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Eric's Sunday Sermon; The Words We Use

Updated on October 31, 2015

No words necessary to explain this wonder or our world.

Just a favorite view of mine.
Just a favorite view of mine. | Source

First let us criticize criticism of language.

Let us talk about my favorite subject me. Yes that is meant to be a joke but it has a ring of truth to it. Call me egocentric. That is the first "negative" word we will look at. I use myself not about my self but about a study of words not to use. Of course I am too egocentric, aren't you? Well it could be rude and I could take offense at you calling me that. But I really should not lest I deny that I have some issues about thinking of myself first, ones that I continuously try to correct. So instead of being defensive about it, I should thank you for reminding me to deal with in a more positive light.

About name calling based on "politically correct". Be sensitive. But do not be sensitive because you are afraid. Be sensitive because it is the nice thing to be. Two words come to mind, One we will call MF and the other "the N word". Why would you ever use them? Why would they enter your mind as a vocabulary? But perhaps it is your upbringing. Perhaps you are somewhat illiterate. So don't go jumping down the throat of someone who uses them. Have compassion on the poor soul who does not know any better.

Next word -- believe it or not; American. Yes you heard me. Back to Eric's case study of language. I lived in Paris, France for a bit and studied that language. Sometimes I was called an American in the most derisive manner you can imagine. So far as to spit on my feet as it was said. I once lived in Puebla Mexico. And the same thing happened. I lived in Vietnam and the same thing happened. I was bummed but it always reminded me that even good words can hurt and more important that it was my fault, no not for being an American but for acting like I was something special and clearly American.

Enough of that, we get the point across at least well enough for us to think about.

I kind of act like a cowboy, full charge, consequences later.

They say you can take the boy out of the country but not the country out of the boy.

New Yorkers have a specific accent. Good on them. I used to distrust city people.
New Yorkers have a specific accent. Good on them. I used to distrust city people. | Source

In the right light

This is really a good concept for those who believe that they must be a light in the world for others to see and feel the love. Why put a candle in a place where it's light cannot shine. Be that light. Shine on others.Let me relate that saying "I love you" requires the right light. Your's truly once treated my lovely wonderful bride of over a decade, very badly. (well a lot more than once ;-) And she was extremely upset. Madder than heck. She had every right to fully own her anger and upsetness. After a few moments of a righteous tirade, I went to hug her and tell her that I loved her. What a moron I was. You can see the light was not right and I should have really felt the love and not tried to diminish the anger.

Can it ever be the right light to tell someone they are bad? Not really. There is a maxim that is used improperly. "Thou shall not judge". Well of course we must use our judgement nearly every moment of the day. And we must judge and even predict other's actions. Dangerous to not judge that a man with a knife who is angry at you might do you harm. But we relate this to a child who has just broken a significant rule. Is it ever the right light to tell her that she "is bad"? NO! It may be right to tell her that she did a bad thing but not that she is bad.

Of course these concepts are even more important in the everyday every conversation that we are in. Speak in context. Speak after thought. And may you be blessed enough to speak in love.

Now this was reminded to me by annart, and boy do I appreciate it.

This rose is prettier to me than you, because I gave to my wife from my garden raised up with love.

If we give flowers, the heart speaks.
If we give flowers, the heart speaks. | Source

Now the good stuff

"You look prettier than a perfect sunrise". "You are the smartest man since Einstein". "I have never seen a better worker". "Thank you for helping me, I could not have done it without you". "You did a great job". "I really care about you". "You are the brightest star in the sky". "Thank you for keeping me from acting the fool". "You took the time to help me, thank you"."If I can ever help you, just let me know". "You are an angel". "Just you calling me made my day". "May I help you?". "You mean the world to me". "Here, please take mine". "I hope I can repay you kindness". "You are my best friend"."You are a great partner". "You are a great cook". You are a great son". "You are a great daughter". "You are a great parent".

Handshakes, hugs, pats on the back, kisses, and great big smiles are other statements of the good stuff. Phone calls "out of the blue" is another one. Emails and snail mails, and cards are sometimes all it takes to lift up another.

Be mindful of the words you use. Be caring in expression of feelings. But I tell you the truth when I tell you to act and speak in love, and somehow it will be received that way. I tell you also that you have my permission to do two things: You may do it, just to make you feel better if that is all you can do; and you may fake it until you make it. If it becomes habit soon real sincerity.

I include this because we can say this anytime we want, Nowadays we use the word "word" sometimes.

Inspiration for doing something in a loving way.

