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Eric's Sunday Sermon; Family Ties and Our Role

Updated on July 8, 2017

Family Fun At Dinner Time

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Normal Family Business

There was a guy who wrote “These were the best of times and these were the worst of times”. Of course most know that came from Dickens in the Tale of Two Cities. We start with that as it is a tale of the same family we all live in. We are talking about tiny little single mom homes to extended families of over 50.

Do not worry we will talk about the “family of man” and our connected “family through love”.

Families generally operate under a theory of past experiences. The youngest child of four who becomes a brain surgeon is still regarded as baby brother as the family gathers for a Thanksgiving meal. In general families as a structure never change the dynamics. We hold on to the past. I am sorry to say that divides a home.

Joe the eldest who has basically failed at a lot of things still thinks he has a right to treat our surgeon with the little respect he showed him at 8 years old. That is just normal family dynamics. But it need not be that way in our lives and especially in a Christian or other good spiritual home.

No identities here but there was a boy who was youngest of six. He truly never had a vote on matters. In short he grew up for the most part without any respect. Including respect for himself. He was bright and hardworking but that lack of a childhood and of course later adulthood respect put a hole in him that mentally would wreak havoc.

There was an accomplished man who for years dealt with all kinds of powerful men. He had some emotional issues that came up just past middle age. And the man began fidgeting and underperforming around authority figures. When it was found to come from the phrase “be seen and not heard” that has been a mantra from parents as a child the man jumped right back into the saddle.

Are we there yet to work on memory? Memory is our friend. Memory must be incorporated into a healthy spiritual life. But I think we are going to try to gain a new perspective on memory. Come on it will be worth it. Just think of all the adjectives or possibly adverbs for memory – a cool next topic, is memory and action or is it a thing?

Family Leaves Us

Rise And Shine Was My Mom's Cry

I think there is no death of Love
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Memory

Long term past memories. Some good and some bad. Do we treasure them both? No we do not. About those bad ones. What do we do with them? I can only speak for me but through time I have either buried or just plain forgotten them. Kind of a cross between Eastern Buddhist and my long held love of Jesus Christ with a little Navajo thrown in it is kind of a forgive and forget deal. We are fully aware of the notion of forgiving but not forgetting. That is a fool’s errand. Your brain is powerful and so is your heart, just pray to forget and it comes. That is unless you really want to hold on to the resentment.

A strange notion here is that it works for doing the same for your past memories.

Then you have your recent memories. Once again the choice is yours to hold on to them or let them pass. And again we can, if we so pray on it not only forgive but also forget. I remember just yesterday my wife and I fought. And I will be doggone if I can remember exactly what it was about. But I remember hugging and telling each other that we love each other.

Micro memories. Those little irritations that half the time are just subliminal. The kind that make us snap at someone for basically no reason because that micro memory cannot find a way out. Think this way, you walk all the way into a room to get something and forget what the heck it was. I kind of like micro memories because they come to me in dreams. And get processed, good or bad they are done.

Smells here are cool along with songs. They super trigger memories even forgotten. And that again is your choice.

Controlling memories. From past to present to future. Yes. Take my word for it memories can be in the future. A star athlete goes through in her brain what she is going to do in any given moment of the competition. When she does it, she has already done it and remembered to do it again. Ponder that one.

All Kinds of Family

Admittedly Blood is Thicker Than Water But No Limitation
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The Family In the Sky

Family of Man

I told you we will talk about the “family of man” and our connected “family through love”.

Break this down into semantics and common parlance. The Family of Man means we are all human and should treat each of with dignity and respect. It means when I walk down the street those I see are 99% just like me – at least that is what I gather from DNA and family of origin stuff. It is like the material and humanistic bond we share. We really are so much like our neighbor that color, race, origins, etc. etc. are basically scientifically irrelevant. It is a super cool deal. Oh and it is gender and age proof.

