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Eric’s Sunday Sermon; The “Armchair Quarterback”

Updated on February 3, 2020
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

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How easy to rest when you do not have the whole world to run.
How easy to rest when you do not have the whole world to run. | Source

Let Me Tell You How It Is Done Right

The armchair quarterback is a term derived about critics while watching a football game. He sits in his armchair and quarterbacks the game. Clearly the armchair quarterback is not playing on the field but has convinced himself that he knows more than the extremely talented real quarterback on the field. I suppose you might even say armchair quarterback coach.

I fully forgot that yesterday was super bowl day. I don’t get live TV. So I scoot down to the bodega and hang with the old guys who watch it there and then to our local bar, order up my famous Clausthaler Michilada and watch some there. Playing a game of pool is fun so you have some competition of your own during lulls in the game. Plus it is closest to the biggest screen that is bigger than my bathroom.

So in that this is a sermon and you already know that, I will tie in quickly the notion armchair quarterbacking in love, life and joy. There is a saying about letting go. “I got tired of being the lead actor, director and producer of the movie so I just grabbed some popcorn and enjoyed the show.”

But for analogy let us start with politics. It drives me crazy that I don’t get daily “intelligence” briefings or reports from my cabinet members whenever I want them. And I do not get to sit down with world leaders and discuss matters of global importance. I do not have aids that I can order to look into a matter and report back quickly with their expertise and investigation into issues.

But I can for dang sure sit in my easy chair and criticize and quarterback the games of the world and nation and even individuals. Perfectly within my right to purview and criticize and hate or love. I can absolutely know more than a senator who somehow got over a million people to vote for her. Don’t even get me started on how I should be leading the Supreme Court of the United States. I am clearly smarter and more knowledgeable than any of those folks. “Oh and honey, could you bring me another beer?” I think I will just go ahead and call them all stupid idiots. I could do much better than them.

Firefighters, police, service men and women, doctors and lawyers, and school teachers and preachers all could be so much better if they just listened to my advice that I scream at them when it is reported that .01% made a bad choice given seconds in the heat of the moment.

Sounds Right

Nature Should Follow My Advice

Flash flood in the GC.
Flash flood in the GC. | Source

Better Than What?

We should all run out today and buy more electronic devices, larger TVs, and faster stuff so our snap decisions could be quicker. And I would get a computer set up with 4 extra screens so I could watch five news outlets at the same time. Then I would really know more than anyone. They would just hire me as the executive of the water cooler so I could spend more time explaining to people how things should be done and thought of. What really blows my mind is that I have nothing left to learn as on a daily basis I would know more than anyone. Not to mention I would have stopped the Corona Virus at the first showing.

Don’t you just love criticizing a referee/judge on calls they make. It is so cool when they say “upon further review” that means that the real pros spend time reviewing in slow motion “video” footage from about 8 angles. And then what they decide. But they are wrong if it goes against my team. Those idiots.

Wait just a minute here. Something is familiar. We all know that my religion is better than yours. Just like my opinion on the above. Put a bunch of us together proving ours is better when the other religion is doing just the same. Game on. Now let’s join a team and fight the other guys and now we have a war on.

“Better” was italicized above for a reason. It is that notion that my view is better than yours, and I will fight to the death to prove my way is the right way. Sure there are real armies that kill each other but I can better lead that army than any commander-in-chief, right here from my armchair.

One group says my house of worship is better than yours because it has more adornment and ritual. Then of course the other says my house of worship is better than yours because it is simple and we don’t follow silly thousands of year old rules.

My yard and house are better than my neighbors. And he hires folks to take care of his and I am better because I do it all myself.

Great Man

But I could have done better.
But I could have done better. | Source

Which One Is Better?

Happy

“So let me tell you how it is done.” “Son I know falling in love is a complicated and oven confusing time. I have done it so many times I know just how to deal with it”. (Oops I think the father is an idiot, if he was so smart about it why has he been divorced and had more than the fingers on both hands women leave him?) Reminds me of that notion of a man trying and trying to invent something over 1,000 and not getting right. He simply said that each time it did not work he learned what did not work. So maybe that father had a point. Should we even give advice? Is my suggestion better than what you think?

The best advice that I can give anyone is not to advise but give examples of your own life and worked and did not work for you. Let the other keep their own counsel. I have never been given direct advice that I thought was better than my opinion. (Leave my wife out of this ;-)

So armchair quarterbacking on any subject of love should not be. There must be quotes from others, relating our own exeriences, scriptures of any sorts or suggestions for further reading. Too truly teach a man to fish you must go out and fish with him many times. Do not tell him how to do it, show him how you do it.

It has occurred to me that the idea of being better than causes everything of ever sin and every war. I have seen bad bad bar fights over which team is better – his or his. Lately I have seen friends lose friends over politics and whose view is better. Well I better get to the point of love right now.

Every little thing my wife did while we were falling in love was fantastic. Cute or creative or brilliant. Nine years into marriage and not so much. My way of doing things became better. And of course vice versa. Now after another nine we know each other so well that we do what each of us can do better and that is so cool. Of course we still give advice. But by golly that works if done in love and not as a command. I like to put mine in question form, I learn a whole lot that way and it causes her to evaluate her actions.

So please don’t sit back in your favorite chair, that you are damned lucky to have and armchair someone else’s love. And as final thought maybe don’t second guess yourself and “tell” yourself how it should be done. Just love at let your inner love and not advice shine through.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      6 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks for coming by Flourish. We are a funny lot us adult humans. My son is in a stage where it is "I knew that". So he is getting questions and few statements ;-)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 days ago from USA

      “I have never been given direct advice that I thought was better than my opinion.” No truer words have been spoken.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 days ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise we do opinions around here. And while we try to respect - most of them are armpits. Hard not to give a negative opine on a negative opinion.

