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Eric's Sunday Sermon; Shut Your Mouth

Updated on September 16, 2015

Just let it flow

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A Short Sermon

In order to help drive the point of today's Sunday Sermon home it will be short. What a concept, a short sermon.

We hope that you will finish it up for yourself. And it would be nice if you shared your finish with us in the comments. No matter what you are thinking, someone will gain from reading it.

Grab some popcorn and enjoy the show.

Must we always try to be the director of how things go around us? Just take this simple notion. The world is really splendid. I said get the popcorn and watch the show, not the news. Yes there is a bunch of horrific terrible things going on. Out of 300 million people there are a good 5,000 acting out and wrongly everyday. Out of billions of people there are 100's of thousands in a bad way and doing bad things. But by golly jingles that leaves billions just leading life the best they can each day and that is beautiful. Here is a shocker for you. The normal life, the life that the vast vast majority lead is good.

Now throw in nature and the ones we love and cool stuff like art, literature, music, dancing, gardens, the sky at night, the moon and sun and today don't forget food, and the world is pretty darn splendid.

So for a time just enjoy it. Don't try to change it.

You knew this song was coming!

To me fruit is beautiful

Just another fruit market in Southeast Asia
Just another fruit market in Southeast Asia | Source

Did you know that people will make mistakes?

I really had this conversation and the speaker still does not even understand how off kilter it is.

So she called me and complained about some folks at work not doing something the way she had told them to do it. Then she went on to explain how she had provided the bank with all the paperwork before they even asked with instructions of how to deal with a financing. And that the people just went ahead and did it their way anyway. Yes, in both cases the end product would be the same and on time. Perhaps some delay and perhaps some repetition and waste.

And then she said "If they would all just do it the way I told them it would all get done without a problem".

Today I will just leave it at that. Draw your own thoughts.

My plate is full just accepting and facing my own challenges

Lending a hand is one thing, teaching is another, directing is still a whole other thing.
Lending a hand is one thing, teaching is another, directing is still a whole other thing. | Source

I don't think I have enough time to worry about myself. How can I find time to worry about what others do?

So back to this splendid world.

One of the greatest challenges and most rewarding things in life is to watch a child. Dang it, it is so hard to sit on your hands, keep your mouth shut and watch them make a mistake. Especially the fall off your bike kind or the misspell a word kind.

Consider for a moment that things are just the way they are supposed to be. That just perhaps you were not evolved or placed here for the sole purpose of intervening in everybody's life. Oh sure we must step up and act and stir it up from time to time. We must not shirk our responsibilities to act responsibly when needed. We must do what we can to love and relieve suffering where and when we can.

But otherwise in the day to day?

How about you?

Can you accept things without trying to effect the outcome?

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Easier said than done.

I am going to go pull some plants up now. I am so egotistical that I think I should decide what plant lives and dies and exactly where they are supposed to do it. OK that is a lie. I am just a tool. My wife decides and directs me to pull up plants that she calls weeds. I will actually eat some of the Mallow and Dandelion leaves, maybe even make a salad.

So my quandary: Should I just let the plants be and try to change my wife? Or should I just let my wife be and pull up some of the plants? I think my idea is the best, pretend to be weeding when I am really just harvesting for a salad.

Have a great Sunday!.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Oh the memories -- what could be wrong with a Wok, a Cuisinart, and a vacuum? Sure now I can laugh. Thanks Lawrence.

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      Lawrence Hebb 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      Not long after we were married I was convinced I knew what my wife wanted for her birthday, I even paid attention to get the right color but she didn't appreciate the TOASTER!

      That was the day I learned that listening actually means more than just with tge ears but watching what the body language says! (It was a week before she spoke civilly to me!)

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ed, my son and I went one further the other day. We picked and washed up the salad "weeds" and put them into a bag with other salad stuff from the store. Oh well then we got in trouble for giggling too much at the dinner table.

      Life is good!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lawrence,

      I have a quote that hangs next to my desk. "If you know what your wife wants give it to her - and oh by the way - you are either a genius or and idiot -- there is no middle ground on that" My wife will come in and point at it and make a face indicating which one I am at any given time.

      I shoot for a good 20% on that acting all accepting thingy.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Peachy,

      One time I spent time considering that lack of perfection is in fact perfection. It was sitting in nature with a beautiful imperfect flower when a perfectly imperfect bee happened upon it. Had they been perfectly perfect it would have ruined the perfect moment. When I really whine and cry I get a stuffed up nose and a headache.

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      ahorseback 

      2 years ago

      Eric , Always , always , always follow the wife's directions , and eat the salad too . After she says "Great salad Eric "! Then you can just smile and know ! You won !..........and Eric , you win !

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      Lawrence Hebb 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      I'm not even going to comment about the weeds but to even think about disobeying the wife!

      I did tick the 'box' about 'lettings things be' but truth is saying is easy, doing is a different story!

      Lawrence

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      peachy 

      2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      Nothing is perfect, complaining too much id annoying too

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Oh dear Mel, you are doing great. I tend to sit there during the sermon and think thoughts that could only be called sinful. Churches get more of my money if the pass the plate before a lengthy sermon, cuz there is a good chance I won't be there at the end of one.

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      Mel Carriere 

      3 years ago from San Diego California

      I love short sermons because I tend to fall asleep in church. The good thing about short sermons is you get home early and start sinning again in earnest for next week. As usual I make light of your brilliant work but your message is always an inspiration. Great hub my friend!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Frank. That is a super nice thing to say and lifts my spirits.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ann,

      I reckon I just had not realized to this point that I write with an audience. This is especially true since the concept is labeled "sermon". But notice I say "with" an audience. It is nice to be a part of and to know that we write together.

