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Eric's Sunday Service; Is It Legal To Be Happy?

Updated on February 19, 2017

Out standing in his field

We count it a blessing to have a field to stand in.
We count it a blessing to have a field to stand in. | Source

We think a lot of people actually basically live like this with their own brand.

It would seem that we are supposed to act mad. Not just upset but mad. Sorry we are happy. Sunday morning and church? We go around and have some buddies that are fun to see and sing with and listen to live music that is not in a bar. We discuss sermons and generally rate them on if they made us cry or not. Cry is good. We kind of have fun dressing up together, helping with ironing and finding socks. We like our one day in the kitchen cooking wretched cholesterol builders though nowadays the stuff is organic and wheat is seldom seen. All of us in the bathroom getting in each other’s way and laughing. The car drive is spent yacking about the week and sights to behold. Maybe we have the radio on and do a car dance party. We say “I love you” more than is probably cool. We pray out loud and prod each other to say a prayer of selfishness, and that almost always leads to car hugs. Turns out that what is selfish is what is good for each other.

I read someplace that we are poor and that if we place our child in public schools it is not so good. I am on the council and my wife meets with other parents and our teacher daily. We go to children’s parties near monthly and we do our best to speak Spanish though we are an American Vietnamese family. All our pards and neighbors are other races – is race really a real term? Monkeys and Tigers do not have races.

We cannot deal with an unanticipated bill very easily. But we make our payments and our credit is good because we borrow little and pay as we go. We have to shop almost daily because our fruit, veggies baked stuff is ready to eat and not off big chain store shelves. We recycle everything after we have done our best to re-use and or share. We give at the DAV. Our footprint could trick an Apache tracker it is so small. Let me think here. Nope, no car under seven years old. Water saving landscaping and a reasonable garden.

We share with neighbors and call them friend. I reckon I should be mad at someone, but more likely they should be mad at me. I just got no reason to be upset with anyone. Maybe you should take this time to get mad at someone it seems to be the thing to do.

Believing this stuff does not make you an idiot

Children really are all happy and good.

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Please save us from the horrible right and left ;-)

We stay informed and visit social media. We do not watch live news. But we research areas that concern us like Mansanto having to upgrade labels. The dead in foreign conflicts and where to give our charitable support. Oh and of course we review who says what about all hell and brimstone and sky is falling stuff. But we kind of look at that like – we do not think so. A R or a D in office has not affected us in decades. If ever. We voted for and like our local reps. they could do better. But so could we.

We kind of might not look so good if we posted our real life on FB. We are kind of rag tag and really cannot take selfies in Cancun though I have been there. We need a new American flag and some good weed pulling. I don’t keep in touch with those I love very well but they get that I am kind of a loner. We do not violate the law.

Come to think of it we are pretty boring. Sure we do stuff that others might find interesting, but only for a moment. I write from home and my wife works the necessary 60+ hours a week and really likes her job. My son loves school – really, and his teacher. Of course his favorite subject is recess – duh, we are boring. I would not wish my life on anyone but would love to have it if I did not have it. Our streets are paved, our poop normally goes down the toilet. We can afford garbage pickup and cooking and heating gas.

Yes we have had some real problems, but we have found that working through them together makes us stronger and more loving and appreciative of what we have.

Dream it and be it

Love really does beget love

I surely did love these folks.
I surely did love these folks. | Source

I cannot believe the last time someone did something so bad to me that I hate them

Why would people call me names if I support a concept that someone else that they hate supports it also? It makes no sense. It would be like hating my son who is half Vietnamese because you lost a brother in the Vietnamese war. Why would it be improper to hate someone who hates you but proper to hate someone just because they disagree with you? That whole scenario that I painted above is only happy in the absence of hate. Joy filled because not hate filled. There are no brass bands playing or golden eggs to make one joyful, there is only perspective and outlook.

Due to circumstances I have had the great pleasure of visiting very young cancer patients in hospitals. They suffer, but there is just no way someone is bringing hate into their lives. They are way, way loved. Almost every encounter that they have is loving and nurturing albeit sometimes very unpleasant. These children actually smile much more than normal healthy children out in the world of …. Love is the absence of hate and has no room for apathy.

Now we often see people who do not exhibit the same vitriolic hate as their friends, losing friends. Yes, in other words people hate other people for not hating. To my understanding that is pretty much the biggest reason for that hell hole known as Syria. Again it is not the first hate, it is the double whammy of hating someone because they do not hate.

Yes it really very clearly goes this way on FB; “Trump is a hater, so I hate Trump and if you do not hate Trump then I hate you.” It could not be made any clearer than that. So I do not hate Trump and let that be known. I did not say I love him and support everything he does, I simply do not join in and hate him so I will lose friends. If I just described you, sorry for being brash.

