Eric's Sunday Sermon; Family Ties and Our Role
Family Fun At Dinner Time
Normal Family Business
There was a guy who wrote “These were the best of times and these were the worst of times”. Of course most know that came from Dickens in the Tale of Two Cities. We start with that as it is a tale of the same family we all live in. We are talking about tiny little single mom homes to extended families of over 50.
Do not worry we will talk about the “family of man” and our connected “family through love”.
Families generally operate under a theory of past experiences. The youngest child of four who becomes a brain surgeon is still regarded as baby brother as the family gathers for a Thanksgiving meal. In general families as a structure never change the dynamics. We hold on to the past. I am sorry to say that divides a home.
Joe the eldest who has basically failed at a lot of things still thinks he has a right to treat our surgeon with the little respect he showed him at 8 years old. That is just normal family dynamics. But it need not be that way in our lives and especially in a Christian or other good spiritual home.
No identities here but there was a boy who was youngest of six. He truly never had a vote on matters. In short he grew up for the most part without any respect. Including respect for himself. He was bright and hardworking but that lack of a childhood and of course later adulthood respect put a hole in him that mentally would wreak havoc.
There was an accomplished man who for years dealt with all kinds of powerful men. He had some emotional issues that came up just past middle age. And the man began fidgeting and underperforming around authority figures. When it was found to come from the phrase “be seen and not heard” that has been a mantra from parents as a child the man jumped right back into the saddle.
Are we there yet to work on memory? Memory is our friend. Memory must be incorporated into a healthy spiritual life. But I think we are going to try to gain a new perspective on memory. Come on it will be worth it. Just think of all the adjectives or possibly adverbs for memory – a cool next topic, is memory and action or is it a thing?
Family Leaves Us
Rise And Shine Was My Mom's Cry
Long term past memories. Some good and some bad. Do we treasure them both? No we do not. About those bad ones. What do we do with them? I can only speak for me but through time I have either buried or just plain forgotten them. Kind of a cross between Eastern Buddhist and my long held love of Jesus Christ with a little Navajo thrown in it is kind of a forgive and forget deal. We are fully aware of the notion of forgiving but not forgetting. That is a fool’s errand. Your brain is powerful and so is your heart, just pray to forget and it comes. That is unless you really want to hold on to the resentment.
A strange notion here is that it works for doing the same for your past memories.
Then you have your recent memories. Once again the choice is yours to hold on to them or let them pass. And again we can, if we so pray on it not only forgive but also forget. I remember just yesterday my wife and I fought. And I will be doggone if I can remember exactly what it was about. But I remember hugging and telling each other that we love each other.
Micro memories. Those little irritations that half the time are just subliminal. The kind that make us snap at someone for basically no reason because that micro memory cannot find a way out. Think this way, you walk all the way into a room to get something and forget what the heck it was. I kind of like micro memories because they come to me in dreams. And get processed, good or bad they are done.
Smells here are cool along with songs. They super trigger memories even forgotten. And that again is your choice.
Controlling memories. From past to present to future. Yes. Take my word for it memories can be in the future. A star athlete goes through in her brain what she is going to do in any given moment of the competition. When she does it, she has already done it and remembered to do it again. Ponder that one.
All Kinds of Family
The Family In the Sky
Family of Man
I told you we will talk about the “family of man” and our connected “family through love”.
Break this down into semantics and common parlance. The Family of Man means we are all human and should treat each of with dignity and respect. It means when I walk down the street those I see are 99% just like me – at least that is what I gather from DNA and family of origin stuff. It is like the material and humanistic bond we share. We really are so much like our neighbor that color, race, origins, etc. etc. are basically scientifically irrelevant. It is a super cool deal. Oh and it is gender and age proof.
WE ARE ALL FAMILY
We Are The Ones Called To Teach Love Each Day
And so that brings us to the subject of just about all of these sermons. Love with a capital L and love with a small l. My young son and I love to play the game of love. We used to “what is your favorite?”, then we changed it to “what is your favorite today?” and now we have changed it to “which do you love today”. Of course most of the time it about colors or rocks or soccer balls and such. But sometimes it changes to people. Birds get in there as do bugs and even toys, food or his drawings. These are the small letter love. (Thank goodness not the other kind of small love yet) We understand that the opposite of love is not hate but not caring/apathy.
So the big Love is about Loving everyone and everything. We will not put in all of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. But we will sneak in “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” Out of John 4.
Now the concept goes that God is Omnipresent and Omnipotent. So if that we get the case Love is in all of us because God is present everywhere. Therefor by standing on reason we are all more than the family of man but the family of Love/God. Feel free to extend that to creatures.
So if we have a tiff with our sister and block the Love does it really matter if it is my sibling or my neighbor or my enemy. I am blocking that Love. Is it possible that I am blocking a lot more people’s Love just by breaking the chain of Love which is God? Not caring/apathy breaks my heart. It is not to be trifled with. Love cannot be broken the chain must be strong with all of us doing our best to Love. Let not let the circle be broken. Please fix the chain of Love between you and another.