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Forgive Yes, Doormat no.

Updated on June 18, 2013

Depend upon God to Handle Difficult Situations and People


Forgive Them Yes, be a Doormat no.

Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
—Proverbs 17:9

Forgive Them Yes, be a Doormat no.

When someone, whether it be a relative, or co-worker, does a simple mistake it is important to forgive them. Don’t blow up. It only makes a little problem a big problem. Indeed, it is best to confront them about the problem immediately. When talking it out, take paper and pen and write it out so it and be meditated over if necessary to find resolution (not to throw it in their face later). If you can not reach resolution between you get an unbiased third party to help you.

“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day. Don't give the Devil a chance.” (Ephesians 4:26-27 Good News Translation)

On the other hand being a Christian does not mean you are to repeatedly forgive while the offending party continues to commit the offence. If they refuse to correct their ways, keep your distance from them. They will only use and abuse you more and more.

By insolence comes nothing but strife, but with those who take advice is wisdom. Proverbs 13:10 New International Version

A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends. Proverbs 16:28 New International Version

Indeed, there are many people that if there is no problem, they will create one just to cause trouble. There are many who say and do mean, hurtful, cruel things just to get some perverted pleasure from watching others suffer. It is not just war criminals, it can be the one constantly spreading malicious gossip at the office or church or gym. It can be a brother or sister who constantly stirs trouble amongst family members.

Here is Gods advice concerning such people: Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned. Titus 3:10-11 New International Version

Prayer: Please Jehovah Rohi (Sheppard ) I ask that you guide me away from mean spirited people, those who like to say and do mean things to others to satisfy their perverted pleasure. When it is expedinant that I must be around these people because of circumstances beyond my control, give me the wisdom and courage to confront them in a strong, yet respectful manner befitting one of Your precious children. When a situation arise that needs resolution give me the wisdom, strength and tact to handle it in a way that will create resolution between the other man or woman and myself. I ask this in the name of the greatest mediator Jesus Christ Amen 

May the sunshine of Jesus’ sweet love bless you today and every day.


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    • teacherjoe52 profile image

      teacherjoe52 4 years ago

      Hello sister.

      I too was a push over. Now by the grace of the Holy Spirit my behaviour has chanfed to be more like Jesus.

      He always had time for those whose hearts are open to love but He had no time for the mean spirited.

      As Christian we are to emulate the Master.

      May you be blessed with a heart like our beloved in all your relationships Christ.

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      callienicolaysen 4 years ago

      Basically, I have been a push-over. I had been getting to the point now where I am starting to stand up for myself and maintain proper boundaries. :)

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      callienicolaysen 4 years ago

      I love this! This spoke to my spirit! :) I have attracted nothing but mean-spirited people in my life, and one of my biggest struggles has been figuring out the difference between being kind and maintaining your self-worth. Your words have been very encouraging to me! Thank you and God bless!

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      teacherjoe52 5 years ago

      Hi dave,

      It is a hard lesson that took many times to be taught over the years, before I finally learned it.

      God bless you.

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      Dave Mathews 5 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      teacherjoe: I agree. Forgive, but remember the lesson.

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      teacherjoe52 5 years ago

      Hi teaches.

      It is only by the Holy Spirits grace that we can truly forgive those who have hurt us deeply. I know, I have experianced it a few times.

      However, that does not mean we are to be dumbo's and go back for more if their behaviour and attitude does not change.

      God bless you.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      It is hard to forgive people who have wronged you, but according the Word, we must, in order for us to heal and stay strong instead of becoming bitter.

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      teacherjoe52 5 years ago

      Hi April.

      That is a lesson that has taken me many times before learned.

      God bless you.

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      April Reynolds 5 years ago from Arizona

      Good advice teacherjoe, it is important to forgive but unwise to stay in unhealthy situations!

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      teacherjoe52 5 years ago

      Thank you schoolgirlfor real.

      Unfortunately facebook is blocked here.

      Life gives you two options: 1 you can get bitter

      2 You can get better.

      By the Holy Spirits grace I somehow get better with age.

      God bless you.

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      schoolgirlforreal 5 years ago

      You have great advice, teacher, about things and you speak clearly and simply so that everyone can understand. I admire your ability to share and teach and love shows in your work. God bless Schoolgirl

      (I'm sharing you on facebook)