WE ARE ALL FAMILY

We Are The Ones Called To Teach Love Each Day

And so that brings us to the subject of just about all of these sermons. Love with a capital L and love with a small l. My young son and I love to play the game of love. We used to “what is your favorite?”, then we changed it to “what is your favorite today?” and now we have changed it to “which do you love today”. Of course most of the time it about colors or rocks or soccer balls and such. But sometimes it changes to people. Birds get in there as do bugs and even toys, food or his drawings. These are the small letter love. (Thank goodness not the other kind of small love yet) We understand that the opposite of love is not hate but not caring/apathy.

So the big Love is about Loving everyone and everything. We will not put in all of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. But we will sneak in “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” Out of John 4.

Now the concept goes that God is Omnipresent and Omnipotent. So if that we get the case Love is in all of us because God is present everywhere. Therefor by standing on reason we are all more than the family of man but the family of Love/God. Feel free to extend that to creatures.

So if we have a tiff with our sister and block the Love does it really matter if it is my sibling or my neighbor or my enemy. I am blocking that Love. Is it possible that I am blocking a lot more people’s Love just by breaking the chain of Love which is God? Not caring/apathy breaks my heart. It is not to be trifled with. Love cannot be broken the chain must be strong with all of us doing our best to Love. Let not let the circle be broken. Please fix the chain of Love between you and another.

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      Linda Lum 2 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric - I found this passage today which explains better than I ever could:

      “Sanskrit has 96 words for love; ancient Persian has 80, Greek three, and English only one. This is indicative of the poverty of awareness or emphasis that we give to that tremendously important realm of feeling. Eskimos have 30 words for snow, because it is a life-and-death matter to them to have exact information about the element they live with so intimately. If we had a vocabulary of 30 words for love ... we would immediately be richer and more intelligent in this human element so close to our heart. An Eskimo probably would die of clumsiness if he had only one word for snow; we are close to dying of loneliness because we have only one word for love. Of all the Western languages, English may be the most lacking when it comes to feeling.” - Robert Johnson, “The Fisher King and the Handless Maiden“

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      Eric Dierker 2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Linda. That is a really cool comment. I knew there were a bunch but not idea that many. It is one of our few words that fully require context to understand.

      I think many here on HP really do love each other.

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      John Hansen 2 weeks ago from Queensland Australia

      Great sermon, Eric. Yes, God is love. I love Linda's comment too. In English we have a few adjectives to throwing from of "love" to try and differentiate different types, like "true", "puppy," "brotherly", "agape (though that's probably not English) etc. but not actually different nouns for "love" itself.

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      Denise W Anderson 2 weeks ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      We just gathered with our family this past week for a reunion. The first couple of days were pretty rocky while we became acquainted again. After that, we were able to have some good times together that we will remember for a long time. Family is great!

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      Terrie Lynn 2 weeks ago from Canada

      Thank you Eric for sharing the love and reminding us keep sharing that love with others. Have a great weekend and I wish you much love.

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      Demas W Jasper 13 days ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Check your next-to-the-last sentence for "Let's.... ." Good reminders for us all.

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      Demas W Jasper 13 days ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      How important are families? Here is what we LDS believe: https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lan...

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      Harish Mamgain 13 days ago from India

      Eric, in this strife torn mad world, you are romantically bent on spreading fragrance of love. I love reading this sermon on love. keep reminding us about it my friend lest we could forget and falter.

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      Tim Mitchell 13 days ago from Escondido, CA

