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Eric's Sunday Sermon; The Fundamentals of Hate

Updated on March 1, 2017

Can you really hate a snake? It must be just fear.

"I hate spiders!" I do not think that statement makes any sense at all. "I hate to have a spider in my kitchen" makes sense.
"I hate spiders!" I do not think that statement makes any sense at all. "I hate to have a spider in my kitchen" makes sense. | Source

Can you see it in yourself?

There is a fundamental notion of need. Need is really a life or death concept. Even at that we stretch it when we look globally. While millions die millions live without adequate shelter, food, clothing or water. If the shocks you OK. Far more people live in such circumstances than people with everything they “need”. Need is survival and we have moved far beyond that, like; education, healthcare, a living, four walls and heat, and yes our precious organic food and palatable water.

I do those things that I must do. I get to spend some time doing what I want to do. I really try to spend as little time as possible telling you what you should do. I hope these sermons are not taken as directives on how to lead your life. I hope they are taken as leading to inquiries into reflection and motivation.

Did you know that most people do not like the profession of being a lawyer? There are well over a million in the US. Mostly people do not like lawyers because of the 5% that sue people. And of course cost like medicine. We do not care for the confrontation and one side seeking money from the other for what they label as an atrocity. I giggle when I think of the irony of people hating the lawyer yet screaming that what another person does is criminal or at least horrible. It is really funny if you think about it. Let us kill all the lawyers but accuse and accurse someone for what they do. Modern life is funny sometimes.

Lawyers and POTUS are quite similar. Fifty percent of folks or so hate them both. Strange again that the last two Democratic Presidents with a total of 16 years were lawyers. Yet the Republicans were not. So we certainly do not really want to kill all the lawyers as is what happened to our great POTUS Lincoln.

But the point of all that is that folks who hate either are really kind of hypocrites. Jump on that hate train and your true voice gets turned into irrational. We see it all the time.

I watched some rather lengthy discussions on line where “educators” were all pissed off at Trump. I looked and looked and he had done nothing of consequence to education. His education secretary has been on a roll meeting people and getting and understanding the voice of the nation straight on education. Fully all sides. And yet without doing anything of consequence she, as a human, is hated by folks.

Is it now acceptable to hate a human being based on something they may do? Our fear starting in about our second year of WWII was no longer at all that our enemies may take over the world. It was that we feared they would keep killing.

Love and Hate

I did not eat that chocolate cookie!

Maybe we should all steal a cookie and take a love break.
Maybe we should all steal a cookie and take a love break. | Source

Hate cannot exist unless we agree that emotions are fact.

There is something very disconcerting watching people spout vitriolic hate at someone they believe hates another. For an old preacher man it scares me to my core. Hate met with hate met with more and up and up it goes, where it stops nobody knows. Probably emotional and physical violence. And for sure as you explain it to a young one you must start with there is no way either side can claim right anymore. They have forgotten what they are fighting for. I read a man attacking another on 8 issues in about 300 words. Really? Applying any logic that man clearly forgot 9/10’s of any issue he was addressing, therefor it became clear he has started to simply hate.

Has history taught us anything more clearly than matching hate with hate escalates the hate. If this sounds overly Christian religious, just look around, this is at the core of all paths to redeeming spirituality. “Do not hate!” I am not telling you not to hate, you have full license. I am merely telling you that when you do in a practiced manner you give up all rights to claim virtue. You no longer get to claim any position of spirituality and faith. You hate another of God’s creation and you do not stand on terra firma.

If it is your rather, look for hate in Darwin, in Plato, in Hawkins, in science at all. There can be no hate in logical atheistic thought. It just does not work. It is emotional and proof positive of something more than the empirical. You base your actions on the emotion of hate – and you lost the debate toward rational godless existence.

My young son and I have an exception to the no hate rule. We hate to lose. So if you outscore us or take our queen we say “I hate you”. And off into the air the absurdity of hate floats until it has not weight at all, it ceases to exist. (a little caveat here, I hate myself when I do something boneheaded that causes loss. But I get over that quickly)

The mighty Century Plant

Really a cool cactus?
Really a cool cactus? | Source

Hate is absolutely a personal war.

Situations do not cause hate. We cause hate.

Is the difference between hate and anger simply acting upon it? Probably not. Probably less deep. Count to ten and a compulsion to act in anger is diminished. It would seem that counting at all or letting any time go by only exacerbates hate. Like those Serbian folks hating for 3 generations or an American black hating me for slavery even though my ancestors got here much later. Or the Native American hating me because I am white even though my dad practiced medicine on the rez for over two decades. These things called prolonged social hate are just nasty as hell.