There is a fine gal, a lady of the sort that I would normally refer to as Missy or Ma'am. Where I came from those were clear signs of respect. Some places that would be kind of rude. That I hope ties in with this sermon. Anyhow she inspired this sermon. She writes about words and how we use them. Her passion for "saying it right" has helped teach this old man with a degree in linguistic philosophy new tricks on respect for others. She can definitely help you too: http://hubpages.com/literature/ACCENT-ACCENTUATION-CELEBRATING-DIVERSITY-in-Language-therefore-in-People#comment-16647830 I did the whole link there because the name of that article is just plain cool in itself.

Now I mention Ann specifically not to embarrass her. I mention it because through her gracious kind and thoughtful words she inspired me. By luck and God's grace maybe that inspired you. You could then pass it on. And maybe that is the purpose of this article. Please do not let another hour go by without saying well chosen, kind, uplifting words to somebody. Even if they are unspoken but communicated otherwise.

Did I mention about heroes -- OK that is a teaser for the next Sermon, be well, I am.

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      Eric Dierker 22 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Lawrence I forgot about that -- didn't Moses have a speech issue also?

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      Lawrence Hebb 22 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      Reading the comment here made me remember Churchill had a bad stutter as a child, yet he used words to inspire the world against tyranny!

      I so agree with you

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 22 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ain't great Lawrence that we can cogitate and try to emulate good people and how they use words to build up rather than tear down.

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      Lawrence Hebb 22 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      Terrific encouragement to look for and affirm the positive in each other. Thank you

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 23 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you whonu. We have a mission and we must be leaders in it.

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      whonunuwho 23 months ago from United States

      Accentuate the positive and we are on the right track. Well written my friend. whonu

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      Eric Dierker 23 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      You rock Missy Dora. Always sunshine coming from you and that for sure is the right light.

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      Eric Dierker 23 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Muchas gracias mi amigo de Caballos

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 23 months ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks for the very important message in this sermon. I find the section on the "right light" very interesting. Also taking your advice to call someone and bless them with some good words.

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      ahorseback 23 months ago

      My man ! One thing I will always say Eric's sermons never let us down ...........:-} Passin along a smile my friend !

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 23 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I don't mind you calling me always exploring. Frank calls me always. The word epitome is a lofty accolade, I am honored. Thank you..

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      Eric Dierker 23 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby I hope you don't mind if I call you always exploring because it suits you so well. You are looking for the good and then sharing it with others. Epitome is a favorite word of mine, you fit it in the best of senses.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 23 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I've been learning from Ann for some time now. She cleared up some spelling problems that has dogged me since grade school. I have spent the last three hours watching my friend Nancy download a wireless printer for me. She waved my thank you aside and said, " That is what friends are for. " We get so bogged down sometimes and forget to tell others who inspire us how much we appreciate them. Your sermon was ' right on ' The amen video was a rush from the past. Thank you for reminding us to be kind and use words that lift up instead of bringing someone down. Happy you are feeling good.

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      Eric Dierker 23 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Venkatachari,

      Thank you, I always really appreciate your comments. I will be over to read your fine articles soon. So see you soon.

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      Ann Carr 23 months ago from SW England

      There is no shame in that! I take it as a compliment and you have not 'stolen' from me; it's great that, partly, it led to this hub. And thank you again for your kind words.

      Ann

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      Venkatachari M 23 months ago from Hyderabad, India

      Very much inspiring sermon as always. You provide wonderful insights into good perceptions and attitudes on life lessons. Thanks for this sermon and I appreciate Annart and Jodah also who are also great inspirations to us.

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      Eric Dierker 23 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you John and look for one on country living partially inspired by your stories of chickens and snakes and country roads and poetry. I am going in bit to visit a 93 year old in a few. She won't know who I am but she'll understand that someone visited and she'll know that somebody cares.

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      Eric Dierker 23 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ann I hope the credit gives you no shame. But I stole from you so I thought it only right.

      There is a song that has a verse "why do they write for short pay? Boy the must have gone crazy out there. http://www.nightriderslament.com/bio.htm

      I have rode that desert. And I have wrote for short pay. We ain't rich like a fool we are rich like someone with good friends. And you are gold.

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      John Hansen 23 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Another great sermon Eric. You and Ann are both inspirational. Let us always "Accentuate the Positive" shall we.

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      Ann Carr 23 months ago from SW England

      Well, Eric, what can I say? I'm proud to have in some way inspired you to this and thank you for mentioning me so comprehensively! However, you inspire so well all by yourself, you should know that. Your use of words is an inspiration to all of us.

      I love the way you've picked up on the 'be careful which words you use' part of my blurb. Your 'accent' on that section and 'the positive' has produced yet another of your wonderful sermons!

      May the right light shine on you always, my friend!

      Ann