How to Grieve and Attain Faith-Based Self-Love
An Incomplete Woman
A Man Searches to Complete a Puzzle in His Life
A Poem About Grief
"Living with Incompleteness"
How do I miss thee
Having never had that which is
The void I've come to know
Staring at the empty room
Meant for you
Making a house our home
Inside my incompleteness
I wait . . . . . . . . . .
Anticipating God's love
Where are you?
A full image in my head
Yet unseen in the flesh
Felt as a beat in my heart
Close as a touch to my skin
Connected in spirit dreams
Only as real as a thought
Fleeting in nonexistent reality
I remain incomplete as one
I learn to live unfinished
Only as myself
My crying soul
Goes on, moves on to live
Embracing a Life of Loss With Purpose
In order to move forward, we mourn what was lost, while the pain of what never was, is grieved. Broken pieces of our lives become puzzles for which we ask the questions, "why" and "how," as we struggle to accept our current realities.
For example, many never get the chance to experience the joy of a fulfilling relationship or the miracle that is expressed through the birth of a child. Others were blessed with the full circle of God's love only to lose it too soon.
Each of these scenarios presents a puzzling void which often houses a very spacious emptiness. It reverberates into the crevices of the soul, whispering the words, "Your life is not yet complete."
It is said that a house is not a home with no one to share in it. As human beings, we find this to be true when our expectations, hopes, and dreams don't work out the way we planned or would have liked.
We eventually find a way to adjust and learn to live with a memory of what was or an image of what could have been, as we attempt to live life purposefully, albeit incomplete.
We make choices to fill voids through engaging in other activities, exploring new endeavors, resetting our goals, and embarking upon self-renewal. Sometimes that requires a spiritual overhaul as we find new fulfillment and purpose.
Wholeness Begins to Form as Puzzle Pieces Come Together
Finding Spiritual Wholeness
In order to cope with feelings of unresolved grief, loss, or incompleteness, one must look deep within for solace, beyond the void. Finding wholeness may seem elusive through the eyes of emptiness. But if you patiently look beyond the void in faith, you will find love - a pure and infinite love which can be expressed through the gift of giving and receiving. Consider the following as you attempt to reach wholeness:
- Keep in contact with family and good friends.
- Maintain social interaction through regular activity.
- Renew your faith and spiritual connection through meditation and prayer.
- Practice mindfulness by fully participating in the moment and savoring each experience.
- Be grateful and count every encounter as a blessing.
- Love yourself through regular pampering and self-care.
- Grow from your losses and let go of what no longer is or never will be.
- Engage in the practice of reciprocating unconditional, agape love with human beings, animals, plants, and all forms of life.
Self-Love Completes the Puzzle of Life
Incompleteness in My Life
Which statement comes closest to your current position in life?
Love Makes Us Whole
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2014 Janis Leslie Evans