      Your dad sounds really cool.

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      Denise McGill 

      9 days ago from Fresno CA

      My dad used to say that like armpits, everyone has a couple of opinions and they usually smell just as bad. Everyone thinks they know how things should be done to make them better but no one really wants to do it.

      Blessings,

      Denise

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita you made me think about how fun these folks are if you can detach. And sometimes just walk away.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Kari, I think any attention we give to our presentation to others is most of the battle.

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      manatita44 

      2 weeks ago from london

      Haha. Looks like a veiled message in there somewhere.

      You call them 'armchair quarterbacks and we call them 'pundits' or punditry, perhaps. They exists everywhere! They will continue, as they add a bit of colour and spice, but my, o my! Can they be a nuisance? Lovely Hub!

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      Kari Poulsen 

      2 weeks ago from Ohio

      I should be called Ms. Obvious according to the advice I give. "Have you tried . . . ?" It is always something they had tried. I like your advice on giving stories. I think I will try that. Thanks!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dora. It just hit me from something I read. Seems like Jesus really warned us about this with his suggesting the one without sin cast the first stone.

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      Dora Weithers 

      2 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      True, Eric. "Better than" comes out of a competitive spirit. Love is interested in the progress and happiness of everyone. Thanks for finding so many different ways to say this.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      So glad you dropped by and left a note Devika. It is great to be back among friends like you.

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      Devika Primić 

      2 weeks ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Eric so glad you are writing again and sharing your opinions of the Quarterbacks. I believe there is no perfection and together for 28 years and married for 27 tells me challenges bring the strength in us.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mary you are so right. But after a stint with many lonely people I gained so much pleasure in letting them talk. Even the half crazed gave me insight.

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      Mary Norton 

      2 weeks ago from Ontario, Canada

      You are right. Many times, we still fall into the temptation to give our own piece of advice. In fact, we're so good at this, it comes easily. to zip our mouth when someone is sharing takes some discipline.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Shoot Mel you got it made. I have to go down to the strip mall and hang out with folks, without a building structure to live in, ply them with beer and then I get my say!

      Get home and have to agree with everything the boss says. I think she tricked me. Before we got married everything I said was better ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ruby. You made me question whether folks took me as saying that it cannot be fun. My buddies and I have very different notions of what would be better and we go at it, sometimes for hours. It is always fun to end it with "you are an idiot" "no you are an idiot". I said it first so there. Looking at things in an immature childish manner is often good for the soul.

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      Mel Carriere 

      2 weeks ago from San Diego California

      I myself am both the pundit and prophet of the post office "swingroom," known to you non boys in blue as the break room. My pronouncements are wisdom and law in this locale and I am chastised if I fail to make a morning appearance. Outside of this soap box, nobody cares. I am the quarterback of the team in there, but outside, I barely rate a special teams appearance. If you don't believe that ask my lovely wife of going on 30 years.

      Your words are always nuggets of gold buried deep in a coal mine.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well John that is a funny one as my wife can't fold the buggers either but I can. Marriage is so cool.

      John those highly embarrassing conflicts about what should have been done is one reason I miss hanging out in the local dive type saloons. I have seen fights over "My beer is better than your beer." Brexit was a real head turner.

      Well I guess that proves I am better than others because I don't do that. Oops I think I just did LoL

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      2 weeks ago from Southern Illinois

      I'm afraid my husband Ray is close to being an armchair quarterback. He is a diehard hockey fan, and if they don't get the puck he tells them what they should have done. My game is tennis and baseball, and I guess I'm guilty of doing the same. You gave us a good sermon today, Thank you.

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      John Hansen 

      2 weeks ago from Queensland Australia

      What a great message, Eric.There are so many “Armchair Quarterbacks” out there, well here I guess they would be “Armchair Halfbacks.” It is so easy to sit back and criticise everyone and everything from your armchair. There has been a lot of that going on here especially in regard to how the Government should have handled the fire situation.

      Of course I know better than the referees and coaches in a football match but I just join an online SuperCoach football league competition and prove it there lol (or not.) oh and my wife knows how do do a lot of things better than me, especially folding fitted sheets.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      We are so close to that joke Linda. "You moron, not because you did not do it right, but because you did not ask me for my advice"

      Raising a young one at my age is great there just are no "big deals to stress over". Well except for birthday parties :-)

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      Linda Lum 

      2 weeks ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, my husband and I have an inside joke. When we hear of some folly, we say to one another "If only they had asked us for advice. We have all the answers." Mr. Carb and I have had our share of ups and downs (after 39 years you'd expect that right?) but in the past few it seems there are mostly "ups." There's really nothing worth arguing about.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Liz I got to thinking that is the "better" part that causes so many problems.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am with you there Pamela. Who said "close your mouth and appear stupid, open it and prove it" LoL -- but hey there is truth there. I like my wife. She likes to tell me of her troubles and she sure does not want answers to them.

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      Eric Dierker 

      2 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Look at me Bill I actually did kind of watch a halftime of it, kind of. But then I went home and trimmed my roses. I just hate cutting them all the way back, it just seems necessary but sad.

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      Liz Westwood 

      2 weeks ago from UK

      I have known some people yell at the TV during a football match, as if they are there on the touchline. It's an interesting analogy, linking this with other areas of life.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      2 weeks ago from Sunny Florida

      I suppose we would all like to be armchair quarterbacks as we think we are right. I think out of love we need to keep many of our opinions to ourselves.

      I like your last paragraph is great advice. Have a good week, Eric.

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      Bill Holland 

      2 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      I spent Super Bowl Sunday walking with Bev and the dogs in the countryside. Let me tell ya, the love was flowing freely. I even scored a touchdown!!!!

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