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Finding a Mate Is Not the Ultimate Purpose of Life

Updated on February 20, 2019
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A licensed teacher from Manila also involved in Values Instruction Class MInistry.

Finding a mate is not the ultimate purpose of life

Many single women depend much of their contentment and happiness in finding “Mr Right”. Many single women are very much preoccupied with finding a husband. For them, a husband is the one thing that will complete their life.

Finding a mate should not be the main goal of life. There are much more in life than marriage. Marriage is just one aspect of life and there are many other aspects of life a person should consider. Being preoccupied with finding a mate will cause only unhappiness and discontentment to us. It may even lead one to depression.

MInda was so eager to be married that she gave up her job just to be a wife to Tony. Tony is a man with many vices and gave Minda a hard time. Many times Tony got involved in trouble and even ended up in jail and burdened Minda to find money to bail him out of the jail. This kind of marriage is something a single woman will never dream of. Will you engage yourself in marriage just to be troubled most of the time ? Marriage is not always a haven for a single woman, many times it is a source of a misery or at times it will make life more miserable for a woman. Don’t ever get married if you will just get a rock to smash to your head . Don’t ever get married just to make life a great burden to you. Marrying the wrong person may ruin your life thus it is better to remain single than marry the wrong person . .

There are other aspects of life that are of great importance such as discovering your mission or calling. Don’t be much preoccupied with finding a mate that you neglected to discover your primary mission in life. First, you have to establish your relationship with God by putting your faith in Christ and surrendering your life to Him. Only in knowing God personally you can discover your primary mission in life. After discovering your primary mission in life, you will discover who is the right lifetime partner for you. He or she must be someone who share the same calling and mission with you. Marry the person who will help you fulfill the destiny God has reserved for you.

Life is not all about finding a mate, but more of finding opportunities to be a partaker of building the kingdom of God. Life is also about finding opportunities that will maximize your potential as a person. Life is also finding avenues where you can make the most of your gifts and talents. Life is also about discovering opportunities that will help you to become more productive citizen of your country. Life is also about finding more ways and opportunities that will make you a great blessing to many underprivileged folks. Don't be burdened so much with your predicament as a single person, turn this circumstance into an asset. I have a very good friend who is still single at age 59. But she is not burdened by it, in fact, she is a happily contented single woman. As a pre-school teacher, she is well-loved by her students. She was able to make the most of her single life by imparting knowledge to her students and by helping them become better individuals.

Marriage is just one aspect of life and not the totality of it. Many single women could be happier than many married women. Singleness can be a blessing to a woman and marriage can be a curse to a married woman.


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      Cristine Santander 

      11 months ago from Manila

      I believe that marriage is a gift and calling as well as celibacy.

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      Cristine Santander 

      11 months ago from Manila

      The ultimate purpose of life is to find the mission or destiny God has reserved for you. First you have to establish your relationship with God before discovering your mission. Then if you have discovered your mission in life, then you will discover who is the right person for you to be your mate or lifetime partner. She or he must be somebody who share the same calling with you.

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      James C Moore 

      11 months ago from The Great Midwest

      Interesting read. I must agree that our priority as "belongers" ( i.e. those among us who belong to Christ for having giving our lives over to Him) is as you say to find opportunities for building the kingdom, maximize potential and make the most of your gifts and talents to the glory of God. However, the Lord made us social beings. We are not designed to be lone wolves. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 demonstrates that togetherness brings about power that we simply don't have as one single lone self. And lest we forget, Deuteronomy 32:30, that says one can chase a thousand and two can put 10,000 to flight with the Lord backing them up. Now, I know that this verse is not speaking of marriage or relationships, but it does show the extent to which God empowers activity done together as opposed to alone.It stands to reason that being with the right someone would actually further the goals that you identified. Just a thought.

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      Alice A. Mercader 

      11 months ago

      Well said!


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