“I hate her because of the non-PC way she talks”. Hmm. PC is supposed to be all about not hating in speech. Where did that go so wonkers. Catholics and Protestants hated each other so much they killed each other a whole lot, from Luther for sure through the IRA. And the same can of course be said of Jews, Muslims and Christians. And if you are looking for hate killing numbers do not look further than throughout all of Chinese history. One hate battle after another.

I propose a thought process that goes a bit like this: Do we grow in hate as we grow in love, is it synergistic. And we must be careful that we own our hate or love lest it just become an addiction to approval by others.

Truly I tell you hate is personal. It is not of a position or an issue. It is about one human being hating another human being. Hating institutions makes no sense as they are not capable of being hated. Perhaps next time you voice hate, you could be so kind as to just direct it at me. I can take your hate and not hate you back. Easy Peasy. Your hating me will in no way change how I feel about you. Perhaps that will end your hate unless you are simply addicted to hate.

How can I hate you without even seeing your face for real? Hate is either institutional or personal, please make your choice. If it is because you are a cog in a hate/protest machine accept that and own it. If you hate a person and have never been in the same room with them own that and accept that. (no there are no Hitler’s, Pol Pots or the like running around outside of really strange countries) No one is burning people or books save the crazies who seem to always be around. If you hate a man without meeting him you are filled with hate and God save you.

Simple enough question for reflection

Do you hate someone?

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You might lie to yourself about hate, but it don't lie to you.

Your feelings are valid. I respect them. But....

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Lawrence - that is always a great story and so much truth to it.

      For a couple to stay together while losing a home shows much love.

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      Lawrence Hebb 8 months ago

      Eric

      I bet you've heard the story of the old Indian chief with his grandson. He was trying to explain the ideas of love and hate

      He said they were like two 'badass' wolves, constantly fighting, but deadlock went on.

      The boy asked "but which one will win?"

      The old chief replied, "the one you feed!"

      By the way, for us, when we were losing our house, it was the lawyer who talked sense into us, and for that I'll always be grateful!

      Blessings

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mona, I read the Road Less Traveled series and I think this book years ago. It seems to me that I need to reread them all. I think I incorporated some of his thoughts in my new Sermon.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 8 months ago from Philippines

      Thank you for that clarification. I used to equate the two, but you are right, it is more like one can lead to the other. I appreciate your article and how it takes time to break hate down to its fundamentals. Have you ever read "People of the Lie?" I would love to read your comments on the book, if you have.

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Mona, it is good to hear from you. Envy = Hate? It would seem that coveting would naturally either lead to wrongful conduct or turn that back in at ourselves in the form of self hatred. So it would seem to follow that if our envy is about the "success" of another it truly is a hate. Really good stuff.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 8 months ago from Philippines

      Hi Eric,

      I appreciate your article on hate, because it gives me an opportunity to think and self reflect. It's true, the hate is more destructive to the hater than the person he or she hates. I also thought of Mel Carriere's point when he says, "Maybe hate is something deeper and darker, and results in foul acts that are carried out without a trace of emotion." I wonder if hate is related to envy?

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Chris. That is very interesting what you point out on control. I think we all get the notion of "hating" being out of control. Dare we say manipulation of others? Security?

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      Chris Mills 8 months ago from Maple City, Michigan

      It helped when I stopped insisting on being judge and jury about every person and every issue under the sun. Now I can let people be people. There is more peace in my life and theirs. Hate and control seem to be partners. If people won't behave the way we want, then we tend to hate them. Excellent points in this sermon, Eric. Preach on, my friend.

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      Mel Carriere 8 months ago from San Diego California

      I can't answer your poll because I am not sure what hate is. Maybe you can help because this is your area of expertise.

      I often say that love is not an emotion, love is a state of being. A man kissing his girlfriend is not love, it is merely a primitive sexual urge. A man giving his left kidney to a stranger without a second thought is love.

      Could it be possible that hate is a state of being as well? So when I say I hate Tom Brady because that mother effin cheater lets the air out of footballs maybe that's not really hate. Maybe that's just anger over all the butt whoopings he has given the Chargers throughout the years. Maybe hate is something deeper and darker, and results in foul acts that are carried out without a trace of emotion.

      Just some cheery thoughts to meditate on before bedtime. Remarkable sermon. You are really hitting your stride.

