ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel
  • »
  • Religion and Philosophy»
  • Non-denominational Beliefs & Practices

Eric's Sunday Sermon; Sincerely Yours

Updated on July 23, 2017

Our Morning Moon

I just love early mornings
I just love early mornings | Source

Doing it Sincerely

This little bit is about sincerely speaking to each other.

Good day to you. So the young boy was going with his mother to meet some lady at her home. Mother was giving directions and reminders of how the boy was to act. It was right around noon. The mother reminded the boy to say “good morning” to the lady. The boy scrunched his face and remarked “but it will be afternoon when we get there”. The father nearby told the boy that it was always fine to say “Buenos Dias” or “Good Day”. And the father reminded the boy that in his Vietnamese he could always say “Chào anh” which is the same for morning, day and night. It is understood that the boy decided by himself on “good afternoon”.

How do you greet another? Certainly the actual language used is unremarkable. How do you greet your God? Certainly the actual language used is unremarkable. And assuming that time means nothing to your God as with mine, the time of day is irrelevant.

But there is a difference for many in that they greet and pray to their God differently in the morning than in the night. For this preacher man it is “please” in the morning and “thank you” at night. Of course this has the caveat of the repeated prayer “Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep, if I should die before I ‘wake I pray the Lord my soul to take.” Funny how growing up I never thought that morbid, because it kind of is. Perhaps around 8 years old it is appropriate to teach a child that prayer, along with “good night, sleep tight, don’t let the bed bugs bite”. Strange things what Grandma taught mom who taught me who taught my children. And we must assume someone taught Grandma, etc. etc.

There are two fine salutations like Aloha to use coming and going. We do not use them all the time unless we are kind of freaky. Saying these to a store clerk after checking out is a good thing to do, but it is just kind of weird in that setting. “Namaste” and “May the peace of the Lord be with you”. What is freaky and weird about it is that it just cannot be sincere in such a circumstance. Well there are exceptions like Iggy my favorite clerk at our local grocery store.

So let us look at sincerity.

We Think Harder About That Which is Harder

My Son Captures the Morning

Somewhere North of Vienna
Somewhere North of Vienna | Source

Is It; Say It Like You Mean It or Mean Like You Say It?

To be truly felt? To be honest? To really mean it? To be done after careful consideration? The opposite of flippant? Perhaps sincerity requires one of these or perhaps all of them. Do you sign your letters “sincerely” or “yours truly” or “signed”. For just a second let us back up and consider the boy who thought about it and decided on “good afternoon”. It would seem that that greeting was sincere as the boy actually put thought into it. On the other hand was he just doing it because he was told to do it?
Do we just greet one another to be polite? Do we just greet God because someone told us to? Do our words have sentiment that back them up?

Christians are taught how to pray from the Bible directly from Jesus Christ. And it starts out in some form “Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name”. Of course this has been prayed billions and billions of times sincerely. And just as much a fact it has been “prayed” billions and billions of times without sincerity but just said. It gives pause to wonder if it is better left unsaid if not with sincerity.

“I love you bro” and “BFF” and so often “thank you” and “please” really lack sincerity. Most assuredly it cheapens their meaning if done via auto-pilot.

There are areas that we should really evaluate. Does a certain action make us thankful? When I get a phone call of the normal nature I am always grateful that someone reached out to me to communicate. Good, bad or indifferent. I may say “thanks for calling” at the beginning and the end and I mean it. I am not using this term lightly, I love when people comment on these sermons and I am thankful for it and most normally express it. It is sincere.

Is it possible to communicate with someone without regard for how it is received and still be sincere? I call BS on that one. We are afraid that most day to day communication is done without aforethought as to how it will be received. Maybe it would not be too wrong to say that we do not have time to think.

So what do we make of sincerity in the spiritual settings?

The Best Singers Are Sincere

When We Really Pay Attention

Almost Impossible to spend all day sincerely
Almost Impossible to spend all day sincerely | Source

I Pray You Have The Time

Shall we accept that those things that we resist the most are the things that we must do in the creative area of our life? In our spiritually motivated creative endeavors it seems that fear rules our actions so much that we can conclude that if we are fearful of something then we must overcome it or be eaten by it. Much akin to this are our sincere feelings be expressed to another. Really telling her that you love her and consequences be damned. Sucking it up, doing a gut check and then accepting our responsibility in something and apologizing and saying sorry and meaning it. That may be the hardest of all things to do, and for sure it causes fear. But when that fear is overcome the freedom is as expansive as the sky itself.