So in our home we have no victims. We do not suffer. We witness hate but do not engage in it. We see people who are mad and angry and we even discuss that fact. But we discuss it as a fact not as an injury to us. Maybe some will say that we have no values or that we have no backbone or that we live with our head in the sand and that is ok. Well I can tell you how well our way is working for us, can you tell me how well hating is working for you?

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lawrence thanks for coming by. It is strange. I am dealing with a really crooked billing group right now. And in my upsetness I am getting it done -- but it is such a horrible waste of time. Have a great night.

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      Lawrence Hebb 9 months ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      Sorry buddy, but hating is just too much like hard work!

      I'm like you in a lot of ways, and I just don't have time for a lot of the negative stuff!

      Keep up with the positive stuff bro!

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Marlene you angel of a writer you. My wife from a small village where she got real plumbing in about 87 is horrible with energy usage. But mano she uses and reuses and reuses and then recycles. I say that about energy use but truly our combined utility bills are way under 60$ per month. And that is "conservative" to us. Hate wastes energy- so we avoid it. Maybe also on moral grounds.

      I was so glad you wrote your article https://soapboxie.com/us-politics/Why-News-Journal... Not only because it was great but because it got me back to your "growing" articles that are just really a service. We are turning soil today. My boy is way into it. My wife has just fallen in love with my Cilantro salsa - so off we go to grow it.

      Best wishes to you and your obviously very support partner -- no way you could do all your work without one.

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      Marlene Bertrand 9 months ago from Northern California, USA

      No hate here, Eric. In fact, all kinds of love for you and your loved ones. By the way, I don't hate Trump either. So, we're in the same boat there. I enjoyed reading every word of your article today. I especially like when you said, "Our footprint could trick an Apache tracker it is so small." I get it. I might want to give myself the nickname, "Mrs. Frugal." I don't throw anything away until it begs to be thrown away. Enjoy this beautiful day.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well Lori and John you are really great supporters and I appreciate it. I think the reasons I started it still stand true today. It was meant to be an alternative. But I really wanted the readership to be able to get through the fact that it is labeled a sermon and move on from there. I did not want people coming just because the hated churches.

      And I want people to throw out half of what I say as it does not ring true to them.

      I think we have succeeded is such goals. So thank you. Watch out for a "service" mid week.

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      Lori Colbo 9 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      My vote is for sermon.

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      John Hansen 9 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Hmm...well you are doing a service to all your faithful readers so I actually lean towards that name change, however "the Sunday Sermon" has been going for so long it is hard to imagine that title not being around. It is totally up to you my friend.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John, I am such a klutz. I will change it to sermon so I can organize all those together.

      It is quite funny really as I was going to change it to service -- I think a better ring to it. And bcz of NW I got stubborn and did not.

      Give me advice on service vs. sermon.

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      John Hansen 9 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Eric, I just noticed that the title of this hub is: "Eric's Sunday SERVICE.." Is that intentional? I thought you may have changed it to Norine taking offence itn you using the term "Sermon".. But then thought it not like you to bow to something like that.

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      manatita44 9 months ago from london

      Thank you. I reminded you of your son, perhaps children are so dear to me. You remind me of my next poem. Light in darkness, but with a different name. Will put up a.m, God's willing. Good night.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hi Manatita, Yes I try to get some personal stuff in the beginning. I think we are not so different in this world and sharing some of mine, may make some who think they are alone know we are the same much more than we are apart.

      Noubliez jamais. We must never forget that we have a right to happiness. My wish sometimes that the first step away from happiness is so painful that we recoil and turn back again to what is truly in us, and not contingent on others.

      Thanks for returning to give us the pleasure of your poetic insights.

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      manatita44 9 months ago from london

      Nicely written and again, for me, much stronger in the second half. I mean, more meaningful. Sums up a lot but in this gross yet beautiful world, we are going to meet some of our brothers and sisters who take a different stance. Nice to hear that happiness depends on us, and that you do not hate Trump.

      I believe the original black American Muslim stance (not Islam) was to hate the whites, but then came Mohammed Ali and a few others who said no, it's just the wrong things that we should hate.

      Your kid looks great as usual, and Louis Armstrong's songs always touches me. Permit a brief sharing about last night at the Poetry Café.

      One girl read a poem where everyone was getting drunk at the Pub save one, who was always dancing. They hated him for not conforming. Still, he was the sober one who took them home; hired the taxi; put them to bed without they realising how they got there. But the pressure continued for him to be like them.