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Oh man you just knocked one out of the park. That is really really good. I will incorporate this into my preachings --thank you much

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      Threekeys 8 months ago from Australia

      Hi Eric. Hate is highly contagious. The hater hates because of the hate within. If someone continually hates you with their words, you become infected once you hate the hater and transfer the hate onto others for whatever they eat, breathe, believe, whatever it is. Bottomline if you want to stop the spread of dangerous hate the buck stops with the infected. The original hater cannot see beyond his/her hate. But the infected one knows he/she was at peace before the hater crossed their path. It isnt fair that the buck stops with the infected but it is the only way to stop the spread of the hate infection. It doesnt mean you dont want to hold the hater accountable. There is no certainity whether you will be able to do that or not. But wishing hate and revenge upon the hater is like drinking car acid. The hater is no way affected but you suffer (and your loved ones) instead which is exactly what the hater glees over. So, we learn not to hate or learn how to best dissolve the hate.

      PS. Love the cute chocy photo of your son.

      PPS. To win because you want to be the best you can be in comparison to yourself is a good challenge to have, I believe.

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori, that is a full on crack up story. I am putting the doll at the ready. Too fun and a way to recognize and respect feelings and then move on. My boy used to cry when he lost, it was all I could do to not to say don't cry. We worked through it.

      I like to go to church and like most of our Presidents am not a member of a congregation. I love the "prayers of the people". No matter the church they start out with our leaders and those at risk for us. I like the Star Spangled Banner, the Pledge of Alliance and the prayers of the people. A husband of an immigrant bride - we take them seriously.

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      Lori Colbo 8 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      Eric, I got a kick out of your story about you and your son hating to lose. My grandmother and her twin sister were fiercely competitive. It didn't matter if they were playing against a six year old at Uno, or more sophisticated card games with their mother, they were out to win. Whenever one of them fell behind or someone out maneuvered them they would reach into the buffet drawer next to the dining room table and grab a small little cloth doll called the dammit doll. They would take the poor thing and whack it on the table and yell dammit three times. It was hysterical. Maybe you ought to get one. Instead of dammit you could say darn it, rats, whatever you choose that gets the aggression out.

      As to hate, there is so much of it it's overwhelming. I used to hate Hillary and Obama. I'm going to be honest. One day I heard she fell and got hurt and my heart was concerned. Then a friend once said maybe Obama will get executed. I thought of his wife and children, and I thought of his soul. I started praying for them. It didn't make me side with them or defend the things they were doing, but I was able to care about them as human beings and still disagree with them. I'm glad God placed that in my heart. Now I may get frustrated with certain politicians or other prominent people, strongly disagree, or hate what they're doing, but I don't hate them. Praying for someone is truly a game changer if you've struggled with hate.

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      What a treasure of a surprise to have you join me Ed. Whahoo and Yippie. You made me ponder that old question I like to think about when in need. Is, like H2O, there a certain amount of hate in the world, only under the control of the heavenly bodies where it floods or dissipates? I had a wonderful moment last night as my young son and I were saying goodnight to our favorite constellations. I asked what the big dipper was pouring, and he made my legs buckle as he answered "love". Oh Lord, what have I ever done to deserve even one of the pleasures I've known -- like you Ed, a true pleasure.

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      ahorseback 8 months ago

      Fear Not , Oh great friend Eric , the rhetoric of Hate is all but a phony , false and fake phenomenon , Lets blame it all on social media ! Shall we ? We have made it to a time in our lives and in history when the quintessential secretive "diary " of the past is now the ever spoken word of the face book -day . Its just the face book mentality of vocalizing all political opines , nothing more , I truly believe there is no more hatred today than ever before . Its simply that we ALL have a voice , we all have a fixed ideology , we just have to figure out how to humbly contain it once again , Great sermon as usual Eric . It is your style and constant care that will calm the stormy waters my friend !

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive I count you as a good buddy when it comes to humor - Thank you.

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      Clive Williams 8 months ago from Nibiru

      LOL Eric

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim I would like to proclaim a hateless month for me someday. Maybe. But like doubt in my faith I just hate sometimes. I don't act on it to my knowledge. But that baby hate anger still visits me more often than I would like.

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Clive, that is significant in my mind. But I will have to check with my buddy Mel Carriere to see if some dogs do not hate mail deliverers. ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Interestingly Ruby our school lost a big chunk of money because it was duplicate funding. We said shucks, but it was right. And that was under Obama Admin. My kids are all in on Public Schools that are answerable to the parents. We can take our little one to school in the morning and join in with about another 50 parents there to start their day with their children with the Pledge of Allegiance.

