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Eric's Sunday Sermon; Of That Which We Crave

Updated on May 21, 2017

I crave a beautiful cloud formation

I good sign to baton down for the night.
I good sign to baton down for the night. | Source

So interesting this notion of craving

I love you in a certain sense and I want your love in return. Normally that concept works well. But not always. Maybe we should talk about that which we crave. It is rather remarkable that we can actually surround ourselves with other people that crave that which we crave. And it is remarkable that sometimes what we crave does not add up in God’s plans. “I love him so much” does not mean he loves in return. Yet we all crave love.

Are we speaking obsessive compulsive? Are we talking a love addict who just craves love? For sure in all of this we find a desire, and perhaps one we should live without.

I really want to be loved. I will lie cheat and steal and obfuscate all things negative in order to remain loved. Maybe your moral compass is a whole lot better than mine but I want to be loved above all else and I forsake the long game for the immediate. Bad conduct covering worse conduct justifying even worse conduct. As long as you are happy and love me I will commit all sorts of treason between you and me. (OK, that is really past tense and I am more secure now)

That notion is beautiful and wonderful. But it is a one way dead end street of life and soul. Maybe we comment on someone else’s post. Maybe we do it to support a person or maybe we do it in support of an idea. And if you think those online really hateful comments about people are not a cry for recognition and being noticed then you need to pay more attention. How many times have you heard of children acting out to get attention? And of course you all know about a battered wife who stays – maybe a sad craving of love?

I wonder where the line is drawn between coveting as in a sin and craving. Don’t “overeaters” crave food that is someone else’s? And of course the brings us over another line about gluttony.

So maybe we should take a look at what we really mean by craving.

Just straight forward and I don't mean straight whiskey

This gal could make you crave a walk with her down innercity hell just as much as this road.

My daughter is awesome
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I think that just seeing our cravings makes them OK

The junkie, the soap opera fan, the addict, the workaholic, over religiosity, the alcoholic and the overeaters and shopaholics. They all share a special trait. The craving for the activity or substance is both physiological and mental. It has been reported that the withdrawals from soap opera viewing cessation include fatigue, sleep disorders, appetite changes, violent mood swings and of course depression. Certainly our serotonins and our melatonin inhibitors are drastically altered. Stress causes stomach ulcers and constipation and anxiety.

In the above I think we can almost distinguish cravings from addictions. But they are so intertwined. Let us not forget very healthy cravings. Water is a perfect one. Please crave it up to a gallon and a half a day. In my experience and observation a fully healthy person will crave food that their body needs. I have health issues but I do not normally have enough sodium chloride for sodium and iodine for my good health. Post forty I drastically cut it out of my diet. I still refrain unless the craving is really strong and then in moderation. Since I generally do not eat processed foods I get to put salt on things like Avocados or watermelon. And usually that is Mediterranean Sea Salt. Salt generally is no longer a daily craving more like a twice a week craving after heavy sweating.

I just throw that out there so we can give craving some thought. I think the above also kind of indicates habits either defeating cravings or enhancing them.

What about social media constant posters? I have to get out of my quick decision on the matter and into a check on the individual. Yep, I think that is very much on a case by case basis. Sometimes when someone throws a question out there it is fun to comment a lot and kind of exchange ideas with friends, even if we disagree.

It took me until about 15 years old to enjoy my own company. Shoot I was youngest of six that were all within 8 years of each other. I was always with a sibling except for play with the five buddies that lived within 4 blocks of my house and then school and clubs and sports. I was a class president or a senator or representative in student government since 7th grade. I had a horrible craving to be social. Now I have a craving to isolate. You figure that out, other than just getting comfortable with one’s self.

Whiskey has taken too many of my friends. God why?

There is always a new day do we crave the next?

That is a picture sent to me from France. I love it.
That is a picture sent to me from France. I love it. | Source

Be easy on you for you are loved.

Now for me a good day is one that I consider being the closest to my God. I just wonder if that is a proper craving. It does include some ritualistic liturgy type stuff. Of course all by myself generally. Though I do on one or two days a week go to church. I reckon going to church is a craving to be around folks really getting into the love of God and each other. I really do not care if they are all hypocrites when they wake up Monday morning. I crave the love for that one hour. Would it be right to say I need the fix of communal love? Maybe a “shot” of it? Maybe just a hit. Hey didn’t some guy say that religion is the opiate of the people ;-)

So much like love the act of craving is not good or bad, it is one of those “just is”. And with all “just is” it is up to us to do with it what we will. And that is just a natural fact.

Here is a cool one; enabling. My elder son was a good baseball player in high school. Not the best but he loved it and craved to play. Maybe I missed a few home games due to travel but I surely did help with gloves and cleats and such. And I attended a bunch of games. What was cool about that boy/young man was that he craved the sport and nothing significant about the crowd or fans. Now as a thirty something he really craves doing good. You just get this sense that though he is kind of tough on family that is a thorn in his side not a controlling factor in his good life.

