaching not just something but everything very serious as a duty. And for some weird AH HA moment it hit me that the teaching was a right as a father. Bang! Just like that the stress vanished and joy filled my heart. The mistakes I had made were lifted from my guilt. I was free to love the process that had formerly been my duty and stressful.

Now I am not speaking for everyone for I cannot. But I can tell you from my experience that fulfilling duties is a dead end road leaving you in despair and unable to complete your proper journey. Doing things because we must causes confusion in our love brain connection. If I am doing it because I have to, I am not loving it. Please be careful here as we are not advocating our own personal mandates to ourselves be forgotten. I must because I must grow is different than I must help someone. “I must work hard” is awesome. I love tough work ethics. I must get more exercise is likewise awesome. But here we need to be clear that in the helping of another it is a right not an obligation.

I have dishes and a fine kitchen. So it is my right to keep it clean and nice for my family. Thank you God for the blessing of the things and a family to do things for. Thank you for the means to give some back by way of my sermons.

Her opening about getting a blessing out of her music is great.

Just a church facade left by the French in a land far away

Are we honoring our heritage of being a part of the great love.

Let us pause for a moment and reflect on this miracle of healing that comes from helping others in love. For most of my professional career I did work where people would never come to me because all was well. From law to crisis management to preaching. Folks just don’t show up unless they need you and it is never pretty. (painting houses was great because it almost never included a crisis)

Now I would always thank the people I worked for, for letting me be of service. Which got me to thinking and then I needed some help. Of course being a manly man I never need help – especially directions. But there it was, I needed someone to help me out. My old friend jumped at the chance to help me correct my course. And he thanked me for letting him help me.

What I am getting to in that is that we must let others help us in a loving way so that they may complete their cycle of love. Not really a duty but another right to help.

CAUTION: Most of the time when your wife tells you a problem – your Only way to help is to listen. I am lucky my wife is both beautiful and brilliant so I get to end the listening by assuring her that she is really smart and will figure it out. I would never be so gross as to end listening by telling her how lovely she is.

Now let us wrap this bad boy sermon up. We get love when we give love. It really should not be such an easy equation. And I love to go into matters like the ethereal stuff, soul manifestation and leaving our ego for the love train. But I have a base that is simple and clean and clear. Give love and give the rest up to love. No return on investment expected.

However, looking at giving of our precious part of ourselves just cannot be denied as a gift if we look at it as a right of being God’s children. God has given us love and the right to share and commune it. I choose to do my best to exercise that right. I hope you will join me.

Let me close with some fun. Hopefully your life at some point had this rhyme; beans beans the magical fruit the more you eat the more you toot! Well my children also know; Love love the magical thing, the more you give the more you bring.

How about that love

Are you surrounding yourself with love by giving more than you get?

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lawrence isn't it a cool area to contemplate?! Growing up I had chores. I liked doing them and they were commanded of me. My mom was cool like that, even though it was a duty, she always treated me with something -- no no not for doing them but for doing them with a bright and cheery attitude. Now I am grateful for a child I have the right to take care of.

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      Lawrence Hebb 5 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      I've never really thought about helping others 'because I have to' or some kind of duty, I just do it because someone did that for me!

      Really good sermon, and a great reminder of how we can show 'love for each other's

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Denise, you said that really well. Life is good when mixed with gratitude and love.

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      Denise W Anderson 5 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I agree wholeheartedly, that if we do things only out of duty, we will soon run out of steam! Doing things out of love is much more meaningful and fulfilling. Our families become our most precious possession when we serve them out of love.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Morning here buddy, a silly movie and church with my loved ones Yahoo!

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      manatita44 5 months ago from london

      Thank you, Bro.

      I forgot to add that I get stressed too. Ha ha. Have a great evening.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Oh Dora, you shared with me the "right" to care for your mother. And it touched me deeply. It clearly was a blessing to you and therefor all of us you touched in your sharing. Thank you.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 5 months ago from The Caribbean

      I like that you pair the thought of stress with the thought of helping others, since the latter is a good remedy for the other. And then, "let others help us in a loving way so that they may complete their cycle of love" is simply beautiful!

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I just love this comment. My mother and her dad always made a point about being "tired" after proper hard work. Tired lets us rest well. Did you know that the notion of trudging is not about tough walking but really about walking with purpose. Those that arise in the morning like you and our lovely Ruby to serve are what is meant by being shining lights. Thank you Manatita.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      William thank you for the visit and comment - I reckon that may be my payment and that is probably good.

      I struggle with reason as it is my own. With a doctorate in law I kind of have reason down pretty well. But we wonder if our reason is an impediment to being in the love.

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      William Kovacic 5 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I like your reasoning here, Eric. You said so much about a subject that we'll never completely understand in this lifetime. Thanks for the challenge.

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      manatita44 5 months ago from london

      Nice family photo in the first paragraph, and again I smiled a little at the first paragraph. I like fun and it does not take much to make me smile.

      You have written this piece exceptionally well and discussed an all-encompassing subject: Love. Since you seem to be saying that it is in giving that we get, I truly support you there.

      "To serve and never be tired is Love." -Sri Chinmoy.

      Before going further, let me say that is how we were taught by Guruji. We serve, but we cannot help. He says that humanity is our brothers and sisters. So who is helping who? Only God can help, according to Guruji.

      What stands out in Kris Kristofferson's very powerful piece is that he is offering it all to God, to Jesus ...

      You have a beautiful piece where you are offering Gratitude to others. So meaningful! Gratitude is the life-breath of God.

