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Eric's Sunday Sermon; Wasted Time and Mistakes

Updated on November 1, 2015

That really red stuff behind my son and a best friend is a Southwestern flash flood. We got lucky and could have made the mistake of being in the canyon it fill

Just lucky as we were almost in the canyon a day late hiking. Although we all believe in God and thanked him together and alone.
Just lucky as we were almost in the canyon a day late hiking. Although we all believe in God and thanked him together and alone. | Source

What we should have done.

"Now she's gone and I wasted so much time, not telling her that I love her" Can you honestly not say that about someone who is no longer in your life? Have you ever not said it, when they are gone? Well get down on your knees and flog your self 100 times.Or maybe you can just get over it and realize nobody did not raise their hand when we asked. This is such a common feeling and reality of life that "The Morning Prayer" practiced by millions for centuries addresses it. It is part of what we call the confessional. My big question is "should I put the whole thing here or just the portion that is of particular interest?" I will opt for just the section but give you a link - compromise so to speak. "We have left undone those things which we ought to have done; And we have done those things which we ought not to have done" http://www.episcopalnet.org/1928bcp/FBSMP.html

So is it right not to do something because nobody else does it? Or let us put it in the way we learned it: "If all the other kids jumped off a cliff would you follow them?". Of course my smarty pants answer was "sure I do it all the time down at the swimming hole, if others jump first then I know it is deep enough and not too high". Somehow that smarty pants answer actually makes sense. Even though we did it because it was normal, does not make it a good idea.

Okay we made a mistake not visiting our mom or grandmother in the nursing home or her home before she passed. We did not tell her we loved her enough. That my friends is a mistake you cannot change or undue. Interesting that we call it a mistake yet everyone does it.

Regrets, I had a few, too few to mention.

My mistakes cannot make us blind to this wonderful world.

If I had not made the mistakes I would not have the love I have today.

Are you happy where you are now?

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Other's mistakes

Take a good wife like I have. Well in truth I have had two great wives but let us refer to the one that I love over the top today. She made a huge mistake in marrying me. Even the priest told her not to do it. My own sister suggested she not do it. She had nothing to her name. I spent every penny on fast living and jet setting and child support. I was an international negotiator with my job being to get the best deal and not do what is right. I had the baggage of 3 children already that I devoted much time to. And I had a family of origin that have made many a lady friend of mine run in tears and fears.

Nine short years later we had a home of own, two cars and a garage to put them in. And a perfect angel boy as a child. Great work. Many many friends and we can even afford organic food when we feel like. We got roses and flowers and can grow our own veggies and take vacations across oceans. And now I preach to people more than screw them.

She made a big mistake. Thank God for that.

I think you see the point. This is a mistake that could have ended in disaster. But faith in the Lord, prayer, and a lot of damned hard compromise, change and work changed it. Sometimes she laughs and says I am her lemonade. From the concept of making lemonade when life gives you lemons.

Oh did I mention that all my friends and family told me not to marry her. They thought she just wanted to marry me for a better chance at US citizenship. And that it was inconceivable that anyone would really want to marry me. But as Frank says; "I did it my way".

Just a little sun promising a very hot climb

No mistake here that is beautiful
No mistake here that is beautiful | Source

One time big brother and I hike up and through that notch on the right.

He fell about 15 feet and got a Spanish Dagger stuck in all the way to the bone just below the knee. As we stopped the bleeding he looked at me and said "I think we made a mistake not telling anyone where we were hiking"
He fell about 15 feet and got a Spanish Dagger stuck in all the way to the bone just below the knee. As we stopped the bleeding he looked at me and said "I think we made a mistake not telling anyone where we were hiking" | Source

God's mistakes

There was an unwanted pregnancy. Father died shortly after conception. Recent WOPP* immigrant. No money for pre-natal care and no job. This was in the '50's so welfare was not really an option. Churches provided some food and shelter. A good old country doc would make rounds for free at the church met the women and knew by her Catholicism termination was not even an option - not that it was to the doc anyway being a released Jesuit. He found work for her and an old lady he took care of needed a live in, so a course was set and plotted.