Two of my most favorite historical folks are Michelangelo and Rene’ Descartes. They both worked for crazed task masters but in general they simply craved doing good work in the former and finding truth in the latter. Perhaps I am right when I say those two are the same.

My young son of 7 is going fishing. Very hard for him on a weekend but he, all by himself, got up early and got me going so we could go fishing before church stuff. Sorry we caught none today but we had about 1,000 great father/son moments. The boy told me what he really wanted (perhaps craved) was to go have fun with me. We added a good two mile hike and some awesome snacks – thanks mom. Wow he has got his casting down and we are ready to go ocean fishing.

I do declare and confess that I do not desire days like this. I crave them. I would move mountains and stop freight trains to do it. Here is a fun one, do you think my son enables me?

Honey child’s and friends and elders. I truly crave that you got some sort of blessing from this. And I hope that blessing is that it grabbed you and made you crave your loved ones.

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      Lori Colbo 2 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      Interesting topic. I find a bit of difference between craving, and yearning/longing. Yearning- A tender or urgent longing for something. Craving - an intense, urgent or abnormal longing. Wikidiffs explains the difference better than I can articulate:

      "As verbs the difference between yearn and crave is that yearn is to long, have a strong desire (for something) while crave is to want strongly as to satisfy an appetite to long for, to yearn" I guess it looks like hair splitting but to me there is a slight difference. Nevertheless, I love the Scripture that says we have eternity in our hearts - a yearning for heaven. The psalmist also speaks of panting after God.

      I think we all have the yearning, craving or whatever for love. The important things is finding or accepting it in healthy ways. Love means different things for different people. People get love mixed up with other things, like sex, gratification, to have someone as obsessive about you that you are to them. I know people, mostly women, who want to be the total sum of a man's life and focus. They are trying to fill a hole that can't be filled that way.

      I enjoyed reading this.

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      manatita44 2 months ago from london

      Big ones, Bro: cravings; desires. The Buddha thought so. In fact he said that suffering was as a result of desire. Perhaps you have not taken it that far and this is a cute and loving as well as insightful Hub.

      Maslow's Hierachy of Human Needs would be quite useful here. We all fit somewhere on his ladder or hierachical chart. Self-esteem - the desire to love or be appreciated. You're so right about this craving for recognition bit.

      I used to think that way of a friend we both know and I don't see now, but when 'he' couldn't get his way, 'he' would even become personal on emails. I say this not to gloat, for empathy is needed in all cases. Since I need this, then why should I not wish it for others?

      As usual, you have covered the basic necessity of human needs. Very natural really, in so far as we are evolving souls seeking or returning to a life of freedom that we once unconsciously or consciously knew. Loving thoughts.

      P.S. While the Seers speak of longing, yearning, aspiration -- that intense inner hunger for Something Higher -- Ramakrishna use to say that we can keep the desire, but just change its angle of vision. In other words, if we must desire, then let it be for God. This makes it a very positive one. Ha ha.

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      ThreeKeys 2 months ago from Australia

      I am never sure how to take you eric. So forgive me if I misread or misinterpret your writings here.

      However, after reading this sermon I just want to say "what does it matter" if you crave (as long no one is harmed by it). If someone comes across yearning more than you want to give-just don't give,then. Simple. And dont bemoan or begrudge the other because they feel unfullfilled.

      All I hear (and maybe I am guilty of this too) is how "wrong" we are. I'm over it.

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Always an enjoyable read, my friend. It only took you until you were 15 to enjoy your own company? My goodness, you were way ahead of me. I didn't like me until about ten years ago. :) There wa a lot to dislike, or so I thought. Today, man, I'm alive and lovin' life.

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      John Hansen 2 months ago from Queensland Australia

      There is much food for thought in this wonderful sermon, Eric. I even learnt a new word "obfuscate" :) Oh, I love my own company.. I think I have always been a little shy and somewhat of a loner, even though I was popular at school. I do crave to be good a whatever I attempt which I think resulted from being very competitive at sports. I think I have always craved respect more than being praised for the things I do. Thank you for posing these questions and thoughts.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori you always bring so much to my hubs. "Panting" is a wonderful concept in this area. And I like the word "longing". One of my favorites is the notion of "longsuffering". Being long of soul and/or mind. Which gets us to the point you make between yearning and craving. It does seem that time helps us with the distinction.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Fantastic Manatita just fantastic. Your direct statement of a very core understanding of our beloved Budha is refreshing and a wonderful way to look at this from an expansive viewpoint.