      So one day he started to drink; to vomit; to get drunk, and he stopped dancing. This could easily mean he forgot how to be happy.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori you make me laugh, I just walked away from a bubble bath where cape and mask adorned a naked little 7 year old. We cherish that which is good and according to a buddy of mine who changed his name to Paul these are what we must meditate on. My cup, someone called empty once, I told them it was full of God given air to breathe. You are a breath of that cool breeze that carries us away from hate and into the light of love.

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      Lori Colbo 9 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      Eric, you are slightly wrong about me. I don't have a cape, but last time I visited my grandsons in CA they put a very cool batman mask on my. So I am not officially the new batwoman, or as I like to say, Batnana.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora - it is strange how my crazy mind works, your name and your comment put me right here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IzxHKI8PJE

      Don't blame me - I am working on it.

      Your works that help us love our elders is clearly a treasure and I really appreciate it as others surely do.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Patricia, it is fantastic to hear from you. My family remembers you in our prayers. So easy in your position to fall into despair and let hate be your crutch. You give that little one of yours all our love please. We are so fragile when it comes to bone marrow and the young.

      I was under a mega dose of chemo. A side effect was catastrophe to bone marrow - older methods of killing everything then jump starting it back. I admit I hated the "cure". But I was blessed. Cancer was overcome but by golly jingles so was hate. Your peace and love lift us up.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori, I need not remind you that you are a special brand of hero. My seven year old is just starting to get the idea that heroes are us. No fancy capes, no running into exploding buildings, just those who love and do not brag but do not hide it.

      They are moms and teachers and our VFW neighbors.

      And the one super duper power they share is the absence of hate. For sure all have love, but that quality of not hating inspires all of us to shine.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim, sometimes I think the first person is important. I get criticized for it being about me. But the notion is that someone feeling a bit queezy about something might better relate. We so often feel we are alone.

      I hope that folks who do not hate are the silent majority.

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      Dora Weithers 9 months ago from The Caribbean

      Neither do I hate Eric. Hate is as contagious as happiness, but happiness is healthier. So yes, not only is it legal to happy, it is also highly recommended.

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      Patricia Scott 9 months ago from sunny Florida

      Well said....my belief is that reaching out to those with whom we come in daily contact, regardless of ANY label, is a way to build communities that are real communities, filled with those who love and care about each other.

      Angels are once again on the way ps

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      Lori Colbo 9 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      This was powerful Eric. Your points about hating people that don't hate, or because they disagree or behave differently, is so unfortunately, powerfully true. I have not see the kind of and degree of hate we have in our culture today that I can ever remember in my life time. I saw a lot of this on that women's march from the celebrities. Madonna spewed hatred toward trump and followed it up with her statement that she is all about love. She thought a great deal about how she longed to blow up the white house, but turned around and said she is all about love, but not of people who challenge or stand for the opposite ideas she has. The crowds went wild, so blind to the contradictory speech because she is a celebrity and a life long rebel. It breaks my heart.

      I went off fb a few weeks ago because I was sick to death of the constant flow of discord, hate, and opposition of everyone for everyone. All the articles on my news feed were just fodder for all the contentious people. I do not miss it one iota.

      I love your supreme optimism. Your glass is no just half full, it's full to overflowing and so refreshing. Thanks for not being afraid to show your happiness and common sense. My 24 year old sense always says, "Mom, common sense is not common." How right he is.

      Keep on with the flow of your positive perspective. It sounds like you have an amazing family.God bless you brother.

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      Tim Mitchell 9 months ago from Escondido, CA

      To me hate unfortunately is becoming a segment of our and other cultures as pointed out. I made an effort years ago when I was going to say hate to switch it to dislike or I don't like. Maybe that is a cop out and just seems tamer, but I 'feel' difference internally after years of practice. Don't know how to explain. Perhaps is not as heavy affecting my heart seen as a contrast to Love.

      Great article and thank you for sharing your life explaining a contrast to having hate within life. Nice!

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise we do have a couple of fun ones we use around here. When we know that what were are doing will not work but we do it anyway we say "I just hate it when that happens" and we get a chuckle rather than upset with our selves. We also use it in chess. It really is funny to hate a little plastic game piece.

      So we do not risk falling into a complacency about hate. We call it out for the demon it is, and we laugh at it.

      Denise I hope you will be publishing soon. I really like your take on life.

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      Denise W Anderson 9 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I love your comment that we all have problems and "...we have found that working through them together makes us stronger and more loving and appreciative of what we have." There are so many difficulties in the world, why cause more by choosing to hate? I am with you, Eric.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John, how is the summer weather treating you two and the animals? I hope all is well. As I read your comment it hit me that I know that about you. I had a brother-in-law like that and a cousin like that. The closest thing they could possibly come to hate was the abuse of the lesser. Thank God for putting good people like you in our lives.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That is great news Linda. I have got to get over to your others locals of writing. I think you really respect your twin gifts of writing and cooking. Thank you for letting them out for us.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill it seems like hate is sort of an addiction. Even though it stops working for you you keep on doing it until you hit a bottom and then do what it takes to get well. I just got sick and tired of it.