      Great sermon Eric. With my dad's side of the family there is a tradition at family gatherings. It is a toast saying, "To family ties". It is even a greeting when first reuniting with a hug. To me ties meant Love.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John that is very true and perhaps why (not about love) English is truly the international language. It is the context we put something in by our modifiers that makes it so precise. Teaching these to ESL or children is so fun. Thank you and for sure there is a hub coming on just such matters.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise thank you for that comment. Isn't it strange when we first come together we seem to hit on our differences first -- and then we get to the good stuff and then we make the good stuff. Makes me think of recipes where the ingredients don't look like they would mix well together but by the end a dish to die for.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Terrie, how about too much love!! We have just been blessed to have all the great friends and family around for a few days. Plus summer vacation started and so my young boy has been home for some much needed father son time. My ribs are hurting from all the hugging. But we all have been giving plenty of space through respect. It is a wonderful world when done in love.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Demas. Demas we have been friends long enough to know that I write these to remind myself as much as anyone.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Demas as I was growing up it was just accepted that Mormon families were role models for others. It my memory serves me correct, respect and family was taught as a course starting at about 5.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Harish it is a strange thing that our world does to teach mathematics and science and history.... And we even teach all about our religions.

      And yet all the way to my doctorate and above, I never had a single course in love.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim I had a falling out with my elder brother. I wrote him apologizing for my part and admitting to being a bad brother. He wrote back that there are neither good brothers nor bad brothers, only brothers. For sure the rope that seems to tie is also the one thrown to save us from drowning.

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      Bill Holland 13 days ago from Olympia, WA

      My favorite topic from my favorite preacher man. Carry on, my wayward son . . . I'll begin a chain of love in Olympia, aim it southward . .. you do the same down there, aim it northward, and let's see if we can't hook up somewhere in-between.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Bill. But that train already left the station. If I am not connected with you by love then I do not know the meaning.

      But I get your point, we need to add a whole bunch more links.

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      Clive Williams 13 days ago from Nibiru

      he youngest child of four who becomes a brain surgeon is still regarded as baby brother as the family gathers for a Thanksgiving meal.

      Soooooo Truuuu. Great hub sir.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive I think it sucks being youngest of 6 ;-)

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      Clive Williams 13 days ago from Nibiru

      sometimes it does Eric..but the youngest gets away with a lot of stuff being the house baby.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      The Good with the Bad. Clive

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 13 days ago from The Caribbean

      Normal family dynamics" may not be exactly the same in every family, but what should be the same for all of us is the premise that: "We are all human and should treat each of with dignity and respect." Sound advice.

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      Eric Dierker 13 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you MsDora, I do believe those are the two first elements of love.

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      William Kovacic 12 days ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Interesting stuff, Eric. Now, I'm thinking about my past and how it relates to family. Never went that direction before.

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      Eiddwen 12 days ago from Wales

      Thank you Eric for reminding us of the importance of sharing. Great sermon and take care.

      Eddy.

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      Ryan Fuller 12 days ago from Louisiana, USA

      This world definitely needs more love and God in it. Truly amazing message in this sermon. I try to focus more on doing things out of love, rather than personal gain. We could all use that type of lesson. Thank you for this beautiful message.

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      Eric Dierker 12 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, I really started looking at it when my eldest child turned 34 and my youngest child turned 7. We altered our dynamics. My youngest daughter is 28 but no longer the youngest - in a way.

      Man plans and God laughs!

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 12 days ago from Washington DC

      Your vacation was too long, Eric, I've been wondering where you were.

      Very interesting, my friend, but, concerning your your statement "The Family of Man means we are all human and should treat each of with dignity and respect" I want to say: "Man means 'mind able to comprehend all things' and woman and human - with the prefixes 'hu and wo' meaning 'cut from and woven from man' respectively -suggest they are incomplete minds and unable to comprehend all things yet we are all 'the family of man' who are required to be incomplete until our 'new birth' reverses the incomplete state about 90% of man are in for living the various individual attributes any one man has lived."

      I want to share my poem, "LOVE, aka, INDIFFERENCE" which means Unconditional Love as my input to your closing.

      "Love, a word which cannot be defined,

      not what you do but a frame of mind;

      yet it does create an effect

      few are able to ever reject.

      "It does not build empires by setting boundary lines,

      neither does it stake out claiming things as mine.

      It's not selfish to any at all,

      not to rich nor poor, nor great nor small.

      "It's not bias in any light,

      not to red nor yellow nor black nor white;

      but it does make every living thing your brother,

      spirit our father and the earth our nursing mother."