It should be understood by all that fear is not the opposite of love but it is the greatest impediment to it. True love of any character requires vulnerability. This is scary. If it is to be meaningful it must be undertaken with sincerity. Again “To be truly felt? To be honest? To really mean it? To be done after careful consideration? The opposite of flippant?”

We must remain cognizant of the fact that self-love requires this also. I must go ahead and feel the guilt, the remorse, the fear and the self-loathing. I must not confront it but rather run it’s coarse with it. And that hurts like hell. But in order to really move forward we cannot set this vulnerability aside or stuff but treat it with respect and sincerity.

So now we speak directly to sincere love. It may sound funny but one of the most important functions a person can perform in order to love is to concentrate. If attainable to the exclusion of all else. One must concentrate on the love, within and without. Do we think of prayer and meditation here or something more to be felt than practiced? Can we concentrate our feelings?

This is my favorite type of “sermon”. It is so much up to the individual without universal truths that the best we can try to do is to ask ourselves the right questions. Our own answer today about being sincere in a given situation may be totally different tomorrow in another situation. Sincerity maybe be near instantaneous or it may require weeks, months or even years. Personally procrastination and avoidance are my favorite deals.

We would all just hate having our last words to a loved one who passes to be less than loving. And I suggest that for me, that which I most fear is that the last words I spoke to that someone were insincere. I pray you take the time to make the time to “thine own self be true”.

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 7 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That is a perfect comment. What you say is very true. I generally go for a little longer one; "Hey buddy whatchya been up to, I hope you are doing well". Or better to use their name and if it is a good friend a hug is required. Or for others a hand shake and a direct look into their eyes. And I usually like to immediately ask about their family.

      I am an isolationist but I still really like people so maybe the first greeting is a bit less important because I will begin right away inquiring about them. As I think about it, if it is someone I do not care for I do use a trite greeting. I think I do that because I really do not care and do not want to chit chat with them. Hmm.

    • denise.w.anderson profile image

      Denise W Anderson 7 weeks ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I wholeheartedly agree! I find the words "How are you?" and the reply, "Fine, thank you" to be empty indeed, as I am rarely feeling "fine!" I much prefer to say to someone "It is good to see you" when I greet them. Then they do not have to reply with an empty, trite phrase that may or may not be true. I have been on the receiving end of that triteness enough to know that I much prefer to hear that someone is glad that I am present, no matter how I feel!

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda I just really enjoy learning from the comments on my sermons. And you always add to the good.

      I had an Uncle Bill (honorary) Who explained to me about the last thing we say to someone. He flew over 50 missions over Germany and was an Ace pilot. He lost a lot of men in the big B52's. I was bemoaning an argument with a friend. He said to the effect "Eric, the last words you say to someone are only the last words if you do not speak with them again". Driving home the two pronged notion. Don't wait to set things straight and if we believe in a soul we can always speak again to the dead.

      Being a good Christian man I suppose he also was suggesting to speak from the heart of love.

      Cool stuff.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Paul, I call what you are talking about the "liturgy effect". They also have terms for it in cognitive psychology. We say and do the thing no matter what. Saying something out loud is far more powerful than just in your head. Children learning to read.

      And so we agree with the 12 step programs to a degree "fake it until you make it".

      The act of saying "Have a blessed day". Is more than the thought. I think you are right.

    • Carb Diva profile image

      Linda Lum 2 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Beautiful thoughts Eric, but that's no surprise considering the source. You write from the heart.

      It is so easy to take this life for granted, isn't it? "Bye, see ya later" rolls off of the tongue without any thought. But what if there is no "later"? I don't mean to be morbid, but if we treated every greeting, every hello and goodbye as perhaps our last words with someone, would we be so glib?

    • Paul K Francis profile image

      Paul K Francis 2 months ago from east coast,USA

      I think that a good way to practice being sincere when I greet someone is to wish the blessings of God on them, even if I am just saying 'hello.' Taking the time, even just a few moments, to get God involved can easily lead to true feelings of sincerity and love. And that is just another reason to be thankful. Another important and sincere sermon, Eric. Have a great day.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you for your comment Tim. I am the worlds worst "it is all about me" guy. My first reaction to another's expressions seems to usually be "what did I do?" when it has nothing to do with me. I can allow myself to be in a funk or distracted just because, but if you do it around me, it is about me.