      This noble truth as condensed by the Oxford group always strikes a chord with me; "Ultimate and unending calm is attained when all cravings - even the craving for extinction - cease without leaving behind any seed."

      Thank you for taking us in this direction for further contemplation.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      ThreeKeys it is great to hear from you and to have you share such a wonderful perspective. Please accept that a response both internal and external on one of my sermons is never wrong. I like getting a good shot of practicality.

      I actually like to think of this as one of my theme songs; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2-jYsOCn1M

      Your words are great to consider. "Today I will stay over it".

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      As you put it that way Bill maybe at 15 it was just not so painful. But I had a great mentor and you guessed it he was my teacher. Biology, ski coach and trainer. We would run in the woods and stop to identify plants, rocks and formation and tracking. He got me so comfortable in nature. Then he made it clear that it was my best friend and to spend time there alone.

      I just love teachers!!!

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John I think that you just showed us how in touch you are with you. Of course it is reflected in your writing also. A comfortable calm feeling you exude.

      I think that most religions place a high value on an inner peace which clearly requires "a grasp on craving", have it but do not let it dictate good and bad and right and wrong.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 2 months ago from Washington DC

      Mark 12:30-31 reads;

      "30 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.

      31 And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these." Once we comprehend its meaning our craving for love will vanish.

      Many of the christ's teachings reveals god is within us and we are god, therefore he is saying love ourselves with every fiber of our being. My experience revels that when we drive our live into our being life-force it flows out of our pores into everything around us which, in turn, flows through them and back into us. In that way, our just loving ourselves makes us and others feel loved and "the coveting as in a sin and craving" doesn't exist because we are both loved and loving others.

      "I really do not care if they are all hypocrites when they wake up Monday morning. I crave the love for that one hour" had me laughing out loud and long (LOLAL). It's a “just is” because that is the how this material civilization is designed to be but sense man cling and reject 180 degrees of almost everything. Until the "reverse metamorphosis of the 'new birth'" is obtained within our life-forces that is what we get. Once we eliminate the emotional cravings the only craving we'll have is "to know and do god's will."

      And, Eric, may we love ourselves as the christ taught and be blessed - "become less than civilized" - so we can return through the flaming (purifying fire) sword (for cutting us from all material attachments) to return to the garden of god at the coming end of this civilization.

      Joy be within you,

      Elijah

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very nice Elijah. May we begin to remove all hate, and then all lust for the physical things. For then we exist as another part of the flowing stream of love and life, and hopefully to some degree lose ourselves there.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 months ago from The Caribbean

      Seeing our cravings is a good thing. Makes it easier for us to decide which we will fulfill and which we will control. Either way, they help us develop into sensible, responsible people.

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      Clive Williams 2 months ago from Nibiru

      nice ceremony...

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dora, that is a really good point.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Clive

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      Tamara Yancosky 2 months ago from No Idea Where

      This is a very interesting post as I have never seen one, yet, about the subject of Cravings. Thank you for sharing this! Cravings can definitely do us harm, but as you mentioned, good craving are very healthy and give us the desire to enthusiastically face another day.

      Hugs,

      Tamara

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tamara, just today after about a week of really getting it done (what I would call a craving) I finally made a 9 mile hiking loop. 1,000 verticle, 30 lbs and done in 3 hrs. I am still contemplating whether that was a craving. But I know this; getting it done satisfied whatever it was.

      Thank you for adding to this wonderful area where we can actually help addicts redirect and make a difference.

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      Tamara Yancosky 2 months ago from No Idea Where

      "...I finally made a 9 mile hiking loop. 1,000 verticle, 30 lbs and done in 3 hrs...".

      Nicely Done!!!

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tamara, I am reaching to a level where I can do better by walking 25 in two days in the 110 plus mile vertical in the Grand Canyon. I am fired up.

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      Tamara Yancosky 2 months ago from No Idea Where

      Wow! This is a lot of activity! Great Job :-)

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I find this an interesting topic. I never thought about a difference between craving and yearning. To my way of thinking, craving is like wanting chocolate, and yearning is wanting to rediscover the past. I guess they both can be troubling if they consume out thought's to the extent of being obsessive. You always make me think! I love your beautiful pictures. Thank you....

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby it is so good to hear from you. I thought of you just yesterday and thought I should drop you a note. Thank you for dropping in.

      For some reason I always connect yearning on the positive and craving on the not so positive.

      Yearning just seems so, well, yearning for love in a healthy sense.

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      manatita44 2 months ago from london

      Hear. Hear...

      Great men all but silent ... dutiful ... courageous...

      I wrote my last hub to honour one such man. A traditional Kamikaze. There were brave men; indeed women on all sides. HEP HEP ...HEP HEP... HEP HEP... for all those awesome heroines and hero's.

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      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Manatita. There seems to be a glitch with your comment here.

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