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      Tim Mitchell 8 months ago from Escondido, CA

      I appreciate your message today Eric. I know I hate. But usually, it is not people. I hate weeds in the garden. The rut in the ground that caused me to trip. Or, I hate not having money. But, now, having pondered your article I think those are just as detrimental to my inner self. In other words, hate becomes a self-inflicted internal wound [Period]. Thank you for another sermon giving me time to reflect and be introspective.

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      Clive Williams 8 months ago from Nibiru

      Hate is a state only in the lower animal called human. Lions, Tiger, Birds etc are incapable of hate. Yet us so called superior beings sprinkle all that and more globally.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 8 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I am glad to hear that. People talk and if you listen, you can become fearful of changes. What is a comfort to me is the fact that God is in control. I, also was raised in public schools, and we pledged our allegiance to the flag, I'm sure private schools do the same. I'm happy to know that you do not see any changes in funding for public schools. Thanks for sharing that...

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby, I really like your articles on the state of things. You do write with no rancor. A good heart like yours is noticeable from far away.

      I am very interested in the Dept. of Education. I serve on my son's school site council and on a charity board dealing with higher education issues.

      So I have been searching for any official action taken with regard to funding changes from the DOE. I do not see any at all. I get the fears of what might happen in the future. But I have no such fears about my child's public school education.

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Dora, that is such a true observation.

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Manatita, as always you add much to my hubs and I appreciate it. There is a need in us to see negative emotions for what they are. They exist. It is how we deal with them that counts the most.

      There is a biblical instruction that if a man steals a garment from you (which could make you hate him) then give him your other garment. Doing the good thing is the face of hate is truly a gift we can give ourselves.

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, thank you for coming by. I certainly get what you are saying. "my hate does not hurt you, it hurts me". Whatever road you took to get you where you are today, is good by me.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 8 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I am so glad to say that I hate no one. I might not like their belief system or politics, but I can agree to disagree. That's why I don't visit the forums, hateful remarks spoil my day. Really, how could I pray and thank God for blessings if I have hate in my heart? How do we know how another feels unless we've walked in their shoes? Now, about the new Education Sec., she is pushing for vouchers and private schools. That's ok if you can afford it. Private schools leave the poor to go to public schools. I know there are religious schools, and that is fine if that's what you want. I'm just saying that we must have a choice. Sorry about sounding off so much. I love that picture of your son and the chocolate..

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      Dora Weithers 8 months ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, I'd rather take your suggestion to grow in love. Hate takes lots of energy--the kind of energy that older folk do not have.

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      manatita44 8 months ago from london

      I'm like Bill, Bro, I have no enemies; I do not hate. Hatred is an obverse form of Love, caught up in that Universal Law, called the law of Duality.

      You're quite right to point this out; to strive to inspire us to go beyond, but as your Hub shows, it is quite an emotive subject, not so easy to do.

      We never have, nor will we ever conquer darkness with darkness, Light is the ever-illumining remedy and it has to be present.

      You present your Hub well and gives us plenty to think about. I will say though, that the enemy is not Pol Pot or Hitler, but the inherent nature of greed, power, division, attachments, ego... and I have to tell you that you will find this in the West as well. In fact all the way to the Romans and before.

      Kill another Carlos The Jackal and a Bin Laden springs up; kill a Bin Laden and someone from East or West, will very quickly fill that vacancy. Do not forget Manson and others. Truly the enemy is and have always been within. Yes, so much is inspired by insecurity and fear. I like your snake. Much Love.

      P.S. Your son reminds me of my chocolate poem, as I used that visual image as well.

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      Linda Lum 8 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, when I resigned from my position with the Federal government, after a career of almost 30 years, my heart was full of hatred--hatred for those who had 'wronged' me and placed me in that terrible situation. The thing is, they didn't know I was hating them. To this day (18 years later) I have not set foot in that office, and I never will. But my point is that the hatred had nowhere to go. It was just inside of me, smoldering and eating away at my soul. It affected my whole attitude; it was like a cancer.

      I don't know what the turning point was, but somehow I finally recognized that the only ones being hurt by my hatred were myself and my loved ones.

      I no longer hate. Now, the feeling when someone wounds me is not hatred, just disappointment. Disappointment (to me) is a moment--a snapshot of what went wrong and then you move on. Hatred is endless if you let it be.

      Not sure if I'm making any sense here or just rambling away (the caffeine hasn't kicked in yet). Thank you for another great sermon. I hope you have a wonderful day!

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      Eric Dierker 8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Bill for stopping by. I am not as absolute as you. Sometimes hate rears it's ugly head in my head.

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      Bill Holland 8 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Here's a statement about myself that I am confident in making: I do not hate anyone. It took a long time to reach this point in life, but hate is no longer my companion and damn, that feels good.