Eric's Sunday Sermon; The Words We Use
No words necessary to explain this wonder or our world.
First let us criticize criticism of language.
Let us talk about my favorite subject me. Yes that is meant to be a joke but it has a ring of truth to it. Call me egocentric. That is the first "negative" word we will look at. I use myself not about my self but about a study of words not to use. Of course I am too egocentric, aren't you? Well it could be rude and I could take offense at you calling me that. But I really should not lest I deny that I have some issues about thinking of myself first, ones that I continuously try to correct. So instead of being defensive about it, I should thank you for reminding me to deal with in a more positive light.
About name calling based on "politically correct". Be sensitive. But do not be sensitive because you are afraid. Be sensitive because it is the nice thing to be. Two words come to mind, One we will call MF and the other "the N word". Why would you ever use them? Why would they enter your mind as a vocabulary? But perhaps it is your upbringing. Perhaps you are somewhat illiterate. So don't go jumping down the throat of someone who uses them. Have compassion on the poor soul who does not know any better.
Next word -- believe it or not; American. Yes you heard me. Back to Eric's case study of language. I lived in Paris, France for a bit and studied that language. Sometimes I was called an American in the most derisive manner you can imagine. So far as to spit on my feet as it was said. I once lived in Puebla Mexico. And the same thing happened. I lived in Vietnam and the same thing happened. I was bummed but it always reminded me that even good words can hurt and more important that it was my fault, no not for being an American but for acting like I was something special and clearly American.
Enough of that, we get the point across at least well enough for us to think about.
I kind of act like a cowboy, full charge, consequences later.
They say you can take the boy out of the country but not the country out of the boy.
In the right light
This is really a good concept for those who believe that they must be a light in the world for others to see and feel the love. Why put a candle in a place where it's light cannot shine. Be that light. Shine on others.Let me relate that saying "I love you" requires the right light. Your's truly once treated my lovely wonderful bride of over a decade, very badly. (well a lot more than once ;-) And she was extremely upset. Madder than heck. She had every right to fully own her anger and upsetness. After a few moments of a righteous tirade, I went to hug her and tell her that I loved her. What a moron I was. You can see the light was not right and I should have really felt the love and not tried to diminish the anger.
Can it ever be the right light to tell someone they are bad? Not really. There is a maxim that is used improperly. "Thou shall not judge". Well of course we must use our judgement nearly every moment of the day. And we must judge and even predict other's actions. Dangerous to not judge that a man with a knife who is angry at you might do you harm. But we relate this to a child who has just broken a significant rule. Is it ever the right light to tell her that she "is bad"? NO! It may be right to tell her that she did a bad thing but not that she is bad.
Of course these concepts are even more important in the everyday every conversation that we are in. Speak in context. Speak after thought. And may you be blessed enough to speak in love.
Now this was reminded to me by annart, and boy do I appreciate it.
This rose is prettier to me than you, because I gave to my wife from my garden raised up with love.
Now the good stuff
"You look prettier than a perfect sunrise". "You are the smartest man since Einstein". "I have never seen a better worker". "Thank you for helping me, I could not have done it without you". "You did a great job". "I really care about you". "You are the brightest star in the sky". "Thank you for keeping me from acting the fool". "You took the time to help me, thank you"."If I can ever help you, just let me know". "You are an angel". "Just you calling me made my day". "May I help you?". "You mean the world to me". "Here, please take mine". "I hope I can repay you kindness". "You are my best friend"."You are a great partner". "You are a great cook". You are a great son". "You are a great daughter". "You are a great parent".
Handshakes, hugs, pats on the back, kisses, and great big smiles are other statements of the good stuff. Phone calls "out of the blue" is another one. Emails and snail mails, and cards are sometimes all it takes to lift up another.
Be mindful of the words you use. Be caring in expression of feelings. But I tell you the truth when I tell you to act and speak in love, and somehow it will be received that way. I tell you also that you have my permission to do two things: You may do it, just to make you feel better if that is all you can do; and you may fake it until you make it. If it becomes habit soon real sincerity.
I include this because we can say this anytime we want, Nowadays we use the word "word" sometimes.
Inspiration for doing something in a loving way.
There is a fine gal, a lady of the sort that I would normally refer to as Missy or Ma'am. Where I came from those were clear signs of respect. Some places that would be kind of rude. That I hope ties in with this sermon. Anyhow she inspired this sermon. She writes about words and how we use them. Her passion for "saying it right" has helped teach this old man with a degree in linguistic philosophy new tricks on respect for others. She can definitely help you too: http://hubpages.com/literature/ACCENT-ACCENTUATION-CELEBRATING-DIVERSITY-in-Language-therefore-in-People#comment-16647830 I did the whole link there because the name of that article is just plain cool in itself.
Now I mention Ann specifically not to embarrass her. I mention it because through her gracious kind and thoughtful words she inspired me. By luck and God's grace maybe that inspired you. You could then pass it on. And maybe that is the purpose of this article. Please do not let another hour go by without saying well chosen, kind, uplifting words to somebody. Even if they are unspoken but communicated otherwise.
Did I mention about heroes -- OK that is a teaser for the next Sermon, be well, I am.