      Good stuff to contemplate.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora, I thank you much for your support which has be constant and uplifting for several years now. It is a fascinating area to look into about going toward that which we fear. "Trying something new" is something we must choose as we grow a bit older.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jackie it is very nice to have you join me here. I sometimes look at my actions and ask myself "will the real Eric please stand up". My knee jerk reactions to certain circumstances some time seems like someone else is doing it. I think you are right - we have to get real with ourselves.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ann. What you speak of is so true. As I continue to contemplate this area I begin to see that here is where the concept of mindfulness really has validity. Paying attention. (strange term there "paying"?)

      I very much like the notion that what comes out of the mouth is the overflow of the heart.

    • tsmog profile image

      Tim Mitchell 2 months ago from Escondido, CA

      Good Morning Eric on this first day of the week! Interesting article while sharing I have not contemplated sincerity before. Especially in the context of my prayer life. I ponder sincerity without expressed emotions. Are they needed for the person to evaluate another person's sincerity? As you shared the boy gave sincere thought to the salutation, thus the offered choice is sincere. Isn't that true even if not received as being sincere because it was lackluster? In that case sincerity is misjudged as evaluated by another. Much to contemplate this morning.

    • MsDora profile image

      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 months ago from The Caribbean

      I can relate to “please” in the morning and “thank you” at night; and to the fact that " those things that we resist the most are the things that we must do in the creative area of our life." Thanks for sharing these simple but challenging insights.

    • Jackie Lynnley profile image

      Jackie Lynnley 2 months ago from The Beautiful South

      I agree with Ann, insincerity can be spotted and personally I would rather have the real thing. Guess we have to start out being the real thing, huh?

      Great sermon.

    • annart profile image

      Ann Carr 2 months ago from SW England

      Amen to that, Eric. Sincerity is so important and the good thing is that one can usually tell whether someone is sincere or not. There is something in the eyes, in the voice, in the body language.

      As you say, I think the most important is to be sincere in love. It's hard to look into one's own feelings honestly but what we show outwardly should reflect the soul.

      You've made me think carefully today, Eric, and made your point excellently.

      Ann

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Louise. I do truly hope you get a blessing of some sort from them.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Harish, I believe we have been friends since we met about 3 years ago. I always value your comments. Yes indeed Namaste is about our soul rather than our physical.

      So do I think "I love you" should be.

      I perhaps spend too much time "out of body and mind". But for some reason like your recent "Quest" hub that just seems to be where I need to be so that the time spent in the physical is more meaningful.

    • Coffeequeeen profile image

      Louise Powles 2 months ago from Norfolk, England

      Thanks for your usual Sunday service Eric. I do look forward to them and reading them. =)

    • Harishprasad profile image

      Harish Mamgain 2 months ago from India

      Lovely sermon here Eric. Sincerity is a great virtue. We face some people we personally don't like but whenever we greet them, it should be tinged with sincerity. In our part of the world, we don't bow to the bodies, instead we bow to the soul of each other by uttering 'namaste'.

      What I'm writing here is not out of the reason that I follow you. It's only because that I love you writings and I derive a great joy by communicating with you.

      What you're trying to say is beyond the physical level ,and that's something I have to struggle with by making honest deals with the Lord. This, I think is something to ponder often and make earnest efforts about. Thanks for sharing you deep but beautiful thoughts. Loved going through this great hub.

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill there is a great book my daughter gave me titled "Honest to God" by Dr. Brad Blanton. It is two psycho-babblers having a conversation about sometimes the need for "brutal" honesty and points in between.

      Doing truth requires time and energy that stems from love. You have that one nailed dude!

    • Ericdierker profile image
      Author

      Eric Dierker 2 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Good day Ryan. We are in the same boat. As you mention it, I do you usually thank God before my feet hit the floor. And that is right on point here. I just do it. tomorrow I will actually take a few deep breaths and be more sincere. Thank you.

    • billybuc profile image

      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      It's hard to find fault in what you say. I sometimes think I'm too sincere and too truthful. Is everyone I speak to ready for the truth at all times? I'm not sure everyone is, or as Jack Nicholson would say, "you can't handle the truth!" Still, it is certainly something to consider as I go about my Sunday and beyond.

    • Fullerman5000 profile image

      Ryan Fuller 2 months ago from Louisiana, USA

      Sometimes it is hard to be sincere. I try my best to do it and say what I mean or do what I say to the fullest. Very powerful message here. We may be able to fool others, but we can never fool our Lord and Savior. I always make sure to thank Him in the morning and at night.