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Eric's Sunday Sermon; Get Rid Of The Stress And Keep The Joining Together

Updated on February 3, 2016

Something just mesmerizing about a waterfall

Actually where the canyon with this waterfall is is a "home" for the homeless in suburbia
Actually where the canyon with this waterfall is is a "home" for the homeless in suburbia | Source

The hard truth

What love has brought together let no man bring asunder. Or you could say “what God has joined together let no man bring asunder”. And what does that really mean to you. Probably that no man should in any way cause a marriage to break apart or into pieces. And that certainly seems like a good idea. King James version has it like this from Mark 10:9 “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Other versions use the more common term “separate”, which really has a different meaning technically. So I guess we are good with the notion that no one should cause a marriage damage. And like so much out of the Bible it is applicable to much more than a marriage.

Being the cause of distress in others is a bad thing. I do not mean this lightly. I once practiced a profession where causing as much stress on the opposing party was a big part of the objective. I was a litigation trial attorney. And we used stress in two ways. One was that if we caused it hard enough leading up to a trial the other side might cave just due to the wear and tear of the stress not being worth pursuing their cause. The other was used in cross-examination. The more stress you could put a person in the more likely that they would make mistakes and/or come out looking untrustworthy because they were so nervous, it would look like they were lying.

I have also used it effectively in negotiations for all kinds of matters. People under stress make all kinds of mistakes that the other side can capitalize on for their benefit. We also used it in sports. Sometimes that trash talk and psyching the others out really does work for the same reasons. Stress causes mistakes and mishandling of matters.

Now my life has new meaning. And part of that meaning includes reducing the stress in others but first starting with myself. Take my word for it, a severely stressed out person causes those around them to get stressed. One cannot help others reduce stress if they are stressed out. Great term that “stressed out” is. Stress alone can be beneficial. Too much takes you out of the running and can literally take you out by way of health problems, both mental and physical.

Blue?

Relationships

We need only look around us.
We need only look around us. | Source

We must be active in our love for one another.

Please keep in mind the beginning here speaking about marriage or I suppose any joined in love relationship. It seems parent – child or sibling to sibling would also fit there in the right circumstance. Because I tell you causing stress in any of these relationships of others is very bad.

Now onto the beauty of stress. Stress is a motivator. For me, call me lazy, but I need a little pressure to get some stuff done. I could put off the end of the world. I am not a procrastinator I am a super duper procrastinator. But even just a nudge of pressure from my wife can get me “empowered” to get things done by giving me just the right amount of stress about getting something done. Spouses I do not recommend doing this at home though ;-).

Finally onto the crux of the sermon. Not stressing but relieving stress. Let me give this disclaimer first. Helping someone out to relieve their stress is self gratifying. You can do it just for yourself. You do not have to me all good and kind and loving and God fearing. Just do it because it makes you feel better. Of course the other side is gravy. You can do great things for others simply to do right and good and that is awesome and I love you for whenever you do it.

I read an article about how cheap talk is to console a caregiver of a seriously needy person. It was by one of my favorite authors and is about Alzeihmers patients and care giving. Check it out here: http://hubpages.com/health/More-Help-and-Less-Advice-for-Caregivers . Her name is Dora and she is awesome. The title says it all. More help and less advice.

I got a married couple with children friends who both work outside the home who were well stressed out. Oh sure prayers and advice and a listening ear would help. But by golly jingles, I could darn sure offer and babysit and float ‘em some cash for dinner. I did for me. It made me feel good. OK so I cheated and did not do it for ultraistic reasons. I am not a saint. To tell the truth I did kind of do it because I love them and their children. You got me.

The whole point that I am working at here is that the notion of not doing anything to stress a relationship of love, is just not good enough. We have to stir it up and lift them up and help them celebrate love. Love is not always just passive. Sometimes we have to get up off our derrieres and do something. No I mean it. In order to be extraordinary good people we have to do extraordinary things. Now when you see this stress go out and relieve it.

Nothing better than a camp out with dad!

All relationship need some active involvement.
All relationship need some active involvement. | Source

Refresh in your wildest dreams.

Give you a chance and you will shine!

Oh yes here we have focused on that concept of marriage. How much more so must we do to encourage the lonely? What God has joined together in the one is love. You see they have a relationship with what is good. In fact most have a relationship with God. So it is not good enough to talkie talkie and listen. We have to do things to help them affirm their relationship with what is good and the most important of good is love. We cannot just show it, we must give it.

Now earlier I mentioned that we must be stressless ourselves. Let us take that a step further. We are joined together with others. Family and friends. (Leave neighbors and enemies alone for now) We are joined in love which is from God. God don’t need no stinking ceremony or certificate. So we extrapolate and make sense and a further caring. What God has joined together let no man tear asunder. Let me let you in on a secret – in this context you are man and you can tear asunder your own relationships. Kind of a heavy burden. So get to work. Words are welcome here but not the bottom line. Do something. Kindle that relationship with your children. Address any issues with your siblings. Let your parents know how much you love them. Just like with friends you can do it just because it makes you feel better. Perhaps the result is not the same but it is a darn sight better than nothing and who knows.

Now lastly on the relationship deal. I hope for you there is a relationship that you have with your God. That definitely is “joined by God”. Do not tear it asunder, work on it. Give it some juice. Relieve your stress in that relationship. Probably it requires no less time than you just spent reading this sermon. Just take a moment and take action before you “separate” yourself from you most important joining.

