Eric's Sunday Sermon; Of That Which We Crave
I crave a beautiful cloud formation
So interesting this notion of craving
I love you in a certain sense and I want your love in return. Normally that concept works well. But not always. Maybe we should talk about that which we crave. It is rather remarkable that we can actually surround ourselves with other people that crave that which we crave. And it is remarkable that sometimes what we crave does not add up in God’s plans. “I love him so much” does not mean he loves in return. Yet we all crave love.
Are we speaking obsessive compulsive? Are we talking a love addict who just craves love? For sure in all of this we find a desire, and perhaps one we should live without.
I really want to be loved. I will lie cheat and steal and obfuscate all things negative in order to remain loved. Maybe your moral compass is a whole lot better than mine but I want to be loved above all else and I forsake the long game for the immediate. Bad conduct covering worse conduct justifying even worse conduct. As long as you are happy and love me I will commit all sorts of treason between you and me. (OK, that is really past tense and I am more secure now)
That notion is beautiful and wonderful. But it is a one way dead end street of life and soul. Maybe we comment on someone else’s post. Maybe we do it to support a person or maybe we do it in support of an idea. And if you think those online really hateful comments about people are not a cry for recognition and being noticed then you need to pay more attention. How many times have you heard of children acting out to get attention? And of course you all know about a battered wife who stays – maybe a sad craving of love?
I wonder where the line is drawn between coveting as in a sin and craving. Don’t “overeaters” crave food that is someone else’s? And of course the brings us over another line about gluttony.
So maybe we should take a look at what we really mean by craving.
Just straight forward and I don't mean straight whiskey
This gal could make you crave a walk with her down innercity hell just as much as this road.
I think that just seeing our cravings makes them OK
The junkie, the soap opera fan, the addict, the workaholic, over religiosity, the alcoholic and the overeaters and shopaholics. They all share a special trait. The craving for the activity or substance is both physiological and mental. It has been reported that the withdrawals from soap opera viewing cessation include fatigue, sleep disorders, appetite changes, violent mood swings and of course depression. Certainly our serotonins and our melatonin inhibitors are drastically altered. Stress causes stomach ulcers and constipation and anxiety.
In the above I think we can almost distinguish cravings from addictions. But they are so intertwined. Let us not forget very healthy cravings. Water is a perfect one. Please crave it up to a gallon and a half a day. In my experience and observation a fully healthy person will crave food that their body needs. I have health issues but I do not normally have enough sodium chloride for sodium and iodine for my good health. Post forty I drastically cut it out of my diet. I still refrain unless the craving is really strong and then in moderation. Since I generally do not eat processed foods I get to put salt on things like Avocados or watermelon. And usually that is Mediterranean Sea Salt. Salt generally is no longer a daily craving more like a twice a week craving after heavy sweating.
I just throw that out there so we can give craving some thought. I think the above also kind of indicates habits either defeating cravings or enhancing them.
What about social media constant posters? I have to get out of my quick decision on the matter and into a check on the individual. Yep, I think that is very much on a case by case basis. Sometimes when someone throws a question out there it is fun to comment a lot and kind of exchange ideas with friends, even if we disagree.
It took me until about 15 years old to enjoy my own company. Shoot I was youngest of six that were all within 8 years of each other. I was always with a sibling except for play with the five buddies that lived within 4 blocks of my house and then school and clubs and sports. I was a class president or a senator or representative in student government since 7th grade. I had a horrible craving to be social. Now I have a craving to isolate. You figure that out, other than just getting comfortable with one’s self.
Whiskey has taken too many of my friends. God why?
There is always a new day do we crave the next?
Be easy on you for you are loved.
Now for me a good day is one that I consider being the closest to my God. I just wonder if that is a proper craving. It does include some ritualistic liturgy type stuff. Of course all by myself generally. Though I do on one or two days a week go to church. I reckon going to church is a craving to be around folks really getting into the love of God and each other. I really do not care if they are all hypocrites when they wake up Monday morning. I crave the love for that one hour. Would it be right to say I need the fix of communal love? Maybe a “shot” of it? Maybe just a hit. Hey didn’t some guy say that religion is the opiate of the people ;-)
So much like love the act of craving is not good or bad, it is one of those “just is”. And with all “just is” it is up to us to do with it what we will. And that is just a natural fact.
Here is a cool one; enabling. My elder son was a good baseball player in high school. Not the best but he loved it and craved to play. Maybe I missed a few home games due to travel but I surely did help with gloves and cleats and such. And I attended a bunch of games. What was cool about that boy/young man was that he craved the sport and nothing significant about the crowd or fans. Now as a thirty something he really craves doing good. You just get this sense that though he is kind of tough on family that is a thorn in his side not a controlling factor in his good life.
Two of my most favorite historical folks are Michelangelo and Rene’ Descartes. They both worked for crazed task masters but in general they simply craved doing good work in the former and finding truth in the latter. Perhaps I am right when I say those two are the same.
My young son of 7 is going fishing. Very hard for him on a weekend but he, all by himself, got up early and got me going so we could go fishing before church stuff. Sorry we caught none today but we had about 1,000 great father/son moments. The boy told me what he really wanted (perhaps craved) was to go have fun with me. We added a good two mile hike and some awesome snacks – thanks mom. Wow he has got his casting down and we are ready to go ocean fishing.
I do declare and confess that I do not desire days like this. I crave them. I would move mountains and stop freight trains to do it. Here is a fun one, do you think my son enables me?
Honey child’s and friends and elders. I truly crave that you got some sort of blessing from this. And I hope that blessing is that it grabbed you and made you crave your loved ones.