Eric's Sunday Sermon; Get Rid Of The Stress And Keep The Joining Together
Something just mesmerizing about a waterfall
The hard truth
What love has brought together let no man bring asunder. Or you could say “what God has joined together let no man bring asunder”. And what does that really mean to you. Probably that no man should in any way cause a marriage to break apart or into pieces. And that certainly seems like a good idea. King James version has it like this from Mark 10:9 “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Other versions use the more common term “separate”, which really has a different meaning technically. So I guess we are good with the notion that no one should cause a marriage damage. And like so much out of the Bible it is applicable to much more than a marriage.
Being the cause of distress in others is a bad thing. I do not mean this lightly. I once practiced a profession where causing as much stress on the opposing party was a big part of the objective. I was a litigation trial attorney. And we used stress in two ways. One was that if we caused it hard enough leading up to a trial the other side might cave just due to the wear and tear of the stress not being worth pursuing their cause. The other was used in cross-examination. The more stress you could put a person in the more likely that they would make mistakes and/or come out looking untrustworthy because they were so nervous, it would look like they were lying.
I have also used it effectively in negotiations for all kinds of matters. People under stress make all kinds of mistakes that the other side can capitalize on for their benefit. We also used it in sports. Sometimes that trash talk and psyching the others out really does work for the same reasons. Stress causes mistakes and mishandling of matters.
Now my life has new meaning. And part of that meaning includes reducing the stress in others but first starting with myself. Take my word for it, a severely stressed out person causes those around them to get stressed. One cannot help others reduce stress if they are stressed out. Great term that “stressed out” is. Stress alone can be beneficial. Too much takes you out of the running and can literally take you out by way of health problems, both mental and physical.
We must be active in our love for one another.
Please keep in mind the beginning here speaking about marriage or I suppose any joined in love relationship. It seems parent – child or sibling to sibling would also fit there in the right circumstance. Because I tell you causing stress in any of these relationships of others is very bad.
Now onto the beauty of stress. Stress is a motivator. For me, call me lazy, but I need a little pressure to get some stuff done. I could put off the end of the world. I am not a procrastinator I am a super duper procrastinator. But even just a nudge of pressure from my wife can get me “empowered” to get things done by giving me just the right amount of stress about getting something done. Spouses I do not recommend doing this at home though ;-).
Finally onto the crux of the sermon. Not stressing but relieving stress. Let me give this disclaimer first. Helping someone out to relieve their stress is self gratifying. You can do it just for yourself. You do not have to me all good and kind and loving and God fearing. Just do it because it makes you feel better. Of course the other side is gravy. You can do great things for others simply to do right and good and that is awesome and I love you for whenever you do it.
I read an article about how cheap talk is to console a caregiver of a seriously needy person. It was by one of my favorite authors and is about Alzeihmers patients and care giving. Check it out here: http://hubpages.com/health/More-Help-and-Less-Advice-for-Caregivers . Her name is Dora and she is awesome. The title says it all. More help and less advice.
I got a married couple with children friends who both work outside the home who were well stressed out. Oh sure prayers and advice and a listening ear would help. But by golly jingles, I could darn sure offer and babysit and float ‘em some cash for dinner. I did for me. It made me feel good. OK so I cheated and did not do it for ultraistic reasons. I am not a saint. To tell the truth I did kind of do it because I love them and their children. You got me.
The whole point that I am working at here is that the notion of not doing anything to stress a relationship of love, is just not good enough. We have to stir it up and lift them up and help them celebrate love. Love is not always just passive. Sometimes we have to get up off our derrieres and do something. No I mean it. In order to be extraordinary good people we have to do extraordinary things. Now when you see this stress go out and relieve it.
Nothing better than a camp out with dad!
Refresh in your wildest dreams.
Give you a chance and you will shine!
Oh yes here we have focused on that concept of marriage. How much more so must we do to encourage the lonely? What God has joined together in the one is love. You see they have a relationship with what is good. In fact most have a relationship with God. So it is not good enough to talkie talkie and listen. We have to do things to help them affirm their relationship with what is good and the most important of good is love. We cannot just show it, we must give it.
Now earlier I mentioned that we must be stressless ourselves. Let us take that a step further. We are joined together with others. Family and friends. (Leave neighbors and enemies alone for now) We are joined in love which is from God. God don’t need no stinking ceremony or certificate. So we extrapolate and make sense and a further caring. What God has joined together let no man tear asunder. Let me let you in on a secret – in this context you are man and you can tear asunder your own relationships. Kind of a heavy burden. So get to work. Words are welcome here but not the bottom line. Do something. Kindle that relationship with your children. Address any issues with your siblings. Let your parents know how much you love them. Just like with friends you can do it just because it makes you feel better. Perhaps the result is not the same but it is a darn sight better than nothing and who knows.
Now lastly on the relationship deal. I hope for you there is a relationship that you have with your God. That definitely is “joined by God”. Do not tear it asunder, work on it. Give it some juice. Relieve your stress in that relationship. Probably it requires no less time than you just spent reading this sermon. Just take a moment and take action before you “separate” yourself from you most important joining.