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      Clive Williams 14 months ago from Nibiru

      love heals all things. Nice hub eric

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks brother I appreciate you leaving nice comments and supporting my fledgling writing.

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      Linda Lum 14 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Loving isn't always easy. Sometimes I find it difficult to love myself--how can anyone else love me? How can God love me? But I know that He does--He always did and always will.

      Thank you for reminding us that loving in our heart isn't enough. We need to demonstrate that love--not with valentines or flowers but in words, acts, little kindnesses. A hug or a smile might be a small thing to you, but it can be the best part of the day for the person who is on the receiving end.

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda thank you. That smiling at people is a big deal. I know it often lifts my spirits just to get one. Remembering that we are loved is often more difficult than it would seem.

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      Bill Holland 14 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Reading one of your sermons is like getting a shot of adrenaline....with the Rocky them song playing in the background. I'm ready, coach....put me in the game!!!!!!!

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      William, you have already made it to the big times. But I am afraid you are a closer and have to wait your turn.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 14 months ago from Southern Illinois

      The blue in the video is so relaxing, stress gone! I am not married but I gleaned a lot from your sermon. There are many stressful things in our world, but if every person would do just one thing to help one person who is suffering, what a difference that would make. Love and action is the key. Another good one!

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby I thought about that as I was writing this, I mean the folks that are not in a relationship. But in fact we all are. Hey you and I have a relationship on line. And you always boost me up and for that I am eternally grateful. Thank you

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      Dana Tate 14 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Nice sermon, it was right on time for me.

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      Denise W Anderson 14 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      This is very timely for me as well. I have been suffering from a stress headache due to pressure I am putting on myself. I will take your sermon one step further for me. God has joined my body and my spirit together by giving me the breath of life. Stress puts pressure on this relationship, and is damaging to my very soul. Like you have so aptly said here, it gives us major health issues! I am no exception. If I don't do something differently, I will have to go on additional medication to manage my symptoms. Thanks for the wake up call!

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That is total beautiful music to an old preacher man like me. If something is right on time then it is meant to be. Thank you Dana for sharing that with me. It puts a spring in my step.

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise that is so great you mention that as we all do have a relationship within ourselves. My voices in my head have to be in sync or I go a little bonkers or a little more bonkers ;-) I urge you to write down those problems that are causing the stress and take some of the power out of them. And then share them with anybody else. You are in my prayers.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 14 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I forgot to tell you that there's a man's face in the clouds. See if you can find him? Cheers..

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      Marlene Bertrand 14 months ago from Northern California, USA

      This is a soothing sermon. I get what you mean about relieving someone else's stress. It feels so good to be able to do that. I remember talking to a stressed out person on the phone. The person was going on and on about this and that. Finally, I was tired of hearing it and so I interjected, "Everything is going to work out fine. You'll see. By the end of the day you will be singing songs."

      I'm no saint, and I can't predict the future. I just blurted that out to get the person to stop talking. At the same time, it did calm the person down. And, it did feel good that the person was feeling a little less stressed to hear me say that. So, to get to the end of the story, by 6:00 that evening, the person called and shared some really good news with me. It turns out there was never anything to be worried about in the first place. God is so good! He took care of this person's needs that day.

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby thank you. I had not noticed that before. When I took that picture we were very exposed to the elements and in a canyon (that later flash flooded). So I guess I missed that cool face.

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Great story Marlene and it really fits in here. Reminds me of a verse, it strikes me that it is Luke 12:25 and asks basically if anyone can add a single hour to their life by worrying.

      I think that reminding our stressed out people about that is action enough.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I like your style in sending great messages.

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      Shaloo Walia 14 months ago

      Very valuable advice! Love is not an emotion. It's our very existence.

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Devika, that is a very nice compliment and I appreciate it.

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Shaloo, I know the exist but I have never met a person without some love in them. It seems that you are right to me.

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      Ann Carr 14 months ago from SW England

      So full of wise advice as ever!

      Easy to believe you were a lawyer because you're good at pulling apart an argument and putting it together with added spice.

      Quite a bit of stress in my life at the moment - buying a house, thinking about moving, hoping nothing goes wrong.... you know how it is. Then I stop and concentrate on the good and the loving that are around me every day, what I have now. What I will have comes all in good time and if something goes wrong, well I'll deal with it at the time. Just lately, I've been much more aware of the best things in life - what we have and the love that goes with it.

      See? You've made me slow down, look around me and de-stress. Aren't you clever?

      Ann :)

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Whahoo and Hooray for you Ann. It is great you are moving forward in such a positive way. I pray you do not let the stress of the moment and the future hurt one second of your relationships -- I know with you, you will not let it.

      Thank you for coming by and letting me know.

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      Ann Carr 14 months ago from SW England

      And thank you for your support; it means so much, Eric. I'll keep you posted!

      ann

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Please do that.

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      Lawrence Hebb 14 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      We all have our times when the stress goes a bit too far at times! We've been through some of the not so nice things with stress (losing our house, unemployment etc) the main thing I love to share with folks who're in the middle of stuff like that is that there is life on the 'other side'

      Actually it was a Lawyer who normally charges $400 an hour who shared that with us! He simply asked us to walk down the street and see if we could tell which couples owned their own homes and those who were renting? We couldn't and we realized that some things just aren't that important! and if we can help someone else dealing with stress then in our own small way we're in there!

      Great hub reminding us that 'Loving our neighbor' is helping them deal with stress.

      Blessings

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      What a great story Lawerence, and one I will remember. Things are often lost.

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