      Please note: love does not have classes such as "rich nor poor, nor great nor small" and it is color blind such as "red nor yellow nor black nor white" suggests, they are there only for the rhyme.

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      Eric Dierker 12 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Eddy we all know there are some setbacks in life. But there are those that show the Love that is a beacon that others can shoot for. Just hearing from you brings joy into my heart. Thank you.

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      Eric Dierker 12 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ryan that is a great comment. Doing good for good sake is just too hard to do sometimes. I can handle the not doing good to look good deal. And I can do it without thanks. I got those down. But I just cannot kick this deal about doing it because it makes me feel good.

      Maybe I am not supposed to kick it???

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      Chitrangada Sharan 12 days ago from New Delhi, India

      What a wonderful sermon!

      I agree love is the very foundation of our life. And it is so important to love, laugh and spend happy moments with the family.

      Moments spent with family are the best and unforgettable.

      Thanks for sharing this lovely reminder in the form of a hub !

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      Eric Dierker 12 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah my friend you closing remark makes me think you kind of missed my point of lower case l and upper case L Love different than love.

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      Eric Dierker 12 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Chitrangada Sharan I am so blessed with so many families. Near and far, from origin to my beloved Vietnam. Each brings me love and joy. I do remember that my sister did something very bad to me some years back -- but I now have no idea what it was. But I do remember all the great stuff we share.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 11 days ago from Washington DC

      No, my friend Eric, my point is what man usually consider love - you called low case - is a judgment with the opposite of hate. The name common to the "Father, son and holy ghost" is I AM THAT I AM is why we are Commanded to preach in the name "of" - common to all three - them.

      Peace my Brother.

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      Lori Colbo 11 days ago from Pacific Northwest

      I love your love of love and family. Especially your love for your little boy. That was a mouthful. Your song choices were very appropriate. Unity and grace through God.

      Thanks for another good uplift.

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      Eric Dierker 11 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah, perhaps it is a somewhat puzzling idea in my sermons. I do not teach and I speak of no absolutes in the sense of my theory is right over yours. It would please me greatly if you posed your issues rather than insisting on them. Let us decide and not be told.

      This really is not a place of demanding righteousness.

      So I say that your points are interesting but not sacrosanct.

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      Eric Dierker 11 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori, we are just having a love fest around my family. A lot of great taking time to make time to share with each other.

      Thank you for coming by and adding your love to the festivities of life.

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      Ann Carr 10 days ago from SW England

      A great phrase - 'fix the chain of love'. I like that.

      I also like the notion of 'memory can be in the future'; I know exactly what you mean but had never thought about it like that before. Thanks for pointing it out.

      Memory triggering is a fascinating subject but you're quite right that we should just forget the bad memories and move on, even though it's often not easy.

      Great to visit you today and thanks for the sermon, Eric.

      Ann

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      Eric Dierker 10 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ann thank you for your encouragement. Memories is just such an interesting area of thought. One of my favs was when the notion of being in the moment first started getting some traction. A moment is so short a time that as soon as you were there it was a memory. I had an "auntie" Gail and sometimes I would ask her why she was just sitting there smiling. "Eric, I am just enjoying tomorrow".

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      Ann Carr 9 days ago from SW England

      That's a great story, Eric! I have the feeling she was very wise and maybe some of her sayings would make good hubs?!

      Ann

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      Eric Dierker 9 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ann.

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      Dana Tate 3 days ago from LOS ANGELES

      I have aunts and uncles who are only a few years older than me and its funny they still talk to me as if I'm their "little niece" even though we are in our forties. Yet, my little sister(see how I referred to her as "little sister") will always be my baby, she is also in her forties. I have learned to appreciate the beautiful love that deepens in time with family. Family is everything sometimes we forget that until we can no longer say those words. "I love you"

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      Eric Dierker 2 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dana, I seem to have less and less in common with my brothers and sisters as we grow older. And yet our love for each other still seems to grow with each passing year. Family is family.

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