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      Frank Atanacio 

      3 years ago from Shelton

      I love the concept of this sermon my friend.. your words are gifts for the week bless you

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      Ann Carr 

      3 years ago from SW England

      How lovely to see someone who appreciates having one's attention drawn to a little mistake. I've tried to do so tactfully a few times and it hasn't been taken kindly. I do so with emails, not on hub, but.... Ah well..

      But then you are the sort of person who appreciates people's help.

      Patricia is wonderful.

      Ann

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      A special thanks to Patricia Scott. She informed me of a mistake I made in editing this hub. It was a wonderful gentle reminder that quite often a tactful word of advise is really a very nice thing.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John, you remind me of "different strokes for different folks". "My way is the best" must be the cry of a thousand disappointments. Those animals are great teachers. It is a good thing they cannot understand our language. We would have nature all messed up ;-)

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dana, thank you for that insightful comment. And if I pray "Thy will, not mine be done" then if I am eventually moved into action it always seems to work out alright. That moment of pause, reflection and prayer, even if it is just seconds long, makes all the difference in my world.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora, I hope your week is going great and that you have not ventured into worry. Last night my young son actually asked me outright; "Dad, is worrying bad for you?" We started our journey into the idea of negative inside feelings that we just probably want to avoid. Own it, know it, do not dismiss it in others and try to understand.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, there is something in our DNA that makes us label. Some complicated mishmash of language and conceptualization. A massive interior compartmentalization in our heads. "Weed" equals bad. If I give Aphids a home in some weeds they leave my happy Roses alone. The ultimate in live and let live.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks much Whonu, it is great to hear from you. I will come by to read your latest soon.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Faith,

      Oh that sweet surrender is such a beautiful thing. I just had a friend who was headed in a wrong direction. Did not want my input. I sat back and things went "wrong" in my opinion. During the process he met a great gal and they are in love. Glad I stayed out of it.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby, it sure is nice to have you visit and leave a note. Funny how hard I can work at it but it all does come down to "don't worry be happy". I reckon you can find great philosophy on the back of a cereal box if you are looking for it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise, if you ever have a real hankering to influence an outcome, come on by, I need all the help I can get. There is often a fine line between letting it be and helping it be. Thanks for coming by and leaving your comment.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Will, we sure have a lot to be thankful for with those guys from AA. A thoughtful loving solution to a spiritual malady. If I reflect on the short version of the Serenity prayer ten times a day it still might not be enough. Progress not perfection.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ann, thank you for enriching this sermon with your experience. I have a fun one with my older children. I just kind of pause and then say "do you want my advice?" Of course the response is always "do I have a choice?" And we laugh and move on. Awareness is our greatest friend.

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      John Hansen 

      3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Hi Eric, this is a wonderful sermon, short but effective. My wife and I have a philosophy that if something is meant to happen it will without to many hurdles. If their are a lot of obstacles put in the way it is an indication that maybe you are on the wrong track. That said, my wife is often hurt by people because they act or respond differently than she expects. I on the other hand never put high expectations on anyone...we all act and think differently. I loved the serenity prayer quoted by Will Starr " too. My wife and I also tackle almost every task in different ways, but guess what? The outcome is almost always the same.

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      Dana Tate 

      3 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      Wonderful sermon, and nice message. I know I found a lot of peace in my life when I learned to just "shut my mouth" I had to learn if people wanted my advice- to let them ask for it. It's not easy but necessary for growth. Sometimes I just pray for people instead.

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      Bill Holland 

      3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I hate to see this, but we don't weed our garden. We figure the weeds have every bit as much right to be there as the veggies...and they seem to get along just fine sharing the space. Maybe there's a lesson there? Too bad I'm not bright enough to discern it. :) Happy Sunday my friend.

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      Dora Weithers 

      3 years ago from The Caribbean

      "When you worry you make it double," say Bobby McFerrin. That advice from him and the advice from you to "shut your mouth" will be my focus this week. Thank you.

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      whonunuwho 

      3 years ago from United States

      I enjoyed your sermon Eric my friend and may our God and creator bless you and yours. whonu

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      Faith Reaper 

      3 years ago from southern USA

      Wonderful short and sweet sermon this Sunday, dear Eric. Woo, I struggled with letting go for years, but now as soon as I let go and let God, that sweet peace just rains down upon me. When I cast my cares to Him, I know I have done all that I need to do. It is especially hard to shut my mouth when it comes to my grandchildren, but it is always best in the end. When it comes to trying to understand the actions of others, I soon realize there is not one thing I can do to change others, and that only God can change the hearts of men. Heck, I'm glad I realized that I am not in control : )

      Peace and blessings always,

      Theresa

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I like that, ' Don't worry be happy ' I have learned to take a back seat and let it all ' hang out ' Funny how badly ' good advice ' can mess things up. Everyday is a learning process for me. An open mind is a beautiful thing.

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      Denise W Anderson 

      3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I tend to be the kind that likes to affect the outcome. Unfortunately, my idea of what should be the outcome and what God wants to have happen are usually two different things! When I come to that realization, then I step back and get out of the way!

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      WillStarr 

      3 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      One of the basic tenets of Alcoholics Anonymous is to 'Let go and let God'. Unfortunately, it's one of the most difficult, because we always want to direct life.

      It's also the message in the beloved Serenity Prayer:

      God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

      Good work, Eric!

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      Ann Carr 

      3 years ago from SW England

      I love the idea of just letting things be. I've done that with the grandchildren, just sat and watched and it is really difficult not to say or do something. However, I did shut my mouth and leave them to it. Then if they ask afterwards I'll give them all the advice they want. If they don't ask, we'll just get on with something else. How wonderful life is when we watch and learn.

      Great sermon, Eric. But then they always are. Shared.

      Ann

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