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      Bill Holland 9 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I don't have much hate in me, buddy, if any at all. I shed that particular straight-jacket about ten years ago. I have some anger at times, but I try to keep a muzzle on it, especially around people I love. I'm a work in progress, buddy!

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      John Hansen 9 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Thinking back over my life, I cannot recall ever hating another person. I have disagreed with many on their views but they are as much entitled to those as I am. I have never lost friends over difference of opinions, politics or religion etc. It does seem that the world is trying to encourage us to hate someone or something, but love gets us so much more. Thanks for always adding some sense to the world, Eric.

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      Linda Lum 9 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric - Thank you for sharing a little bit of Harry Belafonte with me. The man has an incredible voice and he is ageless!! Thank you also for the shout-out. You are much too kind.

      By the way, our dear friend Mr. Billybuc gave me a proper kick in the keister and got me moving. I'm writing that book--about 1/3 of the way completed. 13,300 words thusfar.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mel life sometimes sucks. Has it been 5 years we have been friends? Something around that. Somehow you have become a part of that magnifying glass my boy and I view the world through. I reckon we just be mad up here reservoir way.

      Please let your New Mexico outlaws know that we have got good from you, and you ain't paid no two cents.

      Meanwhile my buddy told me to speak Spanglish as no self respecting TJ boy speaks Castillion.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda I promise I will come by and visit soon. I can hardly wait to read more about your love of food which you turn into a love of life. Hey give this a hear: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-PTafd-ymQ and everybody chase Linda down at https://hubpages.com/@carbdiva Linda just brings me home where we equated good nourishment with spirit nourishment.

      Call me guilty Linda - I have hated and in each case I have hated myself. Thanks for leading me into love.

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      Mel Carriere 9 months ago from San Diego California

      Haters gonna hate. Mother Theresa ain't got nuthin' on you, my friend. I'm kind of a loner, like you, I only play an opinionated extrovert on the Internet. I'm going to crawl back in my hole now and write a letter to my Mother, because Mom still likes things the old fashioned way. I hope you have a lovely rest of your Sunday in the Sprung Valley, which sounds like a little oasis of love and tranquility in our San Diego Sodom and Gomorrah here. Great sermon!

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      Linda Lum 9 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Hatred injures the target, but I think it hurts the hater even more. Bearing a grudge against someone does nothing more than eating away at your soul. You did well on this one dear friend. Great words, and timely.

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      Eric Dierker 9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby that two edge sword of empathy is brutal at times. My yogi (yes I know taboo for Christians - oh well) decided I was making progress when I told him a truth. The good news is that we feel more, the bad news is that we feel more. I was born out of wedlock- back in the fifties that was not OK. I had a Hopi buddy named Thurman and a black buddy named Jimmy Deal, they called me bastard so I could fit in being called names. We had no hate.

      Today my half Asian son is fully accepted. But me as a very much older dad, gets called grandpa. .... but names will never hurt me. And yet what we call our friendship Ruby will always lift me.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 9 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I love it that you're a rag tag, and the family you called boring would be welcome as my neighbor's. It is so easy to hate something we don't understand, like President Trump. I don't hate him, yet I'm fearful. I just watched The Jackie Robinson movie, I'd never seen it before. I found myself standing and clapping when he got a home-run, then I cried a little when he was called the N word. How can people hate something that God made? They say that ignorance is bliss, but it's not. It's cruel and inhumane. We could learn a lot by watching children before they learn to hate. This is a great message Eric. Makes me proud to know you!

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      Eric Dierker 10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ann I was having a great discussion with a fellow board member who is a super accomplished shrink. I was really pinning him down on the natural benefits of hate. I was thinking like a stage of grieving or the fight part of flight or fight. Or maybe hateful venting was good -Anything.

      He just said "Eric I got nothing". So next I told him of my Pollyanna view that even bad happens for a reason; to strengthen our love. His position was clear. Hardship that we get over in love is the only real way to get over it. Otherwise the hardship festers like a rose thorn deep into the skin.

      Ann you are so right. There is just not one stinking thing that gets better with hate.

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      Ann Carr 10 months ago from SW England

      Well said, Eric! Hate gets us nowhere, only further down our own massive hole in the ground. Love gets us everywhere. I know no other people more happy than my grandchildren. They take everything at face value, they find humour in so many things and they think they can do just about everything. They hug us and each other all the time. How great is that!

      I have hated but it does no good. I love to laugh, smile, hug and love. Happiness comes from that. Great message and great presentation, Eric!

      Ann