      Now Bro, I am a nurse and while you got the spirit of serving right, it actually can tire you out. Ask Ruby! (smile) Sometimes, God is simply preparing us for the harvest, we don't always get it straight away.

      I have travelled over 300 times in 42 countries serving, serving... including the Phillipines. Somehow the Creator rewards us in His own time but yes, we do get tired.

      Just three weeks ago I was in Germany. Very soon after in New York. Today I was at the Mind, Body and Spirit exhibition. People came to our stand/stall and we chatted, explained, sold stuff ... such Joy! yet I was tired, happy in Spirit but tired. I came home and had a couple of hours keep. Now I'm here, serving yet again.

      I love your Hub though, and the general message is not really different from mine. I love Dolly Parton. God bless her and God bless you and family this May weekend. Glory be!!

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      So true Devika!

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      Devika Primić 5 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Helping others for any need is such a grateful gesture.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, I see your point. But no, I cannot feel that physical pain. Or can I through loving empathy? I wonder. I am not so sure that husband and wife for instance don't feel each other's physical pain in a way.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby my first oncologist was a hell of a good man. Instead of office visits we would do lunch. We chit chat but always come around to the danger of medicine. It interferes with the life cycle. We would check off on our fingers the ultimate losers, they died during treatment and in the stage 4 group I was in that was normal. Basically we were expected to die.

      So based on my discussion with these ultimate losers we found a relation. They did not show love for their caretaker, medicine provider. Crazy but that simple. We who showed the love won the battle. Those who did not exercise that right died. Too heavy perhaps.

      Dierkers are duty bound to show love. We just are, end of story. But I think mom showed us that it was more than that.

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      Linda Lum 5 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric - I'm having computer issues. Started to write a comment, wanted to make changes, and my computer froze. By the time I was able to get back in, I could not edit my original comments. So if you could please delete what I had written before and use this text:

      Eric, I think any time we find a direction, a purpose, an activity that forces us to focus on something other than ourselves, we do both the world and ourselves a big favor.

      I don't know when your older children were born, but I think the theory of "Lamaze birth" might have still been out there.

      The thinking was that if you focus hard enough on something positive and beautiful, you won't feel the pain. Well, as the birth mother of a 9 pound baby, I can testify that Dr. Lamaze never squeezed something that large out of any of his orifices.

      My point? Lamaze birth was a bust because it was attempting to short-circuit physical pain. But emotional pain comes from a totally different place--the heart and soul of a person.

      I think that pain CAN be diminished, lessened because it is all a part of love. And the source of that love is outside of us. It comes from our God who is love.

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      Linda Lum 5 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, I think any time we find a direction, a purpose, an activity that forces us to focus on something other than ourselves, we do both the world and ourselves a big favor.

      I don't know when your older children were born, but I think the theory of "Lamaze birth" might have still been out there. The thinking was that if you focus hard enough on something positive and beautiful, you won't feel the pain. Well, as the birth mother of a 9 pound baby, I can testify that Dr. Lamaze never squeezed something that large out of any of his orifices.

      My point? Lamaze birth was a bust because it was attempting to short-circuit physical pain. But emotional pain comes from a totally different place--the heart and soul of a person.

      I think that pain CAN be diminished, lessened because it is all a part of love. And the source of that love is outside of us. It comes from our God who is love.

      The amount of love we have in ourselves is infinite. We have the capacity to love and give and look beyond ourse and

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dana I can't wait - hurry!

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      Dana Tate 5 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Oh, I have truly surrounded myself with love, giving more than receiving. You and I are cut from the same cloth in understanding that the best gift is love. My next hub should be interesting to you. I think for me it's a little out of character.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 months ago from Southern Illinois

      My life as a nurse was stressful, especially with all the paperwork demanded by the Government, but there was a lot of love too. Caring for a newborn, a new mother, the elderly when they knew it was near their final days here on earth. What s the story behind " Why Me Lord? Another good sermon Eric. Thank you..

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      My prayers are with you Terrie

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori - that is too funny. My dad was a family doc as well as a health director. So many head injuries he restricted us from riding bikes. And then good helmets came out. He biked from Phoenix to Boise. 3 sisters biked all over Europe, brother motorcycled the same area. Us parents sure are strange.

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      Eric Dierker 5 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill my Hang and I work the same way. Because of the give and take it is very healthy for both of us. Thanks for touching on that point.

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      Bill Holland 5 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Bev does the stress thing. I do not. My job is to ease her stress. It's a full-time job, but I've got a lot of love for that woman, so it all works out. :)

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      Lori Colbo 6 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      My dad taught me to ride a bike. He also taught me how to ride with no hands (my mom was none to happy). One day was riding down a residential street with my arms stretched out wide, my face to the wind, and my eyes closed. BAM!! Hit a parked car. My life in a nutshell LOL.

      Helping people is what God has called us to do. Love and being like Jesus is His will. We human beings tend to be the center of our own universe and that creates stress with a capital S.

      Good piece here Eric.

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      Terrie Lynn 6 months ago from Canada

      Oh, I don't like heights anymore. All I can say is our daughter is unable to at this time. We love them and didn't want them to go into care. Thank you Eric

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      Eric Dierker 6 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Miss Terrie. May I be so bold as to ask what has you raising grandchildren. I am cool with no. Your spirit is so lovely I figure their is a reason beyond our comprehension.

      Up on a rickety ladder trimming Italian Cypress. My son with phone should a fall occur. We love our task.

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      Terrie Lynn 6 months ago from Canada

      Good day Eric. Another very interesting article. You managed to work love into it again. Well done my friend. Sharing is caring. Have a great week.