Eric's Sunday Sermon; Duty and Right. Helping Others and Stress
Just family. I am so blessed.
First we think about our stressed out lives. We know it is bad for us, but it just happens. So we Google about how to prevent stress and we find a little over 1 gazillion articles, blogs and reports on it. Mostly “sponsored” that will sell us a cure. Studies galore on the matter. Supplements, books, meditation, deep breathing and medicines seem most popular. And indeed they all work to some degree. And they are all very self centered. And so do not work as well as touted. I don’t know very many people that pray a lot who are too stressed out. And we now go from there.
Parents that feel out of control with managing their children have a whole lot of stress. People at work that do not feel capable of controlling work have a whole lot of stress. Doctors who treat disease have much stress – but do nurses who treat the patient have the same stress?
The number one most effective treatment for stress and depression is helping others. It just is. So now you can look at your work as helping others. Now you can look at controlling your children as helping others. And if you are a smart doc then you begin treating people and not diseases.
Many, myself included although I am very Bible bound, believe that Love is God. As God is Love. I get my centering on this from 1 John 4:8. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. If we believe in God then we must assume God is all powerful. So love is all powerful. Giving love out is a miraculous healing power. We must come to consider that if loving is being a part of God then giving love is what completes the cycle of love as we know we are loved already. Being a part of love connects us to a love that is not named. There simply is no label that can be placed on love at large. Or maybe I just did? And another way is simply saying God?
Like him or not, he is an icon. The story behind this song is awesome
More family. Still counting the blessings. Thank you love!
What a blessing giving is!
So we have this duty to help others. Maybe we get paid to do it. Maybe it just is done because it is the right thing to do. Perhaps like me you feel you are commanded to help thy neighbor. Maybe it is a duty commensurate to be a citizen. Perhaps it comes from an oath like the Boy Scouts. Maybe it is a paternal obligation.
A duty to help others. May we suggest that duties are good? Perhaps we can agree that the bottom line is that we fulfill our duties of helping others. Let me tell a story here.
Many years ago I was teaching my youngest daughter to ride a bike. She was an awfully slow learner until about 13 or so when she bloomed. Teaching a child to ride a bike is an long held duty of any father. I took the duties like that seriously. I took teaching not just something but everything very serious as a duty. And for some weird AH HA moment it hit me that the teaching was a right as a father. Bang! Just like that the stress vanished and joy filled my heart. The mistakes I had made were lifted from my guilt. I was free to love the process that had formerly been my duty and stressful.
Now I am not speaking for everyone for I cannot. But I can tell you from my experience that fulfilling duties is a dead end road leaving you in despair and unable to complete your proper journey. Doing things because we must causes confusion in our love brain connection. If I am doing it because I have to, I am not loving it. Please be careful here as we are not advocating our own personal mandates to ourselves be forgotten. I must because I must grow is different than I must help someone. “I must work hard” is awesome. I love tough work ethics. I must get more exercise is likewise awesome. But here we need to be clear that in the helping of another it is a right not an obligation.
I have dishes and a fine kitchen. So it is my right to keep it clean and nice for my family. Thank you God for the blessing of the things and a family to do things for. Thank you for the means to give some back by way of my sermons.
Her opening about getting a blessing out of her music is great.
Just a church facade left by the French in a land far away
Are we honoring our heritage of being a part of the great love.
Let us pause for a moment and reflect on this miracle of healing that comes from helping others in love. For most of my professional career I did work where people would never come to me because all was well. From law to crisis management to preaching. Folks just don’t show up unless they need you and it is never pretty. (painting houses was great because it almost never included a crisis)
Now I would always thank the people I worked for, for letting me be of service. Which got me to thinking and then I needed some help. Of course being a manly man I never need help – especially directions. But there it was, I needed someone to help me out. My old friend jumped at the chance to help me correct my course. And he thanked me for letting him help me.
What I am getting to in that is that we must let others help us in a loving way so that they may complete their cycle of love. Not really a duty but another right to help.
CAUTION: Most of the time when your wife tells you a problem – your Only way to help is to listen. I am lucky my wife is both beautiful and brilliant so I get to end the listening by assuring her that she is really smart and will figure it out. I would never be so gross as to end listening by telling her how lovely she is.
Now let us wrap this bad boy sermon up. We get love when we give love. It really should not be such an easy equation. And I love to go into matters like the ethereal stuff, soul manifestation and leaving our ego for the love train. But I have a base that is simple and clean and clear. Give love and give the rest up to love. No return on investment expected.
However, looking at giving of our precious part of ourselves just cannot be denied as a gift if we look at it as a right of being God’s children. God has given us love and the right to share and commune it. I choose to do my best to exercise that right. I hope you will join me.
Let me close with some fun. Hopefully your life at some point had this rhyme; beans beans the magical fruit the more you eat the more you toot! Well my children also know; Love love the magical thing, the more you give the more you bring.