It was found before birth and confirmed at birth that the child had a leg pointed backwards and likely would never walk. The child would be unadoptable. Being a bastard illegitimate son in the '50's would mean a life of orphanages and hospitals for the child. Certainly God had made a mistake.

Not so fast said the doc; "my wife wants one more child". And so he delivered the boy. And adopted him at birth. With his medical training and some surgeries in 5 years he had the boy walking without even a limp. In a way he was like Forest Gump. He did not run from coast to coast but by 12 he ran/hiked the Grand Canyon rim to rim in one day.

I think you see my point here. What if God makes mistakes or allows them to happen. He gives us also the love and compassion to fix them. I can't give you his name but that boy grew up to be a captain on a football team. A professional Ski racer and coach. Has a doctorate, four wonderful children. And now writes Sunday Sermons that hopefully effect one life to carry on.


*WOPP means without passport and was used for Italians fresh off a boat. Derogatory unless you are the son of one.

What Grace we have by no right!

A sensi once told me and my young son:

When a mistake happens between two - take the blame. Own the blame. For in that ownership you can control the reaction and the positive movement and thought to correct it. We are not made mistake proof. We are really in a way designed to make mistakes. It is what we do with those mistakes that makes us whole and who we are.

I have made some real good ones. But I would not even change one of them for they have brought me where I am and today, maybe just for today, I give praise what what makes me me.

Maybe it is just me and some thanks for listening/reading to this sermon. If you are the product of mistakes at any point in your life, I give thanks for those mistakes. Now go forth and help somebody overcome their mistakes. Around here we have a saying: Mistakes let us let others help us.

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      ahorseback 18 months ago

      Excellent Eric ! Once long ago my father was soaking his feet ? ......I know , oh well . I noticed a whole bunch of pock marks on the sides of his calves , "dad , I asked , what are all of those scars on your legs ", thinking it was a war wound and I would hear another great story , he explained .

      " When I was a young boy me and my brother Elmer would go rabbit hunting to put food on the table , well , one day I was the "rabbit dog " and Elmer was the hunter ! He thought he saw a rabbit in the brush and shot me !"

      Then he explained to me that because they would have gotten their asses kicked by step dad , they went to the barn with a bottle of peroxide and a pair of tweezers, Elmer had to pull the number six bee bee's from dads legs !

      Just a small mistake !

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      Ann Carr 18 months ago from SW England

      We all make mistakes and, as you say, it's the way we learn from them that's important. Or the way we address them and those whom we affect.

      Great hub, full of wisdom and advice.

      Ann

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      Bill Holland 18 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I love your sermons, my friend. I'm convinced I wouldn't be the man I am today if it were not for my mistakes. Thank God I'm imperfect. :)

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That is a great one. I have scars on my tush from rock salt out of a 12 gauge. We were trespassing. My bro and I went to the cold creek and sat in it for relief. Mom told me years later she knew about it.

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ann, boy I spent more time worrying about my mistakes them fixing them --- kind of wasted time.

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      Tim Knowles 18 months ago from Gallup, New Mexico

      A great read, Eric. There are times I've wished that I could go back to that last week in May, 1975 when we both were walking across that graduation stage at Flag High. But as attractive as it seems to live life over and NOT make mistakes, you just have be satisfied that you did the best you could at the time with what you had. Sure, if I could do it over, I might not make the original mistakes, but I'd make others. As Maya Angelou said, “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.”

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      HI Tim it is always great to hear from you. Let us keep trying to do better.

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      Venkatachari M 18 months ago from Hyderabad, India

      Very interesting hub with good lessons. Mistakes happen with man. Otherwise, he would be a God. But, one should learn from mistakes. Realise his mistakes and try to rectify himself as well as be a guide to others. Thanks for sharing all this wonderful sermon.

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Venkatachari I like "rectify himself" that is a good concept.

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      Dana Tate 18 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Seems like your wife was a gift from God. Her love and gifting you with an adorable son, seemed to have given your life new meaning. I bet no one ever saw that coming, but God. Yes, he works in mysterious ways.

