Eric's Sunday Sermon; On Recovery From Whatever
A Four Hundred Pound Carving
Let Us Talk Deep For a Moment
It is an interesting exercise to look at all the ways we get out of sync. Physical in a few ways like, broken bones, systemic disease, viruses and on and on. So we take the road to recovery if we are smart.
Now there are other types of things we need to recover from. It is hard to tell sometimes if they are physical or something to do with brain function or simply spiritual. The Catholics do exorcisms. But did you know that there is a team of experts in neuro function and straightforward psychiatry to assure that the “demon possession” is not something like Schizophrenia. I mention that to show the proximity between mental illness and spiritual wrongness.
So how do we recover from a physical ailment and is it so much different than a mental or spiritual malady? Let us discuss it and then decide for ourselves.
Rest and tender loving care seem to be a commonality for both. Medicine can be taken for both. Healthy diet and even holistic therapy probably are good for both. Just seventy years ago surgery was an option for both. Yes, lobotomies were used, now it is a less invasive electro shock treatment.
So in the area of philosophy, empiricism is a school of thought. Materialism and no existence outside of the physically knowable and observable is a way to look at it. These are the kind of folk who explain love as a series of neuro synapses as a result of stimulation and actually nothing to do with emotion. There is some method to this madness. An inquiring mind will accept the concepts but not at the exclusion of that which is not readily observable to the traditional senses.
On the other end of the spectrum are two rather strange partners. How about faith healing and how about string theory? They both end up in an ethereal non-place. And both of these probably normally go too far.
So let us take a look like normal people with normal words and a conversational tone. How we describe it above is not wrong it is just that it makes us think too hard. So many people have told me that I “over think” things. So let us try not to do that here.
Would A Broken Love and Heart Love In Heaven?
Nature Loves Us.
Sometimes It Just Breaks
Some of us have gone overboard with exercise, probably most of us. This will cause pain. Muscles and joints hurt. Do we power through it the next day or do we give ourselves a day off? Perhaps the answer to that is age. When you are younger you power through it and older you take a rest. I am in the middle.
Here are two examples. You plan a ski vacation. You ski hard the first day. The next day you are hurting but you paid for it so you are dang sure skiing the next day. I enjoy hiking in the Grand Canyon. The second day even your ears hurt. But you have no choice stay there and die or hike.
It seems people get that. But do they get this? Off you go to some 3 day spiritual retreat. It is on a mountaintop and it is an amazing mountain top experience. You get home late Sunday night. You are so spiritually exhausted that you go to bed without meditation, prayer or reading.
And how about that fantastic project you are working on? You love it but it is taking all your energy and causing some stress. Do you take a Sunday off or do you power through it?
Aren’t those interesting notions of recovery versus no recovery time? And isn’t it interesting that those examples do not normally come to mind when we think of recovery. We just tend to think of when we powered through and broke something, got physically sick, had a breakdown or an overdose of from work to drugs.
It was not in error that we looked at the overdose of spirituality. It seems like too much of anything can cause a resulting breakage. I remember my first overdose very clearly and I remember my father suggesting against it. Campfire cooked hotdogs for sure over 10. A very bad stomach, vomiting and never touching another hotdog for years. Sorry but binge watching Netflix and way too much Ice Cream does not count – I hope.
Have you ever been too tired to sleep? A somewhat normal occurrence flying across the Pacific Ocean. Jet lag on steroids. And of course have you ever been too tired to stay awake? Isn’t it interesting that we can have different responses to the same malady. Now I do not mean this antagonistically, but have you ever had a great time with your spouse but 24/7 gets edgy after 4 days.
How many women try to kick their husband out of the house within a month of his retirement? How do you recover from being too much around someone you love deeply? Believe me I loved those hot dogs – until….
Broken Before Our Personal God
Building Blocks of Recovery
So since this purports to be a sermon of sorts let us now look at that last concept. There really is not a single medicine that you can take without side effects. Even a simple aspirin can cause an upset stomach in some. Now we should remember Mary Poppins. Just a spoon full of sugar helps the medicine go down. Yikes. And what to you make of allergies?
As we think of it we can “break” our love. Probably in some way just about every kind of love you can think of. You love nature but you drive a great big old truck to get there. You love praying but sometimes you forget to. You love your young child but you do not spend at least 20 minutes a day reading to her. You love being in great shape but sometimes you do not exercise. You love your wife but you take her for granted.
Love is about our relationship with someone or something else. Sure there is self-love. But in a real sense you have to get outside of yourself to love your self. So when we sever that love from the object of our love either your love needs recovery or you need recovery.
How does one recover from either side of a broken love. Sorry but this is one where taking it easy the next day will not do the trick. Love is a part of us that requires constant effort. And of course some will argue this and say that if it is “a labor of love” it is not love. And we question a perceived lopsided love.
But we are speaking of recovery from a broken love. We may not be able to know all the ways to break a bone. And certainly we are not able to know all the ways we can break love. But we notice that no matter how either of these breaks happened basically each broken bone is recovered from in the same way. Setting, immobilization and time. So how about broken love?
We do not answer that here. Every aspect of love is personal to you. However we can suggest that apologies, owning up to our part in the break, and trying, are probably basics. Notice here we are talking about recovery for someone who broke the love. Not the broken hearted. But alas it seems the road for all recovery is best started with love.