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      Jackie Lynnley 18 months ago from The Beautiful South

      Love those Celtic women!

      I don't think a day hardly goes by I do not wish I had done more, said more...but aren't we much better off than those who don't even give it a thought?

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Dana, a funny story on that one. When I married my wife she was Buddhist, even partly raised in a temple. She believed in fortune tellers. And one told her she would sail away to a foreign land for a man of trouble and have his baby. So go figure. Mysterious ways indeed.

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jackie a wise man once told me we are indeed limited in our actions by our frailty. But all can be made manifest by our thoughts. Perhaps he meant about the power of the mind. But I took it to mean that thinking about how we should act will produce a better self.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 18 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I love reading your sermons. I don't think there's a woman or man alive whose not made a mistake. I know I've made my share then some. That baby with the twisted leg was meant to happen. Just think how many read your words and are lifted spiritually. It's stories like yours that give me hope and allows me to see more good than bad. I can relate to Frank's song. I did it my way, stumbled many times, got up and dusted myself off and tried again. Your story brought back a memory about a friend who refused to abort a Downs Syndrome baby. Today that child is gifted with so much love. She is a joy to be around and has made my friend's life complete. It is proof to me that mistakes can be a blessing in disguise.

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      Perspycacious 18 months ago

      First correction (over the photo, if I recall correctly) " of being in the canyon it fill" but when you have a boring moment you may want to go back over this one. It is great and deserves your great proofreading of your great writing. Sometimes, as I did today, I read my writings to my wife, and catch some more "goofies" I missed. That's not a bad idea, especially if it turns out she doesn't get the point of the material!

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 18 months ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, what about the mistakes we didn't make? Those usually take away the bad feeling about those I made. Anyway, glad you and your wife benefit from the mistake you made. Is God GOOD of is GOD good?

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Always, what a tender comment. For are not the chosen ones, the ones that can appreciate and accept what is. And then strive for better.

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Demas - I will try to fix this one up better, I got this 5 year old,,, well you get the picture. The other thing is that in order to do these sermons I have to write with my heart as much as my head, and then both are exhausted.

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora, Amen

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      Denise W Anderson 18 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I am the product of more mistakes than I can count! The most recent one was a big one, but I am all the better for it. It gives me a chance to eat a little bit of humble pie, write a hub about being a better person, and move on with some compassion for the next person. By the way...thanks for telling your story!

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise you just made me realize that I have thought correcting my mistakes was wasted time. I must make my son realize that is not true.

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      Patricia Scott 18 months ago from sunny Florida

      Well said, Eric.

      The 'mistake' about not visiting a loved one in a nursing home is a sticking point for me That is not a mistake, in my humble opinion. That is something that should NOT happen. If you take care of it before someone leaves the planet, then there are no regrets.

      I could go into a long tirade about that whole topic but will spare you (I have written my thoughts on nursing home care in a hub). I just find it inexcusable that someone would have a loved one in a NH and not make the effort to go see him or her...enough said...phew...now I feel better.

      There are mistakes (such as the last one you cited) that turn out 150% better than anyone might ever dream. Sometimes we label an event a 'mistake' when it is often God working His miraculous power in our life

      Angels are on the way...ps As always I am glad I stopped to visit.

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      Eric Dierker 18 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Me too glad you came by Patricia, You raise and interesting point. Is not going by the NH a mistake? Are conscious choices to act like an a-- even considered a mistake or just plain (all kinds of bad words)? Do we discount intention or is intention necessary for it to be a mistake. Are mistakes more like accidents? Maybe it is as you say " Sometimes we label an event a 'mistake' when it is often God working His miraculous power in our life" And so also does the "devil" work to help us make bad choices? You are awesome Patricia.

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      Frank Atanacio 17 months ago from Shelton

      Eric some of your sermons teach.. and makes some readers feel good.. honestly you publish one of the best resources or information to help light the darkness .. love your sermons :)

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      Eric Dierker 17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Frank,

      First that makes me blush. Second, it inspires me - muchas gracias amigo!

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